The older you get the more your subcommunication should convey your value without having to think about it
For example, if you are truly confident it will speak in your actions without you having to manipulate it
If you are truly charismatic or charming it will speak in your interactions with women
If you're in your late 30s or 40s and you still have to think about these things you're not being congruent and to much in your head
by this time it should be formless and flow in the words of Bruce Lee like water