Mirroring Her Text Reply Time?

[pranshu]

How about set the tempo yourself? If you maintain frame and you have a mentality of abundance and not desperation you can navigate it well.

exactly my thoughts...

 

[behimo]

you should text like how a slot machine allows wins; keeps the player on the machine.
if you're consistent, they will lose interest.

from my experience, if a girl doesn't respond quickly it's because they are flooded with texts from simps and orbiters OR They aren't very creative so if you say anything that causes them to think and they think their response is not worth typing. You can equate that to no or low interest but that's where the phrase hungry dogs run faster makes sense. These girls are fat from abundance or crippling anxiety.

your true power is the ability to next and move on, self-respect really.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Something about getting her hamster wheels spinning. Lol

It spins just as well by not texting overall.

 

[soulforge]

you should text like how a slot machine allows wins; keeps the player on the machine.
if you're consistent, they will lose interest.

from my experience, if a girl doesn't respond quickly it's because they are flooded with texts from simps and orbiters OR They aren't very creative so if you say anything that causes them to think and they think their response is not worth typing. You can equate that to no or low interest but that's where the phrase hungry dogs run faster makes sense. These girls are fat from abundance or crippling anxiety.

your true power is the ability to next and move on, self-respect really.

How do you equate this then?

Chick takes around an hour to text back, however at the same time is insisting you meet her parents and family.. push for LTR

The delay in texting could be perceived as LI the meet the family, high interest

 

[EyeBRollin]

The delay in texting could be perceived as LI the meet the family, high interest

Why even analyze this?

 

[behimo]

How do you equate this then?

Chick takes around an hour to text back, however at the same time is insisting you meet her parents and family.. push for LTR

The delay in texting could be perceived as LI the meet the family, high interest

is meeting parents and the family the premise prior the her responding, or was her response after an hour about you meeting parents and family?

sometimes ppl get too involved in the game aspect. are you just looking to keep her as a plate or do you have any intentions towards a secure relationship she seems to desire? Did you make your intentions known prior and she's testing you now? so many variables man. I wouldn't over think it.

 

[Divorced w 3]

How do you equate this then?

Chick takes around an hour to text back, however at the same time is insisting you meet her parents and family.. push for LTR

The delay in texting could be perceived as LI the meet the family, high interest

Who cares? Go hit some golf balls and stop worrying about it. I know in your shoes, not the advice you want.. but it’s the right advice

 

[The Duke]

Ive always done things on my terms, I'm not mirroring anybody. It's worked great.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

I find that it's best to wait until 2am and have drunk half a bottle of vodka before replying to a girl's text.

Somehow at that point I know exactly what to say.

Or high as fvck chillin I come up with some razor blade witty sh1t

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

There is no formula for this folks. Everything is subjective and situational.
Work on queue recognition.

Fraking autistic shyte.

 

[RazorRambo24]

The only thing to know about texting is if you are eagerly responding alot and texting more than the person on the other end, its safe to say youre either really not doing anything at the time or youre just not a very busy person.

Time creates desire and comfort. Time between texts is normal. Its like before when there were answering machines for phones.. it was nice to expect and know that it would take some time for ur message to be heard and responded to. It also gave people something to look forward to when coming home.

The samw thing goes for texts.

Now if its 12 am on a weekday and youre in bed its totally fine to exchange texts within minutes or seconds.

But its also good to gauge what a persons texting habits are and if yours are bad let them know ahead of time im a bad texter and i barely respond to texts on time.

 

[I_have_BDE]

Typically how quickly do you guys respond back to a girl when texting.

I tend to mirror her response time.

If she takes 15 minutes.. I take 15 minutes... If she takes an hour... I take an hour..

If its someone from OLD if its not right away they will lose interest real fast.

 

[Divorced w 3]

If its someone from OLD if its not right away they will lose interest real fast.

Interest is lost in social situations if not pursued upfront but it’s also lost in the later stages if you continue that speed of pursuit. Tension and intrigue are built with distance

 

[manfrombelow]

In my personal case, it's not exactly a fixed formula where I must calculate every single bit of second / minute to text back to a girl, but I am sure as hell not replying to her RIGHT AWAY. Because I actually have a life and I don't stick with my phone 24/7 (like most chicks nowadays).

Believe it or not, some girls I met on Tinder actually went batsh!t crazy just because I replied back to them in one hour instead of one second. But that's how I filter out crazy ones from my batch of plates.

 

[Pierce Manhammer]

iPhone super hack:

1. Women use iPhones almost exclusively.
2. So do I.
3. I leave read receipts on.
4. From the beginning they see that I don’t read their messages immediately, so I cannot reply to that which I haven’t seem. PERIOD.

This gets them acclimated. Of course you can read the messages without opening them depending on your settings.

I also use the silence notifications feature. Train the women.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Typically how quickly do you guys respond back to a girl when texting.

I tend to mirror her response time.

If she takes 15 minutes.. I take 15 minutes... If she takes an hour... I take an hour..

I'm surprised this thread had escaped my radar.

When it comes to texting, look, I am Mode One (or my version of Mode One: Mode X)

What does that mean?

It means that my first text to a chick will be about the possibility of sex.

A text of that nature (for better or worse) will usually beg for a prompt response.

Once (or if) she passes the reciprocator test and I am able to smash, she can take as long as she wants to respond.

I already got the puzzy, so who cares?
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However, if you care about that kind of stuff...

One thing you can do is give her the last word.

What do I mean?

You: Hey Katie, are you free tomorrow night for dinner?

Katie (45 minutes later): I'm sorry, I am going out of town.

You: .................

Do not respond, and let your silence be deafening.

That will prompt her to say something like..

Katie: But I am free next weekend if you are.

This is one hellava psychological effect, as your lack of response will put her in pursue mode and will have her thinking she is losing you.

Imagine if you texted a woman...

You: I don't think we should see each other any longer. We are incompatible and I don't think it will work.

Her: ...........

Silence.

You are yearning for her response, but she ain't giving it to you.

LOL.

This is a version of the ignorement strategy (see thread).

Try it.



No guarantees but it is worth a try.

Another thing to do is, if you are fed up with her slow-ass responses and if you haven't already, go Mode One, although you will be using this method as reactive than proactive (like I mentioned above).

When you have nothing to lose, Mode One is there for the kill.

 

[Fruitbat]

If you’re thinking things like this you’re miles off the chart in being invested. Text back when you can - naturally you’re busy leading a life. If you aren’t, that needs to change.

 

[Murk]

These days I set a precedent of slow replies with women from day 1. It's MUCH easier to maintain slow replies with occasional quick replies than the reverse. I tell them I'm busy, not much of a texting person and maintain that from the very beginning.

These things have to be learned and experienced, you also have to be genuinely busy, I can reply 1 hour to 1 day later to most people with no issues. These problems only arise when you have too much free time and over-investment in the woman.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I dont play games.. Most of the time Im busy anyways, so the late responses come sometimes naturally. If I get a message after an unusual amount of time (sense games are being played), Ill respond back the double of her respond time. f.e she needs 6 hours to get back, Ill respond in 12 hours, maybe the next day depending whether Im still awake or not

Real Men dont play games.

I thought this too. 48 laws of power is a good read.

 

[Gamisch]

Thing is, when she doesn't reply back in a reasonable amount of time and you notice it, it the first sign that YOU are the one who cares more than she does.

A lot of things related to dating have to do with patient. Now, ofcourse there's a sweet spot where you can tell her lack of responsiveness is a sign she's drifting off. But the latter seems to have us all paranoid. You might be talking to multiple women( lets say 3) , and 2 of them will also stop initiating before they drift off. At the end every man has had 5 or perhaps even 10 times more women drifting away than he had actual success with. And this creates, maintains, and thus triggers something in the brain, a negative association.

At some point a woman slowly responding reminds you off that sweet spot moment. Your "traumatized " mind will recognize it as (yet another) rejection. Because all previous rejections started exactly like this.

The solution?; keep calm. She will drift away eventually. When and how is always a question. But be patient as long as it's going on. If you feel like you are entering "stalker/checking up on her constantly " mode, REFRAME immediately!! Shake it off, and realize you're giving her the wheel . Take back the driverseat/control, focus on other stuff and she will definitely come around. Id ahe doesn't it was a lost case anyway.Thats why mirroring her actions is good, although its a sign you're already on the wrong side of the fence because SHE decides the pace instead of you!
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So, having said that I don't know if it is the best thing to constantly call her out. Depending on how long you're dating her and ofcourse an analysis of her regular texting behavior will teach you all you need to know. You'll know when and how to call her out , but when you call someone put there MUST be consequences involved when they repeat their mistakes.

But I still feel like its yet another matter we as men shouldn't take too serious every time. If you work ,hit the gym have some friends and hobbies, you might have a 2/3 hour window to text (including evening). And no, during the lunch break you might need that 30 minute window to actually get some food, have some fun with your colleagues or just ease your mind.

If you are the type who get anxious about texting, then text less.