Well, at least we're being honest now. NEXT.
Let me see if I can rephrase this so as not to offend your youthful idealism; Please consider that the very short "relationship" you think represents "how things REALLY are" is based solely on your own brief experiences since you were maybe, 14? Don't take that as a burn on you personally, think of it as a statement of fact. Try to think of it in terms of limited experience rather than your age. If I'm a white belt in Karate, I'd be an idiot to give Karate advice to black belts even if was older.
You weren't talking about negotiation because you lack the experience to recognize it when it's happening - just as it has in KORUPT's most recent exchange. Go back and read this girl's filibustering tactics, changing times and negotiating the terms of her intimacy with him.
Your personal experience doesn't set the model for reality. I realize that as with most women, in your self-concern you'd like your own experience to define reality, and have us all be co-opted into it. That may be how you perceive it, others don't.
I really wish it were that simple. I really wish it were so simple that the process of negotiating desire wouldn't affect that desire. Do you honestly think that the girl KORUPT is describing here, after all her bullsh!t, actually has the rational capacity to identify, much less amicably 'solve' the problem of him wanting to ƒuck her? They're not a "passionate couple".