Bigdave sounds like a.... woman.
Now, if you have someone like
@ChristopherColumbus , who many would consider to have, let's say "feminist leanings" (@brads rants etc), telling
you that you sound like a woman.....I think it would definitively be the time to sit down and do some self analysis/introspection.....
He is. I'm sure he makes females feel great. They feel safe around him . They go off to bone the distant man whose feelings are unclear .
He does sound like the lovely cuddly "bestie" of women. Why is it when he's out and about he ends up chatting to these older women who apparently give him "compliments". What is attracting him to have conversations with these older women. Mother issues? These are really strange reference points that he brings to the table..........why is he not chatting with younger (hotter/available) women when he's at a bar/club.......
There's something definitively "off"....
If he's slept with 12 women then that means this year alone I've equalled his lay count. Pretty cool. I see now why he has such a hard time.
Yes, but you seem to be at different ends of the spectrum.
@bigdave17 seems to have set himself really unrealistic "high" (but so high and specific that it appears to be a buffer) standards whereas you appear to be at the other end of the spectrum.....absolutely no standards (Note: no offense meant, please don't get triggered). So it's not really a fair or valid comparison....
But you, by your own admission, c0ck block yourself mentally from even approaching, by telling yourself you are not good enough for her, or "why bother approaching, she probably has....."
It kind of reminds me of the acres of diamonds story....
He seems to cut it off really, really soon at the first sign that the girl may not live up to his ridiculously unrealistic expectations......(the Mexican girl he made a thread about......he seemed to hit it off with her, but there was no second meet up as he realized "she wasn't as beautiful as he first thought" or some other hore****e....
Really, you've got to put yourself out there and meet many woman and yes as
@mrgoodstuff keeps mentioning........get...and savor and enjoy.............some sweet sweet sex.......(
@mrgoodstuff 's (valid) point is woman recognize when a man is sexually active......and the swagger factor. See Spinning plates affect.) My point would be what a desolate life for a heterosexual man who has not got a happy and fulfilling sex life............like a meal without wine......a day without sunshine. One's own happiness.
the acres of diamonds......who knows......maybe after a few more meet ups with the Mexican girl (or whoever) he might just discover a diamond.......attraction definitely goes up, when you know a person and they reveal themselves (their life, quirks, character, humor etc) to you................
He seems to want the diamond without having to go through any sort of process of "excavation".........
.....like the "perfect" woman who meets all of his criteria is going to knock on his door and say "Hi, I'm your perfect woman....I meet all of your
criteria and I've been sent her by God.....just because....you deserve it." And the automatic (perfect) relationship starts from day 1......
Life isn't like that. Relationships are not like that....all ready packed up and ready to ship off to happy ever after land....
...with life and love, comes great risk..........(in fact, somebody touched on this in another thread......it comes down to fear)
