jnMissouri
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Long story short, we hit it off on our first date, she called me a few days after and talked about us taking our profiles down and dating exclusively. We did and kept dating. She is asian and traditional, so she wanted to wait a whiiiile before having sex. She invited me over for dinner fourth date, (after I had suggested she cook us dinner on the date before that, kind of inviting myself over, but she called me and gave me an actual time and date), she's the kind of girl that wanted to be in a relationship before intimate, and had wanted us to take our profiles down after our first date, date exclusively. High interest, we really hit it off. At dinner, her family was there, they seemed to like me. We slept together and I spent the night. She did say she wants me to call and text her more before we slept together, as in, she stopped the show and talked about it then we proceeded after things were smoothed over. Her concern was that I'm not serous about her. She also said she wants me to call her to make dates, not text, every guy texts, she said it makes her feel special if I call her. But I worry that complying with the request will be bad for attraction. We are in a an official relationship now, but why change if what I'm doing is working. I see her once a week, she initiates most calls and texts. I avoid being too available.
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To my surprise her entire family was there, I played it cool, figured nothing was going to happen sexually, but just be meet the fam. We all seemed to hit it off, her kid liked me, her sister even tried to get her more drinks then turned to me and said you're spending the night right, wink, etc. She happened to be wearing a slinky dress designed to easily come off....
Everyone eventually went to bed, we got hot and heavy on the couch, she said let's go to my room. We went, I'm moving her around on the bed, and you know, kissing her neck, ears, licking her nipples, etc. Go for the panties and she goes wait. Let's talk. In the four weeks we've been dating, you almost never initiate texts and rarely call me. How many times have you called me, twice when I asked you to, I call you far more often. She said it's a red flag, like I'm getting bored with her, not serious about her, she understands that I'm busy but can't be too busy to text, etc. She says it doesn't show her I'm serious about her even though I say I am. I was able to show her some texts to a friend about her that made her melt. So we talked for a bit more, she wants me to show her I'm serious about her then after 30 or so minutes I made my move again....and down on her I go, then her on me and then a good pounding. Left the next morning, though I lingered a little longer than I should have.
I texted her the next night so she doesn't think I hit it and split. One thing I wonder though, SHOULD I text and call her more? Seems like it does bother her that I don't, she liked to text me daily our first week, called me every couple days and tried to get me to call her. I worry that if I comply with her request, she'll lose interest. Either because it's accommodating behavior our because we become TOO familiar. She had counted the times I called her and analyzed our text volume each week, I'm on her mind with what I'm doing, why change?
Long story short, we hit it off on our first date, she called me a few days after and talked about us taking our profiles down and dating exclusively. We did and kept dating. She is asian and traditional, so she wanted to wait a whiiiile before having sex. She invited me over for dinner fourth date, (after I had suggested she cook us dinner on the date before that, kind of inviting myself over, but she called me and gave me an actual time and date), she's the kind of girl that wanted to be in a relationship before intimate, and had wanted us to take our profiles down after our first date, date exclusively. High interest, we really hit it off. At dinner, her family was there, they seemed to like me. We slept together and I spent the night. She did say she wants me to call and text her more before we slept together, as in, she stopped the show and talked about it then we proceeded after things were smoothed over. Her concern was that I'm not serous about her. She also said she wants me to call her to make dates, not text, every guy texts, she said it makes her feel special if I call her. But I worry that complying with the request will be bad for attraction. We are in a an official relationship now, but why change if what I'm doing is working. I see her once a week, she initiates most calls and texts. I avoid being too available.
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To my surprise her entire family was there, I played it cool, figured nothing was going to happen sexually, but just be meet the fam. We all seemed to hit it off, her kid liked me, her sister even tried to get her more drinks then turned to me and said you're spending the night right, wink, etc. She happened to be wearing a slinky dress designed to easily come off....
Everyone eventually went to bed, we got hot and heavy on the couch, she said let's go to my room. We went, I'm moving her around on the bed, and you know, kissing her neck, ears, licking her nipples, etc. Go for the panties and she goes wait. Let's talk. In the four weeks we've been dating, you almost never initiate texts and rarely call me. How many times have you called me, twice when I asked you to, I call you far more often. She said it's a red flag, like I'm getting bored with her, not serious about her, she understands that I'm busy but can't be too busy to text, etc. She says it doesn't show her I'm serious about her even though I say I am. I was able to show her some texts to a friend about her that made her melt. So we talked for a bit more, she wants me to show her I'm serious about her then after 30 or so minutes I made my move again....and down on her I go, then her on me and then a good pounding. Left the next morning, though I lingered a little longer than I should have.
I texted her the next night so she doesn't think I hit it and split. One thing I wonder though, SHOULD I text and call her more? Seems like it does bother her that I don't, she liked to text me daily our first week, called me every couple days and tried to get me to call her. I worry that if I comply with her request, she'll lose interest. Either because it's accommodating behavior our because we become TOO familiar. She had counted the times I called her and analyzed our text volume each week, I'm on her mind with what I'm doing, why change?
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