She will let you know

[Pandora]

The older I get the more comfortable I feel around women. I feel comfortable in my skin. I realize that you dont need to say slick lines or be funny etc.

If they like you then they like you. Most of the work has already been done before you opened your mouth.

Also if they like you then they will make it obvious. There is no need to act any way other than your authentic self.

These days women dont smash the " maybe guys". So trying to convince her to like you with "game" is pointless.

I wish I had know this in my teens and early 20s.

 

[The Duke]

Getting to this point in my late 30's is when dating became easy and turning first dates into multiple dates afterwards became almost guaranteed.

 

[SW15]

These days women dont smash the " maybe guys". So trying to convince her to like you with "game" is pointless.

When do you think this changed? Do you think that in the days of Mystery/Strauss (late 1990s to mid 2000s) that women did sometime smash "maybe guys" they met at bars?

This is an interesting idea, I'd like to see it fleshed out more.

 

[Pandora]

When do you think this changed? Do you think that in the days of Mystery/Strauss (late 1990s to mid 2000s) that women did sometime smash "maybe guys" they met at bars?

This is an interesting idea, I'd like to see it fleshed out more.

I think it changed when online dating became a thing. Why would they have sex with the "maybe" guy when they can get pounded out by exactly her type. The maybe guy becomes a thing if they become older and hit the wall.

I remember when you could game a girl back in the day. She used to say " hes not the cute but he is funny..so I will give him a chance". Well back then she only had like 5 suitors. Now she can keep you as her dancing monkey and get her sexual needs fulfilled by the guy that really turns her on. So game is obsolete ( beyond the basics).

 

[Pandora]

Getting to this point in my late 30's is when dating became easy and turning first dates into multiple dates afterwards became almost guaranteed.

She probably saw that you were truly comfortable with yourself on the first date. They will probe for insecurity.

 

[SW15]

I think it changed when online dating became a thing. Why would they have sex with the "maybe" guy when they can get pounded out by exactly her type. The maybe guy becomes a thing if they become older and hit the wall.

I remember when you could game a girl back in the day. She used to say " hes not the cute but he is funny..so I will give him a chance". Well back then she only had like 5 suitors. Now she can keep you as her dancing monkey and get her sexual needs fulfilled by the guy that really turns her on. So game is obsolete ( beyond the basics).

I like this point of view.

Online has given women more abundance.

In the past, there were women who were reliant upon nightlife venues and had some level of abundance from that. The amount of abundance a woman can get from being active at nightlife venues is a fraction of the abundance she can get from a swipe app or a well done Instagram.