Your looking for confidence and introductions for this week. Establishing strong EC and exuding strong body language and conveying dominating undertones.Originally posted by CoolRunning
Guys...one question...where do you do these exercises? I just can't seem to find enough girls. Here's my typical schedule:
8am: gym (lots of cute girls, but I'm far less good looking in the gym relative to the other guys in there, than I am on the street, so my confidence suffers. Also, every single girl in there is wearing headphones so they couldn't even hear you if you yelled)
9:30am: work (I work in a very male dominated industry. Probably only 5 girls in my entire building.)
12pm: lunch (again, no girls in the cafeteria. If I go out, might soemtimes have a waitress)
6pm: head home
So as you can see, I barely even see any girls in a typical day. When I want to see girls on the weekend, I go to a mall to do EC exercises. But this gets old fast. I really could use some advice on WHERE to go.
Good stuff Ginny. I wonder where you got your name... funny thing, bought a friend a G&T for the first time Saturday. We both got wasted, I freaked out after noticing how blue his drink was from the black lights. Pretty cool I never thought I would see that from my teenage drink of choice.Originally posted by GinandTonic
alright a combination of bad timing and excessiveness meant i didn't spend much time on BC over the weekend (it's exam period, so i ended up studying for mid terms on friday and sunday. on saturday i went to the bar and drank waaaaaaaaay too much...ended up getting kicked out). i only got 3 EC+Hi's over the weekend (i don't have much problems with just EC, so i'm only counting both at the same time).
i managed to get 10 today, so i'm at 12/50, all HB7's or above (a bit behind, but i'll just have to kick it up in the next few days).
Hey this is really good advice. I especially like your advice about going downtown. In fact that sounds like a good goal for me, maybe just drive downtown for lunch once a day, grab a sandwich, and just walk around a bit.Originally posted by ethnomethodologist
Your looking for confidence and introductions for this week. Establishing strong EC and exuding strong body language and conveying dominating undertones.
In the gym, offer to be a spotter, an apprentice, a mentor, or a competitior... The reason the girls are wearing their headphones is because they have nobody else to talk to. Tell them what you are afraid of, they'll recognize that if you can't establish strength immediately.
At work, talk to the guys, ask them where they are heading after work. You'll very easily find out which ones are going to be seeing ladies, which ones are whipped, and which ones are going to do nightclasses and whatnot. Establishrapport with the guys, and find out where they are going to hang out, make some jokes, find out new ones, and see if you can find some ways to climb the ladder.
during lunch you have millions of options. First you understan the purpose of going for a walk. See if you can scoot out a minute early and find others from your work who are going for lunch. See if you can hop a ride with the and chat them up during the ride. When you get downtown tell em you'll catch the bus, or take a cab, hopefully you will find them right in time though. Grab a light snack you can walk with, no need to spend bucks on waitresses, they'd prefer big tippers and a social atmosphere with a full table anyways. Do a quick stroll downtown, stop people and 'ask for directions' than say just joking, whatever you feel good doing in your current stage of introductions.
Even the lowly "excuse me" wil suffice in allowing you to say hi. You can test your C+F or your compliments, or your number grabbing techniques now if you'd like as well. More than likely these people are neer goig to see you again, time to strut your weaknesses.
Some more examples of quick exercise materials
Hallways
bus stop
lunch room
water fountain
library
front steps
study room
comp room
payphones
stairs to second floor
outside
parking lot
Don't forget, you can always introduce yourself to fellow employees. It's a matter of good business practice. Your creating a sense of teamwork in your employers eye.
Hold eye contact ALWAYS until she breaks it during this weeks exercises. There is to be no deviation. You must be able to hold eye contact without becoming too shy. If your mind is preoccupied with being a man in the most direct and perspective dominating fashion, other parts of your psyche won't overcompensate and create problems for your advancement. You don't want her eyes to wander to your clothes or surrounding obects unless you ask her to pay attention to them.Originally posted by Microphone Fiend
Alright I wasnt sure I was gonna do the BC, but i was hella bored today and I jumped right into it. My goal is to finish it, because the furthest I've made it is halfway through week 3 The most noticable was when I opened some random lady who helped me look at shades for 5-10 mins of her lunch break, lol. I always try and hold EC with the ladies, so it wouldnt even register for me to count them, so imma skip that part.
I got 9 Hi's, 2 convos and snuffed by at least 6-7 dimes...At least they're dimes... Last time I tried the BC i went for anything with a pulse, male or female. Although it isnt cheatin, you have to really go after what you know you want to be gettin more comfortable with. I can talk to old people and guys no problem so yea.
I've read all the exercise thingys so many times, right now I'm looking at Anthony Robbins - Unlimited Power. Its a very good book if you actually read it and think about it and try and implement stuff in your life. Im not sure I would have had the patience or maturity to read it a couple years ago though.
Places I hit for my Hi's (All in the busy town area)
Local Park (during lunch hour especially)
Streets
Stores
What I've noticed
- Hotter looking chicks are less likely to respond it seems, maybe they think im trying to pick up and if they say hi back I will try and rape them?
- After gettin snuffed or ignored, hold your head high and keep positive body language and you'll forget all about it
- The better you say hi, the more likely for a response, the weaker your tonality and BL, the worse...
Good luck everyone...Stay up
JC9 where are you from? I need to get a feel of you, I haven't seen you or heard you around this site yet. I don't know where your vibes originate from, so I can't see the direction they are headed. Give me a hand here, I'm here to guide you.Originally posted by JC9
32/50 So far.
Went to my favorite bar saturday night, but don't want to count those because its more of a friendly interaction with people and not to threatening of an environment for me.
I try and do all mine on the street during the day, because I used to walk like I had blinders on, looking straight ahead, when I normally go from place to place during the day and therefor miss alot of opportunities to interact with people.
Some things I have started to notice more when I am walking around with my head up, trying to make eye contact with everyone I see.
Guys with their head down avoiding any sort of eye contact look meek. People with their head up, but staring straight ahead avoiding EC with anyone strike me as 'off' and not natural. People who make EC and quickly look away seem to be a little insecure. People who have made EC even if they haven't smiled or said hello back seem alot more relaxed and natural.
What has everyone else observed in the behaviors of others since focusing on more EC/Hello's?
Great progress skd, once you reach the limit reset the counter. You're going for total confidence with these approaches. If by thrusday we are all finished with the exercises, we can discuss further goals and suggest failproof openers that were tested so far this week.Originally posted by skd
Alrighty
went to a hookah bar Saturday night:
8 greetings, 3 conversations with strangers.
went to a house party afterwards:
met ~8 people (can't remember exactly) but they were friends of friends so I don't know if I can really count that, but it's just nice that I have a little bigger social circle now.
got 3 ECs when I went to dinner tonight, and 1 on the way back to the dorm.
So counting all those (I'm counting the 8 people I met), the new total comes up to:
25/50
Hey buddy, sorry for neglecting you. I want to post replys to everybody in this bootcamp, but my time is precious as is yours. I asked a fe people who I thought might be able to help you figure this out...Originally posted by Dustin
Help please!!!...Ok guys im completely lost on what were supsoe to do and everything a little help please....