She stopped initiating contact after 3 months of dating

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So i have this plate that i have been seeing for 3 months. We see each other about 1 time a week and each time we have s3x and fun.

In the beginning she would complain that i didn't contact her as much as she would like to.

But i noticed that for the last 4 weeks i am the one initiating the contact. She never rejected a date or something and the dates are fun but, why isn't she chasing my attention? After 3 months she should be attached right, so what am i messing up?

I haven't texted her for a week know since our last date so see if her behaviour would change, but still no text.

I usealy just text her once a week to setup a date, but this week decided to skip.

I also am starting to lose interest because why the **** would i always put in the effort to see her and arrange activities, what would you guys do?
 

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why isn't she chasing my attention?
Between other guys, her vibrators and dildos, what's so special about you so that she should chase you? :rolleyes:
 

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You just found out that plates always have an expiration date.

Women for the most part are looking for a relationship and once they realize it isn't going to happen with you or you simply are happy with an FWB situation, they will go along with it for a while in the hopes it develops into something more but then when it is clear it won't, they end up breaking it off so they can go find what they are looking for.

There isn't anything you can do in this situation. You should always expect this to happen with plates within 3-4 months, that's usually how long you get before they make a decision about the relationship and it not having a future.

Time to move on and you should have been working on keeping your pipeline full. Big mistake most guys make is letting their pipeline slip in these situations and ending up with nothing for a few months.

You are looking at this completely wrong and I am going to guess you don't have a lot of experience in these situations or you would know this is very common especially within the timeframe you mentioned.

This woman is not going to chase after you, you are simply making it much easier for her and reinforcing the decision she made which is that she needs to stop wasting her time with you and a relationship that is going nowhere.
 

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This typically happens after about 3 months. You really can't worry about this, she has just discovered this isn't working out. The only advice I can give is to NOT double down on effort... just let her drift off and find a new girl.
 

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Nothing to worry about, OP. Just ask her out and bang, if she doesn’t then you know what the status is.

I would be happy in your shoes where there’s no communication between dates. Seems like you are getting attached to her by just caring about why she doesn’t initiate contact
 

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okay, but what whould be the correct course of action right now?
- initiate contact and keep dating until she cancels one and just bang her for now?
- don't do anything and keep spinning my other plates?
- just ask her why her behaviour has been of lately and just talk it out as 2 grown people?
- should i just text her or?

I would not marry this plate, but the time we have is fun.
I am also seeing other woman right now, but iam just trying to learn how to handle situation like these in the future.
 

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I would not marry this plate.
initiate contact and keep dating until she cancels one and just bang her for now?
Yes. As long as you keep tappin it, you should keep initiating
 

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As the time progressed, you did the opposite that hooked her up. I'm going to tell you what changed.

In the beginning she would complain that i didn't contact her as much as she would like to
This is good. A woman spouting feelings from her mouth mean she has some level of investment, this is good, this is what you want.

But i noticed that for the last 4 weeks i am the one initiating the contact.
You got to understand that women test men. She telling you that you didn't initiate was a test, to see how invested you were, since she was very invested, and you failed.

I also am starting to lose interest because why the **** would i always put in the effort to see her and arrange activities
Exactly, you are following your instincts which is fine, you have good instincts.

This is what happened:

In the beginning you appeared like an alpha guy, who was busy, didn't have time to text, she was chasing for your time and validation, this is how every situation with a woman should be, she MUST chase you, it is in their DNA, women are hardwired to chase men, to try to get men to commit, women want to work hard for her prize.

When time went on, she complained that you didn't initiate, well, in you male brain thought "we've been having fun and sex, I should initiate more often", then you started to initiate, and poof everything went to $hit, that was your problem, doig what you thoguht she wanted, instead of doing what she needed.

You should've kept it lite, once per week with a lot of fun, and then a very cold silence from your part, that way she wonders about you. You should've been busy doing other stuff and dating other women but being silent. Women have a lot of orbiters who text them, and you not texting her, you were different, so she was hooked, but as soon as you behaved like other orbiters and giving her free attention, she despised that.

If I were you, the time she texts, reply one text normal, don't invite her to do anything, if she asks say you are busy for that week and do not give any other time to meet, is she ask you say you'll let her know, and then go on with your life dating other women. I would invite her to go out two weeks after she texts you. You need to become the guy she was attracted before, the one she was chasing, but you need to be busy living you life and not waiting for her.

No man will make a woman wait for sex, but when someone does it, it creates mystery, cause men love sex, so if you're not ****ing her given the opportunity, you must be fvcking someone else, at least in her mind, and that's what you want.
 
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