She stopped initiating contact after 3 months of dating

[New_Journey]

I texted her on sunday so after 7 days telling her that it is better to not see each other anymore and wished her good luck. I lost interest.

This is a lie. I recommend you to be honest with yourself first, you can lie to members in this forum, but you shouldn't do it to yourself.

The real reason you texted her to end things, was because the anxiety was eating you inside, you couldn't handle her distance after you being "so great to her with those great dates", you should date somebody to give, not to expect any kind of loyalty of reciprocity.

Now, she picked up that you texted her because you couldn't handle the anxiety of not hearing from her. Most men are like that, women are masters of detecting that $hit since they get bombarded with messages of desperate guys. Another thing gives it away is that you're counting the days that she hasn't texted you, and lastly, a person who doesn't really care about the other one, doesn't need to "hey I'm texting you to end things, don't call me okay" cause if you were having so much fun with her, the only thing that she did "wrong" was giving you distance, and if you really didn't care for her, you would have ghosted her or being very indifferent when she texts you.

I doubt you can pick things back up with her after this. Live and learn my friend, you're young and ahead of most men by just being in this forum. Good luck

 

[New_Journey]

You said it yourself she was good to you, you enjoyed spending time, having sex etc, when she asked for a bit more effort, why not make that effort?

This is bad advice, women don't think like men. He was taking her to great dates, and I guess paying for all of them, what more effort does he need to make to a girl of 4 months? And if a girl with whom I'm having fun ends things with me for only the sin of "not initiating often" she gave me the best gift, dodging a big fvcking bullet.

Sorry to whomever asked if she cooked and cleaned for you? Good lord, she's a woman you're dating and banging NOT your maid. Or your wife! Lol

She's certainly not, but good girls give without expecting anything in return, they have their life in order. Making a meal or helping him clean his house to the guy you're having fun with, its something that sets them apart from plate forever to girlfriend material, they don't think like a bunch of feminist do, doing something nice for a man is bad. Sorry to tell you, but if you keep thinking like that, you'll be another plate forever. Are you a feminist?

I'm female by the way

Yeah I figured

 

[Sega Genesis]

Sorry to tell you, but if you keep thinking like that, you'll be another plate forever.

I've never been a "plate" in my life, and never will be but appreciate the warning.

Also read posts. She complained he wasn't texting enough, she needed a bit more effort, she even cried to him about it.

What does he do? Nothing. He ignored and continued to "keep frame" as you preach with his once a week calls.

He lost the girl.

Nuff said..

 

[Divorced w 3]

Why would a plate (which by definition is a low quality woman who most probably has multiple guys she has sex with and doesn't take more than 1-2 dates to add new guys to the roster) act the way you describe for a random guy like OP? If he were a celebrity/millionaire, then what you say would begin to make sense.

By not acting like a robot. Having a personality, making things intriguing because he is in fact, intriguing; being confident in being himself with her, outcomes being irrelevant because he is secure in himself. All this adds up to laying the pipe with authority, which is extremely important but can be overcome by being confident.

 

[New_Journey]

He lost the girl.

Every day there is a new girl turning 18, so its no big deal.

Btw, a word of advice, you're not the first girl who joins a forum full of guys and then start to stir drama between members, not saying you are, but be aware

 

[Sega Genesis]

Btw, a word of advice, you're not the first girl who joins a forum full of guys and then start to stir drama between members, not saying you are, but be aware

There is no reason why a contrary opinion should cause drama, I'm certainly not here to cause drama and my responses were to the OP, you chose to respond.

But thank you for the advice, I'll keep it in mind when posting.