JohnChops: Complete Overhaul, Time to Change

[JohnChops]

I have to say I'm done over analyzing any situation. I learned girls are so indecisive and that's how it is. Its always easier to not care and stay relaxed. This is related to oneitis girl, she's showing mixed signals. At first she told me how she liked older guys, wanted a relationship etc and today she hates older dudes and doesn't know what she wants. Lol my god women .... anyway I'm done initiating anything with her . Going ghost.

 

[JohnChops]

Okay ive decided going ghost on this girl wil be damn near impossible. Her brother is pretty much a good friend so im over her house daily. Shes usually there, lol go figure. Anyway we had a conversation about a week ago about what we want. (not about a relationship, more about what we want in general ). She called me out and said "You dont know what you want ) So I said what makes you think that, she said because she doesnt see me going for anyone or anything in particular. In reality ive been training my ass off (She doesnt know , she will when she sees me shirtless though )

But its true I havent really pursued anything I really wanted in life, minus school but I keep that seperate from my other ordeals. (school is the one place I strive and keeping it seperate helps me keep doing well ). Anyway Im going to do something that ive never done, im just going to go for this girl.

In the past I never did, I told her my feelings, ended up on here, went NC for about 7-8 months and now were talking again. (a lot has changed in those 8 months btw) But im just going to show her instead of tell her.... and if I fail then FVCK IT . This is the closure I am looking for with this girl, I always thought "what if " and if I get denied a relationship with her then that is the ultimate closure for me. IF i end up in a relationship with her then thatd be pretty cool too.

We are supposed to learn from our mistakes and I learned from my last one. Well last time I told her my feelings. This was wrong, obviously if you display your feelings (dont say anything) she will either mirror and follow or not. Leading to her getting feeling for me as well. My other mistake was dropping all my plates for her (around a year ago). This made oneitis a problem. Obviously it isnt really oneitis , ive hooked up with 7 girls since her and shes still on my mind. Lastly I really was just starting out in this game and didnt know d1ck, so i faked my confidence. This time its real, i know im the prize to be won, the game is my playgorund that I control (to an extent). This time around I can actually fix my mistakes and see what actually will pan out .

Its time to go for something in the women part of my life like I do with the schooling part of my life.
Obviously I have other girls, and im going to be hooking up with them but shes the one i want to try for, and I dont care if I fail because thats closure baby.

Any advice would be cool if you guys wanted to add anything in or help me out . Thanks

-John Chops

 

[JohnChops]

Just got back from the gym and it raining here so im going to take today to just read and relax. I have been noticing some really good definition in all areas of my body and im feeling good. I saw this girl who i took to junior prom in high school (3 years ago) and SHE LOOKS FVCKING GOOD! She used to be this shy girl and now shes sexy. Im going to drop her a text/call and see if she wants to "catch up" on things.

Decided that even though im going for this other girl im not going to text her every night, yesterday I felt kind of out of my DJ mind and more in my AFC mind for whatever reason, and thought if I kept texting her itd be a good thing. Lol thanks to Pimp and TRSX for setting me straight and now im back on track to get this girl.

Also I think im going to start the DJ Bootcamp, ive heard a lot of great success in it. Im pretty well read on this stuff and applied it too but it never hurts to improve. Plus im going to Florida in 8 days and itd be great to get some smiles from women out there!

More to come.

 

[JohnChops]

Just marking a place in my journal : DJ Boot Camp Day 1 . Im going to get the readings done at work and maybe do some of the exercise. LETS GOOO

 

[JohnChops]

totally pushed a girl away, didnt say a word to her, and had sex with her. cool +1 lol. Yeah direct post

 

[JohnChops]

Alrighty, finished the readings for the Week 1 on the bootcamp. Ready to start the exercises. So I have until next Friday to say Hi to 50 strangers and establish eye contact with them.

Since I work in a friendly environment (hospital) im not going to count any of the Hi's I get here because I want to do it in unfamiliar territory to attractive girls. As the exercise says "1 hour outings " So game on babbbby.

 

[JohnChops]

So I have until Friday (this week) to get 50 Hi 's . Im actually flying out to FL tomorrow so I cant wait to rack them up in the airport or in FL itself! Im excited to meet some new people and its my first time traveling down there so im amped!

An update on this girl who I decided to go for : She texted me the other day saying " Hi boyfriend :]", lol this made me laugh. Didnt text her for a couple of days and then I felt like hanigng out with her so I asked her to come to the movies with me ( wouldve done something more actiony but did legs at the gym and literally cant walk lol, felt like relaxing) and she said she cant today with a boohoo and a frowny face. Then I didnt text back right away and she double texts me and says "we can go another time though! ".

So from what I see things arent looking so bad with this girl. Seems like the dynamic is the way it should be, her getting attached, me not really worrying about anything (not getting attached ) and it feels better. I also have these other two girls who I can bang whenever I want which is fawking awesome!

So I can get this girl in a relationship but in the meantime bang these other two on the side (no oneitis effect for me ) so its a win win. To tell you the truth now that I think about it, while im writing this, I dont even really want a relationship with this girl. I think since she was my oneitis girl (From a year ago) I just want some type of closure. Whether it would be banging her, getting into a relationship to see what its like, or just being flat out rejected... it would give me some type of closure to move on completely if it came to this. Anyone think thats a bad idea? Id like some input on it either way.

Other than that Im gaining mass, getting cut, and my back is freaking getting large. One girl at work felt my back because we were in a tight hall way so she slipped by and she wanted me to take off my shirt so she could look at my back lol. That was such a great compliment.

Life seems pretty good, actually cant wait for school to start soon either im going in with a new KICK ASS ATTITUDE !!!!


EDIT- also wanted to add one thing that I thought was funny as hell. I was at my friends house and his sisters friend backs out of their driveway and hits a car LOL. She is panicking and stressing and were just laughing. She ends up leaving. About 20 minutes laterI get a text from her saying "Im going to leave a note blah blah blah" then we get on the topic of how its going to be her birthday, she says we should both just get smashed one day, like a serious night of drinking. I said sure why not, sounds like a good time. Lol just a funny experience that is going to end up in a lay . Just wanted to add this .
-JohnChops

 

[JohnChops]

Just got back form vacation yesterday, and man it was a good time. It was mostly a family vacation down to FL but one night we went to this interactive pirate dinner . Sh1t was fun as hell. Anyway I see this girl, she seems cute I go up to her and find out she is from canada :O . We had a little bit of small talk but then I just moved on.

Also went to Disney which was amazing, I met two girls there that were 19 and 18 who were part of the disney college program. This blonde was pre-med and wanted to specialize into pediatrics.... exactly what I am going to do!

^^ This made me have an epiphany about "the right girl" dilemma. There really is no right girl because there are MANY right girls for you. Theres never just one, theres many. I thought that this girl I had back home was great until I met a couple down in FL and realized that its easy to find out about a girl and screen out the ones you dont like / dont meet standards, to actually have a great conversation with them and to take it farther. (rambling.... )

Anyway not much field reports except those two small bits, I didnt give up on the boot camp I just put it on hold because I was on vacation. Still on the first task ( -___ - ) So ill have that completed this week for sure so I Can move on to the other portions of the boot camp. All in all, life isnt so sh1tty after all .

 

[The Gambler]

There really is no right girl because there are MANY right girls for you. Theres never just one, theres many.

If you figured this out at 19 years old, you are truly a wise man. Take that knowledge TO HEART and run with it, my young brother.

The Gambler

 

[JohnChops]

If you figured this out at 19 years old, you are truly a wise man. Take that knowledge TO HEART and run with it, my young brother.

The Gambler

Honestly I thought this girl I had in CT was THE ONE, into science, wants to go to med school, etC. Then I met this other girl and its like something clicked, wait... shes not unique this girl is just like her! And shes 600 miles away ! Best epiphany of my life.

 

[JohnChops]

this isnt women related but fvck i am pissed. Bought a new phone on Craigslist and I pop my sim card in and as soon as I try to make a call my network shuts dwon o_0. Call up ATT and apparently the phone I bought was stolen and now they need to open up a case on it to see if I Can still use the phone. -____- Called up the guy who I bought it from and B1TCHED HIM OUT. Ive never been s pissed in my life.

Since im looking at the positive side to this ( lol wut? ) its a good way to go ghost for a few days . Always look at the up side no matter how bad a situation is! ALPHAS FIX PROBLEMS NOT BLAME PEOPLE (*****ing at them is fine though, then murdering, then burying ..... you know paraphrasing of course lol ).

 

[pdx1138]

This made me had an epiphany about "the right girl" dilemma. There really is no right girl because there are MANY right girls for you. Theres never just one, theres many.

If only I'd had that "moment of clarity" when I was your age.

Thats a giant leap forward buddy. Good for you realizing it.

Good reaction on the phone problem too. Be that ghost and watch
your phone fill with texts when it re-activates.

 

[JohnChops]

If only I'd had that "moment of clarity" when I was your age.

Thats a giant leap forward buddy. Good for you realizing it.

Good reaction on the phone problem too. Be that ghost and watch
your phone fill with texts when it re-activates.

Thanks for reading man, really appreciate it. Ha yeah, just sucks I spent money on a phone that I cant use. Guess itll be my workout/music player then. Always gott be positive.

 

[talented_beginner]

im 5 foot 7 about. So im a short guy. I just started packin on muscle but I want to get to a lower body fat %. I havent taken a rest day in awhile lol im obsessed almost.

5'7" and you want to drop to 155? I'm your height and I'm actually trying to hit 160 or higher lol

love your writting, man. keep it up. i am just starting out in the game after failing misrably. so i'll be monitoring your work and learning a few things here and there.

 

[JohnChops]

5'7" and you want to drop to 155? I'm your height and I'm actually trying to hit 160 or higher lol

love your writting, man. keep it up. i am just starting out in the game after failing misrably. so i'll be monitoring your work and learning a few things here and there.

Honestly I didnt want to put a number to it lol 155 is really tiny. Anyway im just going for a low body fat percentage which im hitting because i can see all my abs now . I dont care about a number on a scale.

Thanks man, im glad you enjoy reading it! Ill post some FRs once school starts so you can get some examples.

Do the DJ Bootcamp , itll change your life btw!

 

[JohnChops]

Im just posting this because this was the turning point in my DJ life, one of my best days ever.

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?p=1905704#post1905704

 

[pdx1138]

I'm 5.7 and was near ripped with a good amount of muscle definition at 155.

Most women dig a guy in that kinda shape.

 

[JohnChops]

I'm 5.7 and was near ripped with a good amount of muscle definition at 155.

Most women dig a guy in that kinda shape.

What's your bf %? Yeah I'm not for the all huge look. I want to be cut, which I accomplished .

another bit to add here I was texting this girl and we were talking about many things and then we got on the conversation of how she thinks men are just little girls. She told me guys care more about their hair , shoes and image more than me! She said all guys are so feminine now it's crazy. Then she goes on to saying how they blows things out of proportion ( over thinking gentlemen ) so as she was texting me this I couldn't help to laugh and then realize this is how dudes are now a days. If guys acted like men then sites like this wouldn't even exist. This society has molded them into women with a d1ck.

This made me realize also that over analyzing is bad , relax and stay in your frame. And just be a man, be assertive , don't take sh1t from anyone, if you want a girl go get her, lead her, tease her... Come on guys no more feminine bs.

 

[georgie24]

has not fapping really helped and center your focus?

im on the " no fap " diet but man i tell ya its gettin hard!!

 

[JohnChops]

has not fapping really helped and center your focus?

im on the " no fap " diet but man i tell ya its gettin hard!!

Its a placebo effect. I see no difference from fapping and not fapping one bit. At first I did feel some sort of difference and then I fapped , didnt fap again for around 15 days and I didnt feel a difference.

ITs all about your mindset and if you think fapping will mess up your chances with women then it will, if you think it wont then it wont.

Get your mind set right and then youll be able to focus and get centered, not fapping isnt some magical pill. your body stops making testosterone at a certain amount anyway, you cant get any extra made unless you take test. boosters (steroids ) . So after you fap your test. levels drop but if you sleep they will be back up to the same level they were previously by the middle of the next day.

I noticed when I didnt fap I was really effing aggressive , it made me hit the gym hard, but it wasnt worth it feeling like a mad man all the time. Working out in the mornings I found that , that puts me in a god mood all day, even if I did fap. And it gets rid of the urge to do so anyway.

My advice , fix your mindset, fap every once and awhile. Fapping everyday (especially to porn ) has psychological effects.

-JohnChops