Besides still in therapy, I picked up the Blueprint Decoded. It's a CD-set made by a guy who calls himself Tyler Durden. It's a 20-hour seminar about inner game, and inner game only. There is a lot of info I found very useful. Actually, I would call it life changing stuff.
I notice it in everything. I'm more relaxed, more open and more comfortable. I'm In-sync. I very rarely go into my own head anymore, and when I do, I notice it. Being 'in the moment' is awesome. 'People walk through life in a walking daze' is one phrase that will always be with me. I just have to look around when I'm in a crowded area like a bus or train to notice it. It puts me in 'state' (confident mindset) almost instantly. Listening to the program has made it a lot easier for me to approach and to talk to girls. It's easier to make random chats and keep it flowing. I couldn't do it that well.
I keep noticing girls respond to me in a much more positive way. It has changed my way of looking at life, and I'm a happier person in general. Although it also has to do with the therapy I'm still doing and the many hours of mental work I've done to get my sh*t together, I feel this has definitely given me a great boost in terms of confidence and the way I'm able to deal with girls.
It really feels like I'm on to something. Like I'm starting to 'get it'.
I don't give a f*ck about what anyone thinks of me, and it has made my life much easier. I was at this bar yesterday with a buddy of mine (and his girlfriend, who is really cool). It was crazy crowded. We just had fun and we were dancing silly and acting crazy. Some people were watching us like 'wtf are you doing here' but we just kept on acting that way. The funny thing was, that the party came more alive around us. There were girls too. I made a bunch of random little fun chats, but no closes unfortunately. I'm good at flirting and making them laugh and having fun with them without being uncomfortable. Kino and teasing, it's happening automatically and the responses are great. I still find it hard to escalate and go for the close, especially when I'm in a crowded club or music bar. But it's getting better and better every time I go out. I go out a lot lately, by the way.
On the way to the city I started a chat with 4 girls. One of them was smoking hot, but I wasn't scared or weird around her, like I used to be. We chatted a bit and had fun. They were a bit older then me but I didn't notice it until one of them told me. It was another nice learning experience, opening this group and having a chat. All that stuff is still a little new to me. But like I said, I'm learning. It feels like I'm really close to finally be able to do a 'kiss-close'. I've been able to build tension and create that cool sexual vibe, but acting on what happens after that, not yet.
Not yet, but soon. I can feel it!
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I notice it in everything. I'm more relaxed, more open and more comfortable. I'm In-sync. I very rarely go into my own head anymore, and when I do, I notice it. Being 'in the moment' is awesome. 'People walk through life in a walking daze' is one phrase that will always be with me. I just have to look around when I'm in a crowded area like a bus or train to notice it. It puts me in 'state' (confident mindset) almost instantly. Listening to the program has made it a lot easier for me to approach and to talk to girls. It's easier to make random chats and keep it flowing. I couldn't do it that well.
I keep noticing girls respond to me in a much more positive way. It has changed my way of looking at life, and I'm a happier person in general. Although it also has to do with the therapy I'm still doing and the many hours of mental work I've done to get my sh*t together, I feel this has definitely given me a great boost in terms of confidence and the way I'm able to deal with girls.
It really feels like I'm on to something. Like I'm starting to 'get it'.
I don't give a f*ck about what anyone thinks of me, and it has made my life much easier. I was at this bar yesterday with a buddy of mine (and his girlfriend, who is really cool). It was crazy crowded. We just had fun and we were dancing silly and acting crazy. Some people were watching us like 'wtf are you doing here' but we just kept on acting that way. The funny thing was, that the party came more alive around us. There were girls too. I made a bunch of random little fun chats, but no closes unfortunately. I'm good at flirting and making them laugh and having fun with them without being uncomfortable. Kino and teasing, it's happening automatically and the responses are great. I still find it hard to escalate and go for the close, especially when I'm in a crowded club or music bar. But it's getting better and better every time I go out. I go out a lot lately, by the way.
On the way to the city I started a chat with 4 girls. One of them was smoking hot, but I wasn't scared or weird around her, like I used to be. We chatted a bit and had fun. They were a bit older then me but I didn't notice it until one of them told me. It was another nice learning experience, opening this group and having a chat. All that stuff is still a little new to me. But like I said, I'm learning. It feels like I'm really close to finally be able to do a 'kiss-close'. I've been able to build tension and create that cool sexual vibe, but acting on what happens after that, not yet.
Not yet, but soon. I can feel it!
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