Prophett
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Not with me, I'm attracted to woman of all colors, I dont give a **** if they look like me or not. And I've attracted most of them so no problem there.
Not attracted to Black girls....
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Tha Realnezz
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Lol...dog,your half-dominican...you like lightskinned colored girls?
I mean the answer is in your face:
Go after dominican girls.
Where do you live?Man,we're everywhere..lol.Brush up on your spanish and your dancing and your good.
I mean the answer is in your face:
Go after dominican girls.
Where do you live?Man,we're everywhere..lol.Brush up on your spanish and your dancing and your good.
SynTheUnscathed
Don Juan
If they look like you or not....? What the heck are you talking about?
Wha.....
SynTheUnscathed
Don Juan
I live in ATL, I actually didnt know I was half dominican until I met my father last year, so I know ZERO spanish, but I am a decent dancer.
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
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DJ_in_making
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I can finally relate.
I bet you're in an area of very few black girls. When I was in Texas there weren't too many of them so the few that were there weren't too spectacular.
When I got back to New York, since it is so diverse there were beautiful black girls all over.
But they have been brainwashed into that snobbish mentallity, I really don't know why considering all their guys are leaving them for white women nowadays.
SynTheUnscathed
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You know, I am thinking about it, and maybe it has more to do with the personality part that comes along with it.
Myself, I am into playing guitar, rock music, more Radiohead/Coldplay stuff...fantasy and sci fi movies/stories, I hate the cliche black movies, the gangsta flicks, and mostly hip hop and rap. And especially the way high profile black people TALK, man it seems like the less educated you sound...the more respect you get...I just dont get that.
Maybe a part of me is trying to distance my self from the typical black image, and maybe that includes having a girlfriend who isnt black...? I dont know...
Myself, I am into playing guitar, rock music, more Radiohead/Coldplay stuff...fantasy and sci fi movies/stories, I hate the cliche black movies, the gangsta flicks, and mostly hip hop and rap. And especially the way high profile black people TALK, man it seems like the less educated you sound...the more respect you get...I just dont get that.
Maybe a part of me is trying to distance my self from the typical black image, and maybe that includes having a girlfriend who isnt black...? I dont know...
SynTheUnscathed
Don Juan
Amen...I guess its the persona...that irks me.
Most fine black women have a serious personality issues, probably perpetuated by how they are viewed in society and in the entertainment.
Of course there are exceptions...
backbreaker
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lol, you guys are crazy.
In his original post, he actually saved about 10-15 replies, becuase the first post had he not stated his race would have been "Well, are you black?' I know that's what I was thinking when I heard the post.
And he isn't black.. he's half black/half dominican
The one time my old onieits and i got into a big arguemnt, one of the few, was when I called her a sterotypical white girl, and she is white/columbian.. I didn't know she would take it so harshly, so I can definatly understand where the guy is coming from.
as for is there anythnig wrong? No..
However, I will say this.. there is a reason for everything. It may be subconcious
I actually have somewhat of the same problem. I am black, but I am very attracted to white women.
I've been called everythnig in the book...
I am pretty sure the reason I am more attracted to white women is because I have been watching porn my entire life (8-9) (until like 6 months, stopped cold turkey) and all of the porn I saw as a child (don't ask) was of white women... I mean, when you are 11-12, it's not like you have too much of a choice of varirty, you pretty much watch whatever you can get your hands on, and that's what I could get my hands on. 10-12 years of watching guys bang white women will get to you on a subconsious level after a while.
Now, I am assumign we are talking about physical only
I've always been attracted to black women, the majority of the women I have dated in the past have been black. My ex fiancee is black. But there is a particular look I look for, and not too many black women have it. As a matter of fact, if gave me the choice to have a black women with the exact same features that a white woman has I would choose the black woman every time, assuming both are the exact same everywhere else.. however that's usually not the case.
I don't like.. better yet, I can't Stand fake hair. If you have weave, you can forget it... espically the kind that's ovbious. That goes for all races, not just black women.
I like a woman that dresses like a woman, not a child or a teenager or in A&F like everyone else.
I like long legs and it's a plus but not necessary to have nice tits.
If it's a serious relationship, i.e my ex fiancee, I perfer someone who has had both parents in their life growing up.. not to many guys think about stuff like that, but if one is missing, thought their life, they are usually trying to fill that void (i.e attention *****s, *****s, physco, etc)
I stay away from women that have been raped/abused.. she can be fine as all get out, but that doesn't mean she won't have issues
And probably the most important thing of all, if she has nothing going for herself, she can be helle berry in the looks department.. she has absoutly no chance. Nothing is more of a turnoff to me (besides smoking in bed) than a woman who has absoutly no ambtiion in life.
Halle Berry is not black, she's mixed.
You'd be suprised how many people are mixed these days.
SynTheUnscathed, I feel your pain for the most part. My two best friends, both black as am I, don't date outside their race. One told me "man, I can't bring a white girl home to my family"... so you mean to tell me you aren't going to do what you want, if you want, because of what your family thinks? Your grown!
Then these guys turn around, espically the one I just talked about, and he will have all these girls call him, but never wants to bring them around because well.. they aren't that cute. It's like he talks to girls for the sake of talking to girls
My other best friend has been with his GF, who's from Barbados, for like 3 years now, and to be honest... I wouldn't talk to her if I saw her out.. she's not very.. feminane to be honest with you. And he's always takling about how he has a real black woman and stuff, but everytime I have something extra on the side he asks or wants to know if I can hook him up.. I mean, I don't have a problem with him, or it, but it's the principal of the matter.. both are older than me, however I'm the only one who goes for what he really wants and makes no bones about it, and quite frankly, I really don't give a damn what they or anyone else thinks
perfect example.. One of my friends girls that he talks to who is actaully pretty attractive, came over my house with him one day, and I had a girl who I was talking to over my house.. who happened to be white.
So when the girl I am talking to leaves to go to work, she starts talking **** to me.. in my own crib, about how I need to stick with my black women and how I must have some type of self esteem issues becuase I don't like black women.. i mean, she is really going off.. and I am honestly paying her no mind, because I'm not about to argue with this slut about what I like and don't like.. so she keeps talking about how she has no respect for guys like me and stuff.. It's so bad.. to restrain for loosing my cool and tossing her ass out the window, I leave and go chill over a girls house.. It's not biggie, my two best friends pratcailly live with me anyway.
So about a month later, I am out at the club by myself, and the same girl is there. So i have no ill will, and I say hi to her and go about my way. So she tries to dance with me. So i get a dance in, to be nice, but I really dont want anything to do with her because of what happened plus she is talking to my best friend, I don't roll like that. Then she asks me for my phone number and tells me who she thinks I am really good looking and how I am so much more mature than my other two friends (Which I am, but that's not the point).
So I just look at her and shake me head and walk off.
She has been over my hosue a couple of times since that day, and everytime she is really quiet, and I catch her starring at me from time to time.
Point is, people who talk about you openly are just covering up their own insecurities, so they poke holes at you to make you feel better. I am extremely thick skinned, so crap like that doesn't get to me.. hell I crack on myself all the time.. but I am comfortable with who I am and what i like, because I understand that I am unique, not only in the sense that I am me, but I am man enough to go after what I really want and not what society tells me I want
In his original post, he actually saved about 10-15 replies, becuase the first post had he not stated his race would have been "Well, are you black?' I know that's what I was thinking when I heard the post.
And he isn't black.. he's half black/half dominican
The one time my old onieits and i got into a big arguemnt, one of the few, was when I called her a sterotypical white girl, and she is white/columbian.. I didn't know she would take it so harshly, so I can definatly understand where the guy is coming from.
as for is there anythnig wrong? No..
However, I will say this.. there is a reason for everything. It may be subconcious
I actually have somewhat of the same problem. I am black, but I am very attracted to white women.
I've been called everythnig in the book...
I am pretty sure the reason I am more attracted to white women is because I have been watching porn my entire life (8-9) (until like 6 months, stopped cold turkey) and all of the porn I saw as a child (don't ask) was of white women... I mean, when you are 11-12, it's not like you have too much of a choice of varirty, you pretty much watch whatever you can get your hands on, and that's what I could get my hands on. 10-12 years of watching guys bang white women will get to you on a subconsious level after a while.
Now, I am assumign we are talking about physical only
I've always been attracted to black women, the majority of the women I have dated in the past have been black. My ex fiancee is black. But there is a particular look I look for, and not too many black women have it. As a matter of fact, if gave me the choice to have a black women with the exact same features that a white woman has I would choose the black woman every time, assuming both are the exact same everywhere else.. however that's usually not the case.
I don't like.. better yet, I can't Stand fake hair. If you have weave, you can forget it... espically the kind that's ovbious. That goes for all races, not just black women.
I like a woman that dresses like a woman, not a child or a teenager or in A&F like everyone else.
I like long legs and it's a plus but not necessary to have nice tits.
If it's a serious relationship, i.e my ex fiancee, I perfer someone who has had both parents in their life growing up.. not to many guys think about stuff like that, but if one is missing, thought their life, they are usually trying to fill that void (i.e attention *****s, *****s, physco, etc)
I stay away from women that have been raped/abused.. she can be fine as all get out, but that doesn't mean she won't have issues
And probably the most important thing of all, if she has nothing going for herself, she can be helle berry in the looks department.. she has absoutly no chance. Nothing is more of a turnoff to me (besides smoking in bed) than a woman who has absoutly no ambtiion in life.
Halle Berry is not black, she's mixed.
You'd be suprised how many people are mixed these days.
SynTheUnscathed, I feel your pain for the most part. My two best friends, both black as am I, don't date outside their race. One told me "man, I can't bring a white girl home to my family"... so you mean to tell me you aren't going to do what you want, if you want, because of what your family thinks? Your grown!
Then these guys turn around, espically the one I just talked about, and he will have all these girls call him, but never wants to bring them around because well.. they aren't that cute. It's like he talks to girls for the sake of talking to girls
My other best friend has been with his GF, who's from Barbados, for like 3 years now, and to be honest... I wouldn't talk to her if I saw her out.. she's not very.. feminane to be honest with you. And he's always takling about how he has a real black woman and stuff, but everytime I have something extra on the side he asks or wants to know if I can hook him up.. I mean, I don't have a problem with him, or it, but it's the principal of the matter.. both are older than me, however I'm the only one who goes for what he really wants and makes no bones about it, and quite frankly, I really don't give a damn what they or anyone else thinks
perfect example.. One of my friends girls that he talks to who is actaully pretty attractive, came over my house with him one day, and I had a girl who I was talking to over my house.. who happened to be white.
So when the girl I am talking to leaves to go to work, she starts talking **** to me.. in my own crib, about how I need to stick with my black women and how I must have some type of self esteem issues becuase I don't like black women.. i mean, she is really going off.. and I am honestly paying her no mind, because I'm not about to argue with this slut about what I like and don't like.. so she keeps talking about how she has no respect for guys like me and stuff.. It's so bad.. to restrain for loosing my cool and tossing her ass out the window, I leave and go chill over a girls house.. It's not biggie, my two best friends pratcailly live with me anyway.
So about a month later, I am out at the club by myself, and the same girl is there. So i have no ill will, and I say hi to her and go about my way. So she tries to dance with me. So i get a dance in, to be nice, but I really dont want anything to do with her because of what happened plus she is talking to my best friend, I don't roll like that. Then she asks me for my phone number and tells me who she thinks I am really good looking and how I am so much more mature than my other two friends (Which I am, but that's not the point).
So I just look at her and shake me head and walk off.
She has been over my hosue a couple of times since that day, and everytime she is really quiet, and I catch her starring at me from time to time.
Point is, people who talk about you openly are just covering up their own insecurities, so they poke holes at you to make you feel better. I am extremely thick skinned, so crap like that doesn't get to me.. hell I crack on myself all the time.. but I am comfortable with who I am and what i like, because I understand that I am unique, not only in the sense that I am me, but I am man enough to go after what I really want and not what society tells me I want
Prophett
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sorry dude, I meant regardless of whether they are my race or not. The bottom line is, go after whoever you are attracted to, what's the problem?
If you want to talk, talk to your friends. If you want a girl to like you, listen to her, ask questions, and act like you are on the edge of your seat.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
SynTheUnscathed
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*tear falls down cheek* Amen, man. Thats beautiful.
Tha Realnezz
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It's only a matter a time befor the term african american loses its meaning all together.
So many mixed couples and children(who usally say they're the other half) that's its' getting ridicolous..
All my lil cousins are half black..NONE of them say they are black.But they are all very darkskinned don't anyspanish,ect.All they know about our culture is the music and food and the curse words...lol.
I'd say maybe one out of 4 black people nowadays are either half spanish or half-fill-in-the-blank.By the time my cousins have there own kids...it will be half.
I think like you BB,there's a strong distates for darkskin and fear of having darkskinned children or having "ghetto ass" kids.Inside the black community.
Which is only being magnified by the overwhelming presence of Latinos & Asians in the US culture.
I can't really relate as I usually perfer women who have my color...that Beyonceish/Halle Berry color and they're usually upperclass black girls --who don't want black boyfriends or Dominican/Cuban girls.
So many mixed couples and children(who usally say they're the other half) that's its' getting ridicolous..
All my lil cousins are half black..NONE of them say they are black.But they are all very darkskinned don't anyspanish,ect.All they know about our culture is the music and food and the curse words...lol.
I'd say maybe one out of 4 black people nowadays are either half spanish or half-fill-in-the-blank.By the time my cousins have there own kids...it will be half.
I think like you BB,there's a strong distates for darkskin and fear of having darkskinned children or having "ghetto ass" kids.Inside the black community.
Which is only being magnified by the overwhelming presence of Latinos & Asians in the US culture.
I can't really relate as I usually perfer women who have my color...that Beyonceish/Halle Berry color and they're usually upperclass black girls --who don't want black boyfriends or Dominican/Cuban girls.
backbreaker
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I'll take it a step father.. this married chick I was messing around with for about 4 months.. in all honestly, I 've had sex/dated WAAAYY better looking women.
I mean, she wasn't by no means ugly, but what you would describe a plain jane.. nothing stood out about her phsycailly.
but something about her I just LOVED. I mean, she was probably a 5.5-6 on an average day, on a good day, a 6.5-7, she had no problem getting men.. maybe not men of my league but men nevertheless, but she was.. married
And I caught so much heat for dating her not because she was married.. no one every brought that up, but because of the way she looked.
And the one time i explained myself to my friends, It old them "dude, do you honestly think I give two ****s what you think about her? I'm the one incerting my **** inside her, not you, and the same with your GF.. regardless of what I think about her, it's not my decsion to make.. what I think for the most part is irrlevant" and I would never tell him I don't find his GF attractive, because that's not my place.
Funny enough however, I have never been approached by more girls than when I took her out. We had a blast whever we did anything, because we both loved to drink and we liked each others company. I think i took her out in public about 8 times in all, I must have gotten at least 10 phone nubmers, without approaching anyone.. I am still seeing one of the girls now (not seriously) and it's a year later.
I mean, she wasn't by no means ugly, but what you would describe a plain jane.. nothing stood out about her phsycailly.
but something about her I just LOVED. I mean, she was probably a 5.5-6 on an average day, on a good day, a 6.5-7, she had no problem getting men.. maybe not men of my league but men nevertheless, but she was.. married
And I caught so much heat for dating her not because she was married.. no one every brought that up, but because of the way she looked.
And the one time i explained myself to my friends, It old them "dude, do you honestly think I give two ****s what you think about her? I'm the one incerting my **** inside her, not you, and the same with your GF.. regardless of what I think about her, it's not my decsion to make.. what I think for the most part is irrlevant" and I would never tell him I don't find his GF attractive, because that's not my place.
Funny enough however, I have never been approached by more girls than when I took her out. We had a blast whever we did anything, because we both loved to drink and we liked each others company. I think i took her out in public about 8 times in all, I must have gotten at least 10 phone nubmers, without approaching anyone.. I am still seeing one of the girls now (not seriously) and it's a year later.
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^lol....I think I know who you are...
DJ_in_making
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Holy crap, the self hatred in this board is overwhelming....
Tha Realnezz
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^How is it self-hatred if i'm not african american?
And have you dealt with ,upperclass/Upper-middle class african american female youths?
The ones that have money are usually daddy's little princess who are light-skinned cuz grandma came from the islands and they wouldn't wanna marry a black guy to begin cuz they're too "thuggish".
Chances are these girls think they are whiter than you and have Spanish oe European boyfreinds..not black ones.
Don't beleive me?Ask one of your co-workers or one of the chics you go to shcool with.
I know this cuz I live a predominatley african american and latino neighborhood/city.UR gonna tell me how it is?
I'm not hating on anyone I'm just stating how it is...
And have you dealt with ,upperclass/Upper-middle class african american female youths?
The ones that have money are usually daddy's little princess who are light-skinned cuz grandma came from the islands and they wouldn't wanna marry a black guy to begin cuz they're too "thuggish".
Chances are these girls think they are whiter than you and have Spanish oe European boyfreinds..not black ones.
Don't beleive me?Ask one of your co-workers or one of the chics you go to shcool with.
I know this cuz I live a predominatley african american and latino neighborhood/city.UR gonna tell me how it is?
I'm not hating on anyone I'm just stating how it is...
backbreaker
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if a girl, or man, for that matter is stupid enough to take a person out of the equation without even meeting them, just because of the color of their skin, that's not a person worth dating anyway, regardless of the hottness factor... there are millions of equally hot, nto as stupid people on earth.
Perferences is one thing.. i've had plently of white women tell me they perfer white men, but find me attractive as well.. hell I could care less.. but very rarely have I ahd anyone tell me "you know,.. this whole black thing isn't working for me.. ba bye"
and if she does, I will laugh and walk off. she saved me a ****load of time and presumed stress
DJ_in_making
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dominican isn't a race it's a........
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Le Parisien
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SynTheUnscathed:
Oh man I feel you...
I won't elaborate too much on this since so many people have already put it very well here.
Just reading your posts made me feel like it took some pressure off my chest.
Personally I'm not black, I'm chinese, I kinda have the same "problem" with asian girls, sort of.
It's not that I'm not attracted to asian girls, it's just that in average, the features that I like are more likely to be found on european girls. I like slim and tall girls with a pretty face, with long legs, asian girls are shorter in average and usually don't have long legs.
Back to the black girls, I don't want to be branded as a racist, but it's true that even my black friends are having the same "problem" as you. Only some of them are honest about it, some of them hide it. It's NOT about the color of the skin, it's more about features. Most caucasians, asians and even many black guys themselves don't think that the "traditional" african features are attractive: flat and large nose, "pretty rounded" waist and butt, very thick lips etc...
Just look at all the popular black female pop icons, they all do NOT have the "traditional" features: Beyoncé, Halle Berry, Garcelle Beauvais etc...
I think racial self hatred starts when you actually discard girls simply because they are black. Like saying no even before seeing them simply on the fact that they are black.
Obviously it's not your case, so it's all good, it's just that you got specific personal taste.
On the last note: AsianPlayboy's right
ethiopian girls are SO HOT !!!
My best friend in the US is an ethiopian guy, damn, every ethiopian girl he knows is pretty hot. They are sort of like black women with caucasian features
Too bad he's a engineering guy and only knew a few.
Oh man I feel you...
I won't elaborate too much on this since so many people have already put it very well here.
Just reading your posts made me feel like it took some pressure off my chest.
Personally I'm not black, I'm chinese, I kinda have the same "problem" with asian girls, sort of.
It's not that I'm not attracted to asian girls, it's just that in average, the features that I like are more likely to be found on european girls. I like slim and tall girls with a pretty face, with long legs, asian girls are shorter in average and usually don't have long legs.
Back to the black girls, I don't want to be branded as a racist, but it's true that even my black friends are having the same "problem" as you. Only some of them are honest about it, some of them hide it. It's NOT about the color of the skin, it's more about features. Most caucasians, asians and even many black guys themselves don't think that the "traditional" african features are attractive: flat and large nose, "pretty rounded" waist and butt, very thick lips etc...
Just look at all the popular black female pop icons, they all do NOT have the "traditional" features: Beyoncé, Halle Berry, Garcelle Beauvais etc...
I think racial self hatred starts when you actually discard girls simply because they are black. Like saying no even before seeing them simply on the fact that they are black.
Obviously it's not your case, so it's all good, it's just that you got specific personal taste.
On the last note: AsianPlayboy's right
ethiopian girls are SO HOT !!!
My best friend in the US is an ethiopian guy, damn, every ethiopian girl he knows is pretty hot. They are sort of like black women with caucasian features
Too bad he's a engineering guy and only knew a few.
Tha Realnezz
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^SO?
We have different cultures & lifetsyles and the issue complexion in the african american community is very,very.......complicated.
It's like if your lighter than a paperback you don't belong.Even among african american this is an issue,especially when it comes to courtship.
I consider myself black but most african americans say I'm not.Sh!t,i have bajan blood flowing through my veins and blacker than most black people and I'm still not considered black.
I don't think what I'm saying is racist nor hateful cuz I've lived through this and deal with it every day.As opposed to watching from a TV screen and the like.
I'm not racist at all please...
We have different cultures & lifetsyles and the issue complexion in the african american community is very,very.......complicated.
It's like if your lighter than a paperback you don't belong.Even among african american this is an issue,especially when it comes to courtship.
I consider myself black but most african americans say I'm not.Sh!t,i have bajan blood flowing through my veins and blacker than most black people and I'm still not considered black.
I don't think what I'm saying is racist nor hateful cuz I've lived through this and deal with it every day.As opposed to watching from a TV screen and the like.
I'm not racist at all please...
Don't always be the one putting yourself out for her. Don't always be the one putting all the effort and work into the relationship. Let her, and expect her, to treat you as well as you treat her, and to improve the quality of your life.
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