holidayad_
Senior Don Juan
- Joined
- Dec 29, 2022
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After I ended my long-term relationship 2 years ago, in my search for answers and to avoid going through what I went through, I found my refuge in a few places (and sources of knowledge), including this forum.
Despite being a difficult break-up, I am lucky to have lived this kind of sh!t early in my life.
I started studying seduction, behavior, and philosophy. More specifically, Stoicism.
After reading and asking for advice in this community and starting to have some success in the dating scene, I realized how having a philosophy that guides you as a purpose, when combined with what we say on SoSuave, has power. It helped me to heal. And to grow.
That's how I felt when I started applying concepts of Stoicism with the concepts I learned here and in some books, such as the well-known Rational Male, not only in the dating scene but also in my life as a whole.
Part of this philosophical current is not giving a damn about what others think about you, about how you should control your emotions and always put your reason above your emotions and, of course, not worry about what is out of your control.
Doesn't she answer you? Out of your control.
Did she reject you? Out of your control.
Did she end the relationship? Out of your control.
Or even
Did you not get the job you wanted?
Let it go. On to the next one.
This mindset helped me to keep moving, self-developing, and controlling my anxiety.
Sometimes I get off track but then I remember about these principles.
Basic principles that have helped me get this far and learn how to play the game. Although it often displeases me (as I've already explained in this community), it's a game that there's no escaping. I can't control it. It's about adapting and being able to master it.
My two cents on why stoicism and dating are a perfect match.
Despite being a difficult break-up, I am lucky to have lived this kind of sh!t early in my life.
I started studying seduction, behavior, and philosophy. More specifically, Stoicism.
After reading and asking for advice in this community and starting to have some success in the dating scene, I realized how having a philosophy that guides you as a purpose, when combined with what we say on SoSuave, has power. It helped me to heal. And to grow.
That's how I felt when I started applying concepts of Stoicism with the concepts I learned here and in some books, such as the well-known Rational Male, not only in the dating scene but also in my life as a whole.
Part of this philosophical current is not giving a damn about what others think about you, about how you should control your emotions and always put your reason above your emotions and, of course, not worry about what is out of your control.
Doesn't she answer you? Out of your control.
Did she reject you? Out of your control.
Did she end the relationship? Out of your control.
Or even
Did you not get the job you wanted?
Let it go. On to the next one.
This mindset helped me to keep moving, self-developing, and controlling my anxiety.
Sometimes I get off track but then I remember about these principles.
Basic principles that have helped me get this far and learn how to play the game. Although it often displeases me (as I've already explained in this community), it's a game that there's no escaping. I can't control it. It's about adapting and being able to master it.
My two cents on why stoicism and dating are a perfect match.