Stagger Lee said:
No it doesn't. Or at least we are using two different definitions. Hypergamy means a women is only sexually available to men who are more attractive.
This is wikipedia's definition:
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hypergamy
According to wikipedia, the definition goes against everything you believe in.
First of all, you'd have to subscribe to the SMV theory that the older and wealthier you get, that more women would see you as a provider and want to date you as you'll have better resources. It's usually in the context of marriage (i.e. marrying-up).
You are also free to take another definition where this is suggesting to be about sex. Marriage and LTR also include sex so if you take that, then it's safe to assume if most couples out there are evenly matched in terms of looks, with the male being slightly higher in looks than the female, then it contradicts what you are saying that average or below-average women are only having sex with hot guys (i.e. in marriage and LTRs).
StageerLee said:
You are under some false assumption that everyone is being monogamous and in LTR. Most women would be engaged by their 18th birthday if hypergamy wasn't in play. If hypergamy isn't in play, then what's stopping you from getting a looks matched LTR right away?
As I said, if you go out of the door you are going to see couples. You have conceded to the point so there is no point to further argue with that.
What is stopping me from getting a looks matched LTR right away? Well, if you've read my journals, I've lost interest in pursuing after women. First of all, I place all sorts of restrictions. They have to be yonge, single, never married, a born-again Christian that can lead spiritually, and unless I'm sure God has sent the women, then it's seen as a waste of time. My life as a whole has different priorities. A woman also has to be compatable and fit into my thought-life or pattern of seeing the world. She has to get inside of me somehow. Most women don't really get inside of me.
The last relationship I had I felt like the girl was part of my "gut", and we shared many common interests together before I dumped her. I am drained by that experience, or satisfied that I no longer envy seeing couples out there.
Instead, when I see couples I see them as either yonge, or old couples. The yonge ones are the missed opportunity of my youth, and the old ones show that they've had a relationship that LASTED over time. Otherwise, knowing that most relationships may end in break-up or divorce, I'm not as envious seeing people coupled up while I"m single as I was before my "relationship" last year.
StageerLee said:
Men should have and use to have value beyond their physical attractiveness and personality. Women never had and never will have value besides their looks, youth and feminine personality. A man is really being cheated when a woman is lacking in looks, youth and has a feminist personality. You basically redefine hypergamy and deny hypergamy and feminism has real efffects.
No, you are redefining hypergamy based on a fixed definition or use of the term. It doesn't mean women behaving like wannabe porn-actresses because there is a hot dude in the room. These are very low quality women. There are women out there that believe in no-sex until marriage and will not lower themselves. Some women will reject hot guys because they'll think he's a player. So I don't think black and white thinking, or one-size fits all approach is realistic, except if you got butthurt a few too many times.
A woman's value is in whatever connection she has with a man she's seeing. If the woman is attractive enough to a man where the couple doen't stand out like a mis-matched eye-sore in public, and he's taking the lead in the relationship then that make sense. Looks hypergamy with couples will make the guy look like he has some serious flaws that he had to settle with an eye-sore next to him. Economic hypergamy means you have a yonge beauty next to an older guy with thinning hair because of his status, wealth, or the idea that the older a guy gets his sexual value also gets higher.
Again, this is why depending on how you look at hypergamy, your position on this board actually argues against it existing not for it.
That's why of course it's a bad idea to date an older woman who bosses you like a mother. Here she's lacking in youth, feminist personality, and may have some looks, but overall that would be something where I would feel cheated on. One reason you just don't get into an LTR or arrangement with someone because you dont' have anyone.