I d say as long as you re splitting your attention between multiple women and keeping up your interests u can't go too far wrong. Even if you're chasing u ll b too busy to overdo it. Everyone has their niche.
SteR,Sorry, but I am not sharing my woman with anyone else. I also don't buy this whole "be comfortable with yourself being a slob" - that sounds like what these fat feminists say about being proud and fat. I've been out of shape, and I've been in phenomenal shape.. and I know which one got me better results with the opposite sex. Having said that, some of what you mentioned rings true.
Yes, it is not an either/ or but both - be the best you can, and be comfortable with who you are.Sorry, but I am not sharing my woman with anyone else. I also don't buy this whole "be comfortable with yourself being a slob" - that sounds like what these fat feminists say about being proud and fat. I've been out of shape, and I've been in phenomenal shape.. and I know which one got me better results with the opposite sex. Having said that, some of what you mentioned rings true.
SteR,
You have an deep insecurity which needs to be fixed.
A crybaby ego says..."I'm not sharing my woman with anyone because she is my girlfriend.. We love and respect each other. She is my pacifier. No man touches my woman. Hands off! Don't disrespect me by flirting with my girlfriend!" I will fight you." Texts and calls her all the time. Always touching her. Getting jealous when guys flirt with her. Serious, romantic behavior. Weak.
How does she truly respect and desire you? You treat her that she is not high priority in your life. You cancel dates, go out with other women, set up multiple dates in one evening, talk to other people when on a date with her. (non needy, non emotional behavior.)
To be honest I don't want her to treat me high priority either. She needs a life of her own and I would prefer she talks to other people too cause it shows confidence.
A deeply secure guy says....."hun, I have to cancel tonight. We will get together soon" Show her love. But do it with non-needy behavior. On a date say to her...."I want to see you kiss that guy over there." She won't do it. She is thinking "this guy is secure himself, he is not attracted to me, my seduction powers are useless to him." Which challenges her more.
You live for yourself. You don't need a woman to make you happy. The best thing your secure self can say is......"Babe go have fun tonight. Then meet me afterwards." Your attitude needs to be securely EPIC in yourself. That type of non needy, emotional strength is like kryptonite to women.
Soulforge,I can see this kind of attitude working for a while.. but if she think you can carry on like this, and have a long term relationship.. Then I doubt this will work, for too long..
Woman these days have many options, a CONFIDENT secure woman, would walk away from this kind of attitude in a matter of weeks..
A very insecure girl might buy into this.. but high value secure woman will just toss your ass aside
Yea a lot of guys are successful (have kids, etc.) and don't even attempt to pry into the inner workings of female psychology.Soulforge,
It works amazingly well long-term and know several relationships where the man is the "unemotional" one in the relationship.
His wife pleases him every chance she gets. I have seen this in girlfriend/boyfriend relationships where marriage happens because his aloofness.
You shouldn't care if a confident woman walks away from you. She has options, but so you do. Billions of women out there.
Show her unconditional love but never really be 100% fully invested. Let all women go free.
It is not about her -- it is about you. Take the focus off her, share your life with her, but never make it about her.
What is a unneedy, unemotional guy? Someone who never gets angry at her, never flinches, smirks, cancels dates, doesn't call her often. If she walks away -- cool. One less needy girl in your life. She comes back to you -- cool
It is ironic, the women who text me the most are the ones whom I have forgotten about.
A needy ,average guy falls in love with a hot, confident woman. And if she desires another man he is screwed. She just mindfvcked him.
She hijacked his mind. What gives her the right to control his thoughts and have him obsessively think about her?
It is ironic, the women who never text me are the ones whom I think about the most.
You nailed it. These types of men don't overthink or try to understand women. They are non-emotional in their own selfish, oblivion ways.Yea a lot of guys are successful (have kids, etc.) and don't even attempt to pry into the inner workings of female psychology.
They just chill out, worry about themselves, and watch TV. Some even play video games. I really don't know how they do it. But they don't even try to do it. THAT is frustrating, as oppose to me who thinks about this every day and can barely get results.
Unfortunately, I cannot turn my brain off.You nailed it. These types of men don't overthink or try to understand women. They are non-emotional in their own selfish, oblivion ways.
These "chill men" could be playing a video game when their wife yells.."Im divorcing you!" .....then walks out....
These relaxed men would retort.... "Ok hun, luv ya." and continue playing his video game, without a care in the world.
If you want to argue that as a human being I create suffering by attachment then that's fine, I can understand that.. but I'm not a Buddhist monk, nor do I want to be. I see nothing wrong with demanding my partner to be loyal, nor do I intend to "work on myself" to change that.SteR,
You have an deep insecurity which needs to be fixed.
A crybaby ego says..."I'm not sharing my woman with anyone because she is my girlfriend.. We love and respect each other. She is my pacifier. No man touches my woman. Hands off! Don't disrespect me by flirting with my girlfriend!" I will fight you." Texts and calls her all the time. Always touching her. Getting jealous when guys flirt with her. Serious, romantic behavior. Weak.
How does she truly respect and desire you? You treat her that she is not high priority in your life. You cancel dates, go out with other women, set up multiple dates in one evening, talk to other people when on a date with her. (non needy, non emotional behavior.)
To be honest I don't want her to treat me high priority either. She needs a life of her own and I would prefer she talks to other people too cause it shows confidence.
A deeply secure guy says....."hun, I have to cancel tonight. We will get together soon" Show her love. But do it with non-needy behavior. On a date say to her...."I want to see you kiss that guy over there." She won't do it. She is thinking "this guy is secure himself, he is not attracted to me, my seduction powers are useless to him." Which challenges her more.
You live for yourself. You don't need a woman to make you happy. The best thing your secure self can say is......"Babe go have fun tonight. Then meet me afterwards." Your attitude needs to be securely EPIC in yourself. That type of non needy, emotional strength is like kryptonite to women.
You nailed it. These types of men don't overthink or try to understand women. They are non-emotional in their own selfish, oblivion ways.
These "chill men" could be playing a video game when their wife yells.."Im divorcing you!" .....then walks out....
These relaxed men would retort.... "Ok hun, luv ya." and continue playing his video game, without a care in the world.
It blows my mind how online dating sucks for most men on this site and othersOLD is good for the top 5% of men. It is what it is. 90% of women are looking to bang that top 10% of men and seriously think they can lock these guys down. Then you see the veterans to OLD add the obligatory "don't message me to hookup" after they have been pumped and dumped. It's laughable. I love reading their profiles and translating them to real world events.
It should be around the other way.It blows my mind how online dating sucks for most men on this site and others
Yet they continue to do without hitting the field to supplement their results
I agree to the extent that OLD can be used as a crutch to avoid in-person pick up.It blows my mind how online dating sucks for most men on this site and others
Yet they continue to do without hitting the field to supplement their results
If you currently have too many women chasing you, calling you, harassing you, knocking on your door at 2 o'clock in the morning... then I have the simple solution for you.
Just read my free ebook 22 Rules for Massive Success With Women and do the opposite of what I recommend.
This will quickly drive all women away from you.
And you will be able to relax and to live your life in peace and quiet.
agreedIt should be around the other way.
I have always preached this both should go hand in hand, add social circle gaming with this and you will have options galore (easier said than done, I know)I agree to the extent that OLD can be used as a crutch to avoid in-person pick up.
Ideally, a DJ should maximize his options, and do both.
Remember, your "game" is only as strong as your current level of abundance. Whatever and however gets you to that abundance, a DJ should exercise.
They are lazy more than they want to admit.It blows my mind how online dating sucks for most men on this site and others
Yet they continue to do without hitting the field to supplement their results