She LJBF me, I told her otherwise..

Tyson420

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I've read a few pages and honestly...

Just be cool about the whole thing.

She says "Lets just be friends! LOL"

Be like "Ok, cool."

That's all there is to it. If you don't initiate contact with her because you weren't really interested in friendship in the first place... It's not your fault, if she's hurt she needs to get over it. At the same time, don't be rude if she texts you, respond, be fun, be nice, BE COOL.

I've done what you did, yeah. I'm okay now, but I wished I pretended to be friends with her so I can **** with girls she knew. That's all there was to it to me, that ***** was only good for ****ing. OP felt the same way I'm sure.
 

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Hey, guys, sorry for reviving an old post.

How about this other option? I did it once with a girl with whom we dated and f.ck'd for like two weeks, then LJBF'd me. Didn't work in this case, but may be a good idea:

say it's OK if she wants to be just friends, that you love to hang out with her, but you'll never see her as a friend. That if you hang out with her you won't hang out "as friends", i.e. you'll be seductive, escalate, etc., as if nothing happened. Tell her that if she can take that, it's OK to hang out.

Either she'll eventually drop the BS if it was a test, or maybe fall for your advances, or if she can't take it, eventually she'll freak out and stop seeing you (who cares!). Maybe your romantic interest will decline and see her as a friend too.

In the meantime, of course see other girls if you have the chance.

In my case, the outcome was option E, she started seeing someone else, and I did too and we stopped seeing each other.

But may work in other cases, what do you think?
 

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PS: I have another question for you guys, on avoiding the friend zone.

I really like this girl and has a BF. She seems so in love with him. We are not friends, more like acquainted. I had bad luck, and ever since I met her, she has had BFs.

The question is, over time and bumping into each other, I got her IM, phone, we are more in touch, chatting from time to time, and I DONT WANT TO FALL INTO THE FRIEND ZONE.

Should I avoid her till her BF situation gets colder or breaks up, so we don't become friends/she doesn't read my desire for her, or befriend her?

Or C: openly flirt with her (not in front of her BF, haha) (though I think she's the kind of girl who would think flirting with a girl with BF is immoral)

(PPS: In the meantime, I AM seeing other girls. She even saw me.)

Thanks!
 

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Last week I got IDWBF (i don't wanna boyfriend lol) even though she was all on me about how much she liked me. It was find. I just ignored her and she came running back. I'm still working on it currently.
 

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@dronkitto

Women have boyfriends and girlfriends. If you're not ƒucking her, you're her girlfriend.
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Rollo Tomassi said:
First off, I will add this to the Tips or Archive in a unique thread.



OMEN, my best advice for you is to cut this b!tch off. You need to be indifferent with her and right now all her crap is getting to you because you're allowing it to. Indifference is the key. If you agreed to "play friends" with her it's even worse now because she perceives you exactly as IQQI described - a sulky, spoiled kid who didn't get his way and is now pitching a fit. I'm not saying that's right, but when she's firing off insults inferring you're a pussie, it's time to eject wholesale. She's obviously figured out that you're trying to punish her because you did so overtly. All she's doing is pissing you off and all you want now is revenge. Revenge might feel good, but ultimately it's a waste of your most valuable resources - time and effort.

One of my best friends, Ray, had entertained a flirtatious "friendship" with a semi-attractive PR girl in our department for a while, unbeknownst to me. He knew what I'd said about LJBF rejections and "playing friends" with women, so he left me out of the loop on the whole affair. He had "dated" her on several occasions, took her out to a few concerts, but beyond the infrequent "kiss while drunk" she kept him at arms distance using the standard fillibuster techniques women classically use - "I'm not ready for a relationship", "I'm not looking for a BF", "We're good friends", etc. She did however keep him in her 'attention web' with little carrots of affection for him to pull her cart for about 3 or 4 months.

This all came to a head when one night she had to do some work with Aaron Lewis (yes, from Staind) while he was doing his solo acoustic act at the casino we worked for at the time. To make a long story short, the PR girl ended up buzzed on this night and ƒucked Aaron Lewis' manager in a classic situation of right-guy, right-environment, right-conditions. Her mistake was in confessing her actions to Ray who'd felt betrayed considering all the investment he'd put into doing what he thought was the right way to go about things. Here was one guy on one night who she ƒucked in a moment of chemical reaction desire because "he was hot, I was drunk and one thing led to another,.." versus his 3-4 month personal investment.

This of course was when he consulted me and informed me of everything leading up to it, only now he was at an impass. She appologized profusely to him and held out (once again) the olive branch of a LJBF rejection. He asked me what he should say, and it was at this point he took the initiative to tell her "no, we can't 'just be friends'." He did what I advised him to, called her bullsh!t for what it was and he walked away from a woman for the first time in his life. This is when all hell broke loose for her. She'd never been met with this response before and all the cards went straight into Ray's hands. She would consistently 'bump into him' at bars or events to "have another talk", she did a complete 180 in her attitude with him all in an effort to "be his friend." Of course she went through the predictable, "you're a Jerk!" phase, but this would swing back to her seeking absolution, but Ray stuck to his guns. It wasn't revenge motivated, it was simple indifference.

Now I'm exceptionally proud of Ray because, unlike most guys finding the true power of a takeaway, he stuck with it rather than being contented with her chasing him and then giving into the LJBF. He had actually learned a valuable tool that he still uses now - the power of the takeaway. In addition he also came to understand the principle of evaluating a woman, not by what she says, but by what she does - he learned the importance of reading behavior. He finally got it.

Of course after about 6 or 8 months she stopped pursuing him "to be friends" and he has talked to her in the interim years, but the frame of their discourse has changed. She has a respect for him that she never had when he was the pursuer and never would've had if he'd surrendered to another LJBF.

I'm on page 5 now in this thread, and this post besides TM's and KX's has to be the best,

Rollo if you read this you gotta let me use this on the blog man LOL
 

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Rollo Tomassi said:
Women have boyfriends and girlfriends. If you're not ƒucking her, you're her girlfriend.
Got it! So it's either option A or C. Thanks, man. Great posts, BTW.

PS: Ther are some girls I like as friends and don't mind to be their "girlfriend". Not the ones I like, of course.
 

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Just wanted to say outstanding thread.

I went through the "I have a boyfriend" routine recently and this thread was extremely helpful.
 
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