backbreaker
Master Don Juan
i see yyour point,Danger said:backbreaker,
I believe there are lots of women who may like you or even love you and yet still cheat.
Some have a propensity to do it while others do not. In short, it is all about the odds man. Step away from the black and white viewpoint. There is a context to most everything.
you are talking about odds to someone who makes a living gambling on horses.
Losers, people who go to the track, and eventually kill their bankroll "play odds".. The "odds" of a first time starter winning a maiden race aren't very good, the "odds" a horse winning first time on the turf aren't very good, the "odds" of a certain trainer who might be having a bad meet aren't very good.
But, they do happen, in a week's worth of racing, they happen alot actually.
You learn, to take every race and treat it as it's own individual entity. Yes, certain things are probably more likely to happen than other things, but to actually make money you have to judge the race on this races merits and it's merits alone.
what i am saying is, what a study of 100 women might or might not do, has no indication of what this particular woman in this particular circumstance, with her individual personality is going to do.
Some of my biggest scores have come from races that had i played the odds, i would have tossed the horse. last year i loved a horse from a trainer that hadn't won a race all year, paid 64 dollars for a 2 dollar winner. I had a very good reason to believe this horse was pointed to this particular race, and he won, and actually won quite easily. he wasn't that bad a horse people were playing the trainers percentage. a female jockey had not won a grade 1 race in almos 5 years in north america, and i cashed the santa anita handicap earlier this year with game on dude with Chantel sutherland as the jockey, paid 32 dollars for a 2 dollar ticket.
I call that "lazy handicapping", meaning you going to the track, and you look for certain things so that you can quickly dmisss certain horses so that you "don't get burned".
that's the real question at hand. why are you so scared to get burned? you are going to get hurt if you play the game, any game. rather it be horse racing or dating women or starting a business, don't be so scared to lose, that you can't possibly win. So the **** what if she might gain 80 pounds from now (Which i assure you if you date her for a year before you commit to anytyhing you will know good and damn well what she will and won't do). The odds of someone actually retirining with their 401k actually doing what they set out for it to do when they started it, are 5%.
someone like Rollo, who i respect the hell out of on here BTW, will say that the odds of her getting fat and becoming a fat slob, are higher so you s hould avoid her, when he himself is married and has been for over a decade, and the odds of a marriage not working out are about 1 in 2 give or take, if he were playing the odds, he would not get married.
he will come back and say "well i properly screened my woman"
and i will say "exactly"
that's all i am saying, that's all I and solomon and squirrels are saying
if you properly screen your woman on her own merits, this is a non issue.
my own wife, when i first met her, i found her with an empty baggie of coke in my bathroom, it feel out of her purse. to much the chigrain of this very forum, i listened to her, and she told me she doesn't do it seriously and that it wasn't a problem, and i told her that if i caught her doing it again she had to go because of my history. guess what, her doing drugs today is the least of my concerns. but had i followed the 'rules": i would have missed out on the most wonderful woman i have ever met in my life.
Don't be so afraid to to lose, that you don't play the game at all. yes, there are certain things i look for because i know my life and i know what makes me tick, but i don't have so many rules that i just toss everyone becuase i am "playing the odds"