Well, I decided to not send anything, and a 3 year thing was ended via a text. It is actually a good thing for me, because that revealed her true character. 3 years and a text? Really?
Sure it hurts, but connecting some dots from earlier texts and conversions, made me realize that this has been ongoing and the only reason that I think that I got dumped is that I sniffed out the real story and she got worried about getting caught. If not, I could still be on this ride to nowhere. For all I know, she has been playing the field for years. As a matter of fact, by looking from a new perspective at earlier texts and conversations, I'm 90% sure that she spent the holiday weekend with the new guy at a place that we were planning to go to and then shooting for the one day for us, just after the weekend. That's just plain cold. No, I'm not nuts, nor creating fantasy ideas, she just didn't cover her tracks well enough.
For those of you who think as I previously did, that this occurred due to my backing off, I now think that this was started prior to that and that my subconscious already had sensed something wrong. Why it happened? It was either a f'up on my part (please don't post that it always is), she just wanted more than I could give, or she is just a bad person down deep, hidden daddy issues, a combination... it doesn't matter at this point.
For those asking if I was physically or verbally abusive, its not in my DNA. I have two sisters and just that fact had made me respect women and take them for their word. I have been a lurker on here for years, and my mindset had already changed dramatically, prior to this girl. As a matter of fact, I handled a number of situations with this girl and prior ones by changing my mindset through the posts on here.
For those asking if sexually it was an every Saturday night, in bed, socks on thing, no. I always mixed it up and in most cases, left her legs shaking.
Was she exceptional relationship wise, intelligence wise and (gasp) logic wise, sure was.
Did she branch swing from her Ex to me? Sure did.
Did she branch swing again? Sure did.
So, before I get pummeled for letting her dump me, after digging some things up and having the information from this site in my head, I wanted to see if things would go as most of you and me(with my new mindset) thought that It would.
In summary (text already deleted)
To start she referred to an earlier funny text that I had sent and said that she forgot (ha) to comment on it and added an LOL. Read as: Although you wont like what I have to say next, I still like you, so hang in there.)
She wrote that she had some hard decisions to make in her life right now and she wanted to pump the brakes and take a break for a bit so she would not be distracted by our relationship while she did so (Read as: she wants to pump the new guy and make sure it works out before cutting ties). She also said that telling me and how I would feel about it, added a lot of stress to an already difficult situation (poor her).
She ended with: Your thoughts? (Read as: please validate me and let me know that I can either abuse you more, store you for later play if I want or reveal to me that you are a not a real man)
She will never know my thoughts. I am strong.
For those who said send a preemptive dump text and block her, I think that she would have read it as just that.
If I hadn't read the text, my mindset would be in a much worse place right now.
Now its time to start moving forward, put my ego in my back pocket and start healing.
For anyone reading this post that is in a similar situation, listen to the advice given here. Just be sure that you can handle the final choice that you make. No two people are the same, but human nature is just that.
That's all folks. I'm off to the just got dumped thread for some pointers.
Thank you all.