Someone explain to me why Incels are so heavily involved in discussions about game/dating/sex.

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There are three types of people walking around in life.

-People who don't know their deficiencies.

-People who know their deficiencies and would rather spend their time and energy complaining and whining about them but take no action to fix them.

-People who know their deficiencies and spend their time and energy learning, are persistent and take actions to fix them.

Incels are #2.

People who successfully improve are #3.

Taking action and being persistent is what separates #2 from #3.
 

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There are three types of people walking around in life.

-People who don't know their deficiencies.

-People who know their deficiencies and complain and whine about them but take no action to fix them.

-People who know their deficiencies and spend time learning, are persistent and take actions to fix them.

Incels are #2.

People who successfully improve are #3.

Taking action and being persistent is what separates #2 from #3.
Yet, it seems like some chad guys on here are projecting their guilt and are obsessed with incels by making, bumping or posting allot of threads. How many threads have actual incels made complaining? Probably nadda.
 

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Yet, it seems like some chad guys on here are projecting their guilt and are obsessed with incels by making, bumping or posting allot of threads. How many threads have actual incels made complaining? Probably nadda.
The closest to a complaint I ever heard a real life. in person, incel make was he was jealous of attractive people.
 

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10 pages wtf. Im out. You guys have fun
 

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Yes. It a life time membership. And 'older' (I am forever young :p) people are expected to participate as well.

Our system (the German, Polish and Baltic) is quite distinct from the American one.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Well, they desperately want sex, it's a biological need and they are going without. It's very easy to understand their frustration. I love the incel's and don't mind trying to help them, hate the self-defeating mentality tho. I know two incels in real life I keep touch with - they are coworkers, one was a former coworker at a different company (they are both programmers - I know them because I work as Systems Analyst). They are great, dependable guys, would give their shirts off their back, but man is it difficult. It's easier to break a brick with one of those toy rubber mallets than it is reaching these guys. Even though things haven't worked out and you try to present a different pov, they buckle down and resist even harder. lolol all the conversations usually end with me saying why the **** are we going around in circles
 
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Well, they desperately want sex, it's a biological need and they are going without. It's very easy to understand their frustration. I love the incel's and don't mind trying to help them, hate the self-defeating mentality tho. I know two incels in real life I keep touch with - they are coworkers, one was a former coworker at a different company (they are both programmers - I know them because I work as Systems Analyst). They are great, dependable guys, would give their shirts off their back, but man is it difficult. It's easier to break a brick with one of those toy rubber mallets than it is reaching these guys. Even though things haven't worked out and you try to present a different pov, they buckle down and resist even harder. lolol all the conversations usually end with me saying why the **** are we going around in circles
same with my incel friends.
 

It doesn't matter how good-looking you are, how romantic you are, how funny you are... or anything else. If she doesn't have something INVESTED in you and the relationship, preferably quite a LOT invested, she'll dump you, without even the slightest hesitation, as soon as someone a little more "interesting" comes along.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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same with my incel friends.
Both my friends happen to Indian lolol i'm not implying anything, they just happen to both be. They are both practically the same person, they even sort of look alike style wise, they have that same mustache and part in the middle of the hair. I introduced them to each other at a bar around here. At a certain point I said hey guys look at the sh*tter on that critter over there, and one of them goes "she looks good mike but she wouldn't want me" I was dead - set the tone I was practically in the tears for the rest of the night (from laughter). They would all say the same thing too, like it was from the same playbook - my favorite was "that only works if someone like you tried it". I said guys you both have a combined IQ of like 1000 but can't figure out the simple algorithm of how to talk to a woman, even teenagers do that. I'm laughing my ass off just thinking about it, those two are a riot. If they weren't in their head so much they would both slay, especially with those girls that like geeky intellectual types.
 

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Both my friends happen to Indian lolol i'm not implying anything, they just happen to both be. They are both practically the same person, they even sort of look alike style wise, they have that same mustache and part in the middle of the hair. I introduced them to each other at a bar around here. At a certain point I said hey guys look at the sh*tter on that critter over there, and one of them goes "she looks good mike but she wouldn't want me" I was dead - set the tone I was practically in the tears for the rest of the night (from laughter). They would all say the same thing too, like it was from the same playbook - my favorite was "that only works if someone like you tried it". I said guys you both have a combined IQ of like 1000 but can't figure out the simple algorithm of how to talk to a woman, even teenagers do that. I'm laughing my ass off just thinking about it, those two are a riot. If they weren't in their head so much they would both slay, especially with those girls that like geeky intellectual types.
But they are right though. When someone like you tries it then it works. When they try it they are creeps/pervs (ie how they are made to feel by the women they are approaching, etc..)
 

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Even though things haven't worked out and you try to present a different pov, they buckle down and resist even harder. lolol all the conversations usually end with me saying why the **** are we going around in circles
You mean they are ethnicels? What different pov are you presenting? You clearly have a massive SMV edge over them and are just making them feel bad.
 

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That would maybe be true if they were actively pursuing, but they haven't been. I have known one for 5 years and another for 3 and in that span I have heard little in the way other than occasional infatuation with some woman who worked in the office. Did they ever shoot their shot? N-O. Just a bunch of wishing and hoping but no risk taking.

These guys have been to my house many times, for parties that i've thrown. They were at a recent one. My friends like them, some of them are women. The problem is when they are around women they LIKE their brain shuts down and they can't function. They don't even try in a lot of cases. What am I getting at? I think most incels are probably in a similar boat where they view themselves as victims and drop out completely. When asked why they will point to things that happened a million years ago as proof that women are against them. They think their cases are special and unique not realizing every man deals with rejection and goes through dry spells. It's simple law of averages - if you try you will fail but also succeed. If you don't actually do anything....well there is a good chance you'll get nothing.
 

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Both my friends happen to Indian lolol i'm not implying anything, they just happen to both be. They are both practically the same person, they even sort of look alike style wise, they have that same mustache and part in the middle of the hair. I introduced them to each other at a bar around here. At a certain point I said hey guys look at the sh*tter on that critter over there, and one of them goes "she looks good mike but she wouldn't want me" I was dead - set the tone I was practically in the tears for the rest of the night (from laughter). They would all say the same thing too, like it was from the same playbook - my favorite was "that only works if someone like you tried it". I said guys you both have a combined IQ of like 1000 but can't figure out the simple algorithm of how to talk to a woman, even teenagers do that. I'm laughing my ass off just thinking about it, those two are a riot. If they weren't in their head so much they would both slay, especially with those girls that like geeky intellectual types.
‘sh*tter’?!
 

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That would maybe be true if they were actively pursuing, but they haven't been.
What threshold is actively pursuing? Are they passively pursuing?

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I have known one for 5 years and another for 3 and in that span I have heard little in the way other than occasional infatuation with some woman who worked in the office. Did they ever shoot their shot? N-O. Just a bunch of wishing and hoping but no risk taking.
Were they aware there was women in the office who liked them? How did they respond to that?

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These guys have been to my house many times, for parties that i've thrown. They were at a recent one. My friends like them, some of them are women. The problem is when they are around women they LIKE their brain shuts down and they can't function. They don't even try in a lot of cases. What am I getting at? I think most incels are probably in a similar boat where they view themselves as victims and drop out completely. When asked why they will point to things that happened a million years ago as proof that women are against them. They think their cases are special and unique not realizing every man deals with rejection and goes through dry spells. It's simple law of averages - if you try you will fail but also succeed. If you don't actually do anything....well there is a good chance you'll get nothing.
What incident or rejection are they referencing would you say as to why they view themselves as victims and drop out completely?
 

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You mean they are ethnicels? What different pov are you presenting? You clearly have a massive SMV edge over them and are just making them feel bad.
Ethnicels live life on Hard mode.
Met up with 3 friends this week. One of whom was my hapacel friend. Poor guy was mogged to the moon & back by the rest of us. A White chadlite, myself & a White fatcel (who had a decent face & hair) and could easily score if he lost weight.
 

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‘sh*tter’?!
baby had back in other words

What threshold is actively pursuing? Are they passively pursuing?



Were they aware there was women in the office who liked them? How did they respond to that?



What incident or rejection are they referencing would you say as to why they view themselves as victims and drop out completely?
What is passively pursuing? Like hoping a woman falls into lap? Maybe that, yeah lol. I'm saying they aren't aggressive enough - they largely go to work and go home. Don't really put themselves in situations where they can meet women - whenever i've heard them talk about women they like it has largely been work crushes.

I don't know how they would respond if a woman we worked with was interested in them. Maybe they would've made an attempt, who knows. They would tell me about women they like and they would say hi to them in the hallways or talk them sometimes as part of projects. We had holiday parties and occasional outings where members of the team would get together - these were perfect times to mingle but they would often avoid the women they liked.

I gave one in post about bar. Many times when the subject women of women come, like point out a hot girl, say "no chance" or "she would never like me". It's always negative, never positive or hopeful and yes they don't go and actually find out. Operating on ASSUMPTION. Like I said before a lot of incel I know have good hearts and mean well, but are own worst enemy and very very difficult to help.
 

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It's possible to be in a fraternity and not be scoring much. It depends on the fraternity.

Most college men aren't scoring all that much. Most college men need to get into a relationship to get some pussie.

I've heard that a lot of frat guys only hook up with like two or three girls a year. I wasn't in a frat in college and this number corresponds with my experiences as well. On average I'd get one hookup per semester
 

Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.

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