She's some random nutjob off Tinder who doesn't want to meet up for whatever reason. Just block her. Probably a lesbian or something.
Or fvck it. It's a hook-up app, and she's holding out. Report her for misuse.
Seriously though, i told you the dynamics back on page one. It maybe sounds complicated saying it, but this should just be a quite immediate impression. You are either very senseless, or you are willfully ignoring the obvious. That's probably why people are getting annoyed. I think your heart is in the right place though.
Great relationships do not begin with "she went off on one on tinder about rape, got ****y over messaging, then avoided meeting for a month".
You need to work on your self-esteem. Subsequently, people will treat you better (women and men). If not, then they aren't there for good reasons anyway (like this person).
Low self-esteem folk gett off on being treated poorly. So not sure how much one can actually help.