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Life is so hard right now.

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My struggles usually keep me learning and keep me more active with my beliefs. I actually gain confidence from it. Now i can't. It feels like i lost my self and the love. The attention. I don't know how this happened. Now i am so unsure of myself. When i seek for help, i don't know who to ask. If i ask people here, i won't get an always-positive answer that'll keep me confident in real life situations.

I was planning on talking this out with some guys i don't know but i've talked to. They seem to have a good life. I'm a Christian and should ask God but my situation has to do with Church, so i don't know. I listen to music everyday, and everyday i wait. Whenever i like someone, life gets tougher. I just can't be the cool guy anymore. Life is like a million-piece puzzle.
 

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If something in your world is causing you strife its not worth keeping around.
 

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I know how you feel buddy.

Feel free to open up to us.

We aren't on this planet alone. Some friends of mine always seem to be helping me through some deep things that are going on.

Always be there for your friends when they need you and remember they will help you when you need it too.

Never be afraid to tell your friends about stuff that's bothering you.

This world is one big learning experience.
 

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I think we're all really stressed out.

I have 2 C's in my classes that I need to get B's in.

All my classes I want to take for next semester are full.

I got 2 tests and a 1500 word paper due after thanksgiving, then its studying for finals.

I'm almost to busy to do much of any flirting

All around I'm f*cked.

*sigh* I need a vacation.
 

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i've been there buddy. ya times are tough. but you gotta get through them.

it's good that you are taking the first steps in realizing that you know you have a problem, and seeking help about it.

feel free to pm me if you have any questions regarding anything. cuz i changed my whole life for the better! it can happen!
 

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yes, life sucks sometimes.

look for an ericksonian hypnoses professional. This person can helps you. It helped me a lot, changed my life. I was in the same situation that you are. then I found this professional and we made some extraordinary changes!

Good luck
 

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They seem to have a good life. I'm a Christian and should ask God but my situation has to do with Church, so i don't know
I used to have this problem until I eliminated religion from my life. Not sure about what your situation is, whether its doctrinal or the members of the church.

Hope you find the answers you're looking for. Life isn't always easy, even for people you know. Find someone who can relate to your problem, whatever it may be.
 

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Guys,

Just remember what Pook said on the subject, "Endure".

If things are tough, and you can't change them...endure.

If things are bad, and you can't change them...endure.

If things seem overwhelming, and you can't change them...endure.

Iron ore is melted and forged under tremendous heat and pressure. Then it's hammered, folded, hammered and folded ad nauseum and finally polished.

Once that's done, a weapon of steel results that has a sheen and edge that doesn't dull, even at the greatest resistance.

So is life's trials for a Man.

Endure and you will see the rewards once the tribulations are over.

Cheers,
Mav
 

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The problem is I'm not just content with enduring the situation.

Right now life is a bull. I got it by its horns and I can hold on. I just need to find a way to control it.
 

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Originally posted by Vincent
The problem is I'm not just content with enduring the situation.

Right now life is a bull. I got it by its horns and I can hold on. I just need to find a way to control it.
Vincent,

Interesting philosophical questions you've poked at here. Being content, enduring a situation, control.

Being content is like chasing the golden fleece. It's not the prize that's the object, it's completing the journey and becoming a better man for it.

I'm reminded of an allegorical story I once heard about the time before earthly life, when the Creator was handing out Blessings to his Creation, save one. Contentment. The Creator kept that one because if it was given out then the Creator's creation would not remember the Creator. Something to think about.

Enduring a situation has been touched on by Pook and I don't honestly believe that I can add to anything he's said on the matter.

There's no such thing as control. There's only entropy and chaos. As a Man, you and all other Men can exercise discipline in their reactions and how they conduct themselves. That's it.

Sometimes the best thing to do is ride out the bull and/or bullsh!t you're facing. Nothing lasts forever, not even the bad times.

It will become better. Just hang on.

Cheers,
Mav
 

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yep, life ain't no easy ride. I think Joe Dirt said it best when he said " you gotta keep on keepin' on." We all have struggles in life just some are more difficult than others. Talking to people always helps out but you have to be willing to open up and it seems like you are taking the first step. I've been going through some difficult times my self and talking has helped alot. Just don't give up.
 

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Hey tactic, I am a Christian as well, I feel you, some of the guys on here may get mad at me saying this cause they don't come from our perspective on things (God side of life). Tactic, you are made in the Image and likeness of God, (as we all are) And because of this the Adversary (satan) HATES you and me, he can't stand us because we were made in this image and likeness. Your going thru a struggle right now, which is normal......The only Christians who have everything going right in their life with no problems and struggles are the ones who aren't making any difference in this world.

Satan doesn't have time to worry about the Christians that are supplicative people pleasers and aren't making any difference in this world or in God's kingdom, hence the reason they have an average life, with average income, an average house and just happy being stagnant in life. They go thru life with average outcomes and don't experience struggles becuase they aren't making a difference in God's Kingdom or the world, so they aren't even on Satans radar screen for attack, he has more urgent things to worry about in the ones that are making a difference and make their lives difficult to try and stop the good things they are doing.

Bro, As long as you have your head above the crowd trying to make a difference your gonna get hit by tomatoes.....any dead fish can float with the current (being pulled wherever life leads them unable to make decisions in life) but only the strong fish will swim against the current and they are the ones that make a difference. Embrace your struggles Tactic and ask God what he wants you to learn from them and rejoice in your struggles because that means that You are on Satan's radar screen, because you are making a difference in this world. ("Count it all joy my bretheren when you face trials and tribulations")

When you hit your knees and pray to God for help, he doesn't go POOF and the struggles are gone, or POOF and you are immune to the struggles, he answers your prayer when you fall, by picking you up, dusting you off, and walking thru the Valley (struggle) with you....Much like a newborn does when they start walking, they fall....get up walk again....fall and then they start whimpering cause they are getting frustrated....and what will I parent do (much like God does) they will reach their hand down and grab the child's hand, pick them up and walk thru the struggle with them holding their hand the entire way. Thats how God molds you and shapes you into a better person, by helping you thru the struggles of life (so that you know how to get thru them again and or how to prevent them) and by making you realize that to get thru them you need God holding your hand and you need to lean on God when you are weak and he will help you.

And I'll leave you with this my friend, when you experience struggles, remember the Israelites in the wilderness with Moses, wandering thru the Wilderness, they didn't experience fear while in the wilderness, because they were not making a difference and they weren't trusting God. But you know what happened when they got on the border of the Promised Land(your struggle being resolved), you know what happened ....THEY SAW GIANTS (struggles, fear). They had not seen giants until they got ready to enter the Promised Land.....

Remember this your entire life man, becuase when most people see Giants in their life, that is the point when they say things are just *Too hard* and they quit and go back to being average..... when every time this happens, They were just a few steps away from ENORMOUS BREAKTHROUGH in their life (ie the promised land). When you experience Giants in your life that scare the sh*t out of you, or make you worry , or make you lose hope, Just remember the PROMISED LAND is usually right on the other side of those Giants. If you would just lean on GOD and perservere thru those struggles (those Giants), you will experience sooo much breakthrough in your life it'll make your head spin.

Heres a good example to express what is said above:

I have a group of peers, all Christian Business owners, and four times a year we all travel to Christian Business Conferences, where TONS of ENORMOUS BREAKTHROUGHS happen in peoples lives at these weekends, TONS of Giants are slayed at these weekends, and it is no coincidence that the day before we were going to our first conference out of 5 of us, 2 of our Grandmothers Died, One's Father had a heart attack, and one's Car crapped itself, meaning we had to make new travel arrangements for him to go with someone else after we were already on our way to the conference (this made us several hours late).

And I told them about this, I told them that something good was going to happen this weekend, don't go home with your families to mourn over your Grandparents, don't go to the Hospital to see how your father is doing,(we already knew he was ok and in stable condition) come with us to the weekend, and you know what they took what I said on COMPLETE faith and trusted me, even though it made no sense in their minds, but their conscience was telling them to go. And you know what happened to all of us this weekend, for the first time in our lives we accepted Jesus into our lives and were saved. Thats why all that crap happened, cause Satan didn't want that to happen, he is afraid of us and hates us. He did everything in his power to stop us from going (and when this type of stuff happened most *average* people would have given into these struggles) because he didn't want that to happen.

Oh man did we see some Giants that day, but you know what, we TRUSTED God, Slayed those S*ons of B*tches, and entered the Promised land. We saw the Giants and didn't quit and kept on going, most would have quit, or given up.

So whenever you see Giants in your life, know their source (Satan), know who's on your side (God), and know that the Promised Land is just on the other side of those Giants (something good is about to happen) if you would just plow thru the struggle.

God Bless
Pugs
 

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Pugsley_f5,

This is only meant as a clarification.

Christians aren't the only ones with a "God side of life" perspective on things.

Belief in a higher power is as old as humanity itself.

May everyone's belief system sustain them when they need it the most.

Cheers,
Mav
 

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The words really got me warmed, Pugs. Most of the quotes i could quote (but not now) were real inspiring and changed my thought.

Well here is the case:

I don't feel enough love for me to feel satifisfied and to feel accepted to go to Church 4/7 of the week. I've decided to go only 3/7 of the week and this week it's going to be 2/7 because of my birthday (or birthday night).

I don't feel that much loved because nowadays i realize alot of the Church members not really paying attention to me and now talking to me much. Especially one person. I try to get her to look at me so i can say hi but she looks somewhere else as she shifts her eyes sharply.

I don't know...... I've felt hopeless so many times.

I've been called so many names. Not in Church, but in the school days. So many racisms.

"You herb, you ________"
"What's so important about him? That __________"

You see people laughing. It's horrible. No offense but he was a black guy. Majority of the guys who mess around with me were older than me and they were all hispanic guys. But there is just this one black guy who gets me tempered up. He's a racist guy who is supposed to be "bad".

I really don't like it. Why do i suffer? Ever since i became more faithful, i forgot all my experiences and skills to flirt with women and to get attention from them. I became a nice guy. A real nice guy. I've been very patient.

Nowdays, i just sin and lust and all that. It's got me.

Being me isn't easy at all. Might be the same for everyone but whenever i lose my temper, i don't care what i do after.

Message to Ricky: I think i made a reply to your threads before, i'm not sure, but i think i was a little angry when i replied because i was real down about last week. I had a low temper and felt sad and all crazy like a crazy lotteryball.

My heart sinks to the bottom until it fades away. My chest burns until it makes a hole. Life is so hard. It really is. I need love. I have parents, friends, and Church. But i'm afraid of losing them. Especially right now........ Church.

Thanks for the cheers and words, they all cheered me up.
 

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Tatic be sure it's just a phase!

I've been in the end of the tunnel, you know. I lost a romantic chance I had, I lost good offers of jobs, lost some friends, entered in arguments, lost my cool, etc.

I believe that though momments hit people that are trying to be better/ that are looking for better things for themselves!

If you have to keep going, than that's what you have to do! If you have to go through hard momments, you go ahead!

We all have to deal with adversities the best way we can, fighting to overcome things, going through pain, fear, shame, loss, humilation, mockery...

Actually I'm far better after all the bad things that happened to me. I was able to accomplish a lot of things I wanted for a long time (despite the ones I lost) and I'm happy despite all. That's life and you have to live, you have to keep going, what choices do you have?
 

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Originally posted by Maverick001
It will become better. Just hang on.
Thanks dude, I think I needed to here that.

Man are you a teacher or what? Sounds like I'm reading a thesis on philosophy, very well written.
 

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lol @ Christians
 

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'Life' isn't necessarily good nor bad, it just 'is.' However, life 'is' what you make of it.

Just something to consider...
 
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