Men are now more likely to be single than women. It's not a good sign.

manfrombelow

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Basic human behavior has not changed for 100,000 years. The only thing that changes is technology, population growth, and diminished resource pressures. These things drive the development of culture to adapt to change. As cultures change there will always be conservative v. progressive conflict... those who believe cultural change is needed: those who do not want to change.

These social conflicts, in the past, could always be resolved with people wanting change, could just up and move to where there are not people and start over. This is how the USA was formed. The problem today is that we can no longer just pull up stakes and move. An individual, prior to the mid-1990s could just move, start over and go from there. You can't do that anymore...

Think about it... I know dozens of women when I was in college, who were absolute nymphomaniacs... now every now and then I will cross paths with one of them on social media... and they are married to Baptist ministers with grand-children. YOU CAN'T FVCKING DO THAT ANYMORE. Your past stays with you. So the reason why marriage is on the decline is because the totality of your life stays with you, making finding partners very difficult.

Every time a woman leaves a relationship she worries that what they did in that relationship will get posted as some kind of revenge. Men look at the woman's past and thinks "Do I really want to marry a girl whose idea of a good weekend is having a train run on her."

Everything you do lives forever on social media, your past is an open book, anyone can do a background check and learn everything about you as part of the public record. The reason why fewer people are getting married is because we learn too much about our potential partners too soon, and we never have time to ease into the shock.

Our culture as not settled into this new realty.
Very well-written piece there buddy. Are you also implying that, because people in the past were not able to "learn too much too soon" about their "potential partners" (thanks to the absence of technology that allows people to), they were also able to have more happy relationships?
 
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