Its so frustrating how I can't get my true looks to show in pics

[bigdave17]

Nope not unless they were from sp


See... The approach your having doesn't work. Some of us

Not sure who told you "pursuing" was the way .

Are you on planet earth or planet neptune?

No decent looking girl will ever just give up the ***** without putting in some real effort. You have to go out on a date or two and actually do a good job

I would put in a very half assed effort if I was to try going out with these women that I don't want to date

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Are you on planet earth or planet neptune?

No decent looking girl will ever just give up the ***** without putting in some real effort. You have to go out on a date or two and actually do a good job

I would put in a very half assed effort if I was to try going out with these women that I don't want to date

Earth. The female for you makes it easy. She opens the door . Most of us have found pursuing never works out . Plus in 2018 females chase what they want.

Most of have also found having sex makes us attractive to all that like someone like us.

 

[Igetit!]

I've seen enough of your threads to know that nothing that anyone says is going to be of any help to you,and replying with the intent of trying to help you is pointless......so I won't even bother. If other members want to run around in circles with your endless "Woe es ME" threads,they're more than welcome to do so. I just have a question about a thread you made a few weeks ago,where apparently for ONCE in your life,you actually TRIED and put forth an effort....

This thread of yours here http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/i-met-a-spanish-cutie-at-bar.248517/ "I met a spanish cutie at a bar".....where you decided to get off your azz and TRY,instead of adding yet another "Oh,oh....poor me.....I'm so handsome" thread to the hundreds you already have......

What happened there? I don't care if you slept with the girl,or if it never got past texting....I just wanna know HOW FAR you got with her.

I could already tell when reading the thread that things didn't look too promising cause you were displaying signs of neediness by what you were saying. I even tried to warn you about one of them when you said she was "trainable". The second I saw that,I was like,"Oh sh1t......he's being needy".


I don't have any advice for you,I'll let everybody else waste their time with that. I just want to know how far things got the ONE TIME you did try and put forth effort.

 

[bigdave17]

I've seen enough of your threads to know that nothing that anyone says is going to be of any help to you,and replying with the intent of trying to help you is pointless......so I won't even bother. If other members want to run around in circles with your endless "Woe es ME" threads,they're more than welcome to do so. I just have a question about a thread you made a few weeks ago,where apparently for ONCE in your life,you actually TRIED and put forth an effort....

This thread of yours here http://www.sosuave.net/forum/threads/i-met-a-spanish-cutie-at-bar.248517/ "I met a spanish cutie at a bar".....where you decided to get off your azz and TRY,instead of adding yet another "Oh,oh....poor me.....I'm so handsome" thread to the hundreds you already have......

What happened there? I don't care if you slept with the girl,or if it never got past texting....I just wanna know HOW FAR you got with her.

I could already tell when reading the thread that things didn't look too promising cause you were displaying signs of neediness by what you were saying. I even tried to warn you about one of them when you said she was "trainable". The second I saw that,I was like,"Oh sh1t......he's being needy".


I don't have any advice for you,I'll let everybody else waste their time with that. I just want to know how far things got the ONE TIME you did try and put forth effort.

I tried to get her out once and she said she had worked like 10 days in a row and was too exhausted. She said she would love to hang out some other time

I saw her again a few days later at this lunch spot by my house (she was on a lunch break from work) and she wasn't that cute at all (not nearly as good looking as I remembered her) so I stopped texting her.

I'm in a ****ty situation. I live in the suburbs (which is mostly older people and families), I have very specific standards and I look like garbage in pics (which restricts me from doing online dating). I don't know how to get out of this hole. My standards restrict me to like 1% of women. I don't consider my standards very high, they're just very specific

For example, white women are the top of our social hierarchy but I strongly prefer someone ethnic (unless we're talking Greek/italian/french canadian/etc...). That's a question of specific standards, not super high standards.

 

[bigdave17]

Earth. The female for you makes it easy. She opens the door . Most of us have found pursuing never works out . Plus in 2018 females chase what they want.

Most of have also found having sex makes us attractive to all that like someone like us.

dude you have to shut the f*ck up with this nonsense

No decent looking woman is just going to have sex with me without any effort. You have to ask them out, go out on a date, seem like you're very interested in them as a person, etc... etc...

I can't do this with someone I don't want to date because my effort will be extremely half assed and she can tell that I have no genuine interest in her at all.

 

[Reykhel]

My family is extremely European looking

You don't look Spanish. Trust me on that one.

and she wasn't that cute at all (not nearly as good looking as I remembered her) so I stopped texting her.

That's ridiculous. Maybe she could have been practice for the next girl...

dude you have to shut the f*ck up with this nonsense

Haha...it is a little bit weird that he's chasing you around the thread telling you repeatedly to get laid.

Not being funny but, are you sure you're straight?

Perhaps your self concept doesn't match up to how the world views you.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

You don't look Spanish. Trust me on that one.



That's ridiculous. Maybe she could have been practice for the next girl...



Haha...it is a little bit weird that he's chasing you around the thread telling you repeatedly to get laid.

Not being funny but, are you sure you're straight?

Perhaps your self concept doesn't match up to how the world views you.

That's exactly why I asked him to start fvcking . I kinda hate that his primary driver is her "looks" . The world will see him better if he's a sexual man .

I think his primary motivation is extremely superficial and they probably are seeing him as creepy or not sexually attractive .

 

[Igetit!]

I tried to get her out once and she said she had worked like 10 days in a row and was too exhausted. She said she would love to hang out some other time

I saw her again a few days later at this lunch spot by my house (she was on a lunch break from work) and she wasn't that cute at all (not nearly as good looking as I remembered her) so I stopped texting her.

I see. For some reason,I got the distinct odor of HORSESH1T when reading BOTH her response and yours.....

Hers,because it sounds like the typical BS woman blowoff response.....unless she suggested a SPECIFIC alternate time when you two could get together...

And yours cause everything you originally listed about this girl in your other thread,all this....

"She is not quite the totally polished product I like but she important core ingredients are there

- 25 years old
- no kids but wants to have kids
- Cute face (not smoking hot but really cute to me although I'm prolly biased because I love Spanish features)
- Great skin - her mom is 49 and looks like she's 35 (she showed me a family picture)
- Decent body (wants to workout with me - Spanish women always have great body genetics, she'll have a pornstar body in a year)
- fantastic person (she works as a waitress at a bar I go to and everyone says she's a super nice person)
- intelligent, can hold a good conversation on everything
- huge on family values"

Apparently,all her "CORE INGREDIENTS" all evaporated and disappeared because she "wasn't all that cute" the second time you saw her.

BUT....you DID TRY. Might not have gotten to the point of a date,but were miles above all 10,000 of your "poor me" threads put together,so I do give you props for that.

I'm in a ****ty situation. I live in the suburbs (which is mostly older people and families), I have very specific standards and I look like garbage in pics (which restricts me from doing online dating). I don't know how to get out of this hole. My standards restrict me to like 1% of women. I don't consider my standards very high, they're just very specific

For example, white women are the top of our social hierarchy but I strongly prefer someone ethnic (unless we're talking Greek/italian/french canadian/etc...). That's a question of specific standards, not super high standards.

I'll let the other members handle this.....I'm ONLY interesting in TRYING and EFFORT.

Good luck.

 

[bigdave17]

I see. For some reason,I got the distinct odor of HORSESH1T when reading BOTH her response and yours.....

Hers,because it sounds like the typical BS woman blowoff response.....unless she suggested a SPECIFIC alternate time when you two could get together...

And yours cause everything you originally listed about this girl in your other thread,all this....



Apparently,all her "CORE INGREDIENTS" all evaporated and disappeared because she "wasn't all that cute" the second time you saw her.

BUT....you DID TRY. Might not have gotten to the point of a date,but were miles above all 10,000 of your "poor me" threads put together,so I do give you props for that.




I'll let the other members handle this.....I'm ONLY interesting in TRYING and EFFORT.

Good luck.

remember I saw her at night time originally

Second tme I saw her was during the day, she looked very mediocre...would never be happy with her

 

[bigdave17]

You don't look Spanish. Trust me on that one.



That's ridiculous. Maybe she could have been practice for the next girl...



Haha...it is a little bit weird that he's chasing you around the thread telling you repeatedly to get laid.

Not being funny but, are you sure you're straight?

Perhaps your self concept doesn't match up to how the world views you.

What practice? I've slept with 12-15 women

I'm very good on dates
I'm very good in bed


I don't need anymore practice. I need dates with women worth dating

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Bigdave sounds like a.... woman.

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Bigdave sounds like a.... woman.

He is. I'm sure he makes females feel great. They feel safe around him . They go off to bone the distant man whose feelings are unclear .

 

[Murk]

If he's slept with 12 women then that means this year alone I've equalled his lay count. Pretty cool. I see now why he has such a hard time.

 

[sazc]

please someone explain to me how what I'm asking for is so unreasonable

I'm not a fat guy asking for a hottie. I'm good looking, in good shape and dress very nice. I'm asking for a 7 with a nice body, not a 10

my preference for an ethnic woman should make things easier. White women have the highest sexual market value in our society

I'm 29 - perfect age - and I want mid to late 20s. Im not a 40 year old looking for a 22 year old

I'm extremely successful/accomplished/driven and i just want a woman who is sorta smart and can take care of herself financially. I'm not asking for anybody who makes even half my income

Where is the disconnect between what I'm asking for and what i am offering?

NOPE!

But you, by your own admission, c0ck block yourself mentally from even approaching, by telling yourself you are not good enough for her, or "why bother approaching, she probably has....."

 

[sazc]

my friend met his hot lebanese dentist grlfriend online and he is 5'5 - on match

And one time, in band camp......

 

[Reykhel]

Bigdave sounds like a.... woman.

Now, if you have someone like @ChristopherColumbus , who many would consider to have, let's say "feminist leanings" (@brads rants etc), telling
you that you sound like a woman.....I think it would definitively be the time to sit down and do some self analysis/introspection.....

He is. I'm sure he makes females feel great. They feel safe around him . They go off to bone the distant man whose feelings are unclear .

He does sound like the lovely cuddly "bestie" of women. Why is it when he's out and about he ends up chatting to these older women who apparently give him "compliments". What is attracting him to have conversations with these older women. Mother issues? These are really strange reference points that he brings to the table..........why is he not chatting with younger (hotter/available) women when he's at a bar/club.......

There's something definitively "off"....

If he's slept with 12 women then that means this year alone I've equalled his lay count. Pretty cool. I see now why he has such a hard time.

Yes, but you seem to be at different ends of the spectrum. @bigdave17 seems to have set himself really unrealistic "high" (but so high and specific that it appears to be a buffer) standards whereas you appear to be at the other end of the spectrum.....absolutely no standards (Note: no offense meant, please don't get triggered). So it's not really a fair or valid comparison....

But you, by your own admission, c0ck block yourself mentally from even approaching, by telling yourself you are not good enough for her, or "why bother approaching, she probably has....."

It kind of reminds me of the acres of diamonds story....

He seems to cut it off really, really soon at the first sign that the girl may not live up to his ridiculously unrealistic expectations......(the Mexican girl he made a thread about......he seemed to hit it off with her, but there was no second meet up as he realized "she wasn't as beautiful as he first thought" or some other hore****e....

Really, you've got to put yourself out there and meet many woman and yes as @mrgoodstuff keeps mentioning........get...and savor and enjoy.............some sweet sweet sex.......(@mrgoodstuff 's (valid) point is woman recognize when a man is sexually active......and the swagger factor. See Spinning plates affect.) My point would be what a desolate life for a heterosexual man who has not got a happy and fulfilling sex life............like a meal without wine......a day without sunshine. One's own happiness.

the acres of diamonds......who knows......maybe after a few more meet ups with the Mexican girl (or whoever) he might just discover a diamond.......attraction definitely goes up, when you know a person and they reveal themselves (their life, quirks, character, humor etc) to you................

He seems to want the diamond without having to go through any sort of process of "excavation".........

.....like the "perfect" woman who meets all of his criteria is going to knock on his door and say "Hi, I'm your perfect woman....I meet all of your
criteria and I've been sent her by God.....just because....you deserve it." And the automatic (perfect) relationship starts from day 1......

Life isn't like that. Relationships are not like that....all ready packed up and ready to ship off to happy ever after land....

...with life and love, comes great risk..........(in fact, somebody touched on this in another thread......it comes down to fear)

 

[mrgoodstuff]

He could be a "god" with all these women he's rejecting. Older, single moms and ones he thinks they don't "look" good enough.

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

He could be a "god" with all these women he's rejecting. Older, single moms and ones he thinks they don't "look" good enough.

Fake abundance? [adj]

 

[mrgoodstuff]

Fake abundance? [adj]

It will be "real" . Hes gotta **** all these ones he thinks whose beneath him. And refuse to overly pursue, waste time on these girls he thinks is "hot". Refuse to be jerked around, refuse to be strung along, refuse to not be her priority, refused to not be submitted to.

 

[zekko]

I saw her again a few days later at this lunch spot by my house (she was on a lunch break from work) and she wasn't that cute at all (not nearly as good looking as I remembered her) so I stopped texting her.

Oh, for fvck's sake

Didn't you even look at her the first time?
Maybe she'll look better to you again on the third viewing.