One of my best friends is going after my ex...

[Mr_Pink]

And it's really pissing me off. To me it seems like he's breaking the unwritten rules of friendship. You do not go after one of your best freinds exes 2 weeks after they break it. It just ain't right. Anyone else agree or think like this??

And we were supposed to go to see Kill Bill for the third time yesterday (off-topic, but see this movie NOW!!), and she wasn't able to go. But she said she could do something next week, but make sure that my friend could go to, so it seems like she's using me to get to him.

Anyways, you think I should help him get her despite how much I don't want to see it happen, or do you think that I'm right in my thinking that this is against "the rules"??

-Mr. Pink

 

[Cremasta]

Do you want to get back with her?
Who broke it off?
Why is she now an ex?
Do you own her?

Personally I believe an ex is an EX, she is no longer YOUR girl, so if your friend likes her then why not? Hell, even give her his phone number and tell her to go for it.

Think of the reasons why you two broke up and get yourself into the mindset of "Better him than me!". You've had her, you've tried the goods... now go out and upgrade!!!

and stop taking your ex on dates...

 

[Ded_Skin_Mask13]

yeah no sh*t dude. She isn't exactly with you anymore dude. She and he can do whatever the f*ck they want together. What does it matter to you? Unless you still have strong feelings for her, which is the apparent reason.

 

[Julian]

I think its the fact that he feels betrayed by his friend, and i mean who wouldnt?

There are many variables involved.

What it depends on is your history with the girl. Was it a very long term relationship? Or just a 1 month fling. If it was very long then i think your friend is a sh1tbag for goin after her, but then again i cant blame him if she is mad hot. But obviously he likes her.

 

[TesuqueRed]

If you had humongous b@lls, you would pass her off to your friend (kinda like passing down clothes to a little brother.) It doesn't sound like you're there yet or that you necessarily want to be.

And if you're not there, helping him get her would be highly compromising and --?? -- chumpy, I think.

I suggest that you don't compromise yourself or act chumpy, and certainly don't do both at the same time. Do that and you might as well just tightly wrap a rubber band around your b@lls, cut off the blood flow and let them drop off. I mean, that's what you would be doing to yourself emotionally, wouldn't it?

If you feel it's a betrayal, it may well be. Yes--you are no longer with her; no---you don't own her; yes--they are free to do as they please. All true. But it's a little soon and you may get an idea of what they really think about you if they're not taking your position into account.

What are you going to do--smile and pretend you like it? I'd give them a great deal of space after that--and even if it doesn't work out because you now know you don't stand as high in their estimation as you thought.

Curious--have they always been attracted to each other? Does he get other girls or are his options severally limited? Is she so hot that it is understandable why he shoving you to the side to step close to her?

 

[Mr_Pink]

OK. I've known her since my Freshman year (I'm a Senior) and got to be really good friends with her about a year ago. Was dating since July, so it was a good 4 months. And yes I do feel betrayed, that's the thing.

He can get pretty much whatever girl he wants, and decides to go after my ex 2 weeks after breaking up. I broke up with her, but to make a long story short it was out of neccessity, not want. I still have feelings for her, but it was beginning to feel like she was just using me for cash and attention, and I won't let myself be used no matter what. Now, she is very, very hot. In my eyes, a 9, so I can see why he's attracted to her, but it just feels like he has no loyalty to his friends.

Bros before hoes. That's my train of logic. If it was the other way around, not matter how badly I wanted this girl, I'd show loyalty to my friend before her.

-Mr. Pink

 

[( . )( . )]

One of my best friends is going after my ex...

and this matters to you why??

 

[Frank Zappa]

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
and this matters to you why??

Because not everybody is a robot who can just do the most logical thing even if they know it's right. Mr. Pink... it shouldn't matter to you from the girl's perspective... But friends, or at least from my experience in my close circles, don't do that janks to each other. Women come and go, make sure you find some friends that don't. Don't help your "friend" or your ex... Just like tits, said why... what do you have to gain... Your essentially helping your friend screw yourself.
~Zappa

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by Frank Zappa
Because not everybody is a robot who can just do the most logical thing even if they know it's right.

bullsh!t, if he was phucking other chicks, getting on with his life it wouldnt make a lick of difference if she was phucking aliens from outerspace to him.

you basically read his question wrong.

 

[Mr_Pink]

No, YOU read it wrong. I feel betrayed by him because of all the girls he could be going after, he picks my ex that I still have feelings for. I'm not pissed because it's her, I'm pissed because he's a really good friend of mine, and HE is going after her.

 

[( . )( . )]

No, YOU read it wrong. I feel betrayed by him because of all the girls he could be going after, he picks my ex that I still have feelings for.

did you even read what i said?

YES "FEELINGS" if you were phucking other chicks there would be no such thing, understand?

dont get all snappy puzzy like because i pointed out some home truths.

 

[Mr_Pink]

Or you could think of it this way: I wouldn't be banging other girls if I have feelings for another...

 

[( . )( . )]

the exact reason you should be.

 

[Mr_Pink]

Well, unlike some people on these boards, I'm not in it solely for some ass. I am trying to get dates and such, but I'm not gonna go out and bang some random chick just for the hell of it...

 

[( . )( . )]

well then dont come on here and be asking questions your not going to like the answers too.

in other words dont waste peoples time by speaking sh!t, thankfully this ISNT a dating advice forum where you will get the stock standard, cookie cutter, sugar coated, everyones happy and comfortable reply.

be thankful for that.

 

[Frank Zappa]

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
well then dont come on here and be asking questions your not going to like the answers too.

in other words dont waste peoples time by speaking sh!t, thankfully this ISNT a dating advice forum where you will get the stock standard, cookie cutter, sugar coated, everyones happy and comfortable reply.

be thankful for that.

Chill out dude... You can tell people advice straight up, but if say it like an *******, you can't complain when they get defensive about it. Obviously the kid cares about his friend and this girl, so to just say it all doesn't matter isn't even feasible. If one of your close friends was getting with your girlfriend two weeks after you broke up, i don't see how sleeping with chicks somehow makes you forget about your friend.

Regardless, turn your back on the situation because if he was a good friend, then obviously he doesn't respect you as much as you thought. ~Zappa

 

[( . )( . )]

maybe, but i hardly think he would be here asking about this if he was at peace with himself, getting on with life and meeting and phucking other women, do you?

i honestly believe he wouldnt have given a sh!t, maybe a wry smile and a genuine wish for goodluck.

 

[Frank Zappa]

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
maybe, but i hardly think he would be here asking about this if he was at peace with himself, getting on with life and meeting and phucking other women, do you?

i honestly believe he wouldnt have given a sh!t, maybe a wry smile and a genuine wish for goodluck.

exactly... he's not at peace with himself and is at risk of helping this chick and his friend out because he doesn't want to lose emotional attachment to the chick. he's posting here because he subconsciously wants us to tell him what he already knows because he's afraid of making that mistake. ~Zappa

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by Frank Zappa
exactly... he's not at peace with himself and is at risk of helping this chick and his friend out because he doesn't want to lose emotional attachment to the chick. he's posting here because he subconsciously wants us to tell him what he already knows because he's afraid of making that mistake. ~Zappa

and whats this got to do with anything i said?

i told him how to fix his "feelings" thats all

EDIT: and btw im not buying this at all

Originally posted by Mr_Pink
Well, unlike some people on these boards, I'm not in it solely for some ass.

i found out that if your a man whos true to himself , its ALWAYS about the ass.

 

[Chewy Bagel]

Mr. Pink, I'm sorry to hear that. I lost a best friend because of a similar situation. I dated a girl for 4 months during my sophomore year of high school. My best friend then decided to date her Senior year of high school. Soon, they were so in love that it was really awkward when we were out together at a party or mall or wherever. Soon, I didn't talk with him at all and basically lost contact. He and I were in the same fraternity in college while he was dating her, but it was still "weird". Long story short, he ended up marrying her about 4 years after college and now I don't talk with him. I didn't even go to the wedding. I'm not suggesting that this is what is going to happen to you - I'm just telling you my experience with this.

CB