Love really doesn't seem worth it....

[Skyline]

So. Seems like dj girl ur demands are to high. U want more than ur worth.

Yeah I'm starting to think this as well... I mean the pressure/gang mentality is on her since she's 27 and all of her friends are in either in these relationships if not engaged and then there's her. Plus the aging factor and all of that... But like I said... Enough exposure would still make this easy for her if she's so "pretty."

P.s, pictures would be really helpful... We are men and we are visual we can't determine your value based off of your "personality." I'll even show you a picture of me if it makes you feel any better.

 

[Bokanovsky]

All this talk about looks made me curious as fvck to know what you look like, dgirl.

She said in her original post that she is "not a supermodel" but not ugly either. That's woman speak for "I am average looking at best". No woman, no matter how hideous, considers herself ugly. And any HB7+ actually DOES consider herself a supermodel these days. So reading between the lines, I would guess djgirl is an HB5-6. And she wants a hot, "fun" guy who is willing to commit to her. Sorry cupcake, ain't gonna happen! Might as well start buying those cats.

 

[thunder_god]

You should post a picture of what you look like and also some pics of guys who you deem your worthy of getting as a bf to help us see if their's any issues. Seems to me you've had plenty of options to choose from based on what your worth but you seem to think you deserve something more then what you bring to the table as does the majority of women in western countries. You have two options at this point, you either lower your bar right now and take what you can get or you wait it out till your reach 30 and after that the bar is gonna drop down further for you whether you want to or not.

 

[Poon King]

OP.. how many men have you cold approached in the last month?

If the answer is ZERO.. then p!ss off.

 

[djgirl]

I don't know why I'm getting flamed for having standards!! Pretty sure and I've seen it myself, you guys won't date or go after girls who aren't katy perry or Megan fox lookalikes!! If I'm not attracted to him physically, no matter how great he is then I won't bone him. Harsh but true. Just like you won't bone fattys.

I don't have any problems cold approaching either, however isn't that the mans job ? Everyone has told me girls shouldn't cold approach as it make us look like desperate.

 

[Konada]

I don't know why I'm getting flamed for having standards!! Pretty sure and I've seen it myself, you guys won't date or go after girls who aren't katy perry or Megan fox lookalikes!! If I'm not attracted to him physically, no matter how great he is then I won't bone him. Harsh but true. Just like you won't bone fattys.

I don't have any problems cold approaching either, however isn't that the mans job ? Everyone has told me girls shouldn't cold approach as it make us look like desperate.

The world would be a much better place if the bolded was true.

 

[djgirl]

Also can I just add that my problem is attracting guys on the same page as me. I can't seem to find guys who aren't just after sex or flings. I want someone I can get to know and eventually date

 

[Skyline]

I don't know why I'm getting flamed for having standards!! Pretty sure and I've seen it myself, you guys won't date or go after girls who aren't katy perry or Megan fox lookalikes!! If I'm not attracted to him physically, no matter how great he is then I won't bone him. Harsh but true. Just like you won't bone fattys.

I don't have any problems cold approaching either, however isn't that the mans job ? Everyone has told me girls shouldn't cold approach as it make us look like desperate.

In the world of attraction, your standards for yourself won't always match what you ACTUALLY attract. You're in a classic AFC position to be honest.

Imagine the nerdy guy going after the hot cheerleader. No matter what type of confidence he has for himself the chances of him getting with her are low because of the way he dresses, looks, and even carry's himself.

Movie example: the beginning of 21 jump street you have Schmidt, played by Jonah Hill, walking down a hallway and then he sees this bombshell brunette. Just look at his character and compare it to her character. He then proceeds to ask her to prom and she basically rejects him and then Jenko, played by Channing Tatum, tells Schmidt that he's a nerd and she's well "hot."

That is an excellent example of someone not knowing their value and THINKING that they deserve more than what they are worth. Your issue isn't that your standards are "too high" but they simply don't match YOU.

The way I am/look, I will typically attract cute and shy girls. This means I SHOULD be looking for women who fit that criteria instead of the hot bombshell next door. Not saying I shouldn't pursue the bombshell next door but I am saying that you should know your place when you get rejected.

This is red pill talk so it might be too much for you to handle since you're kind of a newbie to be honest. But just because you don't like the sound of something it doesn't make it false.

 

[Poon King]

I don't know why I'm getting flamed for having standards!! Pretty sure and I've seen it myself, you guys won't date or go after girls who aren't katy perry or Megan fox lookalikes!! If I'm not attracted to him physically, no matter how great he is then I won't bone him. Harsh but true. Just like you won't bone fattys.

I don't have any problems cold approaching either, however isn't that the mans job ? Everyone has told me

So you don't have a mind of your own?

girls shouldn't cold approach as it make us look like desperate.

To who?

Are you being yourself or trying to project a fake image?

Also can I just add that my problem is attracting guys on the same page as me. I can't seem to find guys who aren't just after sex or flings. I want someone I can get to know and eventually date

Beta provider.

Alpha f*cks beta bucks. Don't pretend if Leonardo DiCaprio "just wanted sex" you wouldn't still do it.

 

[djgirl]

Frazyer you make some good points, however I have status and looks and am no way a nerd. It's not that I can't attract hot men, I can but all they seem to want is one thing from me and I'm not the type of girl to just sleep with someone for the sake of it and to keep him around..... I want something meaningful with someone. I don't just want a shag fest. This is what I mean when I say I can't find guys on the same page as me....

 

[Fin9]

DjGirl, post some pictures of the least attractive guys that you would still date and want to have a relationship with him as well. Find some celebrities or whatever.

Second thing is, it would be very informative to post a picture of yourself, so we can see how attractive you are.

You're not going to eat healthy food in a restaurant like mcdonalds, you need to attend other places where they serve healthy food. Just as you won't find guys who are looking for a relationship in a club or pub.

You should try to attend some dance lessons or do some other hobbies that you have with other people. Also, what about your social circle ? Don't you know someone, an acquaintance that you're fond of ?

You are working long hours and don't have a lot of free time. If you can't find time to do hobbies and get out, what would you do when you'll have a bf ? You need to set your priorities.

 

[EvilSpirit22]

I told you guys, she was a WH0RE in her early twenties and now after s*cking and f*cking every alpha guy in Australia she's now looking to settle down as her Sexual Market Value is going down every year.

None of the alphas want her so now she's looking for a Good Looking Beta/ Provider who won't leave her.

And as you all say that if a girl mentions something she doesn't wants its actually what she was doing since a very long time. That means she was fu*king guys who never wanted to commit and now she doesn't wants that and wants to settle down.

Her name is DJ GIRL.

 

[Skyline]

Frazyer you make some good points, however I have status and looks and am no way a nerd. It's not that I can't attract hot men, I can but all they seem to want is one thing from me and I'm not the type of girl to just sleep with someone for the sake of it and to keep him around..... I want something meaningful with someone. I don't just want a shag fest. This is what I mean when I say I can't find guys on the same page as me....

I've never thought I'd say this but that's what you get for being hot.

No, but I actually covered a topic like this in a thread that I recently made. Since women, especially the 6+'s, are more valued in today's society more than they should be then that means TWO things are happening RIGHT NOW. You get the AFC nice guys pandering at their feet and then you get the clueless players going for the kill all of the time. Obviously women don't like the frame of the nice guy but they typically don't like being pumped and dumped by the clueless player. But they will always go back to the player because he still is technically above the nice guy. djgirl is looking for someone in between those lines, someone all of SS should know... A Pook! Now whether or not you're of that quality is beyond me but I'm pretty sure that's who/what you're looking for especially since you're getting at the age of "settling down." Usually women will just go for the AFC provider whilst sleeping around but maybe there is still some hope for modern day women after all.

Basically you want someone that has a life outside of partying, sleeping, and picking up women. You want to settle down but the original question still remains... Most of the guys here are either still in training to becoming that man or off doing it their own way. The thing that makes us different from people who were naturally born into that mindset/life style is that it comes natural for them and it technically does not for us. It's one thing to learn something and it's a whole other thing to live it without even knowing you live it.

So... Any semi hot girl can get laid everyone knows that. But by a guy who is of value is a different story. I can go out right now and escalate hard to fvck some girl at a club, despite me not even being able to drink, but who actually wins there? Me lowering my standards or her because I just applauded her for reacting to my overtly aggressive moves that any 'player' with a half a brain has?

So the original question remains... Are you worth it?

 

[Trump]

Also can I just add that my problem is attracting guys on the same page as me. I can't seem to find guys who aren't just after sex or flings. I want someone I can get to know and eventually date

PoonKing is right as always.

If you are not a virgin, this statement does not hold water.

 

[hithard]

what part of Australia are you from?

 

[djgirl]

I'm from South Australia and no believe it or not I havent *****d around at all. I've only slept with 4 people in my life if you must know and they were partners at the time.

I don't have that much of a social circle as most of my friends are settling down now. So really the question is where do I meet these decent guys since pubs and clubs are out of the equation? Do I sit back and let love find me or do I goto random places and pursue?

 

[K_architect]

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zrzMhU_4m-g

SS to women who show up here.

Anyway if your having difficulty in meeting people in your social circle just expand it. Pick up new hobbies, learn an instrument go to cultural events.
I have no idea what your interests or ambitions are but you can find something to suit them.

Dont be afraid to speak to people even if you dont want anything from them, conversation is a lost art.
Approach people you come across when your out getting groceries. On any given day you run into dozens of people you cant tell me that not one of them would suit you. The only way to find out though is to talk to them (women have the advantage here ... while women always seem to fear men approaching them, men do not have this fear).

My sister was in quite a similar predicament where she was looking for some random occurrence to happen where someone would show up who looked like brad pitt without her having to do anything on her part. Unfortunately for her she wasn't particularly mainstream, good looking, interesting or had a nice personality and she believed that people should just accept her. So around her 29th she just settled for some guy from online dating who was average at best.

Im not saying to just settle down ..... just accept that finding brad pitt implies a search and thus work that you need to do.

 

[hithard]

I'm from South Australia and no believe it or not I havent *****d around at all. I've only slept with 4 people in my life if you must know and they were partners at the time.

I don't have that much of a social circle as most of my friends are settling down now. So really the question is where do I meet these decent guys since pubs and clubs are out of the equation? Do I sit back and let love find me or do I goto random places and pursue?

You slept with 4 people, isn't that pretty much the population of men in SA. Ever thought of moving states? Seriously if people are not getting eaten by sharks down there then the are dying of fires, heat and boredom.


Work out what you want.
Work out if you have enough value to attract what you want.
Put yourself out there in the likeliest places you might find said partner.

After Gillard and the whole misogyny speech aussie men are second guessing themselves in rl approaches to the point of not bothering at all. Online is the complete opposite with it going the other sleazy way. Still there are good men looking for a relationship.
What you want won't fall in your lap, so you will have to be fairly proactive in your search and more than likely will have to give out signals even the blind can see.

 

[Moroder]

OP, here's some gender-neutral advice based on my reading of the DJ mindset. Looking for a SO that will just fit in nicely with your current lifestyle generally does not yield very good results. It will narrow your choices and options dramatically.
Try to look at your life as a whole - job, friends, families, hobbies - and change the bits you don't like step by step. Focus on yourself, not on the person that seems to be missing from your life. Cut the OLD and invest this time into anything else that does not involve a screen.

 

[Desdinova]

I want something meaningful with someone.
I've only slept with 4 people in my life

In other words, you're looking for "the one". Let's burst your bubble here...

You've likely already encountered "the one". If you think back in your past to one (or maybe two) guys you've dated that really stand out, THAT is your "one". If you haven't stayed with him, then you're likely going to be unsuccessfully searching for "the one" for the rest of your life. You'll eventually decide to settle with someone who's "good enough", but you'll never recapture the moments you had with that one guy who stands out.

Given your age, you're already past your prime years for attracting a good man.