Majorly tested

[EyeOnThePrize]

Lol no. It wasn’t that she didn’t respect him, it was just that she gave him all of her self-respect. That’s what happened. It explains the entire situation. You don’t need to get indignant about every little thing lol

self-respect is between you and yourself, it doesn't make sense to give self-respect to other people. and i'm not sure what i said that made you think i'm indignant.

I'm probably making some assumptions though, as are others in the thread. i can imagine scenarios where a girl saying that would have me kick her out, and other scenarios where it wouldn't bother me at all. but if it were to upset me for the day i would take that as a sign of overinvestment.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

self-respect is between you and yourself, it doesn't make sense to give self-respect to other people. and i'm not sure what i said that made you think i'm indignant.

No I meant that she gave him all of her self-respect because she no longer has any when she is around him, but around other dudes, she does; she’s okay with HIM sexually degrading her, but not necessarily others. And when I said there’s no need for you to get indignant over everything, I didn’t mean YOU personally, I just meant you in the general sense.

I'm probably making some assumptions though, as are others in the thread. i can imagine scenarios where a girl saying that would have me kick her out, and other scenarios where it wouldn't bother me at all. but if it were to upset me for the day i would take that as a sign of overinvestment.

Yeah I don’t look at it like that either, I think it was just him being extremely flustered at how overt she stated her depravity lol that’s all. But longterm I doubt he really gives a shit.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

Well, maybe she isn't a threat, only you would know that. But women will often dismiss a younger girl like that. Don't they realize the kind of sexual power younger women have with men?

How do women dismiss a younger potentially marriage breaking younger woman? Drama and competition?
I never learned how to dismiss. Wouldn't that just make some husband like Medina in this example, go after the girl faster and make me the jealous ogre?
I never deemed the relationship worth the drama and competition.

Anyways, if Medina's wife stays submissive to his dominant frame, how can she 'dismiss' anyone he brought around....to fuok or otherwise?
Wifey couldn't.

This is a mystery to me.

When I'm not willing to share and I'm not willing to compete. Just keep nexting my whole life until I find a loyal one?





Inexperience 'dismissing' rant over. Thanks.

 

[zekko]

How do women dismiss a younger potentially marriage breaking younger woman? Drama and competition?

I doubt that most married men would leave their wife for a young college age girl. They probably don't have the maturity to sustain relationships. But it wouldn't surprise me if they might risk a sexual fling with her. Maybe not advisable, but it wouldn't surprise me. Girls that age are at their sexual/physical/SMV peak.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

I doubt that most married men would leave their wife for a young college age girl. They probably don't have the maturity to sustain relationships. But it wouldn't surprise me if they might risk a sexual fling with her. Maybe not advisable, but it wouldn't surprise me. Girls that age are at their sexual/physical/SMV peak.

So just wait patiently until its your turn to have a fling? Not tell the husband? But its not acceptable to seek your own pleasure outside the sanctity of marriage(for ladies, I mean)

We agree the submissive wife can't dismiss the teenager or the husband because ....his dominance.

(I don't know Medina or his wife btw, I am now communicating generally.)

Also, I understand you can't teach me how to dismiss , Zekko.
Thanks for replying Sir.

 

[zekko]

So just wait patiently until its your turn to have a fling?

Not at all, I don't believe in cheating. But not everyone feels that way, and there's the weakness of the human spirit.
I don't really understand why a wife would be welcoming of some young girl coming in to flirt with her husband.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

But....because....submission.
If a wife is to have a dominant husband, what else but to paste a smile on her face, open the door sweetly and offer to make tea?

The quiet desperation she's being treated unfairly would only surface in the unattractive 'feminist' types who have forgotton their submissiveness.

The exchange(of even getting married in the first place) is deemed worthy for the submissive wife because her financial and bodyguard needs are met by the dominant husband.

If one day she wanted to learn how to dismiss such a temptation from her husband(the teen) I was just wondering how to do that social skill....without drama....without triggering the teenager competing...without being viewed as the jealous ogre of a wife.

Can't display frame as a submissive.

I've got a mental block on this Zekko because its painful.

Never been married but each boyfriend felt like my husband. I always abandoned at first sign he was choosing some lady over me or trying dread or comp anxiety or hamster-spinning initiation. Its why I wrote a couple weeks ago I think I'm a natural alpha and my attempts at being submissive in relationships always failed.
I will not compete but if there was a shortcut to just getting rid of the temptation, 'dismissing' her, I would still have my boyfriend.

Do men want women to 'fight' for them?
I'm thinking of the scene in the first Fast and Furious movie franchise where Dom walks up to two blonds(or they walked up to him) and is casually flirting/talking and then his darkhaired tomboy girlfriend walks up and makes like a meorw cat hissy sound then does a "sniff-sniff, I smell skanks" and Dom half heartedly and half laughing protests loudly "what? we were just talllkkking" and the two blonds slither off.
Then Dom and his girlfriend kiss.

Do men want displays of possession?
Isn't that low IQ or low EQ anyways for either the human man or human woman to engage in this behaviour?

I always just walked Zekko. I can't be bothered with this. (plus I don't know how to play the 'dismissing' game, lol)
Thanks for reading, I feel better about some things writing this out.
This was important.

 

[Roober]

I don't see the problem...

It sounds like it was an invitation to be the engine on the sloot train. Certainly better than the caboose...

"I'm going to go nail a bunch of guys"

*Unzips pants*

 

[mikey2012]

You going ride the town bike ?

 

[mikey2012]

No I don't feel used. I feel wound up

She's 18 years old, slim, 7 in face, 9 in body. Not bad considering I'm 32



I guess I feel possessive over her. Go on, rip me for it. I haven't reacted this way in years

Sooner or later you are going to get this emotional reaction. Everyone does . Even the hardest of DJ. It’s the mind playing tricks on you .
It’s hard because you fall into beta backsliding.
One way is to think back when you got dumped and think of how you wanted to be back with the chick . Then fast forward to now and how you couldn’t care less.

 

[Medina]

Sooner or later you are going to get this emotional reaction. Everyone does . Even the hardest of DJ. It’s the mind playing tricks on you .
It’s hard because you fall into beta backsliding.
One way is to think back when you got dumped and think of how you wanted to be back with the chick . Then fast forward to now and how you couldn’t care less.

I've got frame back. She's texting me about bondage now. Kinda cucked her BF in the process and I feel bad about that but it would have happened to him eventually. Now he has to walk through the fire, like the rest of us had to

 

[malz1]

Bro are you kidding me? Have you lost your mind? That’s a woman openly displaying for the world to see how she wants to leave monogamy to be a hoe and ride the CC just so that she can damage herself because it’ll make her feel hot to be such a slut. Might as well say “when I grow up, I want to be a whore!” Lmao! It’s just degeneracy. Say goodbye to pairbonding, a girl who is that shameless won’t even be able to love her kids hahahaha!!

Forget the Manhattan Project, the implications of her statement puts all else to shame. The literal personification of “I am become death, destroyer of worlds”. Talk about the killer of civilization.

Yea. Ppl who ask those kinds of questions are clueless. Imagine being oblivious to this level of degeneracy. I suspect he will cuck his gold digging girl to some other guy bcus he "respects her choices."

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

Yea. Ppl who ask those kinds of questions are clueless. Imagine being oblivious to this level of degeneracy. I suspect he will cuck his gold digging girl to some other guy bcus he "respects her choices."

Honestly bro, I wouldn’t doubt it. I knew from like conception that a woman who has been with more guys is not as good as a woman who hasn’t been with anyone before you. But maybe it’s just me...

 

[bcude]

It's projection. Women are attracted to guys who are able to sleep with a random string of women. So they think we must be attracted to the same thing. So in her effort to DHV (demonstrate higher value) herself, she ended up making herself look bad.

I think stormrider nailed this thread with this quote. It happens in all areas and is a common faulty mindset of women.
And she's 18 years old, i wouldn't expect much maturity at that age.

 

[Visionist]

A girl I fvcked a couple times who was 17 was already riding the carousel. She monkey branched straight to another guy from me in a couple days, and went on to allegedly have sex with half the guys from work, too. Not sure if she really did.

She was demure and discrete. There was almost no sign she was a slvt. She wasn't whöring for attention on FB (although it was much less common ten years ago) and one of the only clues was that she liked Sex & The City.

I was caught off guard, being inexperienced at the time (she was my first kiss and my first fvck). And yes, I fvcked her raw both times. She said she'd had a gadget installed that precluded ovulation. I bet she hadn't. But that was another clue she was a slvt.

She was only 17, right? What's the worst she could have? lol the arrogant folly of youth. I was still fertile then and would have been fvcked myself if she got pregnant, although doubtless my mother would be happy today, since she seems to have grandbaby rabies (denies it). I probably wouldn't have left the UK for Italy either, for better and for worse.

She went on to have a few boyfriends including one guy she seemed to stick with for years. Normal looking guy.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

But....because....submission.
If a wife is to have a dominant husband, what else but to paste a smile on her face, open the door sweetly and offer to make tea?

The quiet desperation she's being treated unfairly would only surface in the unattractive 'feminist' types who have forgotton their submissiveness.

The exchange(of even getting married in the first place) is deemed worthy for the submissive wife because her financial and bodyguard needs are met by the dominant husband.

If one day she wanted to learn how to dismiss such a temptation from her husband(the teen) I was just wondering how to do that social skill....without drama....without triggering the teenager competing...without being viewed as the jealous ogre of a wife.

Can't display frame as a submissive.

I've got a mental block on this Zekko because its painful.

Never been married but each boyfriend felt like my husband. I always abandoned at first sign he was choosing some lady over me or trying dread or comp anxiety or hamster-spinning initiation. Its why I wrote a couple weeks ago I think I'm a natural alpha and my attempts at being submissive in relationships always failed.
I will not compete but if there was a shortcut to just getting rid of the temptation, 'dismissing' her, I would still have my boyfriend.

Do men want women to 'fight' for them?
I'm thinking of the scene in the first Fast and Furious movie franchise where Dom walks up to two blonds(or they walked up to him) and is casually flirting/talking and then his darkhaired tomboy girlfriend walks up and makes like a meorw cat hissy sound then does a "sniff-sniff, I smell skanks" and Dom half heartedly and half laughing protests loudly "what? we were just talllkkking" and the two blonds slither off.
Then Dom and his girlfriend kiss.

Do men want displays of possession?
Isn't that low IQ or low EQ anyways for either the human man or human woman to engage in this behaviour?

I always just walked Zekko. I can't be bothered with this. (plus I don't know how to play the 'dismissing' game, lol)
Thanks for reading, I feel better about some things writing this out.
This was important.

^^^^
A way to accept a polyamorous partner.....
I just learned the term cuckquean. I wonder if I could do it on purpose in a marriage or LTR without walking away.
No member here would volunteer to be cuckold.
Won't start my own thread on this topic but will now search if there has been a discussion on this(cuckquean or cuckold)

 

[Lynx nkaf]

Yes there has been. There is guys who go down this rabbit hole.
Once you dig deep enough you will find out it doesn't end well for either secs.
Its a product of decades of Porn watching. IMO.

yes but I have real life experience that I've been cheated on by every single one.
I could have kept one of them if I could have shortcircuited my morals and somehow psychologically conditioned myself to enjoy knowing he's desiring/fuoking other women. As in, "Dear, that's awesome you want her(said through clenched teeth)you want me to watch?"

This is potentially the single biggest hurdle I have with relationships, mentally and emotionally.

My depression in lifetime failures to instill loyalty, has dangerously slipped into anger.
I feel if I don't find a way to mentally trick myself into accepting the next cheating boyfriend as is, it will end in anger.

Saturation tipping point.

I either embrace cuckqueanship or stay the fuok away from intimate relationships.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

Dude i had know idea you were a girl. Now it makes sense.
I was referring to guys but by all means you will have to figure this out for yourself. I dont give dating advice to girls.
Maybe start with your cooking skills rather then your "ability to share"

all good, I don't start every post like Be but I've been honest every time I post.

I'm seriously not trying the victim card or not accepting accountability for not keeping up appearance and personality in a relationship but I know now that its not possible to find a dominant(read:masculine) loyal man/man that is loyal.

Like, the cheating isn't a matter of 'if it happens' but a matter of 'when it happens'

So what I'm trying to figure out is how do I keep the relationship going(how do I stop myself from 'walking')

Condition myself as a cuckquean. Selfidentify as one.

Thanks for honesty in saying you don't advise girls, np, no reply expected. I'm just writing out my thoughts rn.

 

[Lynx nkaf]

No problem. Ive had it out with another girl in here and its pointless.
You will attract a better man the more traditional you are and the more feminine you are. And fck him like a ***** sometimes.
But also if a guy is not pushing you to be your best version of yourself as you do him, and not share you or him,
he is probably bad news for you. That's all i got on that subject.

its all good, seriously.

I see SoS as a tool, a resource. Its incredibly valuable to me and I'll keep writing it over and over gladly.....thank you.
I have the ability to selfcorrect, take responsibility and constructive criticism and apologise and ask forgiveness rapidly when I have gotton out of hand.
Its a privilige to learn here, like a classroom.

I am learning femininity here, believe it. Because I see what's expected of me.

I don't know anyone here irl and I've already doxed myself several times so maybe you can try trusting me/believing me that I need this rn.

So far, since I've been regularly active here posting since February....
I have been successful in gaining interpersonal skills, have had some success in private financial matters, 'grew a pair' to boldly apply for a healthier work position/title, managed to start my supplements and weightlifting again, made some decisions on what I want to be powerful in(my kitchen is my kingdom I am queen in that no man is allowed in), what else?
Just generally more logical and clearheaded.
I hold my tongue now, think before I speak, completely stopped interrupting men irl, ended OLd and social media permanently.

What else?
Some minor stuff. Like, I never really realised how prevalent mean women are that guys don't normally tell you about.
Also, that pretty much I have what it takes to be in a LTR just have to drop more weight and mentally trick myself into accepting being cheated on sexually. Not there yet with the last two.

And its only May 10 ffs.
I improved this much in 3 short but looooonng months.
(long because I was missing my ex terribly, off work because they didn't believe my injury and then the corona crap hit-I felt safe being in this masculine online space with no other masculine leaders around in that variable time period.) I'm not going to lie, you guys kept and are keeping me alive.

 

[Atom Smasher]

You're in a more dangerous situation than you realize. You're actually becoming more and more like us and that not a good thing for someone who wants to "learn femininity".

I see you more and more talking like us and using our phrases, and adopting our thought processes. What works for men does not work for women, by-and-large. I'd admonish you to be careful, because I don't think you're delineating between learning how we men think, and becoming what we are. This is not meant in a mean-spirited way. I don't want to see you reap unforeseen problems.