Got a kiss-close last night, and a number close. Might meet up the chick later this weekend if I want.
Have been fixing a few of my game issues. I realised yesterday while in the club, that a girl could never have as much game as a man, because first of all, women are like children, and second of all, we men have the penis, which makes US the dealer when it comes to sex. The point is though, most women in the club just want attention, only a select few actually go there to look for a penis. So when you find one who's looking for a penis, her IL will automatically be higher than any other girls' IL. The point of being a Don Juan or a player, is to not waste time on AW's.
Which of course brings me to the fact that the more game I acquire, the more I look for characteristical traits in a woman instead of physical ones. I have lowered my standards physically. I know this is frowned upon in the Don Juan community, but I see it as a natural process, for two reasons: it's happening automatically in me, and all the real player's who've bestowed upon me their knowledge, didn't have very high standards.
So I guess I am ready to start F-closing the hoodrats and chickenheads, in order to upgrade to the HB8's and 9's. The 10's of course being non-existent.
Another issue: since I came here onto Sosuave I'd tried to keep my IOI'ing to a minimum. This was a totally wrong approach. I'd wait for a girl to IOI me first in order to merit the IOI from me. This of course is how you say things go, but when you do this, you are setting yourself up for disaster. Girls aren't hunters, they're gatherers, and if you don't sweep them off their feet, they will walk off.
The trick, once you've learned not to show too much interest, is to incrementally give her the IOI's like breadcrumbs just enough to keep the girl hanging around you and wanting more.
Then there's the slut-alarm which you by all means cannot ever set off.
I'd always be afraid to set off the slut-alarm. I think though, that I shouldn't be afraid to set off the slut-alarm. It's better to be mischievous than prude. The trick is to be the kind of guy to make the girl want to release her inner slut. This can be done by a simple ass-squeeze, or anything where you're overstepping a sexual boundary.
Now as a Don Juan I knew those things already, but what I would do is look for signs of interest before I go for that ass-squeeze. You must know, though, when you are allowed to escalate.
So, in a fear of raising slut-alarms I would be afraid to escalate. I dunno if it's that ginseng pill I took before I hit the club, or if it's the copious amounts of vodka I drank, or the highly interested girl I met, but I seem to have realised that I want to bring about the slut in her.
I will have to bring out the slut in her, the question simply is: will she like it, or will she not?
If you just seem high value enough, be it through inner game, social proof, good looks, a big **** or whatever floats her boat, she will want you to bring about that slut in her. The trick to doing that: is not being afraid of rejection. You just Go for it and you KNOW that she will like it because you're operating from a mindset of abundance.
This might sound overanalytical jibber-jabber, but game isn't the cave-man type of thing it used to be.
Most of it is finding a target who is actually interested and not simply an Attention *****. Then bringing about the slut in her without any objections.
So we have to be subtle in what we do as Don Juans.
Just like my issue where I'd be afraid to escalate with a girl because I'd want her to IOI me first in order to affirm that I can escalate. Girls are the same way though, actually even more, because they feel that if they instigate the sexuality that will make them sluts. So it's better to induce slutty behaviour in them by sexually escalating UNINVITED, than it is to wait for a girl to touch your body first, because THAT would make her a slut.
Now, I dunno about whoever's reading this, but I learned a lot writing this.
Lastly I would like to say that even the most mackish individuals, the men with lots and lots of game, they invest in women. It might be an extra glance or an extra smile, but even the most mackish individuals invest. They escalate without an invitation. They assume that everything will go alright, and that's why they're not afraid to give an uninvited IOI once in a while.
You see, it's NATURAL for a guy to give an uninvited IOI to a girl, it's biological evolution. Through indoctrination girls may be predisposed to believe you're an AFC because you give a girl a compliment, the same does not go for them if you give them an extra 10% of your attention. You don't have to treat them like princesses, you just need to let them know you've noticed them.
Girls are insecure, they need that extra smile, that extra touch, to confirm to them that they're still wanted. It's ok to give it to them, as long as you leave them WANTING MORE.
Have been fixing a few of my game issues. I realised yesterday while in the club, that a girl could never have as much game as a man, because first of all, women are like children, and second of all, we men have the penis, which makes US the dealer when it comes to sex. The point is though, most women in the club just want attention, only a select few actually go there to look for a penis. So when you find one who's looking for a penis, her IL will automatically be higher than any other girls' IL. The point of being a Don Juan or a player, is to not waste time on AW's.
Which of course brings me to the fact that the more game I acquire, the more I look for characteristical traits in a woman instead of physical ones. I have lowered my standards physically. I know this is frowned upon in the Don Juan community, but I see it as a natural process, for two reasons: it's happening automatically in me, and all the real player's who've bestowed upon me their knowledge, didn't have very high standards.
So I guess I am ready to start F-closing the hoodrats and chickenheads, in order to upgrade to the HB8's and 9's. The 10's of course being non-existent.
Another issue: since I came here onto Sosuave I'd tried to keep my IOI'ing to a minimum. This was a totally wrong approach. I'd wait for a girl to IOI me first in order to merit the IOI from me. This of course is how you say things go, but when you do this, you are setting yourself up for disaster. Girls aren't hunters, they're gatherers, and if you don't sweep them off their feet, they will walk off.
The trick, once you've learned not to show too much interest, is to incrementally give her the IOI's like breadcrumbs just enough to keep the girl hanging around you and wanting more.
Then there's the slut-alarm which you by all means cannot ever set off.
I'd always be afraid to set off the slut-alarm. I think though, that I shouldn't be afraid to set off the slut-alarm. It's better to be mischievous than prude. The trick is to be the kind of guy to make the girl want to release her inner slut. This can be done by a simple ass-squeeze, or anything where you're overstepping a sexual boundary.
Now as a Don Juan I knew those things already, but what I would do is look for signs of interest before I go for that ass-squeeze. You must know, though, when you are allowed to escalate.
So, in a fear of raising slut-alarms I would be afraid to escalate. I dunno if it's that ginseng pill I took before I hit the club, or if it's the copious amounts of vodka I drank, or the highly interested girl I met, but I seem to have realised that I want to bring about the slut in her.
I will have to bring out the slut in her, the question simply is: will she like it, or will she not?
If you just seem high value enough, be it through inner game, social proof, good looks, a big **** or whatever floats her boat, she will want you to bring about that slut in her. The trick to doing that: is not being afraid of rejection. You just Go for it and you KNOW that she will like it because you're operating from a mindset of abundance.
This might sound overanalytical jibber-jabber, but game isn't the cave-man type of thing it used to be.
Most of it is finding a target who is actually interested and not simply an Attention *****. Then bringing about the slut in her without any objections.
So we have to be subtle in what we do as Don Juans.
Just like my issue where I'd be afraid to escalate with a girl because I'd want her to IOI me first in order to affirm that I can escalate. Girls are the same way though, actually even more, because they feel that if they instigate the sexuality that will make them sluts. So it's better to induce slutty behaviour in them by sexually escalating UNINVITED, than it is to wait for a girl to touch your body first, because THAT would make her a slut.
Now, I dunno about whoever's reading this, but I learned a lot writing this.
Lastly I would like to say that even the most mackish individuals, the men with lots and lots of game, they invest in women. It might be an extra glance or an extra smile, but even the most mackish individuals invest. They escalate without an invitation. They assume that everything will go alright, and that's why they're not afraid to give an uninvited IOI once in a while.
You see, it's NATURAL for a guy to give an uninvited IOI to a girl, it's biological evolution. Through indoctrination girls may be predisposed to believe you're an AFC because you give a girl a compliment, the same does not go for them if you give them an extra 10% of your attention. You don't have to treat them like princesses, you just need to let them know you've noticed them.
Girls are insecure, they need that extra smile, that extra touch, to confirm to them that they're still wanted. It's ok to give it to them, as long as you leave them WANTING MORE.