I don't know you seem to be describing highly strung and *****y girls. I recognise it in my mum, she's not *****y but she's clingy and she blows things way out of proportion. But I'm more like my dad, just generally laid-back..although he has a short temper and I'm pretty patient, I am the pacifier of the family and I'm good at lightening the mood with a funny remark. I don't like *****ing, tension and hurt. I like being chilled. And if you asked most people they'd say I'm a chilled person. I am trying to think about it though. And actually I do feel emotions intensely just don't express them in negative ways much. Like if one of one of my siblings does something cute I'll feel a surge of love and I'll hug them. But I don't get angry over petty things, when you look back at the big picture, how much of it actually matters to you? I do love films, (but I am into art/film/photography in that perspective) and I do get a huge mix of emotions from them, I absorb myself into the film, I feel what they feel. Same with books, although lately I've been reading more non-fiction. Erm, I get crazy dreams a lot. I've got a pretty high libido, I get a mixture of short-tempered and sexually frustrated if I haven't had some 'me time'. Same on my period, I suppose thats where I tend to get an emotional rollercoaster, but other than that I'm generally content. Although I am the oldest of nine, so perhaps my family is my drama. I'd feel ungrateful causing drama for no reason. There's so many people much worse off than me who have to strive to feel contentment, or not even that, just to survive whereas I and many people are lucky enough to be part of a society where it's pretty much handed to us on a plate. I've hugely digressed.
But drama with guys....I'm trying to think. I haven't had a long-term relationship. The only person I argued with was my ex and that was once a year after we broke up. But during our actual relationship (which wasn't long-term, less than a year) we never argued, it was a really chilled relationship. Perhaps the excitement came from the passion. Although he did punch a guy when he was drunk because he made some comment about me, but I don't think there was any way I could have stirred that up myself. And the relationship before that, we never argued, it was always chilled. I don't think you could call it a proper relationship though because this is going back to when I was 15. Although actually he got in a bit of a fist fight with...the guy I dated next..maybe I am subconsciously doing something :nervous: But from what I can remember they just didn't get along, the fight wasn't overtly 'over me' to my knowledge. Hmm.
So. If this is my drama thing...although I am pretty skeptical about it as I've not had a recent relationship to go by, I'm subconsciously doing it to test his backbone in a bit of a stronger protector/alpha male way?
I don't know...it seems pretty reductionist.