So, what do women find MOST attractive?

[ducaro]

She has to like your looks to some extent to be initially attracted to you.
Then she digs deeper to discover your personality.

If you pass both then you have a decent shot with her.

All other crap like social 'status' (whatever that really means anyway) and money will hardly matter to a decent woman.

Money will hardly matter.. true.. IN JAIL! (may be it doesn't in monkey land too, but among humans it does!

 

[ducaro]

Maybe at 57....I'm 20 and broke, and I'm doing OK for myself.

Ofcourse you are doing well for yourself when yer broke at 20.. cuz women don't really want to have a 'future' with you... they'd rather just get shagged by you an wait for a man when he comes along with lots of money!

and again yer just 20... when yer 30, I would love to hear from you!

 

[ducaro]

I would say, in the long run, social status. For hook up the personality.

yea, quite what I have been trying to say out here and some just don't get it!!

(knowing that money is an integral part of 'social status' - you can't have 'social status' without money)

 

[Create Reality]

they are not attracted to a man with money, it's the money they love.

 

[ducaro]

they are not attracted to a man with money, it's the money they love.

nice way of looking at it Mr.reality! true to your name!

 

[young_gun]

nice way of looking at it Mr.reality! true to your name!

I hope you are enjoying yourself. If you are so brainwashed into thinking that all women want is money, you are going after the wrong kind of women. Money doesn't buy happiness, and it doesn't buy women. I've talked to girls who go out with guys who are LOADED and report back that they don't want to see them again.

MONEY HELPS, BUT IT'S NOT MOST IMPORTANT.

 

[Interceptor]

Women want a paradox , in some ways.

They want Security first and foremost, yet..they actually are attracted to emotional insecurity(it's not what you think. It means they want an adventure with you. UNcertainty, is mysterious. ANd she will only follow you if you are secure, and can provide her security. Physical, mental, emotional security.).

The Emotional Roller Coaster is intriguing and seductive to them.
Think of the terms "Torrid affair", "Turbulent romance".
They want a Man who can stir her emotions. Awaken her, make her feel alive in all the spectrum of emotions.
So, here's a good picture of what women are seeking in their sometimes seemingly contradictory actions.

Women want resources.

My mother told me something a long, long time ago. It was some of the best advice she ever gave me. And it was the truth. More importantly.

"A woman is always looking at you as a prospect and your future prospects."

pros·pect (prspkt)
n.
1. Something expected; a possibility.
2. prospects
a. Chances.
b. Financial expectations, especially of success.
3.
a. A potential customer, client, or purchaser.
b. A candidate deemed likely to succeed.
4. The direction in which an object, such as a building, faces; an outlook.
5. Something presented to the eye; a scene: a pleasant prospect.
6. The act of surveying or examining.
7.
a. The location or probable location of a mineral deposit.
b. An actual or probable mineral deposit.
c. The mineral yield obtained by working an ore.
v. pros·pect·ed, pros·pect·ing, pros·pects
v.tr.
To search for or explore (a region) for mineral deposits or oil.
v.intr.
To explore for mineral deposits or oil.

RESOURCES.

Bottom line.
Women want resources.

What resources do they want from us Men? (there's many more, and this isn't in any order, but only to give an example)

Attention
Affection
Confidence
Security
Sense of Self
Self Esteem
Health
Time
Money
Energy
Effort and most of all , the BASIS for all the above.....your Masculinity.
They test to see where your boundaries are. Hence, that's how they deem you fit or unfit as their partner.

All the above are resources she wants. And she will test you to see if you have them or not.

Ultimately, you could have average "looks", but make her feel absolutely divine, and fantastically Femenine and Sexy.

You could drive a less than average car, but make her feel like the sexual tigress she always fantasized to be, and give her the pleasure she always fantasized experiencing!

You could have an average job, but make her feel alive, vivacious, sexy and fun...laughing hysterically. truly enjoying herself and feeling alive, safe, and secure with HER MAN.[/I]

You could earn a little less than average, and still give her a truly romantic, and deep emotional experience she will never forget...years after the event took place. And STILL think about you years later!





Or you could just be a "Taker".

 

[bigjohnson]

.... it's the money they love.

Not really fo rthe most part. they love the security money brings and they are atrracted to the prowess that the ablilty to make that money implies. Some are gold diggers but not many. They are all just wired to love prowess and the security it brings, in todays world that's usually money but it can manifest in other ways.

 

[Randallpink83]

The TOP thing that girls find attractive isn't even on the list........... CONFIDENCE...... Seriously, confidence is number 1.

 

[ducaro]

I hope you are enjoying yourself. If you are so brainwashed into thinking that all women want is money, you are going after the wrong kind of women. Money doesn't buy happiness, and it doesn't buy women. I've talked to girls who go out with guys who are LOADED and report back that they don't want to see them again.

MONEY HELPS, BUT IT'S NOT MOST IMPORTANT.

Firstly, I am not chasing women of any kind.
I do not have money.. I am not rich.

The last thing I would do is try and attract a female with my money even if i had lots of it. I am just not that.

I think almost everybody has misundertood what I am trying to convey.

In very simple terms, your personality, confidence and all that WILL attract a woman.. no doubt. May be its the first thing she sees, but remember she is only seeing that because she has established evidence that you have money.

OK, so there are some guys, who have no money whatsoever.. prolly no job.. but are cool, ****y and confident. yes, they do manage to attract a woman!! the question is how long? Its not long term.. the woman he is dating is mentally still 'looking out'

to all others here, please read all my posts and then decide to snarl and paw. I am tired this thread is closed atleast for me.:yawn:

 

[bigjohnson]

.... If you are so brainwashed into thinking that all women want is money, .....

They are wired to want security and to feel good. Translate that into 21st century tangibles and get back to me.

Here's a pop quiz for you - look at guys with money and see what percent date ugly women.

 

[Interceptor]

Ducaro is bringing up a very, very good point.


In the end, he is saying...woman are going to look for that security.

In the long run, once it gets "serious", the woman will be "looking out."
But if she Loves you, she will want you to be the Man for her.

Women want to be your Partner. They do want to share and build a life together.

Fine, if that's not what you're looing for, that is perfectly acceptable.

But interms of an LTR, yes, a woman at some point will start asking questions and reassesing your situation, and hers.

Like I said, as the "stakes" get higher, a woman starts to wonder about the future, and uncertainty there is something she doesn't want to have.


Financial Security is IMPORTANT for both Men and Women.

She looks for confidence as the Number One Trait because Confidence helps a Man make things happen.

A Man that can make things happen, is confident. And is looked on as being able to fix things, and stay afloat, and never lose control in times of difficulty.

Confidence.

Financial Security is nothing to dismiss.

In the end, a secure confident man wants that because he wants Peace of Mind for himself, first and foremost.

Knowing that as a relaized man, you have that security as a Resource, you will have to understand the VALUE you now have, for you and for a potetnial partner.
Knowing the VALUE you have in addition to a great personality, you will realize that you will have OPTIONS.
You will never react in FEAR, you will always RESPOND with CONFIDENCE.

 

[NickSCFC2000]

Yeah with money it matters if you're over 30 and after a quality woman, they'd be expecting you to be able to afford a good house and have your career well underway.

In your 20s it's not so important, women at that age don't want kids unless they're fat council estate scum. Helps if you're at Uni or something like that as you're seen as having a very good future.

 

[NickSCFC2000]

women like men who are dominant.

I know alot of attractive females who are with guys who half of us would think are total pussies, atleast I would anyway. The tough guys with great bodies are the losers according to the poll.

 

[greedydon]

Depends for what.

If she wants to raise a family: financial secuity and personality.

If it's for sex, then it's all about look (good face structure, proper proportions etc) it's all about good breeding raw material, so she can have fun in bed.

If all she wants if someone to take care of her, then of course it's about money.

 

[bigjohnson]

....

In your 20s it's not so important, ..... Helps if you're at Uni or something like that as you're seen as having a very good future.

What you're missing here is that "being in Uni" and "having a good future" are the other side of the "has money" coin. They are looking for the same thing at all ages; the expectation of how that thing will be expressed changes over time and varies some from person to person.

Prowess - either future potential or proven ability. This is often but not always scored in $$$. Sometimes it's jocks, sometimes it's bikers, or a pimp. How high a girl aims and what precise way the prowess is expressed to "work" for her depends a lot on her upbringing and self image, but it all boils down to the same thing. Why? Because that attribute holds the promise for long lasting security for her and her offspring and she's wired for survival of her kids. In our modern world money is how we keep score for the most part. Maybe at one time it was the guy with the most Mammoth skins or something.


Ability to stir their emotions, best if you can make them feel good. People have lots of ways of doing this, including negs, C&F, and so on but it all boils down to the same thing.

 

[potato]

I think that whoever wrote the poll and some of the posters don’t quite get the art of attracting women. Of course they are most attracted to your looks but that’s really stating it too simply. It’s really the totality of the image that you project, your look, your posture, your build, your walk, your mannerisms, how you interact with those around you, what you say, your animation in communicating… In all of that you reveal a character. It is that character that will most likely determine if a woman is attracted to a particular man or not.

It just so happens that the characters women find most intriguing tend to be good looking, confident men who are completely comfortable with being who they are. Often it seems that women like a man who is like a rock, someone solid to bounce off of, yet someone who holds her interest, entertains her, spoils her at times, protects her – almost a father figure type.

 

[retired_dude]

Yeah with money it matters if you're over 30 and after a quality woman, they'd be expecting you to be able to afford a good house and have your career well underway.

In your 20s it's not so important, women at that age don't want kids unless they're fat council estate scum. Helps if you're at Uni or something like that as you're seen as having a very good future.

I don't understand his language. My girlfriend just turned 20 last weekend and I am 58. We are perfect together. Maybe it is because I have never been married, but I feel and look better now than when I was 25. Man is made to reproduce until death. Simple as that.

 

[ducaro]

I don't understand his language. My girlfriend just turned 20 last weekend and I am 58. We are perfect together. Maybe it is because I have never been married, but I feel and look better now than when I was 25. Man is made to reproduce until death. Simple as that.

Holy Moly.. she is too young to even be your daughter! you cradle snatcher!!:nono:

its ok for a 57 yr old like me to date a 19 yr old.. but you 58 dating a 20 yr old! goodness gracious!

 

[retired_dude]

Holy Moly.. she is too young to even be your daughter! you cradle snatcher!!:nono:

its ok for a 57 yr old like me to date a 19 yr old.. but you 58 dating a 20 yr old! goodness gracious!

I look great, feel great, and want to share that with others. We are both adults and we respect what our relationship is about. I was a virgin until 36 when I went a bit crazy. Changed everything after I went through major depression. I am not ashamed of anything I have done in my life. I have never intenionally hurt anybody and have never broken any laws outside of speeding (never even tried coke even though it was part of my circle's lifestyle in the 80's).

I am sorry, but marriage breaks most of you. It puts unjust limits on your way of life. I will probably get married one day, but that is only because I have done everything I could have dreamed of and more. If I would have been normal and married I would be checking out porn on xtube or something.

Remember, to stay young you must live young.