Men can move past trauma and find normalcy easier than women imo.
Men can go from playing the field, spinning plates to being in a committed relationship. When women start getting tossed around, fvcked and tossed, they get permanently damaged.
Men can leave a toxic relationship and get their bearings back. Women seem to crave toxicity after being in a longer toxic relationship.
I believe men can rewrite their script easier than women. Women tend to let things get engrained easier than men.
So when you are dating in your late 20s, 30s, 40s and beyond, most women have become completely fvcked up emotionally from past relationships and trauma. You can screen them harder all you want. Some are good at hiding it and some will tell you covertly how messed up they are on date 1 if you pay attention.
The only thing you can do is play the game and use her for what she's worth if you're strong enough to be able to quickly walk away, or RUN at the first signs that a woman is whacked in the head.