Jeffy show notes + Misc Cont'd
DVD 5
When all is said and done
The wisdom of Confucious
"I read and I forget. I see and I remember. I do and I understand." - Confucious
Field experience - DOING IT.
-A method has no soul. You, as the player, must bring soul to the method.
-They are tools, not a blueprint.
-Most pick up is textbook.
--Straight forward, not advanced. People make it more difficult and easier than it is.
-Rules exist so you know when to break them.
The hard road to calibration
-Aim for consistency, not perfection.
-Develop your field intuition.
--What NOT to say, not what to say.
-Be patient. You have your whole life to get good.
Living the life
-Not being a basement dwelling D&D cavetroll
-Women are everywhere.
-Abundance mentality.
The importance of internal value
-As we grow up, we are first ruled by our emotions, then by social rules and values, and finally our code.
-But to truly live by your code and be free, we must first confront our "shadow self" in the darkest corners of our mind.
-Be brutally honest with yourself.
-We condemn most in others that which we most fear in ourselves.
-Listen to your friends.
-An amazing manipulator or an amazing man?
-With great power comes great responsibility.
Ancillary skills add value
-Avoid becoming obsessed with pickup for the exclusion of all other things in your life.
-Being passionate about something is highly attractive.
-Travel
--Gives you perspective, you learn what constitues value in other cultures, helps sherpen your overall field intuition.
-Cycling
-Music
--Singing karaoke, instruments
-Comedy
--Workshops, stand up, Improv
-Cooking
--Nutrition, Quality control, romantic date
-FITNESS
--Health/Internal value issue. Sex is much better.
-Falconry
Overcoming adversity
-"Circumsances do not make a man; they reveal him" - James Allen
-Identity is fluid
-"After enlightenment the laundry."
RECAP
-Bringing soul to the method.
-Calibration
-Lifestyle
-Internal value
-Ancillary skills
-Stepping up and being a man
Be proactive.
Do wanna say on your deathbed that you had a lame life? Or do you wanna look back on your life an say that you had an awesome time? Would you regret? In the end, that's what matters.
Flawless natural notes
What do I do - What do I want?
How can I make this fun?
look at the lips
Im Tim
I thought you were adorable
I thought you looked cool
Hey I need a date tonight - fury -voice
The bubble of love - the roles you set, the balance of Woo and intent, strangers -> good. (I once dated a girl named __) (Blaming her for your lovestruckness - Why do you do this to me?) (Lets get married) (lets have a date) (You can be my new girlfriend for the next 5 minutes) "Dearest" "Honey" "Love" "Dear"
The cherish box of doom - Chrishing in the night, entertain no thoughts of future relationships untill you've had sex with her.
Keeping the bubble alive - the pinball of positivity, net theory,
****hold chicken - state pump, walk up to chicks pretending to hold your schlong, noises etc, turn around and keep talking to ur buds.
Cyclone of glory - Spinn inn som en cyclone. "Check out the cyclone."
The claw -
The keylock of glory
The double-legged claw - løft opp og ta beina rundt deg.
10 to 2 rythm - 10-11 (50-50, talk, chill), 12-12:30-2 (magical window, more intent)
Harmony win,win
Randomness - gi navn til folka du er med - the juggernaut - "Have you seen the cyclone?"
"Put your number in, maybe we can hang out sometime."
TEXT - "Your my new sms GF for the next 5 mins", 5 min later "Awww.
Now we are broken up, its not you its me. Was fun though." , "Awww. Now I kinda miss you. We should hang out - Butj ust as friends, cause now we've broken up" - Last resorts: "Your ****", "What are you wearing?", "I miss you", "How else am I supposed to get you on the phone",
Ecosystem - free time - positive, chill, fun. Club, cafe, home. Club - frequent a club, bouncer, bar girl -"how's your night going". Cafe - daytime spot. Home - nickname.
Notebook to carry, visionboard, give nicknames to stuff,
Action rules - Wooo!, clap, approach first girl
Spinn inn som en cyclone
meet everyone in the group. -cheerleaders -I thought she was cute, I just had to meet her.
DANCEFLOOR -Rett inn, spin, inn -1sek.
"Adventure, time to go"
"I choose you." -start, midway. <--
voice
Talk from diagphram
Talk through back of your throat
punctuate
Volume knob - talk through -picture her 1-3 meters behind.
Body language, tone
-trying for rapport - light tone, curling up
-Neutral rapport - neutral
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-Breaking rapport - curves down, fury
Some Blueprint notes
Most people take an outside-in approach to self-development. They learn tactics and routines to create attraction. Using tactics is like drawing a 6-pack on a flabby belly - it is a thin veneer that masks the crucial issues found on the inside. The outside-in approach is a shell over the old self - nothing internal changes, despite having success.
When we hold a certain belief, we continually find evidence to support that belief. We put up blind spots to prevent anything that falls outside of our belief system from seeping in. This phenomenon not only applies to placing women on a pedestal, but to every limiting belief you may possess.
Social Conditioning (ego) --> Authenticity (self esteem)
What is a chode?
A guy who doesn’t have his own sense of values, lacks a self-defined identity, and cares what other people think of him. A chode believes he has to run the grind of social conditioning in order to “get ahead” in life. A chode believes he must take women out on dates and lavish her with gifts before having sex.
1st Principle: “Most people in the world walk through life in a walking daze.”
- Do not have a concept of their own values
- Do not have a concept of who they are
- Do not know what they want out of life
- Influenced by other people (who may or may not know what they want out of life)
What do most guys think will get them girls?
*Money* -
Rich Client, No Success
* Not only is this guy a chode, but he has an ego based around his wealth
* He has a big image to live up to and he cannot!
* “Ohh, what time is it?” [Flashing the Rolex]
- Seriously, women find this beyond unattractive -- it is supplication at its finest
Rich Client, With Success
* The client brings a girl back to his mansion, and when it was “let’s go hook up,” it suddenly becomes “I don’t have one night stands! I’m a dating girl…”
*Romance*
I think of romance as social conditioning due to your parents. Most of my friends that take the romantic approach were raised to buy girls flowers and chocolates before a date. This approach will work, but only if the girl wants you so badly that she is intimidated by you. The problem with romance is it is based on a set of rules. It can work - maybe you will hook up after date 3…or maybe month 3.
*Commonalities*
When I go out in the club, I talk 90% of the time for the first 10 minutes. Brad calls it vomiting. I spit out whatever is on my mind, and usually, something hits.
*Friendship first*
Where does social conditioning come from?
- Parents
- Work
- Friends
- Religion
- Society
- The movies
- Music
- T.V.
- Advertising
Social conditioning is constantly coming at you from all directions!
You must learn to always think for yourself - don’t look at what society is telling you. Make decisions based on your own experience. Ultimately, you have to try for yourself.
Starting Strength by Rippetoe (highly recommended) http://startingstrength.wikia.com/wiki/Starting_Strength_Wiki
Practical Programming Novice Program
Monday
3x5 Squat
3x5 Bench press / Press (Alternating)
Chin-ups: 3 sets to failure or add weight if completing more than 15 reps
Wednesday
3x5 Squat
3x5 Press / Bench Press (Alternating)
1x5 Deadlift
Friday
3x5 Squat
3x5 Bench Press / Press (Alternating)
Pull-ups: 3 sets to failure or add weight if completing more than 15 reps
So there's some of the random stuff I found on my computer that I thought would be nice to share
