Please master, tell us how you know lolLol you mean to tell me you cant tell when someone is lieing to you? Especially a GF in a LTR? I can tell the instant someone is lieing/BSing me.
Please master, tell us how you know lolLol you mean to tell me you cant tell when someone is lieing to you? Especially a GF in a LTR? I can tell the instant someone is lieing/BSing me.
Good for you. Given the additional context it's obviously over and you are now moving on as you should. You'll be fine.Damn, kudos to you for not responding to that bs, that's some good willpower.
thats progress OP now you need to stop writing wall of texts about her
well HOW then Great Julian? Tell me HOW you do it. You know how I know you are full of schitt? Because when I asked the question, you didn't answer.Lol you mean to tell me you cant tell when someone is lieing to you? Especially a GF in a LTR? I can tell the instant someone is lieing/BSing me.
@gettinit
This thing will go one of two ways, but your stance and actions can only be on ONE path.
1.) She will feel the new guy out and if she doesnt feel good about it, she will try to branch swing back.
2.) She will feel good about the new guy and you wont hear from her until they have problems.
Either way, this has probably been in her head for a while. While she feels out new guy she will occasionally text you to keep you around so she can come back if it doesnt work out for her. Expect the hot/cold treatment, messages that are unclear, all the things that will keep your emotions on a roller coaster. That is why its important to take our advice and block her from being able to contact you on all platforms.
Your one path now is to BLOCK her from all social media, text, fb messaging......EVERYTHING. Trust me on this. The last thing you want to do is open her snap chat and see her hugging on new dude. Drop this b!tch in the rear view and move on.
Many of us have been there and it really doesnt get easier from here and takes time and smashing some new chicks. I advise to start talking to chicks asap as the new attention will quickly replace the old attention from her. The best way to get over one is to get under one.
Good luck bro. Make the right decisions now so it will be quicker to get on track.
All good! Not sure I agree on the smashing new chicks right away. I felt like some guys try to fill the hole left by their ex, rather than dealing with the pain, then next thing they know, they are in another relationship. But to each his own@gettinit
This thing will go one of two ways, but your stance and actions can only be on ONE path.
1.) She will feel the new guy out and if she doesnt feel good about it, she will try to branch swing back.
2.) She will feel good about the new guy and you wont hear from her until they have problems.
Either way, this has probably been in her head for a while. While she feels out new guy she will occasionally text you to keep you around so she can come back if it doesnt work out for her. Expect the hot/cold treatment, messages that are unclear, all the things that will keep your emotions on a roller coaster. That is why its important to take our advice and block her from being able to contact you on all platforms.
Your one path now is to BLOCK her from all social media, text, fb messaging......EVERYTHING. Trust me on this. The last thing you want to do is open her snap chat and see her hugging on new dude. Drop this b!tch in the rear view and move on.
Many of us have been there and it really doesnt get easier from here and takes time and smashing some new chicks. I advise to start talking to chicks asap as the new attention will quickly replace the old attention from her. The best way to get over one is to get under one.
Good luck bro. Make the right decisions now so it will be quicker to get on track.
Dude just youtube it. Signs someone is lieing. I researched heavy into body language as well as signals people are not being honest. Its not that hard to study human behavior and apply it to your life. In my view you must not deal with alot of people. But thats ok i wouldnt expect someone whos social life consists of online messageboards to understand.well HOW then Great Julian? Tell me HOW you do it. You know how I know you are full of schitt? Because when I asked the question, you didn't answer.
There is a BIG difference between pedestalizing and giving attention to. Go ahead and ignore a chick, never go out, and don't text her back if she does reach out to you. I'm sure this girl will be pounding at your door telling her that she wants to **** you.Ok tell him to chase. Have more talks...pour it out there. Buy her some flowers...apologize.
Tell her how much you care and love her. Always be available.
Try those things then get back to us and see how that works out.
True. That's why I told the OP to just ignore and let her do all of the, if any, reaching out.Seasoned men don't get dumped. When the red flags arise or her company is no longer fun, they eject without a trace. No words, no discussion, no diatribe, no emotion-tampon guttings ... just poof.
Women crave seasoned men.
It's an age-old argument whether to openly discuss or covertly eject. My experience unequivocally shows over and over to covertly eject from a damaged frame. Every time I deviated from this, I got the short end of the stick. Either she will return on her own accord with absolute compliance to your (and surrendering her) frame--or--she will never return which is best in a damaged frame, that is, if she were imposing her frame upon you.True. That's why I told the OP to just ignore and let her do all of the, if any, reaching out.
Anymore when I start noticing lack of interest, shifts of attention, or any of the other monkey branching signs, I just stop giving any attention. Some respond to the push by pulling, some don't.
Those that don't, I'm positive, wouldn't have responded to anything else either. It's the best way to "dump", leave her head spinning, yet also leave the door open if she wants to hook up later. I'm all about not burning bridges when I don't have to.
Fair enough. I'm telling OP to do whatever will get him stronger, which means looking at things from all angles. Being able to admit things about yourself is one of the first steps you can take towards becoming a stronger version of yourself.Your right and the fear here is being alone. Oneitis and the idea that he should feel guilt.
Your just off with this and OP came back and reaffirmed what smart ppl were telling him.
OP, you are about to be dumped. NEVER be the dumpee. Always be the dumper. She is in the process right now, even while still technically together with you, of grieving the loss of the relationship. By the time she dumps you (which is a 100% certainty), she will be mostly over it and you will begin your own grieving process.
NEVER be the dumpee. You don't think that she's magically going to change back to how it was, do you? She's already gone. A conversation with her will bury you. Trust me. Men do not profit from such conversations, ever.
1) Tell her in a very short, unemotional way, that the relationship has changed and you're no longer interested in continuing. Avoid a long conversation. It will only weaken you. Tell her in a matter-of-fact way and then let her go.
Read the bold words above 20 times. Do not invest your emotion into it. That is a weakness she will exploit. If you have a long conversation, it's game over.
2) Go ghost. The script has now been flipped and she is shell-shocked. Instead of thinking of all the things that she thought was wrong, she's now thinking of all the things that were right.
3) Allow several weeks to go by. If she begs and cries and carries on to the point where you think it's worth another shot, go for it, but with the distinct knowledge in your mind that she is on probation.
4) If she goes ghost too, then you have properly taken care of business and she was never right for you. You have ridden yourself of something that would have dragged you down for months. You are a free man.
Never be the dumpee. When a man senses there is something wrong, there IS.
You found out there are better women out there.....lots of them. Women that you dont have to start out with distrust, past issues and manipulating yourself by not being yourself around..........ive not read many replies but atom smasher covers all bases
i went through something similar to this 5 months ago and there was another guy which i sensed from her way before she actually did anything ,
i went ghost immediately and removed her from all socials BAR snapchat
on snapchat i went out of my way to post snaps of myself doing fun stuff and out with multiple women every week ( she hated this)
she begged and i mean BEGGED me for 3 months to meet her ......i needed that time to re calibrate myself as she did serious damage to my psyche and i lost a lot of confidence
i took 2 trips to ibiza and realised that other (better) women do exist ........lol
i met her when i came home , and its clear she was full of regret
i can tell from her actions she's desperate to make repairs with us , but the problem is because of the red pill i dont know wether il ever be able to feel the same way about her again
i suspect you may feel the same
Unfortunately @Glassguy in real life sometimes things aren’t as black as white as they appear on paperYou found out there are better women out there.....lots of them. Women that you dont have to start out with distrust, past issues and manipulating yourself by not being yourself around..........
Yet you are considering getting back into a vehicle that is still on fire? Come on man, you know better than that. Damaged goods. Move on!
Rationalizing keeping your ex in your life to the forum, despite seasoned advice advising otherwise, contradicts this. It seems she has an anchor in you and you're projecting the contrary.I hold the full deck of cards because I don’t particularly care whether she comes or goes