I've seen a lot of advice that basically amounts to ignore her or walk away.

[Roober]

Much of the advice is meant as a first step to be adapted to your own style. Ignore or walk away is a very simplistic way of looking at things, and there are wayyyyy too many variables to possibly contemplate when to truly walk away or ignore. The advice is solid in the beginning, but as you get more experience, you begin to realize there are variables. For example, my girl now turned down my first date, and didn't counter with a "I already showered and can't go out now. lol". However, she kept texting me afterward, to which I backed off but still enough questions to keep her thinking I was interested. We ended up going out two weeks later, fvcking two weeks after that and now she is borderline obsessed with me a year later.

Ignore or walk away is good for guys getting started, but does not apply to every situation. You are dealing with women with different backgrounds, experiences, ideas, opinions, and value systems. As you gain more experience, you will begin to realize what your standards are for "ignoring" or "walking away". I know my standards with my girl now and would employ "ignoring" or "walking away" if the moment arises. I would compare the "ignore" or "walk away" concept as the beginning of the red pill.

Now, also keep in mind that there are damaged women AND men. Think about why guys land here? Heartbreak 90% of the time. So it would be perfectly reasonable to understand that there are some damaged individuals everywhere. Some men never recover from horrible breakups. You have to be able to separate the wheat from the chaff on this site as with anything else you learn.

Just have fun and look at it like this...
-Men are like dogs, easy going, fun, and very easy to please. We don't complicate matters.
-Women are like cats, slender, slick, unpredictable, and they don't like to be chased. They want attention on their terms. Think about what happens when you keep trying to pet or pickup a cat...? It will flee. If you just sit back and enjoy yourself, the cats will come to you for attention.

So go get some experience and determine your standards. Once you get there, do not waiver from YOUR standards.

 

[Glassguy]

People Don't seem to get it. If you are dating one woman, great. Continue dating her and keep dating others. If you are dating 2 women. Great. Continue dating them and keep dating others.

If you dating NO women but keep trying to force an uninterested woman to become interested instead of going out and finding new women who ARE interested, you are an idiot. Plain and simple.

You can't always help idiots. Sometimes they are just going to continue to be idiots no matter what advice they get.

The reason advice is given to walk away is because the woman has shown she isnt interested and because your focus should be spent on finding and dating women who are interested.

It would be like you are trying to go hunting deer and you knowingly go to a place where there are no deer. How successful can you be? Not very.

But that's the whole problem. Most guys are lazy and they would rather continue trying with a woman or women they have a number from, no matter how uninterested, instead of trying to find interested women. Because this takes work and effort. And most guys want to get the results but without any effort. Unfortunately women and life in general doesnt work this way. You'll get out what you put in.

Well put.

Most of us on here have been burned by a chick or two in the past and stumbled upon this forum.

There are many advantages of walking away. The outcome isnt the same when comparing walking away vs chasing a woman around and trying to work it out.

Walking away is the only way to keep your self value and self respect high. I feel as if, overall, I do exceedingly well with women. The tone is set from the beginning with my actions and not my words that I will go out, have fun, treat them well, etc......but I will not hesitate to withdraw attention from a chick for any type of disrespect.

I keep my value high because my standards are high. Period.

 

[MisterMike]

Op your words in that post " I never went near her without asking if it was alright"

you dont value yourself enough a high value male wouldnt ask this, she sees you as weak, your actions are creepy even though you dont realise this

your option now is to walk away with your head held high and practice on new women

OR you can try and communicate with these people and see where this gets you, which theyll see you as even weaker

the strongest military position is to walk away and mean it

Value has nothing to do with it, it wasn't my home, it was hers. Simple as that.

 

[derby1]

op youve been blocked by her, you can look at this two ways

1. youve creeped her out

2. someone has lied about you through jealousy and led her to believe you are a weirdo...i have had this happen to me,
says a lot about her immaturity if this is the case listening like a sheep to other people when youve been a decent guy face to face

both scenarios walk away never look back

 

[soulforge]

It does seem to be a common theme of advice, and I often try to give some type of advice other than that even though I often agree with it.

The problem is that the advice that can turn things around is typically the kind of thing these men are not capable of doing to begin with. If they even do follow that advice, which they seldom do, they will often fvck it up anyway.

In the end, the advice to walk, next,etc. is not advice that will fix that one situation. It is advice that is aimed at correcting a poor mindset that leads to these bad situations to begin with.

This is so commonly seen here because this site is a beacon for these types of guys who have been trodden for so long. They often have to start with learning how to walk away and looking forward.

I agree with this, however... Even if the dude is clued up, had a good mindset.. and is red pill.

If his girl for whatever reason loses interest, or he wants a chick with zero interest... Again walking away is probably the best advise that can be given to him..

What are the alternative option? Talking to a chick about how she should like him again? Attraction isn't a choice.

There are some exceptional reasons where walking away is not the best thing to to..

For example if dude fuked up, drinking too much, or a one off argument etc.. Sometimes you can talk these things through..

But loss of interest or zero interest... The more you chace, or try to apeal to her, the worst things are likely to get.

 

[The Duke]

In all relationships, the one who cares the least has the most power. Always. This is the foundation to why ignore/walking away works so well.

Some of you care way too much about women. You will accomplish far greater things in life if your time and energy is spent pursuing other endeavors. Women offer the worst return on investment you will ever come across.

 

[Macaframalama]

Those aren't the scenario's I'm talking about. I'm talking about old friends and a few other abnormal situations I've seen on the forums. Also, you don't know me, so please don't make too many assumptions.

Are you really now?
"I've seen allot of advice that basically amounts to ignore her or walk away".
Why don't you state exactly what you are talking about. And your threads tell me all I need to know.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Value has nothing to do with it, it wasn't my home, it was hers. Simple as that.

What do you mean "it was her home"?

 

[soulforge]

So if you have a feeling your girl is losing interest, obviously the solution isn't to completely walk away..

But you would certainly have to pull back a little, and show a little less interest!

 

[Macaframalama]

The thinkers will think for themselves and figure it out anyways. Also, unless a man has the experience to know, he won't know until it's already too late. Personally, I call stalker material on this one.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

The thinkers will think for themselves and figure it out anyways. Also, unless a man has the experience to know, he won't know until it's already too late. Personally, I call stalker material on this one.

So once you know, don't do that again.

 

[oOh Nasty]

And I'll counter by saying until you get to a point where you dated enough women, you wont get understanding. Understanding and learning doesnt come from pondering what to do over a woman. It comes from experience and going on lots of dates and figuring out what works and what doesn't in various situations and with various types of women. But the common thread here is taking action.

Golden.

Whenever a woman clearly shows a lack of interest, coming up with reasons to "pursue" is male hamstering.

Stop pondering, stop fapping, and start talking to more women.

 

[MisterMike]

The thinkers will think for themselves and figure it out anyways. Also, unless a man has the experience to know, he won't know until it's already too late. Personally, I call stalker material on this one.

What do you mean "it was her home"?

Literally, I was staying at her place. Otherwise, I wouldn't have stuck around.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

No, in one scenario you walk away like an adult. In the other scenario, you get slapped with a VPO and are forced to walk away.

Respectfully, to keep guys like you from being slapped with VPO's.

Didn't you say you flipped one of these situations and ended up with her on your jock?

 

[Spaz]

In all relationships, the one who cares the least has the most power. Always. This is the foundation to why ignore/walking away works so well.

Some of you care way too much about women. You will accomplish far greater things in life if your time and energy is spent pursuing other endeavors. Women offer the worst return on investment you will ever come across.

I concur !

Well said.

Seems like a lot of man needs a woman thus putting themselves in the needy position.

How abt wanting a woman in ur life to complement it ?

 

[MisterMike]

So I should just walk into other's people rooms? Is that what you do?

 

[Trump]

I'm just saying it isn't and shouldn't be a one size fits all answer because there's no room for growth, learning or understanding.

So stick with an uninterested women so you can get growth, learning and understanding?

"Hi Maria, I really need to know WHY you told me to go to hell and are seducing the 6'1 guy. It's good for my growth."

Brutal.

 

[MisterMike]

So stick with an uninterested women so you can get growth, learning and understanding?

"Hi Maria, I really need to know WHY you told me to go to hell and are seducing the 6'1 guy. It's good for my growth."

Brutal.

I'm not advocating sticking with an uninterested woman. I'm just talking about more into borderline situations. For example, I posted on a thread about a guy who keeps getting contacted by a girl on his birthday. The advice was to leave her be. Meanwhile, my brother was in a very similar situation and ended up responding and then sleeping with the girl.

 

[wifehunter]

When we hang around letting bad behaviour continue unchecked, we are ruining society for the rest of the world.

The label 'white knight' is there for a reason.

Yes, there are grave consiquences, that may not be immediately known.

If you think 'walking away' is boring and samey...buy some new shoes before you do it!

 

[devilkingx2]

I think that ignore her and find a new girl is what we'd call "safe newbie advice"

Why? Because while there's plenty of things you could do other than that in any situation, you'd probably screw it up unless you were already such a badass you wouldn't need advice

Like, if you can't dance, i advise you to go to a place that's dark, do the simplest dance with the least movement and don't stand in the center of a circle

Why? Not because that's the best possible dance moves or anything, but because if we tried to explain to you how to toss a girl into the air, do a backflip onto a chair behind you then catch her and pose, you'd both end up in the hospital lol.

People say to text as little as possible not because text messages are kryptonite to women, but because newbies would do something dumb like blow up her phone or text her boring BS all week or make it obvious they're a shut-in with no life or something.

So when people tell you to ignore a girl, it's because your other options are:

renting a ferrari for a day and spending all day cleaning/joyriding in it somewhere you know she's going to be so she can just so happen to see you

or hiring two escorts to follow you around and flirt with you all day whilst you friendzone/ignore them so that you look like an extremely high value male

Both of which you'd prolly screw up

For more information on why we say just ignore her, you're gonna wanna look up "the nightman cometh" and watch that episode of its always sunny in philadelphia to the end