nonchalant: The Approach Journal

[The Phoenix]

Yo NC
Did your Chipottle Sarge stung?
Awesome dude, think of it this way:
You know when you start lifting weights to get stronger and the day after your muscles hurt because you teared tissue and it is recovering and getting building more muscle fibers/
That is what bodybuilders shoot for, that pain that lets them know they stretched to the max and the muscle was worked out enough to the point of requiring more growth

That is what you are essencially doing to your character, and as you keep getting rejected you kep on growing stronger and stronger. Closing successes are sweet but they don't give you the character groth of a rejection, only rejections help your character stronger.
Closing successes are only the by-product of a strong character (the pook that makes u an alpha- not fearing failure)

I am envious, though I don't enjoy them that much I need rejections too else I'll start lagging.

Sarge on brother!!

 

[DJ_in_making]

^^^good analogy phoenix^^^


good entries nonchalant, its written in a really organized manner and its pretty fun to read. Also, try to make your convos less interrogative, too many questions on your part and too many 1-worded answers on her part makes you appear try-hard.

 

[resilient]

Wow you're approaching pretty fast nonchalant. I'll catch up with this thread and leave some feedback later.

 

[Vulpine]

Yo NC
Did your Chipottle Sarge stung?
Awesome dude, think of it this way:
You know when you start lifting weights to get stronger and the day after your muscles hurt because you teared tissue and it is recovering and getting building more muscle fibers/
That is what bodybuilders shoot for, that pain that lets them know they stretched to the max and the muscle was worked out enough to the point of requiring more growth

That is what you are essencially doing to your character, and as you keep getting rejected you kep on growing stronger and stronger. Closing successes are sweet but they don't give you the character groth of a rejection, only rejections help your character stronger.
Closing successes are only the by-product of a strong character (the pook that makes u an alpha- not fearing failure)

I am envious, though I don't enjoy them that much I need rejections too else I'll start lagging.

Sarge on brother!!

This IS an awesome analogy.

 

[Blackdragon5095]

Yo NC
Did your Chipottle Sarge stung?
Awesome dude, think of it this way:
You know when you start lifting weights to get stronger and the day after your muscles hurt because you teared tissue and it is recovering and getting building more muscle fibers/
That is what bodybuilders shoot for, that pain that lets them know they stretched to the max and the muscle was worked out enough to the point of requiring more growth

That is what you are essencially doing to your character, and as you keep getting rejected you kep on growing stronger and stronger. Closing successes are sweet but they don't give you the character groth of a rejection, only rejections help your character stronger.
Closing successes are only the by-product of a strong character (the pook that makes u an alpha- not fearing failure)

I am envious, though I don't enjoy them that much I need rejections too else I'll start lagging.

Sarge on brother!!

Good stuff Going into the journal tips.

 

[nonchalant]

Date: June 30, 2006

Location: Hyde Park, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I tried to open a female cop. She was short and stocky, I couldn't see her face very well due to her hat and her dark glasses, but her booty was looking solid. Brunette, about a 7 from what I could tell. Pretty good for a female in her profession. I spotted her behind me in line at the gas station. I figured what the heck.

me: So you guys gonna be busy this weekend?
HBcop: (eyes me warily, like a coiled jungle cat) um, yeah.
me: You going to be working the Taste of Chicago?
HBcop: no.
me: I went last year, that was crazy.
HBcop: Yeah, I try to stay away from there.
me: There were so many people last year, it took forever to walk anywhere.
HBcop: I haven't gone there in years.
me: So you work mainly around here?
HBcop: Yeah Hyde Park mainly. Campus.
...

Set lasted 2 mins max. It's my turn to pay. She goes back into hardass mode. I pussed out and didn't try to close her or anything. Was I really going to ask a cop for her phone number? I guess I could have, but it's a little more intimidating when the target is packing a .357 magnum.

Work on:
SBAP. This wasn't a serious set, but just on principle. SBAP.


Date: June 30, 2006

Location: Ukranian Village, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I'm walking down the street looking for this wine bar where my wine class is being held. I walk past this HB8 short hair blonde girl walking her dog, this huge mean looking thing. I make some EC and smile. She says 'hi' to me first, I say hi back and it's on.

HB8 w dog: hi
me: hi
...
me: Cool dog.
HB8: Thanks.
me: What kind of dog?
HB8: Boxer pit bull mix.
me: Oh cool.
HB8: (dog pulls her around) whoa.
me: hehe strong dog.
HB8: Yeah. He's a sweet heart though.
(dog growls at me)
me: I'll take your word for it.
HB8: He's a sweetheart.
me: So where did you get it?
HB8: Oh I got it from the humane society?
me: Really - I heard that when you get dogs from the humane society sometimes they have psychological or health problems.
HB8: Yeah I heard that, but we haven't had any problems...

-really long set ensues. About 10 minutes. We talked about: dogs, pit bulls, how pit bulls and rots aren't allowed in my apartment building, how much exercise her dog requires, the difference between Ukranian Village and Wicker Park, different places in the city she's lived, restaurants in the area, all kinds of crap. I did 'body rock', and 'time constraints' for the first time ever - 'well I gotta get going soon, late for my class'. I tried to play it off like I was lost too, I don't know why I keep doing the 'excuse me do you know how to get to?' routine.

So I decide to SBAP (stop. being. a. *****.) - and try to close.

me: So, you wanna get some coffee sometime?
HB8: (smiles widely) nah, I don't even like coffee.
(as if it's even about coffee, whatever)
me: Ok. Have a good day.
HB8: bye.
me: bye.

Key points:
Convo was good, some nervous body language but I did manage to position my body so I wasn't directly facing her. Starting to get the nervousness under control.

Work on:
I thought I was getting IOI's from this one, she definitely said hi first and gave me a lot of EC and smiling. Maybe she is living with someone, who knows. I would have done the 'can I play with your dog routine' except her dog was a vicious looking pit bull who was growling at me the whole time. I didn't use a canned opener, should've. I didn't neg, I have a difficult time working negs into the conversation. No C+F. Maybe if I worked it a little more I could have got the close. Closing on the street is tough to work into the convo smoothly.


Date: July 2, 2006

Location: Lincoln Park, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


Aborted, badly planned cold street approach. I should really get my directions straight before attempting the 'excuse me can you tell me how to get to?' routine.

I'm walking to this restaurant and a very hot and milfy HB9 artsy chick, scantily dressed in leopard print, is walking towards me. Step one foot back, put on my casual face, and open.

me: hi
HB9 milf: hi
me: Do you know this place Argo Tea?
HB9: No, never heard of it.
me: yeah I've been walking around looking for it for 20 minutes.
HB9: What street is it on?
me: It's on Armitage. Do you know how to get to Armitage?
HB9: um, we're on Armitage.
me: (looks up) well I'll be.

-I thank her and abort. I look like an idiot. Have to plan this **** out better. She didn't seem very friendly anyways.
28/250

 

[nonchalant]

It's been an interesting weekend so far. Some chick on match.com messaged me, and then started calling me all the time. She wanted to hook up last night but I was already out when I got her call. I have some more approaches to post, including some positive results finally - but I'm still writing them up. This chick is starting to call a lot though, it's a turn off - too bad because I was semi interested a couple of days ago. It seems like an easy hook up though, about an HB6/7. But she seriously might be crazy stalker material.

I just had my second # close and best set yet. Mama mia, hot hot hot girls, 2 HB9's, I want to touch my pee pee just thinking about them. I'm really close to saying - f*ck online game. It's bullshyt. Will post more FR's in a bit.

 

[Thomas94305]

nonchalant.. you doing stylelife? I'm digging into it now. So far, so good.

 

[nonchalant]

nonchalant.. you doing stylelife? I'm digging into it now. So far, so good.

yeah, it is starting to get hardcore. good luck with that bro.

 

[nonchalant]

Date: July 28, 2006

Location: Coffee Shop, Wicker Park, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


This is actually an older approach that I haven't posted yet. utahPlayboy on mASF irc told me 'hired guns do not count!'. perd on mASF irc told me that this one counts, so I don't know who to believe. I did not know that this was a carved in stone rule, so I will post this approach and not post my hired gun approaches anymore, unless I lay them or they're HB strippers.

I walk up to the counter at this coffee shop and order a large decaf. There is an HB7 metal chick with a lip piercing at the counter, looking bored out of her skull. She starts pouring the coffee into a ceramic mug. I decide to try to replicate my 7-11 chick pickup routine on her - I smile mischievously and hold EC for an unnaturally long time. She smiles at me and eventually looks down. It is working again.

me: Oh, can I get it in a paper cup?
HB7 metal chick: Yeah sure. (smiling)
me: I usually get it in a to go glass so you guys don't have to wash dishes later.
HB7: It's no big deal, we're really slow today.
me: (it's a new place, just opened) How's business been?
HB7: It's been really slow.
me: Hey those are awesome tattoos.
HB7: Aw thanks. I drew them myself.
me: Yeah they're traditional but they're still unique. So you do tattoos?
HB7: No I got them at XXX - there's this chick there name XXX that does good work.
me: What's that one. (pointing, kino)
HB7: Oh that one was messed up - there's blurring here. I'm going to get it covered up.
me: What are you going to put there?
HB7: I want to cover it up with this design - (she pulls out a sketchbook with some type of tribal sh*t)
me: You going to the same place?
HB7: No I'm going to the Tattoo Factory in Uptown.
me: That's close to me - did you see they moved?
HB7: Yeah, their new location is a lot nicer.
me: Yeah their old place looked really seedy. I was looking for tattoo shops online, and theirs had the best artwork.
HB7: Yeah check out XXX. She's really good.
HB7: What are you going to get?
me: You know that group Led Zeppelin? I'm going to get that guy with wings done with a lot of detail and color on my back, or arm maybe.
HB7: That sounds nice.

-convo continues: about how sometimes band tattoos are a bad idea, my friend who got a Pearl Jam tattoo on his calf and now regrets it, how her ex got a Sepultura tattoo on his stomach. I made her laugh a couple times. I detach, drink my coffee and surf the internet a little. I come back to the counter about an hour later and order some food.

I start talking to her about how I am going around trying out all of the coffee shops in the city with free wireless internet, and how theirs is by far the best, smoothest coffee - it's actually the truth and not a line. Then I start asking her about the vegetarian menu, and about their vegetarian breads and how they make them. She offers me samples of their pastries. I start talking about her lip piercings. I find out that she is part owner or mangager (something like that?) of the place.

I get my food and hang out for a while, surfing the internet. A half hour or so later I decide to leave and walk up to the counter again on my way out. I tell her that the food was excellent and that I thoroughly enjoyed it there. She asks my name. "Hi I'm nonchalant", we shake hands. "I'm HB7 metal chick". This is where I should have SBAP'd. She gives me an IOI: "I hope to see you back here again". I'll be back. As I'm walking out the door she calls out "byeeee" fairly loudly.

Key points:
Convo was fairly natural, hardly any nervousness. Probably due mostly to the hired gun factor and the fact we were talking about things that were dear to my heart - namely, tattoos, bands, and coffee. I am learning the value of cutting a set off at a high point, then returning to it later on to build it up even more. Good use of kino. Good body language, good DHV.

Work on:
SBAP. I did not SBAP, mainly because I'm fairly sure I have found my favorite wireless coffee shop (and my favorite coffee shop barrista), and at the time I was thinking I didn't want to mess that up. I'm kind of regretting the lack of SBAP. If I got dogged then I would have a hard time going back there, and I want to go back there again. I have been thinking about how I'm going to go back and either a) work this HB again and SBAP or b) work her again and make her my pivot so that I can take dates there and have social proof. Still I deserve to be chastised for my lack of SBAP. No negs, not very much C+F.


Date: July 2, 2006

Location: Gas Station, Lakeview, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I wake up, throw on a hat, and drive down to the gas station on my way to the gym, to grab a cup of coffee and fill up the tank. When I get there, I find out that they are out of coffee and all they have is the stuff in the capuccino machines. There are 8 flavors of capuccino, I'm standing there trying to decide which one to get - I choose the one that says 'extra caffeine'. I notice that there is an HB7 blonde behind me, waiting for me to finish filling up my cup. I turn around, smile and try to get some EC.

me: hi
HB7: (smiles)

I finish filling up my cup and walk over to where the sugar is. She starts filling up her cup.

me: Hi.
(she turns around)
me: Do you have to put sugar in these?
HB7: No. They're pretty sweet.
me: Yeah. I've never gotten these before.

I was about to ask her if she's ever gotten the Horchata flavor when some dude walks up and starts talking to her. I abort.

Work on:
It was early, I looked like sh*t. I guess I could have 'engaged the group' and been like 'so how do you two know each other?' but I didn't feel like it.


Date: July 2, 2006

Location: Lakeview, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I was out running, I'm walking now during my cool down phase. A little up the sidewalk an HB7 black hottie with a huge afro is walking towards me. I look like sh*t and am sweating bullets. Not my best look, but I figure maybe she is turned on by male sweat. I was wrong.

me: hi (definitely loud enough to hear, even with all the traffic going by)
HB7 black chick: (no EC, keeps walking)

Some drunk dudes in a Camaro drive by, blasting the hip hop. They shout some sh*t to me because they saw me say hi to her. I realize that they were probably shouting sh*t out the window to the HB7 when she was up the street a little bit. I hear them start to shout sh*t at her behind me. So these dudes ruined it for me.

Another brick in my castle.

31/250

 

[nonchalant]

Date: July 2, 2006

Location: Lincoln Park, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I am informed that the wireless network at the internet coffee shop that I'm at is not working, but that I should be able to 'steal' wireless from one of the neighboring stores and apartment buildings. I take a seat and try to finagle a wireless connection from some of the ones listed in my airport display. All of them seem to be either impossible to connect to, or WEP password protected. After a couple minutes of this, I look across the small room and notice 2 HB9 brunettes - 1 taller one with a banging body with a mac laptop and 1 with cat eye glasses with awesome legs with a windows laptop. I yell across the room to them and it begins.

me: Hey are you guys getting a connection?
HB9 windows: yeah, I got one.
HB9 mac: Well I did have one, but now it's not working?
me: Which network are you guys using? I've tried them all I think.
Both: default.
me: Really? I'm not seeing 'default'? How did you get it?
HB9 mac: You have to enter it under 'other'.
(HB9 mac comes over, sits next to me, and fiddles around with my airport connection on my laptop, manually typing in 'default' under 'other', it seems to connect)
me: Ah, a hacker!
HB9 mac: (giggles)
me: Thanks.
HB9 mac: no problem. (goes back, sits down with her friend, they start talking about something or other)

I start trying to bring up websites in a browser, and all my connections time out.

me: (to HB9 mac) Hey it's not working again.
HB9 mac: It just came back for me.
me: Really? Maybe it's where I'm at.
I move to a table closer to them, making sure that I'm not directly facing them like I previously was.

me: (fiddles around with airport settings again) Now it's working.
HB9 mac: Yeah, now mine just went out! (laughs)

I pretend to work again, I put my headphones on and type some stuff out. The HB's are talking about how hotmail sucks, and how one of them has 357 spam messages.

me: So you guys know of any other wireless coffee shops? I really have to send this email out.
HB9 windows: Well...
me: I usually go to this one coffee shop but their connection was out, so I went here instead!
HB's: (laugh)
HB9 windows: We're not from around here.
me: Oh yeah? You guys in town for Taste of Chicago?
HBs: no. hehe.
me: Yeah I was going to go this year, but it's too crazy. So many people last year.
HB9 mac: Yeah we weren't planning on going.
me: So where you guys from?
HB9 windows: We're from the western suburbs - Northbrook.
me: Oh really? I've been there. That's a pretty cool town.
HB9 mac: It's boring!
HB9 windows: Do you live around here?
me: No I live more in the Lakeview area.
HB9 mac: Cool.
me: What are you guys doing, shopping or something?
HB9 windows: Well we have a friend that lives around here. She's in a nursing program at DePaul.
me: Is that where you guys went?
HB9 windows: No I went to Wash U.
me: (to HB9 mac) What about you?
HB9 mac: I went to U W Madison.
me: Ah, that's cool.
(They notice my 'Northwestern' shirt)
HB9 windows: So you go to Northwestern?
me: No I just graduated. I got my Master's there. It's just a shirt.
HB9 windows: Really? What did you study?

..... long convo ensues. We talk about schools, how HB9 windows was a Bio Chemical Engineering major and just got a job in Phoenix. We talk about Phoenix, how HB9 mac will probably visit her a lot there. How HB9 mac was a journalism major and is currently unemployed, and how you're allowed to slack the first couple of years after college. I should have given them the best friends test, I wasn't thinking.

HB9 windows: So what do you do?
me: I'm a software engineer.
HB9 mac: So you're the hacker!
me: hehe, yeah I was just being facetious.

I detach for a while, and pretend like I'm doing work. They start talking about soccer, I cut into their convo and talk about Germany and Argentina. I detach again and pretend to do work. They start talking about how HB9 mac needs renter's insurance for apartment. I had just gotten homeowner's insurance last year and I advised them to see if they can get a package deal on renter's insurance from the same company they get their car insurance from. DHV = 'homeowner's' insurance.

I detach again. They start talking about their nursing student friend. I've been there for an hour at this point talking to them, and I decide to leave before they do.

me: So where have you guys gone this weekend? Know of any cool clubs?
HB9 mac: We went to Soundbar.
me: Oh I went to Spybar a couple weeks ago - that's right across the street. How's Soundbar?
HB9 windows: It was crowded, a friend had a party there and put us on the list.
me: Cool. Hey I'm going to be at a club tonight, you guys want me to put you on the list?
(they look at each other)
HB9 windows: Yeah cool.
me: So how can I get hold of you?
(they look at each other)
HB9 mac: Well you can call us.
me: Cool, can you call my cell phone so I can save your number?
(she calls me, I save her number)
me: Well I have to go, I'm late. Nice meeting you. I'm nonchalant.
(We shake hands)
HB9 windows: I'm HB9 windows.
HB9 mac: I'm HB9 mac.
me: Cool, I'll call you later (looking at HB9 mac, the really hot one, although they're both totally smoking)
HB's: (as I'm walking out) byeeee

Halfway down the block, my heart is racing. I stop and call my wing and tell him we have to set up some type of guest list at a club. I walk a little more, my heart has stopped pounding in my chest a little. A little more down the block I look in a shop window and smile at my reflection in the glass, and I say to myself "Way to go, pick up artist".

Key points:
Almost no nervousness in this one. Good positioning of myself perpendicular to them. Good voice projection, body language. Use of DHV's. I'm going to keep using the "how can I get hold of you" close. Works awesome.

Work on:
No negs. I have a hard time working these in, probably because I'm a nice guy by nature.

32/250

 

[nonchalant]

Date: July 3, 2006

Location: Gym, Lakeview, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I was using the squat machine at the gym when this happened. I turn to the HB6 latina chica who is using the leg curl machine next to me and open.

me: Hi, how is that leg curl machine different from the seated one?
HB6: (she mumbles something. The only things I can make out are 'they're the same')
me: Well I noticed that you were using both - is this one better?
HB6: (she mumbles something. The only things I can make out are 'they're the same')

I realize that she doesn't speak very good English. Maybe she knows enough to keep the set going, I continue.

me: So you are doing both leg curls? That's a lot!
HB6: (she mumbles something. The only things I can make out are 'they're the same' and 'they're good')
me: How many sets do you do?
HB6: 5.
me: Wow that's a lot! I only do 3 sets of 10.
HB6: (she mumbles something. The only things I can make out are 'they're the same' and 'they're good')

We're both getting frustrated by the language barrier. I abandon this set due to language problems.

Work on:
nothing to be done about this shiat.

33/250

 

[nonchalant]

The following approaches were done as part of my Day 4 assignment for this boot camp type thing I'm doing called 'The Style Life Challenge', hosted by Style. The Style Life Challenge Day 4 assignment involves approaching attractive women and asking them to recommend a cool clothing store.



Date: July 4, 2006

Location: Urban Outfitters, Lincoln Park, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I walk up to an HB8 blonde looking at t shirts and delivered my canned opener.

me: Hi, I wanted to get your opinion on something?
HB8 blonde: yeah?
me: I have a friend coming into town and she wanted me to take her shopping. I was wondering if you could tell me if there are any cool stores in the area, like this place, but for women?
HB8: Well um. There's that store across the street, I was just there.
me: Cool what's it's called?
HB8: Not sure.
me: Are you familiar with the Lakeview area?
HB8: Yeah why?
me: You know any cool women's stores around there?

Some dude comes up and stands next to her. HB8 look at the dude and asks:
HB8: Honey do you know of any cool stores for women?
Dude: No we're kind of new around here.

I thanks them and detach.

Work on:
I was pretty nervous here, delivering a new canned opener, body language probably wasn't that great. I wuss out whenever there's a dude involved, these guys looked like they were married though. There were a couple of open sets, but I felt so nervous that I walk out of the store without opening them, I should have. It would have probably calmed me down.


Date: July 4, 2006

Location: Used clothing store, Wrigleyville, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


Outside of this used clothing store, I walk up to an HB7 brunette and was about to open her, but I wuss out at the last minute. I catch her giving me a weird look. I walk into the store and look around a little. I walk up to an HB8 blonde hottie looking at sunglasses and deliver my canned opener.

me: Hi.
HB8: hi.
me: I just wanted to get a quick opinion.
HB8: yeah
me: You look like someone who knows where all the cool stores are.
HB8: (eyes light up, smiles widely)
me: I have a friend coming into town and they asked me to take them shopping at the cool thrift shops, do you know any?
HB8: No (smiles) we're not from around here.
me: Where you from?
HB8: Naperville.

I start gaming her, talking about the usual - what you in town for? Naperville? cool!, etc. Man, I had her smiling, or maybe she is just a naturally happy person. But then the HB7 brunette I didn't open outside comes up and says something to her, so I thank her, and detach.

Work on:
I should have stayed in the set, it was a split second decision, I got a little nervous because the HB7 friend interrupted, but I should have pushed on. SBAP. This canned opener is *awesome* - I'm going to use it all the time at thrift shops, and I'm going to adapt it to stores at the mall too.


Date: July 4, 2006

Location: Head shop/bondage shop/clothing store, Wrigleyville, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I spot the winner for today - this HB9 brunette rocker chick, as I'm flipping through posters at this one shop called the 'Alley'. I was about to turn around and open her, when her long hair boyfriend comes up to her and starts talking to her. So I walk around the store and look at stuff a little more. I'm looking at little buddhist statues and bongs when I spot the HB9 brunette rocker chick by herself again, looking at miniature japanese plants.

me: Hi I just wanted to get a quick opinion on something?
HB9 rocker: hi yeah?
me: You look like someone who knows where all the cool stores are.
HB9: (eyes light up, smiles widely - they love that line) yeah?
me: I have a friend coming into town - he asked me to take him shopping at the cool thrift shops. You know of any?
HB9: (launches into a *long* spiel about all the cool thrift shops in the area, including which stores are the most expensive, while I nod and pretend to take mental notes about all the different stores and where they're located, stopping her at various points to ask her to give specific directions)

It was then that I notice the long hair cro magnon boyfriend standing behind, me, glaring at me. I thank her, and abandon set due to boyfriend intervention. I was vibing her. If she was alone I would have continued the set.

Key points:
Good smile, EC, body language. Nervousness under control.

Work on:
No negs, DHV, C+F. I didn't think of these things as I was in the set. I am working on a cheat sheet right now, should probably practice a little by myself before I go sarging to get these things down. It really helps to have a set routine, although I find the situational opener better in daytime sarging situations.


Date: July 4, 2006

Location: Used clothing store, Wrigleyville, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I'm at another thrift shop when I spot a 2 set - HB6 brunette with a shaved head, HB6 with long hair, altogether borderline in looks, but I had to finish this day's assignment, so I decide to open them.

me: Hi
HB's: hi
me: I just wanted to get a quick opinion on something?
HB's: yeah?
me: You guys look like you know all the cool thrift shops in the area.
HB's: (eyes light up, smile widely - goddamn, this opener is awesome)
me: I have a friend coming in from out of town, she asked me to take her shopping at the cool thrift stores. You guys know of any? I only know this one because I drive past it all the time.
HB's: Ohhh yeahhh. well there's blah blah blah up the street on Belmont. In fact Belmont has all the really good blah blah, and there's also one in Hollywood Square.
me: So this one is the best? Where's Hollywood Square?
HB's: well blah blah blah and it's up on blah blah and blah ...

5 minute set, man they were smiling. They loved me at the end of the set, I could have stayed in the set gamed them, but to be honest - looks were marginal, and they were possibly giving off the lesbo vibe. I was tired from walking around all afternoon anyway, so I detach.

Key points:
Not nervous during this set, great voice projection, body language, EC, smiling.

Work on:
No C+F, no negs. Wasn't really an opportunity in this situation.

Recommended clothing stores: thrift stores in the Belmont/Clark area

37/250

 

[nonchalant]

Date: July 4, 2006

Location: Walgreens pharmacy, Lincoln Park, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I needed one more approach for the Style challenge day 4 assignment. I picked a 2 set of HB6 middle age russian ladies at the pharmacy and ran the 'clothing store recommendation' game on them. They were not from the area and had no recommendations.

38/250

 

[nonchalant]

I'm not going to count this one.

 

[nonchalant]

F*ck it, I'm counting it. I basically opened up an UG. It was a good set, and I didn't notice the UG-ness until I was already into the set.

39/250

 

[nonchalant]

Date: July 5, 2006

Location: Mall, Skokie, IL

Solo Sarge


I decided to go to the mall after work and try to work the 'can you recommend me cool clothes stores' on some chicas. My first victim was an HB7 asian that I was standing in line next to at the food court. There is some dude standing next to her who I thought might have been talking to her, possibly her boyfriend. I pay for my food, and decide, boyfriend shmoyfriend, I'm gonna open this little honey.

me: Hi, can I get your opinion on something?
HB7 asian: yeah?
me: You look like you know a lot about fashion -
HB7: (gives me this skeptical look, she's wearing a t shirt and jeans and sandals)
me: I have this friend coming in from out of town, he's from Utah, and he's pretty fashion illiterate. He asked me to take him shopping. What stores do you recommend?
HB7: (eyes don't really light up, this routine doesn't really transfer to the mall, seems forced at the mall, maybe it's my wording) Oh I like Abecrombie. (I notice the dude next to her has bleached hair and is decked out in Abecrombie)
me: Oh yeah he needs a suit - any places that sell formal wear you'd recommend?
HB7: blah blah blah (I don't catch much of this, I try to play along and pretend to take mental notes - I do catch 'Benetton' and 'Bloomingdales')

We vibe a little about stores in the mall, I ask if she likes any other malls, she asks me where I'm from, we talk about Skokie and some of the suburbs around there. I can tell by her smirking expression she knows I'm hitting on her. They give us our food. The dude is really her boyfriend, I notice he's carrying her tray. I get boyfriend anxiety, thank her and eject.

Another brick in my castle. I walk away, the boyfriend is looking at me funny. I don't even care anymore. I actually think it's funny when I wind up hitting on some dude's girlfriend in front of him.


Date: July 5, 2006

Location: Mall, Skokie, IL

Solo Sarge


I'm walking into Bloomingdales and there's a 2 set walking in at the same time - HB9 blonde with a half shirt and a kicking body, and her, er, friend who is basically a 4. I open the door for them, they say 'thanks' and give me EC. I open.

me: Hi guys, can I get your opinion on something?
Both: yeah?
me: You guys look like you know a lot about shopping.
(I don't get the enthusiastic looks and smiling like I did at the thrift stores yesterday - but I notice the hottie is giving me EC and checking me out)
me: I have a friend coming into town this week - he's from Utah. He asked me to take him shopping - what stores do you guys recommend that sell men's clothes?
HB and friend: Oh Nordstroms.
me: Is that in this mall?
HB9: yeah it's on the other end of the mall.
me: (tired from walking) oh. What other stores? He needs to buy a suit for a job interview.
friend: There's this store...
me: yeah, Bloomingdale's is a little over his price range.
friend: There's also Marshall Fields.
me: What brands do you guys like?
Both: blah blah (I notice the cosmetic counter lady looking at us)
me: Hey do you guys know any other malls close to here?
HB9: There's not any close, other than Woodfield.
me: Oh Woodfield is far right? You have to get on 94 and go through the toll road.
friend: There's also Oakbrook mall.
me: How do you get there?
both: blah blah blah

I vibe them like this for a few minutes. The HB blonde is so hot. I did not try to close, it was a botched set. I was not thinking: open -> negs -> dhv -> C+F - > comfort and rapport -> isolate -> close. I did not know how to transition from the stupid 'clothing recommendation opener', mainly because I didn't want to neg the friend since she probably already had LSE anyway, and I couldn't pick anything out to neg the HB about. I should have just picked something, anything. I thank them and detach.

Key points:
AA is pretty much gone. I have to focus on the technique now. As with the other set - good EC, good voice, good body language (did a lot of arm gestures with this set, I found it helps keep me from fidgeting or folding my hands and going into a low value position). HB was so hot, goddamnit. I should have continued this set. I'm coming up with a cheat sheet and game plan, I'm giving myself a deadline of tonight to finish it and I'm going to stick with a structure from now on in my approaches.

41/250

 

[nonchalant]

This is for 'The Style Life Challenge' day 7. Assignment is to approach 5 times using a canned opener from the list generated by the challenge participants.


Date: July 7, 2006

Location: Cafe, Wicker Park, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I am at my wine tasting class. The class is done, and the group is mingling and about to leave. On the way out I ask the group - mixed group of 7 people, including 4 girls, only one of which is even close to being an HB. I don't know these people.

me: Guys, I just wanted to get your opinion real quick. Me and my friends were having a debate and I just wanted to get your help?

...

me: Dogs or cats - which makes better pets and why?

This leads to more discussion, we wind up fluffing for a few extra minutes.


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Date: July 7, 2006

Location: Various bars and clubs, Wicker Park, Chicago, IL

Players: me + 1 wing


Summary of a night out clubbing with my buddy, an rAFC.

I'm finally approaching at the bars, and using canned openers too. I am so into this stylelife challenge thing, that I forced myself to approach even though I am still pretty intimidated by the bars, to make it easier on myself I didn't put any pressure on myself to try to close - although at least a couple of them were pretty damn good sets and definitely closeable. I know, SBAP. I have this huge block when it comes to club game so I was just trying to overcome my AA at the bars.

APPROACH 1:
I'm at this wireless coffee shop/bar type place, waiting for my wing, when I open this HB8 brunette chick who was sitting next to me reading, with 'Hi, can you watch my laptop please? I have to go to the bathroom (pause) don't steal it!!!(wink)" After that, she loved me. Lots of EC, I wait a few minutes and try the 2 part jealous girlfriend opener on her. This girl is pretty cute, she is hooked. We vibe on the opener for a while, but I am not able to transition into a2 with either a neg or dhv. Later on I get a lot of smiles and EC, but my friend is there asking me about stuff on my laptop. She winds up leaving and saying bye to me before she leaves. I liked this girl a lot, so cute. I'm going to regret not being able to transition to a2 with this girl - I think a part of me is too nice, making it hard for me to neg. I did dhv by letting slip various details about my job and condo, though, during my convo with my friend. I felt really energized after this though - my first approach at a bar.

APPROACH 2:
We're walking to a bar down the street and a Jewish looking HB7 cutie is getting out of her car. She looks at me and says 'hi'. So I go in for the kill. I open her with the 'career opportunities' opener:

me: Hi. Can I get a quick opinion on something?
...
me: My friends and I were having a debate, and I was wondering if I could get your help. If you could work at a job that you find really fascinating, or another job that you find boring, which would you choose and why?

We actually wind up walking down the street with her and her friends for a few blocks, I am vibing her about jobs (she's in pharmaceutical sales and is a realtor part time) and the real estate market, which I'm actually quite interested in. My friend's jaw is on the floor, he can't believe my game.

Here is where I am a ***** though: We arrive at our destination. It is the bar that I avoid since I have had my worst night sarge night at this bar, it is a real meat market, real crowded and loud with a lot of AMOG's. I decide not to go into this bar with her, and tell her we were supposed to meet our friends down the street, even though she wanted us to go in the bar with her. We detach. I did not neg, but I was CF with her. Definitely vibing this girl, I don't know why I have such a complex about this one bar - I told my friend one of these nights we should go to this bar and stay there until we have at least 10 approaches. I have to get over my superstition about this bar, as it is filled with babes usually. Really good voice, body language, dhv's with this girl though.

APPROACH 3:
I stopped a 2 set of HB8 blondes on the street and ask them 'Hi can I get a quick opinion on something? Flossing - before or after you brush?'. They were walking the opposite way, and we were at a crowded cross street, not much to note about this one.

APPROACH 4:
I approach a 3 set of extremely hot sorostitute types - HB9s all the way - 2 blondes and an asian. I open with 'Flossing - before or after you brush'. Hottest girls of the night, they even hooked - they asked me and my wing where the cool bars are. Unable to transition into a2 with them - mental note to get my negs and dhv's ready, it's really hard to think of them on the spot.


46/250

 

[nonchalant]

This is for 'The Style Life Challenge' day 8. Assignment is to approach 5 times using a canned opener from the list generated by the challenge participants.


Date: July 8, 2006

Location: Bookstore, Uptown, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


What I thought would be an easy warm up set, turned out pretty crappy. Huge biatch shield on this one, especially for an HB6 at best. Possible lesbo. I approach an HB6 black girl sitting on a couch reading magazines and ask her if she's read any good books lately. That was supposed to be a sort of 'pre opener' leading to fluff talk, leading to me delivering a canned opener. She gives me a biatch look and points to the stack of books next to her, then ignores me. I persist. She gives me one word answers to my questions. I detach. Whatever biatch. You're just another brick in my palace.


Date: July 8, 2006

Location: Heavy metal rock festival + Nightclub, Wrigleyville, Chicago, IL

Players: me + 2 wings


Another night out sarging. I'm becoming comfortable approaching during club game. We're out last night at the Cabaret Metro, which is a big concert venue in Chicago. We're here for the Emergenza festival, sort of a rock festival for up and coming metal bands. One of the sets took place at this nightclub called 'Smart Bar', which is attached to the Metro - if you buy tickets to a concert at the Metro like we did, you can come and go at will to this nightclub.

This venue was filled *to the brim* with hot hot hot rock and roll HB's, which was a shame because it actually turned out to be a horrible place to sarge - too loud, couldn't hear what anybody was saying, too dark, people were too preoccupied looking at the stage, hot and sweaty atmosphere, so I looked like sh*t too. I'm just there to rack up my approaches anyways.

APPROACH 1:
I yell something out to a group of HB's in line for drinks/food. I think I asked them what type of wine they were drinking. They totally ignored me and kept walking.

APPROACH 2:
I am out clubbing again with the **** blocking wing who cut into a really good set last time and started gaming my target. I approached a 2 set of HB8.5's, blonde and brunette, and lay the 'Can I get your opinion on something? My friends and I were having a debate and I was wondering if I could get your help? If you could work at a job you found fascinating, or another job that you found boring but paid twice as much, which would you take and why?' opener on them. I am in the middle of a2, vibing them, looking for openings to neg and dhv, when my wing cuts in and *stands in front of me and the targets* and starts giving them the 'best friends test'.

I hit the roof - this guy ruined two really good sets for me the last time we went out. He is in the middle of giving them the 'core values' test when I pull him aside and give him a big lecture about 'wingman rules'. He apologizes profusely but by that point the set is blown.

APPROACH 3:
We're at the nightclub, on the dance floor. My wing is trying to give me dancing lessons, we look really funny I bet. I notice an HB7 brunette sullen chick standing off to the side and try to open her with the jealous girlfriend 2 part opener.

me: Hi- can I get a quick opinion on something?
HB7: yeh
me: I'm trying to give my other friend advice on a relationship issue, I'm not really qualified to give advice in this area since I'm a guy - I was wondering if I could ask your help?
HB7: I'm the wrong person to ask for help.
me: My friend is going out with this girl, she's a bit of the jealous type. My friend is still friends with his ex, he talks to her still, and now his girlfriend is telling him he can't talk to his ex anymore.
HB7: Like I told you, I'm the wrong person to ask about relationships. I was with this guy for 2 years and he totally f*cked me over.
(I try to neg her here - sort of a weak neg. I do the 'hey you got something on your face' one.)

I should have transitioned to another opener here, but instead I run the jealous girlfriend 2 part opener into the ground here. I ask her a whole bunch of questions about how her ex f*cked her over and why. She winds up getting really sullen and bitter - I realize that she arrived there with a group of people standing off to our side and that the guy who f*cked her over is probably in that group. I have ruined the mood - brought her down instead of bringing her up. She is angry and sullen now, I detach. My first use of negs, still lousy at it though. No CF, body language and voice projection were weak. Loud clubs will continue to daunt me unless I take care of the voice projection thing.


Date: July 8, 2006

Location: All night diner, Wrigleyville, Chicago, IL

Players: me + wing


Me and my buddy are eating at this all night diner, talking about how the metal concert was a lousy place to approach, and discussing game. I have to get one more approach for the style life challenge, so I turn to an HB7 blonde that is getting up from the table next to us and open her with 'flossing - before or after you brush?' She laughs, so does the rest of her table. I did not persist because at that point in the night I was mentally wiped out.

51/250

 

[nonchalant]

This is for 'The Style Life Challenge' day 9. Assignment is to approach 3 times using a canned opener from the list generated by the challenge participants. The sets should be mixed guy/girl.

I hate mixed sets. Definitely one of my sticking points. I did 3 really crappy approaches today, just to stay in the challenge. Not proud of these, but honestly I didn't run into any HB's in mixed sets today, and I just wanted to get these done. Women involved in these sets were HB's only by the wildest stretch of the imagination.

Date: July 9, 2006

Location: Grocery store, Lakeview, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


APPROACH 1:
I walk up to a latino family - young father, young mother, little kid about 4-5, baby in a stroller, and a mother in law. I approach because the mom is an HB and from far away she looked like she could have been the teenage daughter of the family. I open with 'could I get a quick opinion on something? my friends and i were having a debate and I wanted to get your opinion. Dogs or cats - which make better pets?' The little boy loves it, he says dogs. I follow it up with 'This is a two part question? Do you think it's feminine for a guy to have a cat, and do you think it's masculine for a girl to have a large dog like a pit bull?' They answer me, I couldn't tell you what their responses were. The mom dad and mother in law were looking at me like I'm insane.

APPROACH 2:
I do a quick approach of a nice looking short guy and his girl in the soda aisle. I hit them with the 'dogs and cats' opener, they get a kick out of it and laugh. I wish them a good day.

Date: July 9, 2006

Location: Street, Lakeview, Chicago, IL

Solo Sarge


I need one more approach for the stylelife challenge, so I approach a guy/girl who are waiting at a red light on their mountain bikes. I open them with 'flossing - before or after you brush?'. They both say 'after', I thank them. The guy's looking at me like I'm crazy.

54/250