Advice from the old lady:
Isn’t it interesting that many of you guys here equate the wall in your own age range. That’s because you have a hard time imagining a hot woman who is older than you or substantially older than you.
Look everyone has a “wall” but it varies tremendously from individual to individual of either gender. The posters in this thread who I most agree with on this topic are
@RangerMIke and
@Pierce.Manhammer and not surprisingly they are my peers, close to my same age.
What has been an interesting experience for me personally has been getting better looking over time relative to my peers. It’s a funny thing going to a 35th high school reunion and observing that you are in the top 2% of the women appearance wise, when all these other girls were “it” at 18.
But it has everything to do with lifestyle, genetics (which I am blessed to have) matter, but lifestyle matters more and more as time passes. Are you exercising, are you careful about what you consume & how much, have you avoided the sun (sun overexposure ages people faster than most anything), do you get enough sleep, do you manage stress.
My grandmother was married at 19, widowed at 43 and remarried at 61 to a man 8 years younger. Her second marriage was in 1976 and she outlived him too after 33 years together. She passed at 97 and was still striking for her age. She did not experience a “wall” insofar as her options were concerned. Both her husbands were very high value successful men, her second husband was the town’s available gentleman that all the single ladies were chasing. She used to laugh about that.
My husband thinks I look better now than I did in college. My hair is longer, my figure is leaner, and my skin remains remarkably supple. I look very similar to what I looked like in my late 20s and 30s and young people have mistaken me, with zero make up on, as their peers around 30. I look the same age or younger than my husband, who is almost 8 years younger than me (and he looks very good). We match physically.
So will there suddenly be a wall at 60? I dunno. I’m not going to stop living a healthy lifestyle and taking care of myself.
My response to the whole question of the wall is this:
Who cares? Whether a wall exists or not has zero bearing on your dating prospects. How you look after yourself and develop as a man (or not) is what determines your success. The rest is esoteric gibberish and a waste of your most valuable commodity, your time.
