Mirroring Her Text Reply Time?

[Murk]

These days I set a precedent of slow replies with women from day 1. It's MUCH easier to maintain slow replies with occasional quick replies than the reverse. I tell them I'm busy, not much of a texting person and maintain that from the very beginning.

These things have to be learned and experienced, you also have to be genuinely busy, I can reply 1 hour to 1 day later to most people with no issues. These problems only arise when you have too much free time and over-investment in the woman.

 

[Divorced w 3]

I dont play games.. Most of the time Im busy anyways, so the late responses come sometimes naturally. If I get a message after an unusual amount of time (sense games are being played), Ill respond back the double of her respond time. f.e she needs 6 hours to get back, Ill respond in 12 hours, maybe the next day depending whether Im still awake or not

Real Men dont play games.

I thought this too. 48 laws of power is a good read.

 

[Gamisch]

Thing is, when she doesn't reply back in a reasonable amount of time and you notice it, it the first sign that YOU are the one who cares more than she does.

A lot of things related to dating have to do with patient. Now, ofcourse there's a sweet spot where you can tell her lack of responsiveness is a sign she's drifting off. But the latter seems to have us all paranoid. You might be talking to multiple women( lets say 3) , and 2 of them will also stop initiating before they drift off. At the end every man has had 5 or perhaps even 10 times more women drifting away than he had actual success with. And this creates, maintains, and thus triggers something in the brain, a negative association.

At some point a woman slowly responding reminds you off that sweet spot moment. Your "traumatized " mind will recognize it as (yet another) rejection. Because all previous rejections started exactly like this.

The solution?; keep calm. She will drift away eventually. When and how is always a question. But be patient as long as it's going on. If you feel like you are entering "stalker/checking up on her constantly " mode, REFRAME immediately!! Shake it off, and realize you're giving her the wheel . Take back the driverseat/control, focus on other stuff and she will definitely come around. Id ahe doesn't it was a lost case anyway.Thats why mirroring her actions is good, although its a sign you're already on the wrong side of the fence because SHE decides the pace instead of you!
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So, having said that I don't know if it is the best thing to constantly call her out. Depending on how long you're dating her and ofcourse an analysis of her regular texting behavior will teach you all you need to know. You'll know when and how to call her out , but when you call someone put there MUST be consequences involved when they repeat their mistakes.

But I still feel like its yet another matter we as men shouldn't take too serious every time. If you work ,hit the gym have some friends and hobbies, you might have a 2/3 hour window to text (including evening). And no, during the lunch break you might need that 30 minute window to actually get some food, have some fun with your colleagues or just ease your mind.

If you are the type who get anxious about texting, then text less.

 

[Divorced w 3]

Just don’t text her. Think about it as a cleanse for your own sanity. You’ll appreciate it. So many benefits. It’s like intermittent fasting. Make her continually initiate and then respond when you want. Over time you’ll clear up your thinking. Distance will feel comfortable and you’ll feel back in the drivers seat. If you want to continue to pursue the relationship you’ll feel better about doing so. Some of the puppy behavior will burn off and you’ll have a firmer attitude towards your relationship

 

[NealIRC]

How do women text other women? And when do women ask other women for their #s?

 

[Divorced w 3]

How do women text other women? And when do women ask other women for their #s?

Context in the following: I went mode one on her at the bar- I told her I had three kids and a girlfriend and was legally separated- I’m 9 years older than her - she’s a legit 8.5.., and she lives a quarter mile from my ex wife - the evening ended and she jumped on my hips and I grabbed her ass and then when I left I legit walked by them both and didn’t say goodbye. I blew her off when she found me on Facebook and tried to give me my card back, and I didn’t speak to her for two months.

 

[Divorced w 3]

 

[Divorced w 3]

 

[member160292]

Context in the following: I went mode one on her at the bar- I told her I had three kids and a girlfriend and was legally separated- I’m 9 years older than her - she’s a legit 8.5.., and she lives a quarter mile from my ex wife - the evening ended and she jumped on my hips and I grabbed her ass and then when I left I legit walked by them both and didn’t say goodbye. I blew her off when she found me on Facebook and tried to give me my card back, and I didn’t speak to her for two months.

Why didn’t you reach out to her for 2 months after she messaged to you on FB?

 

[startstrongtoday22]

Sometimes you don’t need to reply back if you have nothing to add. I just don’t understand why there has to be a reply to every text that comes. Sometimes you send some thing and unless you want her to acknowledge it or it was a question and then you need to make sure your text messages are clear. If your textS are not clear, they really don’t know what to say. Other times you may say stuff that you really don’t have an answer to so just leave it read.
The point is you don’t need to reply to every text that she sent or she does not need to reply to every text that you send

 

[Divorced w 3]

Why didn’t you reach out to her for 2 months after she messaged to you on FB?

I was seeing this other girl for like 8 weeks at the time and she was away on business when I met the one in the text. I had feelings for her then that I’m starting to question now.