Slick Tales

[dj ben2]

slickster there are some majorly awesome guys on this site but by far you are my new HERO keep it up man

 

[Latinoman]

slickster there are some majorly awesome guys on this site but by far you are my new HERO keep it up man

I think it is very hard for some of us to write about our adventures because of the fear of being recognize.

 

[Latinoman]

Now here's a not so slick tale....

Renee is part of the "better" offer I spoke of earlier. (I didn't tell Karen about her though )Some friends of mine invited me for a weekend camping trip at their cabin at the lake. Renee a HB7.5 (25 yr old) was going to be there and my friends were excited to set us up. Now I had met this girl years before and I remembered that she was fairly attractive and had a great body. What I was told about her is that she is very smart and down to earth kind of girl. The kind of girl you would marry a friend told me. I can't really say I've met many quality women lately so it all sounded good to me and I was eager to get to know her.

My plan was a little different this time though. I figured that if she was a "down to earth" type of gal then maybe I should lose all the DJ stuff for the weekend. Instead of trying to seduce her or make moves I figured I'd just try to be down to earth and be "real" myself. No games, no teasing, no challenge, no trying to impress. Just plain ol' me. Wow, how refreshing.

When we arrived at the cabin, Renee was already there with a few other friends. She had obviously heard a little about me including the fact I was single. She made the effort to come and introduce herself and we seemed to click right away. Throughout the night she asked me a few questions and pretty much initiated most of the conversation. Things were looking good.

The next day me and the guys were working on the cabin and the girls were suntanning. I noticed Renee checking me out a couple times and when I had the chance I brought a beer over and offered it to her. She declined but I sat down beside her anyway and asked her about the book she was reading. A little fluff talk ensued and slowly the conversation turned to a "get to know you better" thing. We talked openly about our pasts and thoughts about the future. It was a pretty good conversation considering we didn't really know each other. I was quite surprised how easy she was to talk to and how we both seemed to open up to each other so quickly.

A funny thing happened when I asked her what her career plans were. She told me that she wanted to get into television. When I asked how, she said that she wanted to have her own television show! Wow I thought. Very ambitious! What would it be about I asked. She said she wanted to do a show where SHE would travel around to different countries and taste and critique all the candy they had! She was dead serious too. She went on to tell me that she has a total weakness for sweets and loves travel so she thought why not combine the two? So much for being down to earth. That had to be the goofiest thing I've heard in a while.

Anyway we talked for about 45 minutes and then went back to the cabin where everyone was starting to drink. The day went by and the group was having a grand time. A buddy and I were in charge of making dinner for everyone and Renee hung around the kitchen the whole time making conversation. I was convinced that her IL was quite high at this point and even though I was getting a little loaded I totally resisted making any "moves". I just played things very cool and basically just had fun with everyone and didn't try to pay her any special attention. As darkness fell the guitars came out and myself and another buddy led a bit of a sing along. It was during this time that I thought my value would be skyrocketing. Here I am making a great dinner for everyone and now I've got the whole crew rocking out and having a blast. I'm "in" I thought.

Turns out though there was another guy there with his sights on Renee too. He wasn't a good friend of mine but he is someone I know and respect. (I'm actually good friends with his father.) Matt is only 19 years old but he knows the game very well indeed. I basically watched him out DJ me and steal Renee's interest. He teased her, played games, push-pull tactics, kinoed her and the whole bit. It worked like a charm. She was getting a little tipsy and fell for it all hook-line-and-sinker. It was very impressive.

By the time everyone was going to sleep I looked over and saw Renee reading her book on my bed though! Whoa I thought. Maybe all that interest in the 19 year old was just a show. Really how could she be interested in a little punk like that when I'm here being my excellent self. Just as I was thinking that though Matt comes flying in and jumps on the bed with her and they are all over each other again.

I must admit I was a little dissappointed and really felt like I let a great girl get away. The whole reason being that I wanted to give the whole "no games and just be me" thing a try. How f*cked is that? I sat on the deck and played guitar by myself late into the night. When I went back inside later on and the two of them were gone and I went to sleep.

The next day I was still feeling a bit down but the booze had worn off and I decided to just say "F*ck it" and forget about the whole thing.

I know this may have turned into a depressing post but I guess I just got my hopes up on Renee. Even though I'm not really looking for a relationship right now it would be nice to at least meet someone worthy of one. Its funny but it seems like the better of a person I become the harder it is to meet someone who measures up. Sorry guys I'm just having a moment here.

Anyway its all a learning experience right? Skin gets thicker and we keep on playing.

Until next time.

Very important lesson to learn in here.

Life is a like a Game. You have to constantly play and play well...DJism is about a lifestyle. Remember that.

And Rennee? Good ridance! A 25 year old woman picking a 19 year old teenager over a 32 year old man? Think about this...she was a Fatty on the Making (sampling candy and chocolates??).



By the way...you are very talented writer. I cannot beleive I'm ignoring the other threads and reading yours. LOL.

 

[Latinoman]

Conversations you have with one get mixed up with things you've said to the other. Not to mention the fact that it is SO easy to mess up their names. Its very confusing, stressful, and over all a big pain in the arse. And that's excluding all the seemingly unavoidable drama that I've been so unlucky to encounter.

HAHAHAAHA!

So true....

Dude, I'm enjoying this because I truly know how it feels! It is crazy...and when it rain...it pours. No kidding!

 

[Latinoman]

Las Vegas with a girlfriend? Hmmmm...

You know her better than us.

I think the Saga will continue.

 

[MatureDJ]

At the till we chatted and she seemed extremely friendly. I was in a great frame of mind as I was looking forward to a great weekend. I'm sure I was just over flowing with enthusiasm and positivity. Anyway this girl was asking me all kinds of questions and seemed really interested. She was also telling me all about how she is new in town and just loves it here. Her only problem is she doesn't have many friends here yet and doesn't really know the town very well. Hint, hint I thought.

Although she was on the borderline in the looks department her personality won me over right away. She kept on rambling and while I was listening I decided I would try a number close despite the fact there were two other guys waiting behind me.

She handed me my receipt and I picked up a pen on the counter and handed it back to her. I said with a smile, "It was great meeting you. Why don't you write your number down and I'll take you out sometime?"

Right away she pulled out a lame excuse and had a lot of trouble getting it out. "Actually... I'm only going to be in town for a short while..... and then I'm heading back. Sorry!" I responded with another smile and just said "No worries. See ya." and left. On the way out I could hear the dudes behind me in line laughing at my rejection.

It wasn't the rejection that bothered me but the fact that this chick was so forward and friendly with me initially. Hell I thought she was going to number close me! Confusing.

Anyways guys, it just goes to show that even when all the signs are saying "go" you can still get shot down.

However, you gotta take the shot if you want to score.

I had a similar episode one time, although I was the new guy in town for temporary time, and the girl was fat (maybe 30 lbs too high.) I wasn't interested in her at all, but I figured that I hang around with her from time to time, and she could show me the local hotspots, or I could meet friends.

When I went for the number close, she said that she doesn't give out her number (but she starts conversations and leads strange men on?) I was thinking, "honey, you should be lucky that a man actually wants your phone number", but played it cool saying, "that's OK, I understand."

It wasn't so much that I got shot down, or even that she lead me on. It's the fact that she was fat and she shot me down that surprised me. I realized that this woman was beneath my sexual market value, and she was only into this to get a good feeling about herself ("I got a good man to ask for my phone number".) But it was because I had no interest in her that it meant nothing to me.

 

[MatureDJ]

A 25 year old woman picking a 19 year old teenager over a 32 year old man? Think about this...she was a Fatty on the Making (sampling candy and chocolates??).

I concur. She obviously was a bit of a freak. And about making a career out of sampling candy around the world? She was just being an attention wh0re.

You should have retorted with something like, "do you have a regular exercise plan?" And either way she would have answered, you return with, "well, if you're going to be eating candy all day without exercising, you're going to be getting as fat as Oprah."

 

[DjVelvet]

Hi Slickster,

How's life with Your girl?? Any updates??

How about the Vegas trip?

Good luck and keep us posted man.

 

[Slickster]

Helloooooooooooooo Sosuave!!

Hey everyone out there! Its Slickster here. I haven't been posting around here much if at all for the past few years.

An old pal reminded me of this ancient thread and I thought I would post a little epilogue. What the heck.

I had to spend some time re-reading all these escapades and I must say I had some really good laughs. Man that was a great summer!! I learned so much and had so much fun despite so much ridiculous drama. Some of my buddies still bug me about some of the more awkward moments. What a crazy time!

Well this might come as a surprise to some. Rebecca and I got married! We've been married for over a year now and things are absolutely great. I know the subject of marriage around here is a negative one for so many but I'm here to say that I'm loving it so far.

Life is really good and Rebecca has turned out to one of the most true blue people I ever known. She has recently started a career as a school teacher and is doing extremely well. We are both very happy and are hoping to start a family in the near future. I feel very lucky and give many thanks to all the people who gave support and advice over my time at sosuave.

Slick out.

 

[iqqi]

This is a great thread, and I think it should be must reading.

 

[Prozac]

Damn this thread was a ride. Happy ending and all, too. Brings a tear to my eye.

Read this thread fools. More DJ info here than a thousand of your daily "is she interested in me?" topics can provide.

 

[Solomon]

Cheers to the Legend known as Slickster

For whatever reason when I look in Rebecca's eyes I see something I've never seen before.

I know most of us have come to Sosuave because we've been done wrong by a woman somewhere in the past. We all have trust issues. We all have our hackles up and walls around our hearts. We've all seen the terrible things women can do.

I know first hand all of those things. Many times over actually. You know what? I don't care if I get hurt or get burned. I've been closed off to feeling anything for so long I was beginning to wonder if I was capable of feeling anything at all.

Sure getting hurt sucks. But if you never open yourself up to get hurt then you never really open yourself up to feel much of anything do you? That's a pretty sad way to live.
More to come.....

When I read this(in a couple hours LOL), I know why your succesfull with women(or were),I know why you are succesfull in life. You are an honest person, to you it wasn't all about getting your dvck wet, but to experince life to the fullest this is what being a DJ is about. Not many DJ's can make that transition from many women to one much less to marraige(myself included), your story is one of the few rare gems in the community

I can relate to that a lot, I know I'm younger then most, but I've met tons of women who have mistreated me/shVtted on me etc etc. It made me cold and heartless at times, I wonder if I will ever love again(not tryingto sound corny). The irony is, that the colder and more heartless I tend to act around women, the more they want me,etc etc, even though I'm hurting them. It's a F*cuked up cycle, It's a pushNpull tecnqiue that I do naturally well not even having to try. Even when I was a AFC I was good at this. Once I got the girl I simply didn't care, It's like the process was the fun part but getting her? eeeeh. It's something I recogize and working on.

But back to the subject, you write like a fingz and have the adventures of a j0n024, and I mean that in a sincere way. One thing that does amaze me is you had a great social circle, you don't seem to meet women in bars/clubs like lots of us. How did you manage to have such a social circle? Did you make friends with just guys or girls too? I'm curious cause I truly belive Social Circle gaming is the best way to meet quality (gasps, yeah i said it) women

anyway much respect to your FRS, I learned that honesty is always needed, and at the end f*ck what a forum guy has to say and follow your own instinct and guts

respect

Solomon

 

[Die Hard]

Wow... Just wow... You're a god d a m n hero, Slick!! This is just the greatest story ever, it couldn't be more perfect! I really hope you will keep giving us updates on your life, even if it's once a year! You and your story are literally affecting my life, I want you to realize that.

 

[Slickster]

One thing that does amaze me is you had a great social circle, you don't seem to meet women in bars/clubs like lots of us. How did you manage to have such a social circle? Did you make friends with just guys or girls too? I'm curious cause I truly belive Social Circle gaming is the best way to meet quality (gasps, yeah i said it) women

Solomon

Hey Solomon,

You make a good observation. Social circle gaming has always been most successful for me. I really think it is so much easier to meet people this way.

Currently my social circle is very large. Too large in fact. I can't keep up with everyone! I make it a point to go the extra mile in terms of friendships, etc. I don't just focus on women I have tons of guy friends too.

I know from my own experiences living in the city that whenever you meet a new woman there is always a certain amount of pressure to try to close right away. In a big city there is a good chance you'll never see her again right?

What I have learned over time is that if you frequent the same places you eventually become part of the community. Even if it is in a large city you get to know the people in your neighborhood. I live in a smaller place now but I go out of my way all the time to chat people up. Men and women. Good looking and ugly too.

What ends up happening is your social proof goes thru the roof. It works like compound interest. It's really the whole 6 degrees of separation thing working for you.

For example. My buddies and I frequent the local pub about once a week. There is a waitress there (Mary) who is a bit older than me and not very attractive. I know she is attracted to me but I just play things cool. Over the years she has become a friend and I always take the time to chat with her. Meanwhile my buddies don't really give her much in the way of attention because they aren't attracted to her. Well a couple weeks back a new young VERY hot waitress started there. My buddies are all going gaga over her. One night two of the guys went out for a smoke and the other went to the bathroom. New waitress comes over immediately to me, holds her hand out and introduces herself. "Hello Slick, my name is Sally" I asked how she knew my name and she said that she noticed me around. We had a short but nice chat. She was definitely flirty and then she went back to work. I know for a fact that Mary had put a good word in for me.

Two weeks later we are there again and Sally comes right over with a huge smile puts her hand on my shoulder and says, "Hello Slick what can I get ya?" My buddies jaws dropped. "How the hell do you know her so well?!!!"

It's social proof through building a good social circle.

Building a social circle by only focusing on hot women is very limiting. Befriend her ugly friends, her boyfriends, everyone! Like I said over time it works just like compound interest.

 

[TurboLover]

I may have read this in real time, good to get back and see it turned out well.

Best,

 

[Die Hard]

Time for a bump!

 

[Zunder]

Bump... Everyone needs to read this thread

I will save you the trouble. He spun plates, found a girl he really likes, married her.

I know why you are saying it is a must read - because he did some mightily un "DJ" things with his now-wife, such as moving in together almost immediately, and- before that - taking her back after finding out she had her flatmate lie to him, and went out dating another guy behind his back.

Btw, I would have dumped his-now-wife the minute I found out she was out dating some other guy after spending a week camping with me telling me "how great I am" etc. Oh, but I can hear you say, "Then he would never have married her" - and to that I would so "so"?

I would add it has only been six years that they've been married. Anything can happen.

Edit: Actually there was something strange about this thread - and someone can link it and correct me if I am wrong - but he gives quite a bit of details during the whole thread - which spans quite a long time - about the first time he bangs one of his plates, and their phucking skills or lack of of the plates he spins, but he never actually mentions the first time he banged his-now-wife, or really any sex mention of her at all. No detail of how the night went that led up to the first big BANG etc. One minute they are camping, next minute they are moving in. No, "I phucked her tonight finally" details. I mean, his thread started out giving us details of other girls he was meeting and phucking. I just found it weird. The BS meter went up - but hey, he has been on SS a long time, so - ok, benefit of the doubt.

 

[Huffman]

Well, at some point you just gotta start believing. Can't be all negative all the time, as Slick has pointed out! So yes, I'm going to give him the benefit of the doubt!

And if 6 years isn't a lot, then what is? Even if they do end up divorcing one day, then 6 years of not (yet) regretting anything is really good.

Nice thread, and good to see a happy ending. First pimp around like crazy, and later find and keep a great woman - isn't that what we all want?

I haven't completely lost my faith in humanity yet

 

[Die Hard]

It's summertime, after quite some negativity, life in general seems to be going my way and so are my dealings with girls!

So it's time to bump one of my all time favorite threads and spread some positive energy around this place!

 

[Slickster]

Wow! Just saw this bump now. Thanks Die Hard!

I'll post a little update if anyone is interested....

Time is flying by and so far married life has not turned out to be the horror story that so many people warned me about. Mrs. Slick and I have been together now for 10 years (I think) and things are going great. Whatever we have going together just works. It doesn't seem like work to keep this relationship going strong. In fact it feels pretty easy. We have our moments where we argue but we have a lot of respect for each other and always manage to settle things quickly. We've both had some crazy and tragic things happen to us and our families in the past few years but these things seem to have brought us closer together and made us stronger. We've started a family and while it hasn't been easy things are generally going great and we are very happy.

Mrs. Slick is a hard worker and excels at most things she attempts. If anything she takes on too much and needs to be reminded to relax from time to time. She is committed to fitness and looks-wise she is as sexy as ever. Our sex life has been great so far.

Despite all this smooth sailing I keep my eyes wide open at all times. I'm always watching for red flags, signs of disrespect, or any other traps that arise. I refuse to put things on cruise control and just be blindly happy. I think that itself is a trap that many relationships fall victim to. I have a great amount of trust in her but have enough experience to know not to be surprised. If things suddenly went sour I would walk away and pursue better things.

Even though I've been married for a few years now, my game still feels very strong. My career and social circle put me in contact with younger attractive women regularly. I'm also once again singing and playing in a pretty cool band so that helps too. There have been many opportunities to cheat and a couple instances where chicks have blatantly thrown themselves at me but I don't really have any reason to go down that road. It's not really my style.

I still come to Sosuave because I truly believe it helps keep me sharp. I still learn new things here all the time. Just reading other people's experiences is extremely valuable. I owe a great deal to all the brothers here who have helped me along the way and given me advice, support, and shared their experiences.

Thank you all.