The only way that you are going to see if no contact really works is if you genuinely move on. You can't just quit talking to a girl who you've been with in hopes that she'll crawl back to you.
The point of no contact is to leave the girl, set off for greener pastures and better your life outright. It isn't so that you can win her back or make her want you more. When the chick realizes what she missed out on and she comes crawling back, you laugh her off and shoo her away because you're above the petty bullsh!t she put you through.
As you probably saw in all my journal threads, I recently relocated to a new city. There's a girl who I went to high school with who lives here. She's really one of the few people who I knew here before I moved, but I never called her or tried to get in touch with her? Why, because we dated for a short time in high school and she treated me like sh!t. Eight years later, our roles have reversed. Every time I see her out at the bars, she comes onto me and practically forces her number in my phone.
I could probably land a one-night stand with her no problem, but I have too much self respect. It just feels good to have the tables turned on her completely. In all honesty and this might be petty, it's a gratifying feeling watching her practically beg for my attention.
You should try to use this situation with this crazy BPD woman in the same way. Split away from her, don't contact her and when - or if - she does try to make contact with you again, just flat out ignore her. Become too big for the bullsh!t she put you through, and you will feel very good about yourself.
At some point, this has to stop being about playing games and manipulation for you, and it needs to become about self growth and developing genuine game.
