SoSuave NoFap November 2022 challenge (Sex is okay!)

[Zimbabwe]

Day 11, did a cold approach today for the first time in a very long time. I aim to do more next week when I'm out again.

Tonight I'm meeting 3 others for this foura meetup thing, similar to meetup dot com but instead you meet groups of 4.

Nofap has definitely made me low inhibition, I hope to be able to continue this for the rest of the month.

 

[lost_blackbird]

Today I went to the shop for some groceries. Nothing unusual there, I go most days to
the same shop and buy nearly all my food from their reduced section where the stuff is
on it's last day after which they aren't allowed by UK law to sell it. This particular shop
always has plenty of reductions and I save a lot of money shopping this way. I was
wearing black joggers, a plain blue T shirt, some old puma trainers and had my hair
tied back. Nothing special at all, just chilling at home clothes, I didn't even shower today.

Today, in the space of one 8 minute visit I ended up first chatting to one of the female
staff in a conversation she opened, I made a marginally amusing reply to something she
said and she laughed in an exaggerated way with lots of eye contact and then a look back
over her shoulder as she walked away to go about her duties. She was about my age.

A few minutes later in an aisle I saw a cute little latina looking woman about my age
who was struggling to carry her shopping because she didn't have a basket, I smiled at her
and offered to grab her a basket from the till area about 10 feet away, cue a big smile from
her and a comment from her along the lines of 'I didn't want too much, I'm a good girl' to
which I replied "I don't believe that for a second" to which she responded with a smile 'No,
you shouldn't'. She was actually quite attractive, my age and type too. I shall keep my eyes
open for her again.

I then went to the checkout to pay for my stuff and arrived at the end of the queue at the same
time as another woman did coming from a different direction. Being the gentleman I am I
said 'Please, after you' I wasn't in any rush and the woman had less in her basket than I did. She
stood in front of me and because a queue was forming a different staff member opened another
till, so I wandered over to that one instead. The woman from the other queue stopped me on the
way out and sparked up a conversation about how it was my kindness to her that got me served
faster in the end. Again, a woman about my age.

Now none of this is particularly earth shattering , but usually I go in buy my stuff and walk out
again pretty much unnoticed. As I said I'm in there every day more or less. Can't put my finger
on what it is but something was definitely different today. I was definitely being noticed.
There was a fourth woman making extended eye contact as I walked across the car park to
go into the store when I arrived too, a little younger than me this one, she was on her way out
as I was on my way in. A very peculiar visit indeed.

Coincidence? Maybe? But this was definitely out of the ordinary compared to my usual supplies
run.

 

[Rainman4707]

@lost_blackbird Just read the first interaction and felt the need to stop reading and tell you mannnnnn....if that was me in my current frame of mind....id be trying to close her in any way possible....hell if she's walking away....you've got to have brass balls in this game to SHOUT "HEY" "cute bird....you left something here...come get it" ALWAYS CLOSE". Yeah....People might think I'm crazy, they are probably right....but close, close, close.

then i thought...i'll give this man his due...i'll refrain from commenting and finish the post.....you talking about this latina girl.......been all nice to her...thinking to yourself "i'll see her next time" fuc£ next time CLOSE HER.
Just my opinion bro.......I put money on the creator of this thread would have closed both them birds.

 

[corrector]

Today I went to the shop for some groceries. Nothing unusual there, I go most days to
the same shop and buy nearly all my food from their reduced section where the stuff is
on it's last day after which they aren't allowed by UK law to sell it. This particular shop
always has plenty of reductions and I save a lot of money shopping this way. I was
wearing black joggers, a plain blue T shirt, some old puma trainers and had my hair
tied back. Nothing special at all, just chilling at home clothes, I didn't even shower today.

Today, in the space of one 8 minute visit I ended up first chatting to one of the female
staff in a conversation she opened, I made a marginally amusing reply to something she
said and she laughed in an exaggerated way with lots of eye contact and then a look back
over her shoulder as she walked away to go about her duties. She was about my age.

A few minutes later in an aisle I saw a cute little latina looking woman about my age
who was struggling to carry her shopping because she didn't have a basket, I smiled at her
and offered to grab her a basket from the till area about 10 feet away, cue a big smile from
her and a comment from her along the lines of 'I didn't want too much, I'm a good girl' to
which I replied "I don't believe that for a second" to which she responded with a smile 'No,
you shouldn't'. She was actually quite attractive, my age and type too. I shall keep my eyes
open for her again.

I then went to the checkout to pay for my stuff and arrived at the end of the queue at the same
time as another woman did coming from a different direction. Being the gentleman I am I
said 'Please, after you' I wasn't in any rush and the woman had less in her basket than I did. She
stood in front of me and because a queue was forming a different staff member opened another
till, so I wandered over to that one instead. The woman from the other queue stopped me on the
way out and sparked up a conversation about how it was my kindness to her that got me served
faster in the end. Again, a woman about my age.

Now none of this is particularly earth shattering , but usually I go in buy my stuff and walk out
again pretty much unnoticed. As I said I'm in there every day more or less. Can't put my finger
on what it is but something was definitely different today. I was definitely being noticed.
There was a fourth woman making extended eye contact as I walked across the car park to
go into the store when I arrived too, a little younger than me this one, she was on her way out
as I was on my way in. A very peculiar visit indeed.

Coincidence? Maybe? But this was definitely out of the ordinary compared to my usual supplies
run.

Ok, so this was the problem all along. You are not really a volcel, you had a problem here and are being rehabilitated from your in-denial incellness. Good progress.

 

[lost_blackbird]

Ok, so this was the problem all along. You are not really a volcel, you had a problem here and are being rehabilitated from your in-denial incellness. Good progress.

Disagree, I'm quite friendly and polite to anyone I interact with, I have learned over many years
to make an effort to do so as my natural instinct is to look at my shoes and ignore everyone.
Especially if they start the interaction, it's just polite. Sometimes I don't if I'm in a huff but I try to
wherever possible, it's kind of like how I have to be when at work. Just a persona/mask really.

Objectively, out of the four, only one would have passed muster. The rest were just pleasant,
unexpected interactions with females. I could have pressed onward with the latina chick I suppose,
I had my foot in the door with her, but I was there to get groceries for my dinner, not to get women.
My post was meant to highlight the different attitude they seemed to have today compared to usual
and I wondered if it was a pheremonal effect that I'm not aware of but they are. Plain old biology.
Which is why I mentioned I hadn't showered in my previous post.

I never left thinking 'Damn I should have done this or said that' I was just surprised at the reactions
today. It could, as I also said before, be just a coincidence. My dinner was very nice anyway. I will be
keeping an eye out for the Latina chick, she was walking back into the estate on which I live which
means it's possibly her local shop too. She was wearing sweats, a baggy shirt and a puffer jacket,
but she had a pretty face and a nice smile and appeared as best as I could tell to have the sort of
figure I'd prefer, she was certainly short enough for my taste Maybe 5 feet tall, long dark hair which
was tied back in the shop but she pulled it down as I drove past her on my way out of the car park.
Intrigued would be the best way to describe my thoughts on her. Not interested enough to 'shoot
my shot' as the saying goes. I just thought it was worth logging my experience today as per the subject
of the thread.

 

[Rainman4707]

Disagree, I'm quite friendly and polite to anyone I interact with, I have learned over many years
to make an effort to do so as my natural instinct is to look at my shoes and ignore everyone.
Especially if they start the interaction, it's just polite. Sometimes I don't if I'm in a huff but I try to
wherever possible, it's kind of like how I have to be when at work. Just a persona/mask really.

Objectively, out of the four, only one would have passed muster. The rest were just pleasant,
unexpected interactions with females. I could have pressed onward with the latina chick I suppose,
I had my foot in the door with her, but I was there to get groceries for my dinner, not to get women.
My post was meant to highlight the different attitude they seemed to have today compared to usual
and I wondered if it was a pheremonal effect that I'm not aware of but they are. Plain old biology.
Which is why I mentioned I hadn't showered in my previous post.

I never left thinking 'Damn I should have done this or said that' I was just surprised at the reactions
today. It could, as I also said before, be just a coincidence. My dinner was very nice anyway. I will be
keeping an eye out for the Latina chick, she was walking back into the estate on which I live which
means it's possibly her local shop too. She was wearing sweats, a baggy shirt and a puffer jacket,
but she had a pretty face and a nice smile and appeared as best as I could tell to have the sort of
figure I'd prefer, she was certainly short enough for my taste Maybe 5 feet tall, long dark hair which
was tied back in the shop but she pulled it down as I drove past her on my way out of the car park.
Intrigued would be the best way to describe my thoughts on her. Not interested enough to 'shoot
my shot' as the saying goes. I just thought it was worth logging my experience today as per the subject
of the thread.

Yes. Fair enough...my apologies...I'm not aware of your history.

It feels good dose'nt it. Just wait until you get a woman in close proximity FEELING like this. The smell of her hair...her perfume.....you FEEL relaxed. It's not all about the tits, ass, and vag.

Trust me....keep up the no fap......go bang some bird from OLD. Just for a fu'k. Just for practice.
The feeling you had in the store tonight.....Will be 10x that once you you stick your king cobra straight up a woman's vag....no fap plus sex has you feeling like the king of the jungle....who can prey on the passsaaaayyyyyy

 

[Plinco]

To be completely honest I'm not doing very well with it - not as well as I expected anyway. I'm going to keep pushing forward and go into December, and make that month my no fap/sex okay month.

 

[corrector]

Disagree, I'm quite friendly and polite to anyone I interact with, I have learned over many years
to make an effort to do so as my natural instinct is to look at my shoes and ignore everyone.
Especially if they start the interaction, it's just polite. Sometimes I don't if I'm in a huff but I try to
wherever possible, it's kind of like how I have to be when at work. Just a persona/mask really.

Objectively, out of the four, only one would have passed muster. The rest were just pleasant,
unexpected interactions with females. I could have pressed onward with the latina chick I suppose,
I had my foot in the door with her, but I was there to get groceries for my dinner, not to get women.
My post was meant to highlight the different attitude they seemed to have today compared to usual
and I wondered if it was a pheremonal effect that I'm not aware of but they are. Plain old biology.
Which is why I mentioned I hadn't showered in my previous post.

I never left thinking 'Damn I should have done this or said that' I was just surprised at the reactions
today. It could, as I also said before, be just a coincidence. My dinner was very nice anyway. I will be
keeping an eye out for the Latina chick, she was walking back into the estate on which I live which
means it's possibly her local shop too. She was wearing sweats, a baggy shirt and a puffer jacket,
but she had a pretty face and a nice smile and appeared as best as I could tell to have the sort of
figure I'd prefer, she was certainly short enough for my taste Maybe 5 feet tall, long dark hair which
was tied back in the shop but she pulled it down as I drove past her on my way out of the car park.
Intrigued would be the best way to describe my thoughts on her. Not interested enough to 'shoot
my shot' as the saying goes. I just thought it was worth logging my experience today as per the subject
of the thread.

What are you disagreeing about? You are confiming what I said. You are talking about WOMEN, and how nofap is helping, on some level. Even if its microscopic, that is an incel in denial mindset rather than true volcel.

 

[lost_blackbird]

No, I disagree again. I'm talking about a curious phenomenon which may or may
not be down to nofap and how it manifested today. It hasn't made me any more likely
to change my mind on not wanting to get laid again. This is far easier mindset for me
to maintain in the wake of self administered post nut clarity, which has obviously been
missing for a while given my participation in this experiment. But even swollen nuts isn't
enough for me to put the blinkers on and participate in something I'd hate myself for
afterwards. I'm not sure why you're trying to call me out repeatedly in this thread, I'm doing
this for scientific curiosity, not to get anything more from it, not to increase T, not to attract
anybody although I'm wondering if this may be a legit side effect after todays experiences.
I will be four years celibate in a few months, a milestone I intend to reach. In addition to
stopping fapping, I'm now a full week into quitting cigarettes cold turkey, my drinking was
becoming a problem and I've cut that back significantly too. This is purely an exercise in
self control and discipline for myself. Values I hold in far higher esteem than getting laid.
After another week off the tobacco I intend to get back in the gym, again not to look better
for women, just to be stronger for myself. The only person I wish to please is me and my
11 year old niece who I promised I would have quit smoking before I see her at Christmas.

To put it more clearly, if any of these women (even the Latina one) had asked for my number
I wouldn't have given them it, if any had suggested a date or a casual meetup, I'd have found
a polite way to decline. If any of these women said take me back to your place and slip me a
length, I would have refused. Just because I noticed more attraction towards myself than usual
today, it doesn't mean I'm going to change my mind about wanting to remain celibate.

 

[corrector]

To put it more clearly, if any of these women (even the Latina one) had asked for my number
I wouldn't have given them it, if any had suggested a date or a casual meetup, I'd have found
a polite way to decline. If any of these women said take me back to your place and slip me a
length, I would have refused. Just because I noticed more attraction towards myself than usual
today, it doesn't mean I'm going to change my mind about wanting to remain celibate.

My 8 years is longer than your 4 years.

 

[lost_blackbird]

My 8 years is longer than your 4 years.

Undeniably so. Twice as long in fact.

 

[Epicwinguy]

Hasn't nofap been debunked?

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

its been 30 days for me of no stroking and brutal cold showers morning and night. Have to finish what I started. Even very average looking milfs or younger chicks with a nice thick booty I want to do bad things to.
This is becoming some militant discipline type of sh1t

 

[Rainman4707]

its been 30 days for me of no stroking and brutal cold showers morning and night. Have to finish what I started. Even very average looking milfs or younger chicks with a nice thick booty I want to do bad things to.
This is becoming some militant discipline type of sh1t

Yep. That's why joe rogan says we are more likely to do things we wouldn't normally do

 

[Rainman4707]

Came very close to fapping there. It must be nearly a month for me. Maybe 3 weeks. I have a lady lined up for sex Sunday night. But I'm just lying here.....and like one of early posters said the phone can be dangerous.....just looking at woman's *******s on reddit.....thought to myself...it's been about ten days since I've had a release.....so maybe it might do you good to relax......so i put some porn on......but switched it off.....I wanna keep the power inside me......and unload it into that woman's mouth on Sunday night.....see if she gags

 

[Zimbabwe]

its been 30 days for me of no stroking and brutal cold showers morning and night. Have to finish what I started. Even very average looking milfs or younger chicks with a nice thick booty I want to do bad things to.
This is becoming some militant discipline type of sh1t

This is exactly what's happening to me and I'm only on day 17

 

[lost_blackbird]

Long story which I can't be bothered to go into here, but I punctured my own eardrum with
a Q tip about six days ago, so that's been occupying my mind somewhat what with the blood
leaking out of my ear and the constant ringing in it. Last thing on my mind has been porn or
fapping. In addition, the quitting smoking is on day 11 now and I have biblical constipation.
My arsehole looks like a punched lasagne after passing some very unpleasant motions over
the last few days which have felt like a bus reversing out of me without folding its mirrors in.
Am eating lots of fruit, fibre and veggies but that's making no difference and am now 3 days
in to a course of Lactulose solution thrice daily. Oh well, it's keeping my mind off of sex that's
for sure. The farts that lactulose stuff is generating would wilt flowers.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Came very close to fapping there. It must be nearly a month for me. Maybe 3 weeks. I have a lady lined up for sex Sunday night. But I'm just lying here.....and like one of early posters said the phone can be dangerous.....just looking at woman's *******s on reddit.....thought to myself...it's been about ten days since I've had a release.....so maybe it might do you good to relax......so i put some porn on......but switched it off.....I wanna keep the power inside me......and unload it into that woman's mouth on Sunday night.....see if she gags

Take zinc picolinate to increase your squirt. 100mg the day you gona fvck.
I also watch some quick porn clips but I dont stroke it.
For some reason I get a nice testosterone surge when I do that.

 

[2Rocky]

NoFap applies to Mental Masturbation too!

 

[Rainman4707]

Long story which I can't be bothered to go into here, but I punctured my own eardrum with
a Q tip about six days ago, so that's been occupying my mind somewhat what with the blood
leaking out of my ear and the constant ringing in it. Last thing on my mind has been porn or
fapping. In addition, the quitting smoking is on day 11 now and I have biblical constipation.
My arsehole looks like a punched lasagne after passing some very unpleasant motions over
the last few days which have felt like a bus reversing out of me without folding its mirrors in.
Am eating lots of fruit, fibre and veggies but that's making no difference and am now 3 days
in to a course of Lactulose solution thrice daily. Oh well, it's keeping my mind off of sex that's
for sure. The farts that lactulose stuff is generating would wilt flowers.

Sorry to hear that, hope you get better soon. Remember in adversity we grow.