The_last_Gunslinger
Don Juan
- Joined
- Jun 7, 2008
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Sup men,
Please permit me to share my background quickly then ask a question that has plagued me for some time now.
I am a 34 year old professional. I am lean, fit muscular and attractive. I have no shortage of women giving me the big eye on a daily basis. I thought I was a pure AFC at one point because even with all the female attention, I have had few LTRs in my life, mostly seasonal flings. After I came here about 5 months ago I lurked and learned, I read all the source material provided and discovered that I was part DJ and part AFC. Some things that I was successful with women I was doing naturally (like Kino) and the AFC traits I had are all but gone now. I do feel confident (to some degree, this pertains to my question momentarily). I am content with my life personally and truly understand what it means to be happy with yourself first. I workout on a regular schedule and have plenty of hobbies and interests to fill my time.
The one thing I don’t not have…and now my question…..is a car. I do not own a car or have a license. This stems from my childhood as my family and I could not afford one. Shortly after high school I left for a big city to go to school. Once again I did not have a car because of my financial situation and it was impractical to own a vehicle in a city with limited parking and ample public transportation. Shortly after college I stayed in that city and dated and had a great time with a variety of girls. But alas, the black hole which is my hometown finally caught up with me and I moved home.
I have an excellent apartment, fantastic job, and savings for some world travel in a few years. But in my home town women won’t date me because of my lack of a vehicle. Even though I am completely independent without one. I have the best grocery store in the county 2 blocks from me, all the nightlife the city offers is directly outside my door in a 4 block radius. The public transportation is close by and cheap for getting to and from work. What plagues me is after talking with women for some time after I approach them or they approach me, they find out I don’t drive and the conversation essentially ends there. It can be frustrating as I see some great potential in these women. Yet they turn me off promptly once they display their materialistic nature with the question: “so what do you drive”? Once I tell them I don’t they look at me as some kind of leper.
I do not want to own a car, they are money sinks and stress makers.
I will not own a car simply to please a woman, as I will find little use for a vehicle in my life.
I no longer approach women, not that I’m scared or intimidated, just because I know how the situation ends up once they find out I don’t drive.
I don’t want to be approached now as I see it wastes both the girl’s time and mine. Since the majority of them are shallow and vapid (at least in my area).
So men, what’s a guy to do here? I feel like I’m stuck in a nasty catch 22. I will not waste time and energy and my future plans by owning a car simply to get a woman. Yet I would like the company of a woman.
From the reading of the DJ bible I take with me the understanding that compromising yourself to simply get a woman is a DJ sin. So what kind of a DJ do I need to be?
What angles can I use here? Anyone else in this situation around my age?
I understand if a lot of you can’t understand this, American culture places social status and personal worth on the type of car you drive….so those of you still plugged into the matrix may not get me.
Any insight would be appreciated….good day men!
Please permit me to share my background quickly then ask a question that has plagued me for some time now.
I am a 34 year old professional. I am lean, fit muscular and attractive. I have no shortage of women giving me the big eye on a daily basis. I thought I was a pure AFC at one point because even with all the female attention, I have had few LTRs in my life, mostly seasonal flings. After I came here about 5 months ago I lurked and learned, I read all the source material provided and discovered that I was part DJ and part AFC. Some things that I was successful with women I was doing naturally (like Kino) and the AFC traits I had are all but gone now. I do feel confident (to some degree, this pertains to my question momentarily). I am content with my life personally and truly understand what it means to be happy with yourself first. I workout on a regular schedule and have plenty of hobbies and interests to fill my time.
The one thing I don’t not have…and now my question…..is a car. I do not own a car or have a license. This stems from my childhood as my family and I could not afford one. Shortly after high school I left for a big city to go to school. Once again I did not have a car because of my financial situation and it was impractical to own a vehicle in a city with limited parking and ample public transportation. Shortly after college I stayed in that city and dated and had a great time with a variety of girls. But alas, the black hole which is my hometown finally caught up with me and I moved home.
I have an excellent apartment, fantastic job, and savings for some world travel in a few years. But in my home town women won’t date me because of my lack of a vehicle. Even though I am completely independent without one. I have the best grocery store in the county 2 blocks from me, all the nightlife the city offers is directly outside my door in a 4 block radius. The public transportation is close by and cheap for getting to and from work. What plagues me is after talking with women for some time after I approach them or they approach me, they find out I don’t drive and the conversation essentially ends there. It can be frustrating as I see some great potential in these women. Yet they turn me off promptly once they display their materialistic nature with the question: “so what do you drive”? Once I tell them I don’t they look at me as some kind of leper.
I do not want to own a car, they are money sinks and stress makers.
I will not own a car simply to please a woman, as I will find little use for a vehicle in my life.
I no longer approach women, not that I’m scared or intimidated, just because I know how the situation ends up once they find out I don’t drive.
I don’t want to be approached now as I see it wastes both the girl’s time and mine. Since the majority of them are shallow and vapid (at least in my area).
So men, what’s a guy to do here? I feel like I’m stuck in a nasty catch 22. I will not waste time and energy and my future plans by owning a car simply to get a woman. Yet I would like the company of a woman.
From the reading of the DJ bible I take with me the understanding that compromising yourself to simply get a woman is a DJ sin. So what kind of a DJ do I need to be?
What angles can I use here? Anyone else in this situation around my age?
I understand if a lot of you can’t understand this, American culture places social status and personal worth on the type of car you drive….so those of you still plugged into the matrix may not get me.
Any insight would be appreciated….good day men!