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Got a kiss-close last night, and a number close. Might meet up the chick later this weekend if I want.

Have been fixing a few of my game issues. I realised yesterday while in the club, that a girl could never have as much game as a man, because first of all, women are like children, and second of all, we men have the penis, which makes US the dealer when it comes to sex. The point is though, most women in the club just want attention, only a select few actually go there to look for a penis. So when you find one who's looking for a penis, her IL will automatically be higher than any other girls' IL. The point of being a Don Juan or a player, is to not waste time on AW's.

Which of course brings me to the fact that the more game I acquire, the more I look for characteristical traits in a woman instead of physical ones. I have lowered my standards physically. I know this is frowned upon in the Don Juan community, but I see it as a natural process, for two reasons: it's happening automatically in me, and all the real player's who've bestowed upon me their knowledge, didn't have very high standards.

So I guess I am ready to start F-closing the hoodrats and chickenheads, in order to upgrade to the HB8's and 9's. The 10's of course being non-existent.

Another issue: since I came here onto Sosuave I'd tried to keep my IOI'ing to a minimum. This was a totally wrong approach. I'd wait for a girl to IOI me first in order to merit the IOI from me. This of course is how you say things go, but when you do this, you are setting yourself up for disaster. Girls aren't hunters, they're gatherers, and if you don't sweep them off their feet, they will walk off.

The trick, once you've learned not to show too much interest, is to incrementally give her the IOI's like breadcrumbs just enough to keep the girl hanging around you and wanting more.

Then there's the slut-alarm which you by all means cannot ever set off.

I'd always be afraid to set off the slut-alarm. I think though, that I shouldn't be afraid to set off the slut-alarm. It's better to be mischievous than prude. The trick is to be the kind of guy to make the girl want to release her inner slut. This can be done by a simple ass-squeeze, or anything where you're overstepping a sexual boundary.

Now as a Don Juan I knew those things already, but what I would do is look for signs of interest before I go for that ass-squeeze. You must know, though, when you are allowed to escalate.

So, in a fear of raising slut-alarms I would be afraid to escalate. I dunno if it's that ginseng pill I took before I hit the club, or if it's the copious amounts of vodka I drank, or the highly interested girl I met, but I seem to have realised that I want to bring about the slut in her.

I will have to bring out the slut in her, the question simply is: will she like it, or will she not?

If you just seem high value enough, be it through inner game, social proof, good looks, a big **** or whatever floats her boat, she will want you to bring about that slut in her. The trick to doing that: is not being afraid of rejection. You just Go for it and you KNOW that she will like it because you're operating from a mindset of abundance.

This might sound overanalytical jibber-jabber, but game isn't the cave-man type of thing it used to be.

Most of it is finding a target who is actually interested and not simply an Attention *****. Then bringing about the slut in her without any objections.

So we have to be subtle in what we do as Don Juans.

Just like my issue where I'd be afraid to escalate with a girl because I'd want her to IOI me first in order to affirm that I can escalate. Girls are the same way though, actually even more, because they feel that if they instigate the sexuality that will make them sluts. So it's better to induce slutty behaviour in them by sexually escalating UNINVITED, than it is to wait for a girl to touch your body first, because THAT would make her a slut.

Now, I dunno about whoever's reading this, but I learned a lot writing this.

Lastly I would like to say that even the most mackish individuals, the men with lots and lots of game, they invest in women. It might be an extra glance or an extra smile, but even the most mackish individuals invest. They escalate without an invitation. They assume that everything will go alright, and that's why they're not afraid to give an uninvited IOI once in a while.

You see, it's NATURAL for a guy to give an uninvited IOI to a girl, it's biological evolution. Through indoctrination girls may be predisposed to believe you're an AFC because you give a girl a compliment, the same does not go for them if you give them an extra 10% of your attention. You don't have to treat them like princesses, you just need to let them know you've noticed them.

Girls are insecure, they need that extra smile, that extra touch, to confirm to them that they're still wanted. It's ok to give it to them, as long as you leave them WANTING MORE.
 

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I got rejected about 8 times last night. I'm not going to write them all down, but the most significant ones.

1 was from a neg. There was a girl who didn't drink coffee so I asked if she was 17. She was only a 6 or 7 though, so lol. I didn't expect that neg to kill the attraction so fast.

Then there was a HB8 who I met. She was very friendly and stuff, until I told her I was going to get a beer. Apparently my informing her of my whereabouts is too much of an investment on my part, and it seemed to kill the attraction. Either that, or it was the expressiveness of my face, which she didn't seem to like, or her girlfriends didn't approve of me. It's funny a girl would go to the club and want to talk friendly chit-chat with a guy it's cool but as soon as it gets personal they wanna cut that sh*t out.

I also happened to run in to a b*tch who I had gone on 2 dates with. I had lots and lots of fun, but for some reason it didn't feel right. I had asked for a third date later and she flaked, and since then it was NC.

So she was AW'ing last night. She immediately tried to get me to qualify myself by asking why I wasn't working. Fvcking b*tches really play hard ball. She made me hold her wine glass while she poured her wine, then she went and stood a meter further down the dancefloor, to see if I would follow. The point is: she's into games. So I ain't gonna waste a second on her.

There was this chick who signaled me from across the bar to join her, so I did. She said she wanted to check me out from close. I said: "why? do you need glasses?" She said no. I say ok, well what do you think? (which is the wrong mindset but I don't give a fvck I was just trying to steer the conversation towards a conclusion). She started shaking her head. So I say: why did you call me over here then? She said: "to check you out.... You look better from across the bar". So I look back at her, and I say: "same to you", like it's a compliment, and I walk off. I could not walk off from there without dissing this girl. Funny thing is, I didn't tell her anything she didn't tell me. Immediately after that she got her jacket and left the club, I think I ruined her night.:rockon:

I may have been rejected a lot, but I don't feel bad about it one bit. I enjoyed myself. I was kinda pushing boundaries anyway, to see how far I could go.

Thursday and friday were better because there weren't as many Attention *****s, but girls actually looking for d*ck. I could tell there were 2 there who were in to me for real, but I didn't talk to them.

I think the rejections are mainly to blame on my poor choice of female. I was drunk and I was just trying out **** with Attention *****s. Next time I will keep myself dedicated strictly to the real sluts.
 

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I feel like I am really starting to get a firm grip on my game. I did spend the last month basically constantly on this forum...

I went to work today, in the club. I decided I'd put the ladies on ice, because I was working. Well it was a good night.

First an HB8 approached me, asked me if I remembered her, and we flirted, and both slightly stuttered. Her boyfriend came around the corner and I gave her a disapproving look. I dunno why. Usually I'd have ignored him, but this time I sorta feel as though she can't be flirting with me like that if she has a bf.

Then I saw a HB7.5. She told me she missed me, and wanted to know when we'd hang out again. She was like putty in my hand. I told her to come get my phone number later because I was busy.

So lateron when she comes over, I saw she gave my friend a kiss on the lips! I was like OMG WTF. I mean I don't give a fvck, but I suddenly didn't want her number anymore. Well I at least managed a little jedi mind trick where I got the girl begging for me to accept her phone number. So I complied and took the number.

Also ran into 3 girls, 1 of which I like. They always be trying to troll all the guys. I said: "you again!!", and they all laughed. Doing the C&F like a charm.

BTW, the biggest difference is that I decided to put the girls on ice. Ignoring the girls allows them to really marinate in my game. If I don't try anything, they can just guage my vibe while I'm working and hopefully come back frequently. It's happened to me plenty of times that I'd see a girl for the first time, assume she'd only rarely be there and pull out all the stops. So now I am just going to let all the girls soak up my game at the same time. I'm letting the girls marinate in my game.
 

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Ran into lots of girls I had so-called difficulties with.

Ran into 6'2" HB7 and she was playing it real predictable. Stands right across from me, ignores me and texxts somebody. So I talk to her but I don't bother to ask her for anything.

Talked to another HB8. She was tough. Refused to give me her number, and I refused to accept her facebook. So that didn't go anywhere. I think this may be due to a gross miscalibration. I asked her 'where are you from?', 'what's your name', and 'who are you here with', sort of interview style, then I ran out of questions. She told me: "you know what's funny, every time I see you I recognise you, but I don't know from where", so I said: "It's because I work here!", and I think that was the miscalibration. Her saying that she recognised me without knowing me was really an IOI. I mean I really felt a connection with this chick, like she seemed really familiar, like I knew her from primary school.
Next time a chick tells me she feels like she knows me I will play along with it a little more.

Next I see a girl with nice titties. I say: "That's a lot of cleavage you got there", she laughed. She started playin with her titties and I couldn't stop myself from touching one. Hehehe. She started talking about her boyfriend, she didnt seem to respect him very much. Another guy pressed us together, and I didn't mind becuz I loved feelin those titties against me. but she stopped talkin to me after that. Could have calibrated that better. Gotta let the little fish go, to catch the big fish.
 
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sup guys.

just another update to log my thoughts. There's a lot of them.

My game is getting better and tighter. Went to the club but I felt pretty low energy, though I was feeling high value.

Saw a few girls I had some chem with. Sorta gave myself an obstacle I couldn't recover from by DLVing for a joke. Better idea not to DLV.

I am gonna have more fun next week. I feel sorta reborn when it comes to clubbing. My knowledge is growing.
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

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Well what's up guys. Been doing lots of thinking about game(and gaming) and unable to write anything down(on sosuave).

It's basically like redigesting the same mental cud over and over again, each time learning a little bit, adding knowledge to your brain each time.

I've become much more acclimated to the club setting, and women's behavior in general, and I can recognize red flags much quicker than usual. Also I'm more in tune with the kind of girl I want to hang with.

Anyway, I ran into Ms. Cleavage from post #84. She gave me a kiss on the cheek, so I must be doing something right. :). Same thing happened to me a few weeks ago too, with an HB9.

What I noticed about game, eye-contact and alphaness is this:
Never avoid eye-contact. Be nice to the girl if you know that the girl wants you, and only give them attitude once they give you attitude.

No matter how angry of an expression I have on my face, girls know that I'm a cool dude. So there's no point acting tough unless a girl gives me attitude. That way I pass the ****-test.

Also, I have to give myself credit for applying the 3-second rule. I didn't consciously do it, but in hindsight I see that I opened almost all sets, though I stopped pushing/chasing after opening the first girl because she wasn't receptive. That's a detail, but it is an art to know when you should pursue and when you should not. That's the whole trick to the game.

Further, I sort of feel every interaction can be freestyled, as long as you're confident. Thinking of what's next/logistics will distract your attention away from the interaction itself. So the best thing is to just focus on having fun.

BTW, I notice that when I think and overanalyse too much it really distracts me from reality because I focus more on theory than actual facts.

Sometimes the theory isn't even actually connected to the incident. It's just that our brains try and solve problems that the brain created in the first place. So sometimes it's better to just freestyle an interaction and try whatever than to go along the route that our brains calculated to be the best. We all know in which direction the interaction has to go. And if it goes naturally the interaction will go in that direction. Therefore the goal is not to force the interaction, but to let it go naturally, and then it will go in the right direction. This is basically done by being polite with a minimum level of investment.
 

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Alright fellaz. Times are getting harder. I be having stress from work because working in the club is sorta taking it's toll on me; I can't do what I want every weekend, i'm forced to be nice to unappreciative b*tches, and 2 of my colleagues are giving me sh*t. 1 girl who really doesn't understand my energy and she keeps on testing me. She got issues. I think the other colleague was on coke last night, and he wouldn't stop AMOGing me, taking up space and crap. I guess I should just focus on the $$$$.

After I got home last night I watched some Tyler Durden, but now listening to Too Short seems to be much more therapeutic.

Now friday I had a really good time going clubbing. I met a girl and she seemed to be completely crazy about me. She was too young for me though. But I still learned something. It happened in the club where I used to go out about 5 years ago. I used to get make-outs there almost every single weekend. The vibe was much better, dudes in my social circle were DJing (underground house) and people are much younger and naive and not manipulative or calculating at all, thank god.

So the girl asked me my age, my job, if I do a sport, and what music I listened to. I realised that answering those questions actually gave a pretty good description of who I am. She asked my number, but I didn't have a phone on me and I forgot to make her call me so I got her number, so I doubt she'll call me. Girls are all emotional and solipsistic, etc. Was fun to see such a high IL girl though. Eventually her friend cut her hand in some glass and they left the club lol. So that was a good experience. Going back to where my game really started off. The venue where I work is a lot harder to maneuver in.

Now let me describe last night at work.

After the first rush of people I went to smoke a cigarette. My lighter wasn't working, so I ask a girl behind me for a lighter, then I see she was easily an HB8, and her HB8 friend(who I knew) was standing behind her. So the girl lights my cigarette and the friend goes: "What a bad opener", I was like OMG WTF. I just wanted a damn lighter. And this damn girl is hating on my opener. Girls are real rude sometimes. And they say it at a volume towards each other so that I'm not supposed to hear. See I saw the other HB8 before and hit on her a few times. Gaming was alright, and ever since she rejected me initially I just stopped talking to her. Now she's ****blocking me when all I want is a damn lighter. The arrogance!

Second time I go for a cigarette I see my colleague talking to a girl. I stick out my left hand to shake hers, and she looks at me like she gives me a blind look. I mean wtf. I switch hands, shake it with the right hand, ask if I was bother them, she said: 'oh! noo!!". I guess I let her know that I don't want an outcome, I was just introducing myself. So I forget about all those B*tches and just ignore the rest, walk towards the door and smoke the cigarette. Then I see an HB9 who I had gamed a few months back when I was completely drunk off my mind. I talked a sentence that made 0 sense in the end, but she was listening like her life depended on it. I see her looking at me and talking to her friend like: "he is really funny!!!". I don't know whether she was talking about me or not, but I knew that she was digging me. Just my first approach seems to really have done the trick. What happened is I failed a ****-test when she asked me whether I was a player and I got nervous. I saw the expression on her face change and charged it to the game. Few weeks later saw her talking to this incredibly tall buff and alpha dude, and I actually got jealous. We ignored each other for a few weeks. I guess my apparent non-interest seems to have resparked her interest.

Then there's an incredibly cute HB9 who's friends of some girls in my social circle. They're all very cute and most of them dig me. I could tell that she was really wary of me for the first few weeks. I think that 1 of the girls may have told her some crappy stories. Sometimes I act real alpha sometimes at work, and she seemed a little scared lol. Anyway, I talked to her one time and my voice was perfectly calibrated. Talked to her like Santa Clause would talk to a girl. So now while I would be working, some people might be ignoring me and then she would be sweet and move out of the way. I appreciate that type of behavior.

See, thing is, I was having a sh*tty day at work which caused me to project negative qualities which I don't actually have, sort of deferring away most of the girls that didn't know me. The ones that have seen me around though know that I am a congruent fellow. So I might have most of the 6's 7's and 8's ignoring me and the 9's are trying to get my attention.

I will have to say 2 things. I agree with Tyler Durden that social proof is not as important as confidence/dignity etc. Secondly the type of game I've been running seems to be repelling all the girls I don't want and simultaneously attracting the 9's. This is really hard for me to psychologically accept because I want the validation from the 8's as well. I just don't want to suck up to them like I am forced to do/used to do.

I think that walking around with a negative attitude will cause girls that don't know you to avoid you like the plague, but girls that have seen you in a better state will know that you are cool and are just going through natural fluctuations, I guess, if they look at far into your behavior. It probably goes on subconsciously.
 

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Worked again.

Today was just a spontaneous outflow of game. All the game that came out was 100% spontaneous. I had some good openers, like: "I'm glad you came". Also saw 2 coked up girls and I had real fun talking to them, they were so high. It was pretty funny. So I really started to enjoy the game again. I was having real fun just doing simple interaction and saying random things and getting fun reactions. It's really all just practice in ridiculousness. For example claiming that my friend was selling his body but he had to be marinated first if he was to taste good.

So I am getting a much better idea of the type of game I should be using. I also try to relate to the other person, but i seem to ask the right questions to direct the conversation toward irony, paradox, coincedence, commonalities or anything agreeable really.

Once you do that you can increase attraction and then you can afford to ask more "expensive" questions like: "what's your name?", etc. And make a close.
 

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last night was really ****ty, but it was more of a warm-up night for tonight. Tonight I'm gonna get wasted.

So I made 3 mistakes last night.

Firstly, the first girl that greeted me, my hello was miscalibrated. I saw how her and 2 other girls were immediately turned off.

Second, when my friend walked into the smoking section and called me a pendejo, I didn't have a comeback. For girls the quickness of wit is the most attractive thing. I will have to practice my spanish curse words.

I was high as fvck too because I smoked too much White Widow.

Third mistake, when I talked to a little girl at the bar, my voice was totally miscalibrated again.

I guess I didn't learn very much except that you shouldn't expect people who you respect to always show you respect.
 

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Right now Im about 8 on the drunk scale. My kb is fuct so I wont bother using proper grammar.

I had a pretty good night out. Especially since I got a nice buzz going. I started off the night just drinking beers and guaging the b*tches on the other side of the bar. The more drunk I got the less I cared about them.

Ran into Hb9 from past experiences. She's super hot but I know her from years ago. She invited me to the bathroom then the bouncer kicked us out of the club and she started crying and throwing up. So now whenever I see her I'm sure shes super embarrassed. Anyway I got my 3 kisses and walked off again, surprised by the sudden IOI. Shes nice and sweet tho, and I know her from years ago, but it doesnt even matter really. I dont even have a point.

Ran into a HB6.5 who I made out with passionately 2 years ago and 1 year ago. She was certainly willing to do the same today but I wasnt up for it. I know this sounds like a pvssy excuse but my lips were so chapped last week from smoking weed and walking out in the cold, I could peel my lips and they bled, so I decided not to do any making out tonight.

My only regret is not getting a number close. I did some heavy flirting with her and her girlfriend and I really enjoyed the Fvck out of myself.

It aint so hard for me to turn off the 'give a ****' button when Ive had a few beers.

cheers

Edit: rethinking my game I think I've got everything going really that I need to have going. When I read about game, or watch seminars, most of it is really becoming old news to me.

I see my friends make mistakes with women that seem to me to really be obvious. They grope girls at entirely inappropriate moments.

My point is that there doesn't seem to be much wrong with my outer game. I even notice that girls really need confirmation and affirmation from me constantly that I am paying attention to them. If I stop paying attention to them for too long they start to get discouraged.

So I think I really have got myself in order. I suppose I will have to fvck some girls if I want to really prove it to you or to myself.

I can only go forward from here! :)

Edit2: While I was dancing with 2 girls in the club last night, some friends of mine whose game I had admired in the past came and greeted me, and the 2 girls just brushed them off. It was pretty funny. It was weird for me because it put the guys in perspective. When I see some guys consistently on top of their game I don't expect to see them getting brushed off. So I guess it proves that guys I considered good in the game can easily get brushed off/blown out and that their game isn't so much better than mine.

My game is feeling pretty airtight right now. I am hoping to get drunk and go out tonight and test my game some more.
 
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Never try to read a woman's mind. It is a scary place. Ignore her confusing signals and mixed messages. Assume she is interested in you and act accordingly.

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Getting tired of not posting any lay reports or at least kiss closes. I am a little pissed with the state of my lips. They seem to be healing from being chapped to the point of bleeding last week.

Anyway I went to my friend's house and had 2 beers. Then I went to the bar. Hb8 blonde 17 was standing outside the door. She really wanted a hug/kiss from me but I wasn't in the mood with my chapped lips. She said she might visit me at work today, which would be alright imo. She's cool.

Then inside the bar I saw about 4 babes who I like. Hb7 negrette kinoed me and I kinoed her back and we had a little "I wanna be the last person to touch you!" game. I was on the verge of groping her titty but I didn't do it because I didn't wanna be sleazy. Saw her outside again and made a little approach with: "you and your pink" with a condescending tone. Went for some more kino, touched up her belly, she didn't mind, and did some flirting. I'm sure I coulda got a make-out at that point if I was 100% on top of my game and my lips were chapped.

Uhhm after that I went to a little afterparty. Ran into HB7 28yrs, and she seemed to be a little upset that I didn't call her. She did call me a handsome man tho, so yay for me.

Then besides that I slapped a HB9's ass just for the hell of it. I told her to stop being so damn hot and she wouldn't stop, so I had to do it.

Shamelessness is the way to go for me now.

You may have noticed I am a little reluctant with kino and I do prefer to let the females initiate it. Those are details though. Once there is kino the point is for me to allow myself to kino the girl's whole body. Starting from hips going the belly, breasts and ass, etc.

Oh, and there's a girl from my social circle, she apparently totally lost it last night. I dunno what the hell she had in her system. She always averts her eyes away from me. I guess that is a sign of submission. Anyway she told me she wanted my vaseline. I loled. Apparently a friend of ours told her how I had vaseline on my night stand. Well I didn't care because jerking off without lube sucks anyway unless one likes raw D*ck.

Anyway it seems I have plenty of prospects around the place. Like I said, I have got what it takes. I am just going to have to keep flirting and escalating.
 
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I'm here for another entry after work. Nothing special happened in particular but I thought it was an interesting night, so I decided to try and keep this post interesting.

I realised when I talked to a chick and held eye-contact for too long (she's my colleagues girl), the chick pulled the proverbial string and tried to get me to chase.

I realised older women are totally STARVED for attention! They are beasts AFAI can tell!

A 30+ yr old's jacket fell on the floor. Then a guy picked it up. I said: "See! Gentlemen still do exist!", and she and I talked about real men and women and bla, anyway she CLUTCHED my hand and I was like: "whoa".

I had a pretty good night because their IL was high from the very get-go. I think my looks are improving somehow. Maybe it's because the belly's shrunk a bit from partying and not eating well.

Now what's most interesting to me, I met a chick who looks REAL damn hot and she seems to be digging me too. I just didn't have the time to talk to her in order for me to build the proper rapport. So she tipped me, I got a good look at her cleavage, I asked her what the tip was for and then her name.

From her behavior I think she just broke up with her boyfriend. TBH I saw her crying *in the club*. I walked by and gave her and her friend a sad look, like I don't want her to cry, but I didn't approach. When you approach a crying girl they'll think you're just trying to show sympathy to get in their pants. Though that may be a generalization, I think it's hardwired into their biology. I don't think it's social conditioning.

Also, if you want to approach a girl and she sees you hesitating, you might as well charge it to the game. If a girl sees you hesitate to approach her, she will lose interest FAST.

If you see a person, there's nothing wrong with taking a glimpse of the person they're talking to. I usually would ignore them and do my thing, aloofly, but now I decided I might as well take a look at them and give them a quick little 'judge'.

Also I noticed with this whole "gamey" approach to stuff I've become too much of a nice guy. Life is serious business. When I go out every night and just see things from a "game" POV, I'm not getting the full picture. The body-language and NLP-ish stuff does help, but the "game" POV doesn't bring the right attitude with it unless one is serious about the game. When **** goes wrong it's easy to blame it on some NLP-nuance, but in essence we(at least I) need to have more drive than what you get in a simple hit-and-miss game. Sometimes it's more like pvshing a boulder. Some boulders roll over you, some won't roll, yet some easily roll down the whole hill if you just give them a little push.

It's easy to turn the tables on women and flip the script, but women don't always have the balls to do what's needed, whereas we as men do. I think the game, at least once you learn it, allows one to go out and look for low-risk situations. Sometimes it's better to try the high-risk situation, which you may have gone for before you learned pua-stuff, because high-risk situations allow you to reap more rewards.
 

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Hi, back to writing another post in the journal. I always feel an urge to write my thoughts down here, yet when I read them back again they mostly look so inane.

Anyway, I had my hair cut short. Got tired of the long hair which reached down to my shoulders. While I am feeling more masculine than I was before, I've still got to get used to my short hair. I feel a little out of place. Though my confidence is no where really, I do seem to be getting compliments. I am sort of just probing women to see what they think of me really. I been sort of down and out because I have been sleeping all day and staying up all night. I look a little pale. Also I have been ejaculating a bit too much and haven't been eating right. Started taking my supplements again and doing my PC-training, and it feels stronger already, after only a few days. That's why I cut my hair too, I wanted to get a fresher vibe around me. I sort of want to keep changing, always moving like a flowing river, so that I don't get stale. Change has to be a constant. Being unpredictable is good. I mean my masculinity/alphaness have been on a steady rise really, and my pimp hand is ever strong. I don't light cigarettes for ladies before mine is lit, and I don't actively give em too much smokes off my joint. I guess it's a bull**** schematic to follow, but it helps to keep the ****-tests/*****iness at bay. It's simpler to keep the women at a certain distance and set boundaries early.

I am also at a level where I feel I can almost read womens' minds. I know what they're thinking because they follow body-language like my grandma follows soap opera's. When I'm out of state game is still pretty hard for me to grasp. I sit at the bar, and I can feel the eyes of the women looking at me, yet I have no desire to be looked at/judged. Women are really huntresses when they go out. Most guys seem to be oblivious guys just talking to each other or doing their thing while most of the women seem to be putting on a front, acting like they're focusing on each other but they'd really be focusing on their surroundings. I have a keen eye for women, I think, but I have only a vague idea of how others perceive me, and that seems to be my problem. I don't think people know what to expect of me. And that comes down to what's written in Iceberg's signature: "Sex appeal is 50% what you've got and 50% what other people think you've got."

Game, when I just started out, was based on seeing how far I could get girls to go. It was just a matter of taking what I could get and escalating as far as possible. It still is. The difference is that I handled myself from an abundance perspective. My inner game was stronger, and my outer game was pretty damn solid. Something went wrong down the line. I focused too much on the details. It's really an art, seduction, and the beauty of it lies in the joy of the experience. As I sit here and ponder my thoughts I really see great potential. It's just that I need to get my inner game stronger. I need more confidence. I guess the only way for that is to go out and get more experience.

There comes a problem with studying game like an internet-nerd who needs experience points to he can level up.

The idea is that I need to fvcking seduce chicks. The way to do that isn't through drugs, weed, alcohol or anything superficial. It's something primal and I can sense it like a certain hunger. My sensitivity to anything feminine is through the roof. So I suppose I will just have to swag it out and see what opportunities present themselves. Above all, I must simply be me. I have written all that I think I can write to help myself for the time being. Inner game isn't something you can really enhance on a forum so much. So that's all I got for now.

Peace.
 

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Just went out. Was a little paranoid at the start. Don't know how I look with my hair short. Things went fine though. At the afterparty I saw HB8 snookie-friend. A friend of my friend who resembles snookie. She was pretty receptive.

Also at the club I did little flirting and basically kept the kino constant. Got the number. Couldn't really time-bridge except for a little afterparty. I went there, called the chick. Don't think I am gonna call her later this week. Nowadays there's barely a point to taking a girl's number. I get the feeling each chick has already handed out their number 500 times. Of course making out on the same night is the strategy that us playboys should be shooting for. I think I can take care of business. The way it went today it looks like I've got lots of potential. I will find out. At least I did have fun tonight.

Also talked to one of the chicks I used to have one-itis for. I didn't even flinch tonight. Was nice talking to the girl though. Just having a little convo with her really opened me up for talking to all the other girls. Funny how game seems to be contagious.
 

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I don't really have anything especially boast-worthy to mention. No kiss-closes, tittygrabbing or anything of the like, for the past few weeks.

I did however meet a really cool wing-man last night. He's a latino and he's got that fire, that drive. So we were a good combination, I think he liked my nice guy look that I've got now with my short hair. Don't be confused that I don't mix it with attititude. I just walked around in a dark-brown T-shirt and I can make that work for me.

So anyway, I texted the chick I met last weekend to come for drinks, she didn't come. Texted me the next day she was asleep. So I cut out the texting for now since I don't have time to meet up with her anyway in the next few days. She seems to like me but she likes to tease me a lot which is fun but also a bit of a mind-****. Thing is that I am quick enough to recognize her mind-games and I think that is sort of what gives us our chemistry.

I ran into a chick that I met a long time ago just by random chance a long time ago. So my latin friend told me she was looking at me. Without hesitation I approached, did some chit-chat and got the number pretty easily. The latin guy was waiting to see what I would make of it. I felt that pressure but I liked it. Gave me a bit of a rush. It also reminded me of my obligation as a man that I must sew my wild oats. The girl wasn't really 100% on top of her game but she seeems to like me. I think she's just a little nervous/shy around me. Tried to escalate on her in the club like a year ago. Stopped the escalation because she wasn't really doing that much.

The funny thing is though - when I asked for the number, she told me I already had it. Apparently I already #closed this chick. It must have been a long time ago. I can't believe she remembers and I don't. Women :p. That's good news though. It's sad how sometimes you have a number in your phone and you might not know whose number it is and in the end it's a girl with high IL. I suppose I'm lucky I ran into her by chance last night.

So now that I think about it, whether these 2 "plates" lead to anything - I don't know - I seem to have things cut out for me. I like the variety that I get with these 2 plates. They both seem to have high IL. I am getting an "I wanna fvck you" vibe from the first girl. But it's a little ambiguous. I think I should just hang out with her 2 or 3 dates and that way I will find out enough.
 

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Well guys, I lost patience.

Handed over the cash beforehand.

The good news is, she was pretty tight and I made her *** by hittin the G-spot:box:

Anyway, I feel like I can finally think clearly now.

I had such a meaningful week it's ridiculous.

Took some psychedelics a few days ago, now I visited a chick and I made her howl like a dog. Nearly tore a tendon in her pvssy. Saw her walking by outside the next day with a smile on her face.

Though it's sad to lose the cash, it was a real good fvck. I'm not really sorry I did it. It was great. I wasn't even that nervous stepping in the door. It was like meeting any girl. She just happened to be wearing less clothing than most.

TBH I don't think I deserve to be called a Master Don Juan and I don't know when one really could acheive that state. Only people like Roissy really fit the bill imo. I mean I really don't try post here for any ego boosting. Just sorta writing a journal. Though that fvck was good for me as well as my ego.

I'm thinking of sort of "letting go" of this Don Juanism a little bit tbh because a lot of it has to do with my ego. That's really the whole reason I came here. To patch up a bruised ego. I should be over whatever hurts I got in the past.

Anyway I feel like a huge weight as been lifted off my shoulders. Haven't had a good fvck like this for a l0ng-ass time. Years really. Me and this ho were sexually compatible.
 

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Ok dudes.

I moved to Amsterdam now this summer. Got myself some tinnitus which prevents me from hitting the club. I hit the club last month with earplugs and got a ONS. Hit the club 3 times subsequently, didn't get lucky. I'm not gonna try it anymore though. My clubbing life is over.

Met a chick at school which made me nervous, got the number. She's a HB6. Texted her if she wants to hang for the weekend, she says she wants to hang out next weekend. Gonna have to figure out something for a Day1.

Also made a few jokes during a class this week, after trying to contain my incredibly humorous personality since the start of Uni. The whole class laughed, but I don't want to be regarded as the class clown. One chick IOI'd me; said I was really funny. Next day she wanted to jump on the back of my bike, I told her to ask nicely. She's a freespirited type of girl, so she seems easy to game.

Another chick I met from class is really cute, a high 7, she's a bit short and seems really cute. I opened her twice and got her giggling and stuff. She told me she was a "nice girl", which is my type of girl. So I guess I should ask her out.

I've been rereading Mystery Method, and it seems I need to learn to build attraction some more, which means I should dress neatly and be a bit more money. Layered clothing should do that for me, maybe some new shoes/pants/shirts. Going to let my hair grow long. Also I think I should neg a bit more on the hotter girls, and DHV myself occasionally.

I was getting a ton more IOI's back when I just started working at the club, when I was a bit more buff. Gonna start doing sports again soon. No more smoking/drinking, lots of sleep and a good diet should get me into a pretty nice shape.

Also, I feel better now about picking up my work on the game. I haven't been working on my game for a while as hard as I should have. I wasn't really able to, because I smoked huge amounts of weed. Now I just need to put on a nice button-down shirt, work on my looks, spin some plates; things should be a lot easier.

Peace.
 

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I am sorta done really worrying about women for now. I haven't hit the club in a few weeks. I met a muslim guy who is celibate for religious reasons. It's fun getting to know him. I am trying to study hard for school, but I'm also a bit unsure whether to switch majors. I don't have time to be in doubt though, so I am trying to study.

I just wanted to write a little update because I am learning to live on my own now. I am growing up now more than I have been before. This is a pretty important period in my life. I was heavily in doubt about school, made a pretty dramatic post about 1 week ago about it. Now I feel like I am getting a grip on university, and on my household as well. I am behind schedule on both of them, but I think I can pull through at school. Anyway, I am going to watch a seminar on evolution now.

PEACE
 

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I am gonna post here again now for a change. The other journal I made only had 8 posts anyway.

So I am subscribed at a gym. I ordered the studying book & CD so I can get my license. I started brushing, flossing and using listerine almost daily. Fvck the fluoride: I want white teeth. Still quit weed

So I hit the gym twice now. Feel super exhausted. Makin progress in school.

There were so many hot babes in the gym it's maddening. I have lost the habit of approaching because I never really got much success that way. My main niche was finding drunk *****es in clubs. I wanna get better at day-game though. Hitting the gym though I'm more focussed on working out than on approaching. I could still approach though, but I don't wanna really bother will bullsh*t.

Got myself a new dentist, to keep my teeth in good shape. Working hard at school.

My main downfall nowadays is that I can't stop trickin* and fvcking *****s. Living in Amsterdam it's easy to find a HB10 in the window and fvck her.

Noticed though that there's much more variety in the gym itself, so I might as well work on my physique and my education, to be honest. I'll study for the license on the side.
 

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Ok I did 6x10 pushups yesterday because i didn't hit the gym, and I did 3x10 today at the gym.

I can finally feel the swelling of my chest start to kick in again. Also did some tricep reps: 3x 10, and some dip/type exercises , don't remember the reps.

I went out clubbing last night, talked to some girls, but wasn't as drunk as them so had a bit of a hard time getting on their level. It was fun though.

Might still go out tonight, though I doubt it.

My main problem is that I can't stop fvcking hoes. I really like fvcking them although it's expensive.

Tomorrow I check the doctor to see if someone can check out my spine, and also gonna get my ****-health checked in case I ran up an STD.

School-wise I passed every single one of my tests this year so far. I am planning on studying more throughout the next holiday-week, and possibly study for my driver's license, though school gets the first priority.
 
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