Minimal texting early on

Bigpapa

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Exactly. There is no wrong or right way like some people here try to put a formula on. If it was, we'd all be having success with 100% of the women we are interested in. There are many ways to skin the cat and everyone and every situation is unique. There is nothing wrong with having or following loose guidelines to start from however.

People here read too much but do not try various things and only stick to a very rigid set of rules.

As with anything in life, one must be fluid, flexible, adapt. Once you become rigid is when you lost and limit one's self.
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I completely agree with you @EyeBRollin . However I feel @Lookatu (I wanted to type Lukaku) has a point too. I honestly feel you are both right but that you are looking at this from a different angle.

You cannot talk a woman into liking you. True. If you mean liking you is feeling attracted to you or falling for you. You can raise a girl's interest with text game though. Her curiosity will grow and this can lead to attraction later on. With solid text game you can lay the foundation and then when you meet and you bring your A-game? Boy.. fireworks. You've got her man. She was already feeling excited before meeting you and then you deliver and escalate things by kissing her? She'll be so incredibly attracted to you at this point.

So yes, you cannot raise attraction by texting, but if you're doing things right your texting skills will help pave the road to her heart once you get to meet her. I've done this hundred of times.

Texting without meeting up or texting to the point where you're overtexting on the other hand is killing the potential.
Very well put brother.

I think we all agree that texting too much or without any kind of fun, witty banter, or other things to get her her tingling isn't a good thing to do. However, using this as a tool the correct way like @BeExcellent gave an example of, will not hurt you and at the best can help you. Some choose to do it and some don't. Different strokes for different folks applies here.

Everyone is going to discover their own technique on what works and what doesn't. This is party determined on their own personality.
For example, I would never advocate a guy to text as much if he naturally can't engage in any witty banter before meeting someone. To me, just texting about mundane and boring stuff is going to turn off a girl.
 

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To me, just texting about mundane and boring stuff is going to turn off a girl.
Hell it turns me off as a friend when even my mates text me boring stuff. I don't even reply their dry ass messages and I love 'em to death.

Now imagine you're a girl and some dude texts you about the sandwich he's eating.. yes, some dudes do this
 

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Different strokes for different folks applies here.

Everyone is going to discover their own technique on what works and what doesn't.
i agree with this. issue happens when one says their style is how everyone else should do it
Demonstrating playfulness, fun and engaging puts him head & shoulders above a man who is radio silent or a man who waits for the chick to reach out.

Guys like my friend literally run circles around the radio silent/wait for the chick to message crowd.
subcommunication ~ guys who initiate texts > guys who don't initiate texts.

"noooo I was just saying what my friend does!!!"

eyebrollin's less subtle tho. straight up has a comment saying, "texting is feminine" lol.
 

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i agree with this. issue happens when one says their style is how everyone else should do it

subcommunication ~ guys who initiate texts > guys who don't initiate texts.

"noooo I was just saying what my friend does!!!"

eyebrollin's less subtle tho. straight up has a comment saying, "texting is feminine" lol.
what guys do not understand in general is that even escorts want to be treated like ladies

this means that women like to be cherished . The difference between a guy that gets ladies and those who do not , is that there is a fine line between being a player and being a simp
 

Just because a woman listens to you and acts interested in what you say doesn't mean she really is. She might just be acting polite, while silently wishing that the date would hurry up and end, or that you would go away... and never come back.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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@cola .. you are one of the people with the best advice on this entire forum. Just needed to say this in public.

Time and time again I find myself agreeing with your posts. You know how the game is played. Respect
Flattered, thanks homie.
 
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