As for Toronto on a whole, it is one of the most difficult cities because not only do all of the women have the Sex in the City attitude, but the city itself is also teeming with gays, both men and women, I swear the whole town is gender confused.
Toronto women are the coldest on the planet. I have heard this so many times from men and have and am living it everyday.
The problem, is that so many men here are either in denial or think that this is the way it is.
Some people I've spoken to blame the gays, creating a sku'd version of which each gender expects. Others blame the immigrants for creating a society with no cultural tie in with others. We live in an interesting time, because gays can marry, and that has defininte repercussions on roles models, at least in womens expectations.
Don't get me wrong. To be a DJ is to laugh in the face of societies expectations, but there are some factors to consider.
Just two more quick stories.
Once I was at a party in Toronto and I met a guy (25) from Montreal about 4 years ago. Out of the blue, he started about how he found meeting women here in Toronto was like winning the lottery, and that in Montreal, meeting women was easy. He just kept shaking his head about how ludicrous the games and attitude were here.
About 2 years ago, there was a guy (30) my best friend worked with. He was a bartender at a hostel, and he was able to pick up a foreign chick every week. He was considered a ladies man. Then one day out of the blue, he started on about how he found Toronto women cold and difficult to hook up with. He was really exasperated with the women here and said he would stick to the foreigners coming through.
The irony in each of these guys, is not once did I mention to them before hand my thoughts on Toronto women, before they let loose there opinions. Both guys were macho dudes.
Here is a letter I have sent to various publications in Toronto whenever they ask about dating:
Before I begin, I really do wish that it was not this way.
I have lived in Toronto all my life. I have traveled to cities in the United States and once to Argentina. I find this city to be very cold, especially when it comes to meeting women. The people here are so immersed in their bubble that they think this is the way everywhere. I see fear in people's eyes. I have to say that this is the most dysfunctional city on the planet. I tell people to move here for six months and they will see. I used to think it was me, but I have talked to a lot of people (more than 100) and been vindicated many times.
Toronto is a place where the women walk around like they are special, but when you talk to them, nothing is there. Even the ones who are not attractive compared to others walk around like they are queens. Give me a break. It is so hard to meet women here that you have to be an ******* to survive. I'm telling you, I am not making this up. The problem is that if you talk about it, you come across as some whiney loser. I've had three girlfriends, and I tell you I don't know how I met them. Blind luck.
My question is why are Toronto women like this ? Are you all cold, calculating, money-grubbing narcissists ? I know what you are going to say. The usual. But this lonely existence has pushed me so far that I am forced to debase myself and come here for answers. I am an average/good-looking guy who is a substitute teacher. But the coldness here is so great, I defy anyone (especially male) to come here and tell me a colder place.
The women here think they are all that and a bag of chips but even the "ugly" ones both inside and out are given the time of day because the men here are wimps. The price of p*(%$y is very high here. The women say one thing but do another. As a guy you have to be either an ******* or loser. Women here do not know what it means to love or be loved. Even Marlon Brando would have a difficult time here.
But if you want a women, all you need is: MONEY. Not necessarily to spend on them, but to show that you are a good provider. Women may deny this but they are lying. Trust me.
This is the TRUTH about this city (TORONTO). A spade is a spade, a rose is a rose and TORONTO women are COLD. I DEFY anyone to come to this city and tell me otherwise. Finally, the only saving grace is that I can leave and I will. I am going to EUROPE at the end of the month and I am going to see if other women are like this.
Toronto is death. A very subtle one.
Trust me.
You can tell me this is my fault, but I have spoken to other men and it is NOT. I am not the only one with the same thoughts/feelings. Again, invite others to this city and to see for themselves.
You will find that alot of men up here in Toronto are either wimps or *******s. I try to be neither, but as with osmosis, the way the people are around here makes one become conditioned.
As a litmus test to all my fellow Toronto men, find out how many men think that Toronto women are easy to hook up with. What are the true percentages ?
Let me end off with some things I have learned that are positive about hooking up with women in Toronto. The two are in no particular order.
Yes, study this site, become confidence, workout, whatever turns your crank to make you feel # 1.
The first thing, is TRUST. If you want to have a woman in Toronto be with you, you have to get her Trust in you.
The second thing, is RESPECT. If she doesn't respect you, its all a joke and you might as well dress up in a clown suit and jerkoff.
Now having said that, I have found it to be a pure numbers game in Toronto. But balancing showing no interest in a Toronto woman, with actually being interested in her, creates a schizophrenic mind that I find alot of Toronto women transpose on men.
And why do I stay if I think Toronto women are like this ?
It won't be long (perhaps April '06) by the time I go, but having read other mens opinions of women in other cities, perhaps this is a North American problem.
I guess I should just go live in Europe or South America or Asia. Maybe there I would be better appreciated by women.
