Alright, so I want to use the no contact method to either get my ex back or cut off all ties with her completely. She seems to have this attitude that I will always be a friend and that is POINTLESS! Anyways, so I have NO WAY of seeing her PERIOD, but she told me she needed some space after the breakup, so I'm giving her the space she wanted, BUT here's the thing I'm almost positive in a few days she will reply with something like "I've thought about it and just want to be friends". Obviously I don't want to be her friend I want to be MORE than that if possible, but if it wasn't meant to be and she doesn't have feeling for me, then it wasn't meant to be! My question is I can guarantee she responds with the "lets just be friends statement" so how do I initiate no contact if she classifies me as a friend? If she thinks I'm always going to be her friend, then she will never know what it's like to miss me, so what would you recommend I say to this (to initiate no contact) AND if she does contact me after I initiate no contact how do I reply? Do I just ignore her? Give her an ultimatum that we can't be friends and pretend to agree with the breakup so she second guesses herself? Completely baffled by this lol I need solid advice!
Someone Explain How No Contact Works In This Scenario
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You two broke up and she friendzoned you? It's all over, forget about her.
If she sends a message asking you to be her friend, just say "Sure" or don't replay at all and than go ghost.
You see, the no contact is for you, not your ex-girlfriend Its purpose is that by going ghost, you are going to lose the feelings and feel better, it won't get your girlfriend back 100% of the time.
If she sends a message asking you to be her friend, just say "Sure" or don't replay at all and than go ghost.
You see, the no contact is for you, not your ex-girlfriend Its purpose is that by going ghost, you are going to lose the feelings and feel better, it won't get your girlfriend back 100% of the time.
Tictac
Banned
Why is it that you need the last word?
Just go dark. Unless and until you are getting from this woman what you want and need, there is no need to say or do anything. If you get some sort of message from her that you want to hear, just vanish.
Let her rationalization hamster do the rest.
Just go dark. Unless and until you are getting from this woman what you want and need, there is no need to say or do anything. If you get some sort of message from her that you want to hear, just vanish.
Let her rationalization hamster do the rest.
Maximus Rex
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Dude, You Should Have Money Respect for Yourself
The ^^^^. This is your reality and you need to accept it. Baby girl ain't f*ckin' with you mayne.Vaporized said:
You're probably right, this is the first time I ever been dumped and it came as such a shocker. My girl was a virgin and NEVER had a BF (CONFIRMED FACT 100% POSITIVE)! She had never done ANYTHING sexual + never even KISSED, so she had all these experiences with me and I figured I had her for life! She is NOT getting another BF PERIOD! No disrespect to her, but she's a 6 at best, that doesn't mean I didn't love her cuz I did, but it wasn't really for her looks. They say you don't know how much you really loved a person until they are gone so I was kind of clinging to the fact that this might be true in her perspective. I need to just let it go, but I know I won't be able to do that UNLESS I find someone else and I'm not in HS anymore and taking online college courses, so I just don't see that happening which is very unfortunate. I learned a lot by reading these posts, I just wish I would have came here before she took a chainsaw to my heart.Maximus Rex said:
At this point you probably have a woman (or multiple women) chasing you around, calling you all the time, wanting to be with you. So let's talk about how to KEEP a woman interested in you once you have her. This is BIG! There is nothing worse than getting dumped by a woman that you really, really like.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
No contact works the same in every scenario, you go ghost and never speak to the woman again. However, I'm assuming you guys had a relatively drama free breakup so perhaps after a few years when your feelings are gone for her you could give her another chance. Only as a fvck buddy though, I'd never consider taking a chick back who dumped me. Of course by then you'll be far more awesome than you are now and with women much better than she ever was.
That's a good thing for sure but never fall into the fallacy of thinking that a virgin will be the perfect pure angel for you for all eternity. Just because she's a virgin doesn't mean she won't have other fvcked up qualities that'll make your life miserable. Every wh0re started out the same way your ex did.
VladPatton
Master Don Juan
See what you said? You already know the answer. No contact is not a technique, it is a decision, an executive order, if you will. You delete all her info (cell, email, Facebook, Instagram), and you do not reply to her ever. This is a simple concept. You don't let her choose what SHE wants you to be, a friend...GTFOH! If she doesn't wanna be your gf, then it's an adios on your part. Just do it, and stop 2nd guessing the decision.Vaporized said:
Ya I'm pretty sure she wants to be friends but am hour before we breakup I threaten to go home and leave her ass by herself and she pleads and begs me to stay with her so I do. Twenty minutes before the breakup she gets a text from mommy outlining a top secret mission aka "F with my head"! She leaves the room talks to mommy comes back says we have to talk and boom she breaks up! So first 3 days I plead and beg her to take me back then I realized she just cold blooded and EVEN THO I gave her a second chance when she messed up she can't give me one lol unreal so I know mommy played a role in her decision cuz she 18 but still in HS and I would try and get her back to fix everything but don't know how doing so. If I found someone else I would dump her but she is literally MY ONLY OPTION ATM I'm sick and can't leave house so you can imagine how much fun I'm having! She deff don't want to lose me that's y I have to cut off all ties cuz she thinks she can still interact as a friend when I don't play those games! I gave her the space she needed now I'm just waiting for the inevitable response BUT, If she thinks she can live without me when she has no way of connecting with a real guy then bless her cuz she wasn't worth my time anyways!VladPatton said:
I have no intentions of being a friend but I do miss her she was the only girl I ever had a real connection with, but I'm just wondering if there was anything I could do to get her back because we all know begging, pleading, and money won't do anythingKrueg said:
sylvester the cat
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spin plates.Vaporized said:
countwoofoolah
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Many many...just so many red flags !!!!Vaporized said:
First thing you may want to address is the text spell , it just ...lacks something but each to their own.
Second - in her mind right now it looks like you will stick around , and truth is you need to walk away because the second she realises she can jerk you back and forth - you are gonna be on a bad swing , its just a psychological power play -after breakup , happens in one way or another after most people break up
Think it has something to do with the imbalance between people who were together , there will always be that white noise in the background
Umm. She doesn't really want to be friends. So get that out of your head.
What she wants is validation that she made the right decision in breaking up with you.
I see it as...when a girl breaks up with you there might be like 2% doubt in her mind that she's making the right call. She throws out the 'lets be friends' BS for two reasons.
1: as a test. If you say yes, BOOM, instant validation that you aren't BF material. Because, subconsciously, she's thinking no real man would ever just yield like that. If you're so willing to just be friends so readily she must be making the right call. 2% doubt removed. (That's not to imply that saying NO to the friends thing will get her back or make her rethink her decision. It doesn't...but she might actually respect you in the long run)
2: Girls don't want to be hated. She throws out the 'friends' offer as a way of saying 'we good?' to ease her mind into thinking that you're cool, that you're not going to saying rotten things about her behind her back. That you're not going to ruin her social reputation. Its just business.
Just go NC.
What she wants is validation that she made the right decision in breaking up with you.
I see it as...when a girl breaks up with you there might be like 2% doubt in her mind that she's making the right call. She throws out the 'lets be friends' BS for two reasons.
1: as a test. If you say yes, BOOM, instant validation that you aren't BF material. Because, subconsciously, she's thinking no real man would ever just yield like that. If you're so willing to just be friends so readily she must be making the right call. 2% doubt removed. (That's not to imply that saying NO to the friends thing will get her back or make her rethink her decision. It doesn't...but she might actually respect you in the long run)
2: Girls don't want to be hated. She throws out the 'friends' offer as a way of saying 'we good?' to ease her mind into thinking that you're cool, that you're not going to saying rotten things about her behind her back. That you're not going to ruin her social reputation. Its just business.
Just go NC.
countwoofoolah
Don Juan
This...is ....sosauuuuvaaaaaaaa !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!Vidar said:
Its spelled wrong ....I know lol
true though - kinda a good summary for anyone in the same kinda place ...because they always wanna be friends ??? why ...why would you wanna be friends when they just made it so freaking awkward ?? people be freaky bra....:cheer:
See that's the thing, you don't break up with me and then have peace at mind! I get REVENGE. I either win her back, or the truth about certain things comes out! The reason certain people in her life hate me is cuz she's a LIAR! That's all she does is lie lie lie! I figured if she really wanted me in her life and I decline her "friend" bs, then she's inclined to either date me again or go NC with me and either way I win cuz a nice plate of revenge will be served! I can't just drop something after being hurt, I GET BACK! I know that's psycho, but hey it validates my feelings and helps me get over it. NC just makes me feel like I lost the war.ALS-Dog said:
Maximus Rex
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Stop Being So Emotional
Heroin addiction is some sh*t, not only because of the potency of the drug, but also due to the extremes that fiends are willing to go through to cop. These muthaf*ckas will literally do anything to get money to cop to namely avoid the one thing they dread the most, withdrawals. I've seen fiends when they're dope sick. They have cramps, they're all hunched over, they get to throwin' up and sh*t, for a fiend being sick in the morning ain't nothing nice.
The same principle applies to a woman, for all of their lives they've been told how pretty and wonderful they are by family members, then when they hit puberty, women become aware of their sexuality and power it wields. Girls notice that just by merely being pretty, having a nice or large rack, or a nice or large a$$ that boys and men will (for lack of better words,) "do some pretty dumb sh*t" in order curry favor with them. Girls and women relish in this sh*t and they use their looks and sexuality to their advantage quite effectively.
Before Rex became fully aware of the game, he came to realize this fact and he shared it with "The NegMan," if dudes would just stop complimenting chicks and saying hi to them for a month. The lack of attention would drink them nuts. They would start question they're beauty and start throwin' n*ggas the a$$ just to get that reassurance that they've still attractive."
You see Vaporized, what you don't seem to appreciate, let alone understand is, that women are analogous to the dope fiend and attention is their drug. Attention is a source of mental sustenance to them. Women need attention to function, to have peace of mind, to validate their womanhood, femininity, and sexuality. We call women "attention wh*res, actually this is a misnomer and more accurate term would be be "attention fiend," or "attention addict," because a woman's actions (in regards to attention and the lack there of,) are more in line of someone who uses drugs, especially when she's not receiving attention from the object of her affections.
When you cut all ties with a woman, (probably due to their emotional natures and constantly getting attention,) it bothers them, BAD. They sit and wonder, "Why doesn't he like me?, "What did I do?" "How is he able just to walk away from me like that?, "Didn't I mean anything to to him?" She'll lament to her friends about how much she misses you and how you wish he would call. She'll be perplexed as to why you're no longer answering her phone calls or replying to her texts. She'll go out on dates with other dudes, but her thoughts will be about you and she'll even go as far as to talk about you, while on the date. In frustration, she'll leave posts on FB about you, while never saying your name, and she'll spill her guts to her emotional tampons and seek their advice on how to get you back. You might not see it all of it and only catch dribs and drabs of it, but believe me, when turn your back on your ex-girlfriend that b*tch is going through it. Mariah Carey, Carrie Underwood, Kelly Clarkson, Taylor Swift, and especially Mary J. Blige have all made careers talking about being f*cked in the game after a break up and trying to have the strength to get through it.
Really, muthaf*cka, are you that much of a b*tch? Go listen to following songs:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsk0mNYaoKg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uHRdRVTDdP0
After that go into the bathroom and say "you don't break up with me and then have peace at mind! I get REVENGE. I either win her back, or the truth about certain things comes out!" as you look at yourself in the mirror and tell see if you don't feel like the b*tch made f*g muthaf*cka that ever walked the earth.
See, Rex figured out a long time that he couldn't play himself with these hoes because he knew that he would have to look at himself in the mirror. Faced with that reality, Rex decided that every interaction he had with a female he would conduct himself as a man as so he would be able to look at himself in mirror know he didn't act like a b*tch and you sir are acting like a b*tch.
You're not being rationale, back in the days of the Cold War, there was this concept of "mutually assured destruction, which stated that if the U. S. or the Soviets were to launch a nuclear strike, the other side would respond in kind. How did you think this chick's brothers, cousins, friends, and beta orbitors are going to feel when you air her punk a$$ out? They might feel some kinda of way about it. They might want to approach you about that sh*t. What if this chick or her parents are of a litigious sort and they decide to file a defamation suit against you and have your a$$ in court, and then you're faced to pay some sort of restitution. Your emotionally fuel charge for vengeance isn't going to look so good now is it.?
You don't understand the power of no contact. Pull up a chair, sit down, and soak up this good game and what I'm about to tell you comes from first hand experience and seeing other people go through it.Vaporized said:
Heroin addiction is some sh*t, not only because of the potency of the drug, but also due to the extremes that fiends are willing to go through to cop. These muthaf*ckas will literally do anything to get money to cop to namely avoid the one thing they dread the most, withdrawals. I've seen fiends when they're dope sick. They have cramps, they're all hunched over, they get to throwin' up and sh*t, for a fiend being sick in the morning ain't nothing nice.
The same principle applies to a woman, for all of their lives they've been told how pretty and wonderful they are by family members, then when they hit puberty, women become aware of their sexuality and power it wields. Girls notice that just by merely being pretty, having a nice or large rack, or a nice or large a$$ that boys and men will (for lack of better words,) "do some pretty dumb sh*t" in order curry favor with them. Girls and women relish in this sh*t and they use their looks and sexuality to their advantage quite effectively.
Before Rex became fully aware of the game, he came to realize this fact and he shared it with "The NegMan," if dudes would just stop complimenting chicks and saying hi to them for a month. The lack of attention would drink them nuts. They would start question they're beauty and start throwin' n*ggas the a$$ just to get that reassurance that they've still attractive."
You see Vaporized, what you don't seem to appreciate, let alone understand is, that women are analogous to the dope fiend and attention is their drug. Attention is a source of mental sustenance to them. Women need attention to function, to have peace of mind, to validate their womanhood, femininity, and sexuality. We call women "attention wh*res, actually this is a misnomer and more accurate term would be be "attention fiend," or "attention addict," because a woman's actions (in regards to attention and the lack there of,) are more in line of someone who uses drugs, especially when she's not receiving attention from the object of her affections.
When you cut all ties with a woman, (probably due to their emotional natures and constantly getting attention,) it bothers them, BAD. They sit and wonder, "Why doesn't he like me?, "What did I do?" "How is he able just to walk away from me like that?, "Didn't I mean anything to to him?" She'll lament to her friends about how much she misses you and how you wish he would call. She'll be perplexed as to why you're no longer answering her phone calls or replying to her texts. She'll go out on dates with other dudes, but her thoughts will be about you and she'll even go as far as to talk about you, while on the date. In frustration, she'll leave posts on FB about you, while never saying your name, and she'll spill her guts to her emotional tampons and seek their advice on how to get you back. You might not see it all of it and only catch dribs and drabs of it, but believe me, when turn your back on your ex-girlfriend that b*tch is going through it. Mariah Carey, Carrie Underwood, Kelly Clarkson, Taylor Swift, and especially Mary J. Blige have all made careers talking about being f*cked in the game after a break up and trying to have the strength to get through it.
Vaporized said:
Really, muthaf*cka, are you that much of a b*tch? Go listen to following songs:http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsk0mNYaoKg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uHRdRVTDdP0
After that go into the bathroom and say "you don't break up with me and then have peace at mind! I get REVENGE. I either win her back, or the truth about certain things comes out!" as you look at yourself in the mirror and tell see if you don't feel like the b*tch made f*g muthaf*cka that ever walked the earth.
See, Rex figured out a long time that he couldn't play himself with these hoes because he knew that he would have to look at himself in the mirror. Faced with that reality, Rex decided that every interaction he had with a female he would conduct himself as a man as so he would be able to look at himself in mirror know he didn't act like a b*tch and you sir are acting like a b*tch.
You're not being rationale, back in the days of the Cold War, there was this concept of "mutually assured destruction, which stated that if the U. S. or the Soviets were to launch a nuclear strike, the other side would respond in kind. How did you think this chick's brothers, cousins, friends, and beta orbitors are going to feel when you air her punk a$$ out? They might feel some kinda of way about it. They might want to approach you about that sh*t. What if this chick or her parents are of a litigious sort and they decide to file a defamation suit against you and have your a$$ in court, and then you're faced to pay some sort of restitution. Your emotionally fuel charge for vengeance isn't going to look so good now is it.?
Here's the uncut raw. She lied to you because you ALLOWED her to. It was your job to check her punk a$$ the first time you caught her in a lie. By you not checking on her, you sent the message that you were cool with her b.s. so therefore she kept lying. She only did to you what you ALLOWED HER TO DO TO YOU.Vaporized said:
Do you REALLY want to bring the pain? Do you REALLY want to make this b*tch realize that she f*cked up? Then you go No Contact. You strive to achieve that "Steve Austin Bionic Man" status. You become better than you were before. You attack the weights with a vengeance, and as you're lifting you think about the look this chick is going to have on her face when she sees you yoked and ripped. If you're in school, you strive for good grades, so you can get that high powered 5 or 6 digit salary, so when if you name ever comes up in conversation, it's in the context of the trip that you just took, the sports or luxury car that you driving or the house you just bought. You improve your wardrobe and you study and put into practice the advice given on sites like this, so when baby girl sees you again, you have not only one, but two b*tches on your arm who not only look better than this b*tch ever could, but most importantly, they ACT better than she ever could and they're loving the f*ck out of you. That my nigga is revenge served cold and not that emotionally charged half a$$ed attempt at embarrassment that you're talking about, and it will give you the satisfaction that you so desperately crave.Vaporized said:
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sylvester the cat
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http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=C0ihTXRWIZAVaporized said:
you fvcking c0cksvcker OP. you think you're in love? you know nothing about love.
you are in Hate! tell me something. if you hate this person so much (which you so evidently do) then why do you so long to be with her?
what is it about hate that you love so much?
Maximus Rex said:You understand the power of no contact. Pull up a chair, sit down, and soak up this good game and what I'm about to tell you come first hand experience and seeing it with other people.
Heroin addiction is some sh*t, not only because of the potency of the drug, but also due to the extremes that fiends are willing to go through to cop. These muthaf*ckas will literally do anything to get money to cop to namely avoid the one thing they dread the most, withdrawals.
I'm seen fiends when they're dope sick. They have cramps, they're all hunched over, they get to throwin' up and sh*t, for a fiend being sick in the morning ain't nothing nice.
The same principle applies to a woman, from all their lives they've been told how pretty and wonderful they are by family members, then when they hit puberty, women become aware of their sexuality and power it wields. Girls notice that just by merely being pretty, having a nice or large rack, or a nice or large a$$ that boys and men will for lack of better words, "do some pretty dumb sh*t" in order curry favor with them. Girls and women relish in this sh*t and they use their looks and sexuality to their advantage quite effectively.
Before Rex became fully aware of the game, he came to realize this fact and he shared it with "The NegMan," if dudes would just stop complimenting chicks and saying hi to them for a month. The lack of attention would drink them nuts. They would start question they're beauty and start throwin' n*ggas the a$$ just to get that reassurance that they've still attractive."
You see Vaporize, what you don't seem to appreciate, let alone understand is, that women are analogous to the dope fiend and attention is their drug. Attention is a source of mental sustenance to them. Women need attention to function, to have peace of mind, to validate their womanhood, femininity, and sexuality. We call women "attention wh*res, actually this is a misnomer a more accurate term would be be "attention fiend," or "attention addict," because a woman's actions (in regards to attention and the lack there of,) are more of that of some who uses drugs, especially when she's not receiving attention, especially from the object of her affections.
When you cut all ties with a woman, (probably due to their emotional natures and constantly getting attention,) it bothers them, BAD. They sit and wonder, "Why doesn't he like me?, "What did I do?" "How is he able just to walk away from me like that?, "Didn't I mean anything to to him?"
She'll lament to her friends about how much she misses you and how you wish he would call. She'll be perplexed as to why you're no longer answering her phone calls or replying to her texts. She'll go out on dates with other dudes, but her thoughts will be about you and she'll even go as far as to talk about you, while on the date. In frustration, she'll leave posts on FB about you, while never saying your name, and she'll spill her guts to her emotional tampons and seek their advice on how to get you back. You might not see it all of it and only catch dribs and drabs of it, but believe me, when turn your back on your ex-girlfriend that b*tch is going through it. Mariah Carey, Carrie Underwood, Kelly Clarkson, Taylor Swift, and especially Mary J. Blige have all made careers talking about being f*cked in the game after a break up and trying to have the strength to get through it.
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hsk0mNYaoKg
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=uHRdRVTDdP0
After that go into the bathroom and say "you don't break up with me and then have peace at mind! I get REVENGE. I either win her back, or the truth about certain things comes out!" as you look at yourself in the mirror and tell see if you don't feel like the b*tch made f*g muthaf*cka that ever walked the earth.
See, Rex figured out a long time that he couldn't play himself with these hoes because he knew that he would have to look at himself in the mirror. Faced with that reality, Rex decided that every interaction he had with a female he would conduct himself as a male as so he would be able to look at himself in mirror know he didn't act like a b*tch and you sir are acting like a b*tch.
You're not being rationale, back in the days of the Cold War, there was this concept of "mutually assured destruction, which stated that if the U. S. or the Soviets were to launch a nuclear strike, the other side would respond in kind. How did you think this chick's brothers, cousins, friends, and beta orbitors are going to feel when you air her punk a$$ out. They might feel some kind of way about it. They might want to approach you about that sh*t. What if this chick or her parents are of a litigious sort and they decide to file a defamation suit against you and have your a$$ in court, and then you're faced to pay some sort of restitution. Your emotionally fuel charge for vengeance isn't going to look so good now is it.?
Here's the harsh reality potna. She lied to you because you ALLOWED her to. It was your job to check her punk a$$ the first time you caught her in a line. By you not checking on that she, you sent the message that you were cool with her b.s. so therefore she kept lying. She only did to you what you ALLOWED HER TO DO TO YOU.
Do you REALLY want to bring the pain? Do you REALLY want to make this b*tch realize that she f*cked up? Then you go No Contact. You strive to achieve that "Steve Austin Bionic Man" status. You become better than you were before. You attack the weights with a vengeance, and as you're lifting you think about the look this chick is going to have on her face when she sees you yoked and ripped. If you're in school, you strive for good grades, so you can get that high powered 5 or 6 digit salary, so when if you name ever comes up in conversation, it's in the context of the trip that you just took, the sports or luxury car that you driving or the house you just bought. You improve your wardrobe and you study and put into practice the advice given on sites like this, so when baby girl sees you again, you have not only one, but two b*tches on your arm who not only look better than this b*tch ever could, but most importantly, they ACT they she ever could and they're loving the f*ck out of you. That my nigga is revenge served cold and not that emotionally charged halfed attempt at embarrassment that you're talking about.
:crackup: slow clap...this was the finest illustration of the benefits of No Contact that I've ever seen. OP print this post out, stick it on your bathroom mirror and read it aloud everyday until it sinks in, then read it some more.
LOL, this guy haha. Look I merely seek advice to get her back, but you want to know why I'm so angry over her actions? Would you like to experience what I felt? Let me paint the picture for you real quick. Alright, so it's Nov 30th 2013 and me and her are naked cuddling together. All my friends tell me she's the most loyal girl in the world and the best ever and then she shows me this msg from kik! I had seen this BS before with my younger sister and I KNEW she was flirting with dudes on there. So I took her phone right out her hand and sifted through it. She was FLIRTING and SEXTING all kinds of dudes! From everywhere! She's a SUPER attention *****! I GAVE her a second chance and despite what ANYONE says I know for 100% fact she never did that BS again, but here's the thing, she didn't give ME a second chance when I screwed up. How does that make ME feel? She lied to her mom just to cover her own butt. Why should I let that go? Her family SHOULD know the TRUTH. That's my revenge, it's not out of hatred! If you lie, then guess what? I SWOOP IN. She broke up with me cuz I called her friend out for cheating on HER BF, so don't come at me with that BS! All of you guys are talking about "spinning plates" and "multiple women", you don't think you're all ***holes? Really? I don't support ANY cheaters male or female, so don't hypocritically judge my post, when you're situation bares no weight. All I wanted was help, not judgmental opinions on something NONE of you know about. If I didn't care about her, I wouldn't have made an account on this website would I? This is how I am with EVERYONE! You don't walk all over me and walk away. I get EVEN PERIOD, now you can highlight in bold what you want, but I don't back down to no one including people on an internet sitesylvester the cat said:
