I don't subscribe to this theory. The French society use to have mistresses and this was only a generation or two ago. In china and parts of south east Asia - there were "minor" and "major" wives. Guess what, these societies survived and the wife did not breakup the marriage. This was only a few generation ago. There are numerous examples of this throughout history.
Guys are not women and women are not men. Guys have a drive to have sex with different women. Women don't have this drive. To "domesticate" men so they "set the standard" by not cheating is like asking women to be cut down trees so there can be a clearing for log cabins and a house. Just like how men can have sex with multiple women and not "be damaged" while women can.
I applaud those men who don't cheat even though they have the opportunity, but that is not how life is.
I personally feel men are built to have one wife who he bonds with emotionally.... and multiple flings. The whole monogamous thing doesn't really work with most men. Just a fact of life. To insist on this is only to provide more reasons for broken families and lower marriage rates. The whole monogamous thing hasn't really work at all for men -- there has always been cheating and the perfunctory forgiveness that women have given to men and life continues; UNTIL quite recently which has changed male and female dynamics for the worse..
women don’t have an urge to screw around? Really?!
the number of attached women I screwed when young/muscular/working as a club DJ begs to differ. When I worked in holiday resorts, Jesus, it was free love.
The societies you mention, it was generally the wealthy, accomplished men who acted this way, and a lot of these cultural leanings have their foot in past wars. Russian culture was the same, but mainly because about 40% of men were killed in wars. This culture generally sprung up because men (or men with the requisite resources) were in short supply. I could go to the third world today and get the same arrangement. Some poor girl from a village is not going to care where you dip the ink provided the resources keep coming her way.
It’s a very convenient system isn’t it! I get to screw around and my theory says everyone’s happy!
would you want a woman who didn’t bat an eyelid when you come home covered in lipstick? Would that not, in some way, suggest she really doesn’t particularly care?
i would also question your assertion that all men want multiple flings. It’s in our nature, sure, but it’s also in womens nature to do the same. Little things like guilt get in the way for me, having to juggle this pantomime, the hurt it would cause my daughter if she found out. Plus most men who are actually in command of the resources to keep more than one woman are often too busy with work to have this kind of distraction.
I have one option, not a bad option, someone 19 years my junior, and I avoid her like the plague. Long experience tells me it isn’t worth it. 10 mins on pornhub achieves the same result without the massive hassle.
you, and others, May feel it’s your right and natural to sleep with as many women as you can. This js a forum for this after all, I’m just saying, don’t conflate your own will with that of others and make broad statements which ascribe these desires to everyone. Not everyone plays life on the same rules.
