One of my best friends is going after my ex...

[Frank Zappa]

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
and whats this got to do with anything i said?

i told him how to fix his "feelings" thats all

It's got to do with the fact that you can't expect people here to benefit from snappy advice. Just like you said... if he was at peace with himself and happy with the way things were going, he wouldn't even be posting here. We aren't the ya-ya sisterhood here, but when people post here. But when people post a problem here they subconciously know the answer is what they fear most. If you get all straight up the advice isn't going to soak in and they will just get defensive. ~Zappa

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by Frank Zappa
But when people post a problem here they subconciously know the answer is what they fear most. If you get all straight up the advice isn't going to soak in and they will just get defensive. ~Zappa

ok well when you can tell me how to sugarcoat "go out and phuck other women, and get on with your life" i might try saying it that way....maybe

 

[Frank Zappa]

Originally posted by ( . )( . )
ok well when you can tell me how to sugarcoat "go out and phuck other women, and get on with your life" i might try saying it that way....maybe

Now your just spinning. Attaching words such as sugarcoat to what i'm trying to say.

We can sit here and argue about this all night, but I got to jet soon...

First of all, telling someone to go out and phuck other women is great for forgetting your woman... But that doesn't solve the issue of the friend. I know when I started getting with other women, I forgot about my ex, but if she was involved with one of my friends or getting involved two weeks, fvcking other women wouldn't solve that problem at all.

Secondly, he didn't get all defensive for no reason. Your first response, "and this matters to you how" was just basically telling him that he shouldn't even care about a friend acting like a piece of sh!t. There is a difference between sugarcoating and just giving someone a self-righteous response that tells him to do something he can't. Who can honestly not care about a friend's betrayal...

Anyway... that's my two cents... You can have the last word because there's no point to turn this discussion into an argument over advice-giving methods. I'm out.
~Zappa

 

[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by Frank Zappa

Anyway... that's my two cents... You can have the last word because there's no point to turn this discussion into an argument over advice-giving methods. I'm out.
~Zappa

ok thanks, btw you were the one going against logic here not me, so call it an "argument" if you like, i call it right and wrong.

and this guys mate has NOTHING to do with any of this, hes a guy, guys want to phuck chicks no matter who she used to phuck, you think its personal? not likely, your average man of today takes what he can get, and this goes 10 fold if his mates an AFC, all hes thinking is holy phuck shes given me the time of day, hes not trying to hurt mr pink, its called having urges as a man and being clueless in todays puzzied society, no more no less.
mr pink being the better man should see this.

this "bros before hoes" crap doesnt apply to him in this case (high school maybe, adults with there own lives? doubtful), its over.

tits out.

 

[CLOONEY]

yeah I can say I would also be pi*sed!! Man imagine having to hang around your x and one of your best friends. Knowing that after you guys get out of the movie, he is gong to FUKC her. Seriously man I dont care about doing the right thing or what, that will only fukc with your head. He should go find another girl. And u should not just be friends with her if you still like her. U are just another one of these AFC chumps hanging around trying to get *****!! Seriously man rather get back with her, or move on with your life. Eventually she will date another guy anyways, and it will fukc with your head if you are still her "freind" and have to hear all about him. And see them two getting together.

Take it easy

 

[MVPlaya]

Originally posted by Mr_Pink
he's breaking the unwritten rules of friendship. You do not go after one of your best freinds exes
-Mr. Pink

If you were a DJ, you wouldn't give a **** about your ex. Here's your problem, its over between you 2, but you still want her. By doing this, you are no longer a challenge, she can have you anytime, she wants something else. What you need to do is pretend she doesn't mean **** (no pretend required, she just doesn't) and don't let it get to you, by being jealous you are being UNATTRACTIVE.

Also, about the best-friends/EXes thing, it don't mean ****. If you have heartbreak over it, that may be one thing (one very small thing), but other than that, if he steals your girl, thats his right. And if shes your EX, it aint none of your business.

 

[Cremasta]

I still have feelings for her, but it was beginning to feel like she was just using me for cash and attention, and I won't let myself be used no matter what. Now, she is very, very hot. In my eyes, a 9, so I can see why he's attracted to her, but it just feels like he has no loyalty to his friends.

This is the kicker... in your eyes she is a 9 and you still have feelings for her. You feel like you have lost something fantastic and won't do better. Many of us have been there at one time or another.

Does your friend know that you still want her? If you have been going around saying that its all over between you, there's no chance you'll get back together, etc etc etc then your friend would have seen that as a big green light.

You said you won't let yourself be used no matter what... funny how we forget the bad things about the ex when someone else decides they are worth the effort. Been there done that - it doesn't matter if the guy showing interest is a friend or not. If you want to get back with her (I mean REALLY want to get back with her), then talk to your friend about it, then start working on the girl.

If you don't, then let them get on with it. There's no magical advice you can be given to forget how you feel about her. It does take time, but having another hottie of your own sure as hell speeds up the process.

 

[WORKEROUTER]

Originally posted by Mr_Pink
And it's really pissing me off. To me it seems like he's breaking the unwritten rules of friendship. You do not go after one of your best freinds exes 2 weeks after they break it. It just ain't right. Anyone else agree or think like this??

And we were supposed to go to see Kill Bill for the third time yesterday (off-topic, but see this movie NOW!!), and she wasn't able to go. But she said she could do something next week, but make sure that my friend could go to, so it seems like she's using me to get to him.

Anyways, you think I should help him get her despite how much I don't want to see it happen, or do you think that I'm right in my thinking that this is against "the rules"??

-Mr. Pink

gimme a break. shes just another broad..get something else going in ur life instead of worrying about such utter bullsh*t as this.

 

[Mr_Pink]

See, my problem is I think like DJ, but still act AFCish. Hence why I break up with her, DJ, but I still want to get back with her, AFC. It's part of the transition thing.

And some of you are getting this wrong. If I want to get over her, I don't want to be around her, or reminded of her. If he's gonna start dragging her out with us, and over to my damn house, how's that gonna help?? And if he basically throws it in my face that he's with her, all that's gonna do is make me pissed at him.

I see nothing good coming out of this situation at all...

-Mr. Pink

 

[jbbrain]

oh God..

thats why I love the internet and sites like these..we get guys like boobs over here (no offense dude, i like your style) who, given any chance to say what they know is exactly the right thing to say, come out with advice that sounds great on paper, but doesnt REALLY apply to this particular circumstance, given the fact that the dude is not only human, but probably far from being anything like...

You get the point.

To the original poster: Yes, you SHOULD not care. Yes, you SHOULD be fvcking other girls in the meantime. No, it is NONE of your business...

but lets get serious here..you DO care, you obviosuly ARENT fvcking other girls in the meantime, you probbaly WERE in love with this chick and you probably feel like its ALL of your business.

It's ok dude, you're not super pimp, and I get the aching feeling boobs over here (along with all you other sosuave "tough guys") arent either. Believe me, its easy to shell out perfect, regurgitated and somewhat irrelevant advice when its not you who's hurting.

I know how you feel bro. I consider myself very confident and a definite success with girls. But I'm realistic and I'd imagine if that happened to me (and it kinda did), it would sting me too.

What I propose is to take tits' advice, along with the advice of all these other posters who basically post synonymously to eachother, AND TAKE IT TO HEART.

Why?

Because its the right advice. Confused? JUST MAKE SURE YOU DO IT AT YOUR OWN PACEJ, the speed at which you feel is good for you to take your self confidence and success with ladies to a whole new level..The means to that very important end are irrelevant, "Fvck 10 other chix", talk to your friend, get a new hobby..take 10 years, take 2 weeks, whatver...the sooner the better.

But please don't expect yourself to change, and anyone else for that matter, after reading some 2 line, "picture perfect" advice that took 30 seconds to compose from some poster who honestly couldn't give enough of a rat's ass about your ultimately inconsequential situation with your ex to pay attention to detail.

 

[jbbrain]

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[( . )( . )]

Originally posted by jbbrain

It's ok dude, you're not super pimp, and I get the aching feeling boobs over here (along with all you other sosuave "tough guys") arent either.

please "tough guys"?? hardly, i just know for a fact if my ex and best mate wanted to phuck i wouldnt be getting my panties in a twist.

understanding how sh!t works has nothing to do with being "tough"

 

[NewMan]

Idiots...

And it's really pissing me off. To me it seems like he's breaking the unwritten rules of friendship. You do not go after one of your best freinds exes 2 weeks after they break it. It just ain't right. Anyone else agree or think like this??

Are these guys for real? What a bunch of losers - I thank God that none of you are my friends, my Bro's, my confidents, my Life.....


If any firend of mine tried hooking up with my ex - AT THE LEAST - it would be ovger between me and them.

I'm glad the likes of ( . )( . ) is not a budd of mine.

It's a rule - YOU DON'T FVCK WITH YOUR FIRENDS GIRL - EVER.

You break that rule - your the lowest form of Sh#t.

Get your own woman and suport your Bro.

Losers.

 

[( . )( . )]

i take it newman your the type of chump who goes all violent and suicidal if a chick dumps you, yes?

It's a rule - YOU DON'T FVCK WITH YOUR FIRENDS GIRL - EVER.

and maybe you should learn to READ while your inbetween punching walls and turning up on doorsteps with baseball bats.

SHE'S NOT HIS GIRL.

how about thinking twice before polluting this with more sh!t, next time.

 

[jbbrain]

dude, you just hide behind a pair of big fa ass tyts and that makes you're a pimpin' womanizer with complete control of your emotions???

I think youre a Sosuave tough guy..but I digress..

You gave good advice..

 

[( . )( . )]

dude, you just hide behind a pair of big fa ass tyts and that makes you're a pimpin' womanizer with complete control of your emotions???

lol, i wished, you obviously didnt see my post how i turn into an emotional wreck after a heavy night on the booze.

i was recently told by a chick im seeing that im too cold and heartless and blunt and dont give a thought to others feelings,

and you know what? she was dead right, and when she asked me why, i didnt even notice what i had turned into, i was a little too good at blocking out "feelings" and "emotions" for fear of ever going back to what i was, (i used to be very emotional, a by product of thinking too much maybe).

and now because ive put my finger on one of my main weaknesses ( thinking too much) i have also become less emotional.

off on a bit of a tangent i know, but i thought it may be pertinent somehow if sometimes i may sound a bit.... i dunno , lacking the emotional aspect so to speak.

but nevertheless some guys here have to be a bit more thick skinned (me included) if constructive critiscm, or straight to the point advice cant be told without getting all bent out of shape.

You gave good advice..

i know.


sh!t sorry to hijack your thread mate, carry on

 

[echo1212]

Hey, Mr. Pink, DO YOU HAVE ANY PICS OF YOU, YOUR EX OR YOU FRIEND SO WHEN WE CAN A BETTER JUDGEMNET ON THIS?

 

[Mr_Pink]

I'm getting a photo CD that pictures of us on it by the end of the week (I know, it's a while), since I need to finish off the roll of film. When I get them, I'll post them.

 

[Bonhomme]

jjbrain's advice is the best

The guys are right, but the way you feel is the way you feel.

Perhaps you should just have a word with your buddy, and tell him you can use a bit of time away from her or any mention of her to get over the withdrawal period until you find someone else.

If he can't accommodate you a bit then, you're justified in avoiding both of them.

 

[madgame]

The point is your friend just shouldnt be trying to get your ex. It's normal that u still have feelings for her. But if your friends knows you still suffer from that and that she did mean something to you he is breaking the unwritten rules of friendship.
Maybe this guy is really into her, but if he was a true friend, I guess he should talk to you about it first. Its simple as that