Nino-Tk's Journal of Women

[Nino-Tk]

I totally get you Dj422, on Saturday, I visited my cousin and some friend of his who I've always considered a natural player, basically laughed at me after hearing that I LJBF'ed Shy, he says I gave up far too easily.
It reminded of the article I read here thats entitled "Confident Persistence", I read it again, this time with deeper understanding.
So I came up with a conclusion in my mind, Instead of telling Shy how much I like her and want her to date me, I am going act as if she was already my girlfriend. I went to talk with her yesterday, and acted like her bf, I massaged her, I kissed her on the neck several times and she was totally cool with it.
So today I turned it up a notch, As I see her in school, in the morning, I hug her tightly and tell her to buy me lunch at breaktime since Im now her bf, she had this bemused expression on her face like "WTF?".
I just smiled and carried on walking. At breaktime, I go to her and she is with her buddies, I greet them all, ask them about their day so far and just generally bring a good vibe towards them.

I then turn my attention towards Shy, she seems unattentive at first and I was like" Fvck this" I am leaving. Then that guy and the article came to my mind, I relaxed. Calmed down.
I hold her hand and tell her " You don't have to act cool, you already got me, and I got you too...Please correct me If am wrong"...She just mellowed down and said " You are quite sure of yourself, and you aren't wrong".
Her friends continually tell us how good we look together, they even take pics of us, ofcourse this sucked. It made her shy.
As I am about to leave, she instructs her friend to bring her wallet to us, she then takes out 20 rands and tells me to buy myself lunch at the tuckshop.
...I was like" Fo real?"..Haha I just bought coke(Was not really hungry). Then a James bond epiphany hit me. I held the coke towards the sun, looked at her and said " if you wanted to kiss me, you didn't have to offer monetary objects". Her jaw dropped.
She then said "Follow me"...I walked real slow. She led me to the stairs, and told me she has the guts to kiss me. I said nothing. Looked her dead in the eye as I put down the coke. Nonchantly I put my arms up And say "Do you have what it takes?" She kissed me.
I smiled at her after the kiss, took her back to her friends and left them with an aura of love.
I had an interesting realization today, since I speak 4 languages, Zulu, Sotho, English and Afrikaans(Poor Afrikaans though). My mother tongue is Sotho. I am effortless in Sotho (Shy's friends stuck to every word I said). When it comes to Zulu, I can flow but not that natural. Oh well english is tight, no probs there. So Im going to talk to them hunnies in Sotho and English, depending from the response I will decide whether to change the lingo or not.
Enough about me, since I started preaching the "make every lady feel loved" to my boys, all but 2 of them have understood it.
But its starting to cause beef among other guys, like today, my hommie Zaza, is literally taking some dudes girl without even trying, he doesnt even have her number but this girl is dying to be with him.
He then threatened him, so my bud, Kop brought a knife to school today, ready to slice a brother. Im glad no fight took place today.
But it is coming, I can feel it. Ive also got 3 guys that hate my guts. One of em( who got a crush on a shy) just straight up walked to me and wanted to know my name. I told him I am peter..Haha the fvcker.
I sure hope no one will resort to violence against us for loving women.
Gentlemen, this has been long. Im out

 

[DJ422]

The whole "Confident persistance" idea reminds me of how I got with my last girlfriend. I hugged her around the waste without asking permission. (I did this to one or two other girls as well, one who is a hot senior who I figure likes me... Too bad I don't see her anymore) I acted like this for around a month, and then the musical ended so I didn't do it anymore. About two months later she told me that she wanted this guy to ask her out (which happened to be me). You're approach was slightly more agressive, but hey it worked right? Props to ya ^^

I think that If I can not worry about techniques and stuff, then I can get back into that zone.

I know what you mean with your buddy. I'm worried that this guy at school thinks I'm going for his girl when in reality I just had a fun time talking with her at lunch. I also don't want my ex crush, or ex girlfriend to think I'm interested again when in reality I'm just a big flirt sometimes.

 

[Pozitron]

think that If I can not worry about techniques and stuff, then I can get back into that zone.

You seem to know what is it. Can you explain more, guys?

since I started preaching the "make every lady feel loved" to my boys, all but 2 of them have understood it.

I tried to get this since I like the exclusion of techniques and that stuff, but I don't think I'm getting it right. Can you make it more clear, Nino?

 

[Nino-Tk]

Well Pozitron, let me give you a summary of my journey so far.
I joined this site in 2009, in September I think. I had just lost my gf(now an amateur model), she cheated with my best friend.
I remember the day I typed "How to get a girl friend" on google..
You see, I only started dating in 2007(when I entered highschool), but even then, it was not the girls I desired. I was only dating girls that asked me out.
My first kiss was in that same year, she kissed me. It was over before I even knew it.
It was that year that I met my Best friend, lets call him Sabz, he was a super cool guy, he was abit taller than me then( Im taller than him now hahaha!) and generally he was a very good looking guy.
He had seniors hittin on him everyday, he got a gf in the 2nd day of HS. I was amazed, he was really cool. I started to chill with him, learn how he acted, how he talked, how he made girls laugh.
But I got confused, finally I asked him..."Dude, how do you do it?" he just replied "Make every lady feel loved"...I felt kinda pissed, I thought he was holding out on the magic bullet. He noticed this and said " your time will come, you will get it someday". I just feigned a smile and nodded.
I was starting to get it, we both was dating beautiful girls, but then my girl kissed him. Thats when I realised I was not being me, I was imitating him. And I failed badly. I dumped that girl and changed schools.

Now there was no sabz, to advice me about girls. My first year in that school sucked badly, although one girl stalked me the entire year. I didn't find her attractive though.
Fast forward to 2009, my 2nd year is about to end and still no success.
I then joined this site, the first guy I admired in the community was DavidDeangelo with his ****y and funny tech, I mastered it easily( I was so funny in grade 3, i was known as Mr. Bean).
But then, it still did not get me to that "Flawless game" I so desperately wanted.
With it, I managed to get my first girl at this school, although it only lasted 2 weeks. She said I was too needy.

I took a break from the game after that, I was hurting real bad. Fast forward to 2010, I was in class when I saw this guy who was making a group of girls laugh, making them feel beautiful, he was just like Sabz. Only he was real short, not so handsome and was very very dark.
I would see how girls would like it everytime he walked in class.
I don't how we became friends, but he started to share his philosophies with me and they went against the grain of almost everything I learned here on Sosuave, he was open, honest and fvckin Direct about his desires.
To hell with mystery and acting like you don't want girls is what he would always tell me.

But still, something was missing! I was still reading articles, filling my head with techniques and methods like Gunwitch and what not. Then a break through happened, I don't know how but I stumbled on a book called "Relentless honesty" David X.
It opened my eyes...It was like an epiphany, that day I decided to start my transition from indirect to Direct. It was good, but Still, I felt like I was missing something.

More reading, more reading and no experiencing. Then I came across "Mode One" by Alan Roger Currie in October 2010, it was like David X but more detailed. Oh well, in December I got laid for the first time.
I was HONEST, UPRONT and STRAIGHFORWARD with that girl, and to my surprise, she agreed.
Lol, guess what? Something was still missing within me...I started what the hell it was.
I then took a break from the game and read books that aren't related to pickup and seduction Like "As A Man thinketh" and "Radical Honesty".

When I came back to game, I wanted something more real, something natural. I then bumped into Johnny Soporno's articles, I don't even know how, but they changed me. But still...Something was missing.

Then I heard of Zan Perrion, and I read his article "The enlightened Seducer"...*Ting ting ting* In a split second, I understood what Sabz meant about making every lady feel loved.
I was so excited I called him at midnight to tell him of the epiphany, he just laughed and told me to go to sleep.

It made perfect sense to ME now, it wasn't about that dude from my school, it wasn't about Pook, it wasn't about Sabz. It was about me.

All this time I was searching for this thing, while it was inside me all along. I just didn't believe, I didn't feel worthy. Its like, all I had to do to learn how to Don juan, was to look in the mirror.

I make every lady feel loved because it makes me feel good, I don't feel that fear of approaching a girl because I know I am going to make her feel beautiful so why fear?
Now things such as getting numbers don't matter that much anymore, remember Shy's friends? All of them have just added me on a instanst chatting app.
Its like, you become something that has no form, like water. You make her feel loved, if she wants to date you, cool..If she does'nt its still cool.
You now see beyond their beauty, you see their dreams, their fears. And you start to realise that these people are actually human too, they are afraid just like you are.
You now talk to the unattractive the same way you woul with an attractive. Thats charm, and true charm isn't a switch. Its always on.

Moral of this, Pozitron is...Know who you are, know your worth...And deep down, you already know what to do, you just worried whether you doing it right..I say Fvck that..Do it anyway. That thing we are searching for is in us

 

[Pozitron]

I really appreciate you for writing this. I think that you've found who you are and I really hope I'll do the same. You're great man. Thanks for helping.

I try to "get this" and yes... it feels like something is missing, like I need more info and more stuff. Don't know what to say.
I really believe you when you say that it's already in us, I just don't know how to get it?
I really think that I can do it my way... just I seem lost.
It may be annoying to you, guys, me... asking so many questions and stuff, but I really don't know anymore. Maybe I'm doing something wrong. I'm just looking for answers because it feels incomplete.

I guess ... yeah... I don't know...
Maybe it's time to just leave some things behind and just go there and find answers. Maybe it's time to stop searching for answers outside and look inside. Maybe it's time to just live.
I feel like it's like some hole inside me. Awkward feeling. Like something is missing.
The thing is I spent some time reading stuff and yet the same feeling persists.
Hope I'll figure it all out soon. Just don't know how yet...

 

[NorwegianDJ]

Stop reading and start doing.
Stop searching and start finding.

Enjoyed the read bro.

 

[DJ422]

@ Positron: for a Long time I had been crushing on this one girl. I was falling apart simply because she didn't feel the same about me. The whole situation was destroying me and I knew I had to stop it. I decided that I would start to flirt with other girls, hopeing that in the meantime I could get over this crush. At first it was just to make myself feel better, but I saw how much fun it could be to just flirt. So, I started to flirt for the sake of flirting. No, It didn't make me get over my crush, i still wanted her badly. But, I wasn't wallowing in sorrow anymore, I was out there doing what I could to have a good time. And I started to enjoy life more then I had for a long time. I flirted with lots of different girls, and had various degrees of success with each. No LTR or anything came from it (excluding a one week gf), but I had a lot more fun when I flirted for the sake of flirting. But after that GF, I lost sight of that zone again. I'm still dealing with emotional junk from then, I have the GF who wants to be friends but its still hard at times, the ex-crush who still isn't the same around me and the girl I like but only sees me as a brother. I've lost sight of it again..... But at least this time It's just past the horizon, instead of who knows where back when I was a complete AFC.

Long backstory, I know:

Basicly, the "Zone" I was refering to is Flirting for the sake of Flirting, Dating because its fun, and just going with the flow and watching what happens. I try not to worry about "now do this technique" Blahblahblah. I just do what I feel like, and don't pressure the girl if she tells me off. If she's cool with it, then I just keep going until she stops me. If you just go out there and have fun, then a cute girl is bound to like you. It just happens. Instead of worrying about all the techniques and junk (that you probably do without realizing) You just do what you feel like. You want to hold her, grab her waist (gently). You want a kiss, go and try it. Sometimes things won't go the way you wanted, but you can laugh it off because there are plenty of other girls out there.

 

[Pozitron]

Thanks. That's useful.
In an attempt to get more clarity I stooped searching for new stuff for just one day and just gave it a thought.
I think we talk about the same "thing", the same mindset, only that we see things from our own perspective based on what fits us.

I don't know if this is yet another theory that will pass or the answer since searching for such a long time maybe made me keep searching even when I find exactly what I'm looking for :
--- It's about giving, not taking; giving value to people. One may feel terrible or frustrated because he tries to take value: get the world's acceptance and confirmation for what he does and thinks.

I think that's why: the focus is on you and you are the "prise" to be won. I think I got this wrong. I thought it would be just pretending that you're better and being arrogant. It's not about that.
You don't come from a position of lack, but offering something.

You make people happy and loved and feeling good about themselves and paradoxically you end up happy because you make others feel this way.
This doesn't apply only to girls. It applies to life. You don't feel anxiety cause if they refuse its their bad, they're loss.

Your not arrogant cause your not putting yourself on a pedestal, but spread the love and good to others.
You don't become an entertainer cause you don't need some confirmation .

Your giving value because it makes you feel good and because you want it. You flirt, as you said, just because. You don't need something. You don't wanna take something. You are not Dependant on an outcome or on some reactions.

I don't know guys... what do you say about this?
It's just something... I haven't yet find a way to live by it, but maybe...

 

[NorwegianDJ]

And not wanting anything in return.

Try it for a day. Give some sincere compliments, show some affection, brighten up someone's day, spread some good vibes.

 

[Pozitron]

I'll try it for sure a couple of days and see how it goes.
In the meantime I'll stop looking and searching.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Yeah man thats more like it! Thanks DJ422 and NorwegianDJ for clarifying it even more. And Pozitron, what you have written there is pure gold, now stick to that.
And yeah you are right, you aren't taking but you are rather sharing something wonderful with the girl, your heart. I don't want to add to what you have written because thats how you see it.
If you ask me, I would say now its time to be that man you have just described.

On to my day now, well it was just another day, But I didn't go to see Shy at break today but my hommie was confronted by that mean looking guy.
He was asking questions about why he was talking with his girl, Kop and I stood beside him for back up just incase he wanted to start something. He didn't. Good for him, Kop is a maniac when angry(He carries multiple knives to school) so as we were changing classes after break, a close female buddy wanted me to introduce her to Shy.
As we got there, Shy just acted real moody and her friends told me she was in a bad mood, I decided to back off and go to Afrikaans class.
As I am chilling there, remember the girl who hooked me up with NoNo? Well she told that she is falling really hard for me, but she is afraid to tell me because she thinks Im one of those guys who don't like exclusive relationships.
She even mentioned that Nono loves me. She doesn't know that I know, I promise my buddy I wouldn't act all weird. She didnt even mind that I have two other gf's (Butt and Shy) she said its a risk worth taking.
Well, I will see what happens next. Later Players.

 

[Pozitron]

And with this the philosophy era has ended.
At least till I get REAL experience. Anyway, I decided not to search for more stuff and just go with what I have. You guys were gold , really! Maybe I'll make a non regular posting journal ) life's great if you want it to be.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Didn't go to school today so not much to report other than the fact that I had my braces removed for the first time in 5 years.
For a good part of those years, I always felt they held me down somewhat. But now I know better.
Lol some girl wants to see me smile tomorrow at school, oh well If I could get this far with the term "brace face", The possibilities are now endless.
I also threw away my porn stash( 6 Dvd's), its not like I was addicted or something, I would watch em like once a week and I haven't jerked off for a month and couple of weeks. I just did it, not for religious reasons nor for moral reasons.
I listen to my gut, and my gut was like "Throw that ish away and make it happen in real life", I didn't argue and just did it.
No braces, no porn...an improved version of me beckons!

 

[Nino-Tk]

What a fvcked up day I had, Im not in the mood so Im gonna keep this short.
So yeah it feels kinda nice when all these pretty girls hold my face and ask me to smile since I removed my braces and all.
So at break time I go to my girl, Shy, it is very freezing in Johannesburg so as we were cuddling, the most notorious OG named Hitler in our school, comes and literally forces my girl away from me.
I try to act cool right, then he calls one of his hommies to tune me up, to my delight I knew that guy, he just laughed and said he knew me. He calls another really tall one, as he is rushing to kill me. I smile yet again because I know him and I got him on facebook.
So now Hitler is holding my girls hand and forcing her to come with him. The tall guy, spoke to hitler and convinced him to let my girl go( Thank God I got a large social circle)
I kinda feel pissed, I mean he disrespected me infront of my girl. I could take this guy easily but he once brought a gun to school so I'm not ready to die for a girl(that is my gf hey!)
I just don't understand Gangsters sometimes but anyway my girl apologised, although she didn't do nothing. I still feel I could have stood my ground.
Oh Zaza is pissed with me for apparently messing up something he was trying to hook up with my female buddy..Gosh emotional guys suck even my female said he is too emotional.
Then that Maths test kicked my butt...What a day, a fvcked up one.

 

[Nino-Tk]

Battle Plan

Okay I am sure why you are wondering why “Battle Plan” because I don’t consider getting women a battle.

Well this is not exactly a plan to get a women, it is a plan to have power at school. My school has become a very rough place, well since our strict Deputy principle left, discipline has gone out the window too, on Friday I saw so many guys get mugged of their cell phones in the damn school building! Hell, I even say some gut get his school shoes stolen.
It doesn’t help going to the prefects or teachers to snitch, because after school you are left all alone and they will destroy your a.s.s.
It seems that even dating a beautiful girl will get you beaten up at this school, Almost every bully wants to get with my girl Shy.
So I have never been good when it comes to physical fights, even if you win one at school, the opponent will bring his Hommies to destroy your a.s.s
.
So I realized that to win this battle I will need to be smart and use my mental strength to conquer this battle. I spent this weekend reading the 48 laws of power by Robert Greene.
I now realize what I have to do, there are two major gangs at my school, there is Hitler’s gang and Luke’s gang. They are bitter rivals who had a major fight last year November, it was so wicked, the cops had to come to school for a week to see that these crews weren’t going to continue the battle.
I know each and every one of Hitler’s gang members personally and I am cool with them, except for the leader himself, so now I am going to get him on my side. He likes girls and I know a lot of girls at school so I’ll strike a deal with him subtly, I give him girls in exchange for protection.
As for Luke’s Gang, I don’t know exactly what to do with them, they are irritating because they are the muggers, and they won’t necessarily do anything to your girl.

At the end, I want to have this untouchable aura.
Behold Don’s for the battle is underway!

 

[NorwegianDJ]

glhf
Glad Im chilling down here in CT.

 

[lili19771]

At the end, I want to have this untouchable aura.
Behold Don’s for the battle is underway!

You should probably stay the **** out of all that ****... If those kids are doing **** like that stealing someone's shoes they probably wouldn't mind stabbing you if they wanted to.

 

[NorwegianDJ]

You should probably stay the **** out of all that ****... If those kids are doing **** like that stealing someone's shoes they probably wouldn't mind stabbing you if they wanted to.

Welcome to South Africa

 

[lili19771]

Welcome to South Africa

Well, I'm from Zimbabwe so... ya.. lol

 

[Nino-Tk]

Haha, it can get pretty rough up here but you kinda used to it.
Anyway, Shy was acting kinda distant and not attentive, damn her mood swings are starting to get to me. I guess its all about my tolerance levels now. I won't put up with this for long.
Just got my math test, I did horrible! Guys, how do you get good with Maths? More practice? More what? Ahh! I basically plow through other subjects without breaking a sweat, but Maths...fvck it.