It Is Easy For Most Women To Move On

[Giovanni SouthSide]

I thought this was kind of accurate.
In the long-run, men tend to agonize over ended relationships for much longer and it's a lot easier for women to move on, generally.

On a purely biological war widow mentality basis the woman is the vulnerable individual that has to make herself instantly appealing in order to secure a protector and provider. She will have a very serious cry session and then internalize the rest of the issues which will later manifest in severe mental disorders aka craziness ripple effects later in life but at least she'll be able to get another man in the meanwhile because it’s a sausage fest in the west.

Men have the option to revel in their pain and their anger, given that being dark and moody is not necessarily repellent to chicks and in many cases is an attractive trait. Traditionally they could channel it towards violence but absent that, in modern times, they're often stuck wallowing in an emotional holding pattern for much longer and it’s a slow burn-off.

After a woman has been seasoned and riped with enough d!cks they tend to naturally think and act like the good ol’ player does. They under commit in the relationship and know when to have a foot out the door. They sort of instinctively know when things are on the rocks and tend to make things worse by withdrawing affection and respect like dimming lights, which tends to make things worse. They have moved on before the relationship ends.
Men tend to just double down and sometimes work harder.

So the net effect is that at the end of a relationship the man has usually gone all in, whereas she has been prepping for a couple months at least and the bullet grazes her.
This is why when a high value dude randomly dumps a chick out of the blue for no good reason, it usually fvcks her world up and more times than not she becomes your night stalker.

In essence, women react to market forces, though their nature helps them to move on. Most females are smart enough to know, the quickest way to get over a guy is to be with another one.

I can be wrong with some lines but that is what I am witnessing even more vividly around me as of lately.
Any of the older members with more stripes are welcomed to drop some wisdom. After all, we are here in community to keep sharpening the blade.

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

Any of the older members with more stripes are welcomed to drop some wisdom. After all, we are here in community to keep sharpening the blade.

Sharpening the blade... Are you working your way up to a 'battle of the sexes'?

You take a stupid meme and baste it into your blackpill sauce to make an entire post on how women deal with breakups faster than men? So what? Faster isn't always so great.

You know why this happens? Because they indeed go through a crying jag with their girlfriends, who support them to say what an awful jerk their boyfriend was and how they're better off without him. And when she keeps on crying, they push her to another bloke who can maybe fcuk the sadness out of her.

Meanwhile, men think the masculine thing is to just choke down the sadness and feed it enough alcohol so they can sleep. Talk about it with other men? Fuhgeddaboutit. Sharing feelings with other men? They will call you a homo and ostracise you. No, keep a brave face and just drown your sorrow in meaningless sex.

Neither man nor women know how to deal with pain and loss and anguish. They know how to label. A guy is 'pvssywhipped'. That girl is an 'alpha widow'. He's 'spinning plates'. She's 'riding the penis carousel'.
And they enjoy shifting the blame and label their inadequacies. "I can't talk to women, I have approach anxiety" "I'm short and women don't talk with me because I'm short and the world is against short people".

The incessant whining is giving me tinnitus. Grow up.

 

[Pandora]

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I thought this was kind of accurate.
In the long-run, men tend to agonize over ended relationships for much longer and it's a lot easier for women to move on, generally.

On a purely biological war widow mentality basis the woman is the vulnerable individual that has to make herself instantly appealing in order to secure a protector and provider. She will have a very serious cry session and then internalize the rest of the issues which will later manifest in severe mental disorders aka craziness ripple effects later in life but at least she'll be able to get another man in the meanwhile because it’s a sausage fest in the west.

Men have the option to revel in their pain and their anger, given that being dark and moody is not necessarily repellent to chicks and in many cases is an attractive trait. Traditionally they could channel it towards violence but absent that, in modern times, they're often stuck wallowing in an emotional holding pattern for much longer and it’s a slow burn-off.

After a woman has been seasoned and riped with enough d!cks they tend to naturally think and act like the good ol’ player does. They under commit in the relationship and know when to have a foot out the door. They sort of instinctively know when things are on the rocks and tend to make things worse by withdrawing affection and respect like dimming lights, which tends to make things worse. They have moved on before the relationship ends.
Men tend to just double down and sometimes work harder.

So the net effect is that at the end of a relationship the man has usually gone all in, whereas she has been prepping for a couple months at least and the bullet grazes her.
This is why when a high value dude randomly dumps a chick out of the blue for no good reason, it usually fvcks her world up and more times than not she becomes your night stalker.

In essence, women react to market forces, though their nature helps them to move on. Most females are smart enough to know, the quickest way to get over a guy is to be with another one.

I can be wrong with some lines but that is what I am witnessing even more vividly around me as of lately.
Any of the older members with more stripes are welcomed to drop some wisdom. After all, we are here in community to keep sharpening the blade.

They never move on from that ONE guy. That meme is correct but incomplete. Women can only really love 1 man in a lifetime. If he breaks up with her she will always compare every subsequent man to him. It will be very difficult to snap her out of it. The only way to do this is to be so much better than the ghost of the other guy.

Yes they can move on quickly from 99% of men. This is because they are still not over the man they really wanted. This is why it is so important to be with the girl you imprinted on. Be with the girl that gave you her highest score. You break it you keep it type of thing.

 

[Pandora]

Meanwhile, men think the masculine thing is to just choke down the sadness and feed it enough alcohol so they can sleep. Talk about it with other men? Fuhgeddaboutit. Sharing feelings with other men? They will call you a homo and ostracise you.

The incessant whining is giving me tinnitus. Grow up.

The reason why men dont like to share their feelings is because people like you respond in an overly harsh manner. You want men to open up yet you type things like " whining and grow up".

 

[AmsterdamAssassin]

The reason why men dont like to share their feelings is because people like you respond in an overly harsh manner. You want men to open up yet you type things like " whining and grow up".

No, I'm all for opening up, not for whining. I'm not up for the blame game, that is childish. Like this statement:

Women can only really love 1 man in a lifetime. If he breaks up with her she will always compare every subsequent man to him.

The 'Alpha Widow' theory. I don't know who comes up with this crap, but the insidious blame game is toxic shyte that you have to grow out of.

 

[Pandora]

No, I'm all for opening up, not for whining. I'm not up for the blame game, that is childish. Like this statement:

The 'Alpha Widow' theory. I don't know who comes up with this crap, but the insidious blame game is toxic shyte that you have to grow out of.

The Alpha widow theory is the most important theory a man can understand when talking about seduction. It explains most of female dating behavior. It is basically the " High Score theory".

I dont know if the OP was blaming. I think he was trying to explain why females appear to get over break ups so quick. The reason is that her whole heart was never with the man. Her heart was broken long ago when her prince dumped her.

 

[Hamurabimbi]

Really depends. I’ve had some vanish like they never knew me and others still carry a torch decades later.

 

[taiyuu_otoko]

No need to overcomplicate it and make it a philosophical treatise.

Most men are clingy betas who hang on for dear life to any kind of pu$$y they can latch onto.

Women bounce back quicker simply because they always have more options, which means they can get over it quicker.

 

[Pandora]

Really depends. I’ve had some vanish like they never knew me and others still carry a torch decades later. View attachment 13524

Yeh you were this ones love of her life probably. You imprinted on her like crazy.

 

[BaronOfHair]

I agree that women do seem to rebound from breakups more easily, and that said, we still have a choice as to how much pain we experience over such things. Emotions are generated by our thoughts and beliefs, thus modifying our thoughts and beliefs reduces our emotional pain

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

Sharpening the blade... Are you working your way up to a 'battle of the sexes'?

You take a stupid meme and baste it into your blackpill sauce to make an entire post on how women deal with breakups faster than men? So what? Faster isn't always so great.

You know why this happens? Because they indeed go through a crying jag with their girlfriends, who support them to say what an awful jerk their boyfriend was and how they're better off without him. And when she keeps on crying, they push her to another bloke who can maybe fcuk the sadness out of her.

Meanwhile, men think the masculine thing is to just choke down the sadness and feed it enough alcohol so they can sleep. Talk about it with other men? Fuhgeddaboutit. Sharing feelings with other men? They will call you a homo and ostracise you. No, keep a brave face and just drown your sorrow in meaningless sex.

Neither man nor women know how to deal with pain and loss and anguish. They know how to label. A guy is 'pvssywhipped'. That girl is an 'alpha widow'. He's 'spinning plates'. She's 'riding the penis carousel'.
And they enjoy shifting the blame and label their inadequacies. "I can't talk to women, I have approach anxiety" "I'm short and women don't talk with me because I'm short and the world is against short people".

The incessant whining is giving me tinnitus. Grow up.

Relax, old timer. Don’t let a forum rip through your madness. I am not trying to make this thread disrespectful and have no need to steer it in direction of drama unlike my elder.
Maybe it’s time for you to take a break from the internet for a change. You seem to breathe the forum so much that you have become like the grumpy moody grandpa ready to spit down on a much younger generation for anything that goes against your beliefs or whatever. Get the tinnitus checked out by a doc, all in good faith OG.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

I kind of disagree about the Alpha widow theory.

It is dependent on the woman. After dealing with an "Alpha" some women (especially ones that are ready for children) are more then happy to go the "beta provider" route as they can't gamble again with the wall fast approaching. They reframe you as an azzhole (reinforced by social circle), bury the emotions and move on. And I'm sure this manifests in problems for the new guy down the road. Don't be that guy.

Again if she is an Alpha widow she needs a lot of time to mourn and lick her wounds before she's able to move on. Even when she meets other guys, she might never experience the same highs as before and that makes her frustrated and jaded and from a man's point of view not a good prospect for a relationship.

Also, the unstable emotional nature of most woman makes them do fvcked up things. She might jump on another d!ck to forget you, post party pics or pics with another guy on fb or instagram to make you jealous. All these things do not necessarily mean she's having fun and moved on in a heartbeat. Maybe you crushed her heart and she's desperately trying to heal the pain in some kind of ****ed up ways.

On the other hand, if you didn't rock her world, she will get over you in a heartbeat.

 

[Pandora]

I kind of disagree about the Alpha widow theory.

It is dependent on the woman. After dealing with an "Alpha" some women (especially ones that are ready for children) are more then happy to go the "beta provider" route as they can't gamble again with the wall fast approaching. They reframe you as an azzhole (reinforced by social circle), bury the emotions and move on. And I'm sure this manifests in problems for the new guy down the road. Don't be that guy.

Again if she is an Alpha widow she needs a lot of time to mourn and lick her wounds before she's able to move on. Even when she meets other guys, she might never experience the same highs as before and that makes her frustrated and jaded and from a man's point of view not a good prospect for a relationship.

Also, the unstable emotional nature of most woman makes them do fvcked up things. She might jump on another d!ck to forget you, post party pics or pics with another guy on fb or instagram to make you jealous. All these things do not necessarily mean she's having fun and moved on in a heartbeat. Maybe you crushed her heart and she's desperately trying to heal the pain in some kind of ****ed up ways.

On the other hand, if you didn't rock her world, she will get over you in a heartbeat.

This is exactly the alpha widow theory. I dont see where you disagree brotha.

Alpha widow does not mean that they will stay in their room crying for the rest of their lives.

It just means that there is only 1 guy that will always have access to her. Thats the one that got away. She subconsciously compares every other guy to him.

You are also correcr when you say that alot of slutty and self destructive behavior is because she has been alpha widowed. Women become nihilistic with their bodies after heartbreak from the "one".

 

[FlirtLife]

They never move on from that ONE guy. That meme is correct but incomplete. Women can only really love 1 man in a lifetime. If he breaks up with her she will always compare every subsequent man to him. It will be very difficult to snap her out of it. The only way to do this is to be so much better than the ghost of the other guy.

Yes they can move on quickly from 99% of men. This is because they are still not over the man they really wanted. This is why it is so important to be with the girl you imprinted on. Be with the girl that gave you her highest score. You break it you keep it type of thing.

I've never seen this claim that ALL women are alpha widows. Some women, yes, but not all. I think you're exaggerating how much it matters to most women.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

No need to overcomplicate it and make it a philosophical treatise.

Most men are clingy betas who hang on for dear life to any kind of pu$$y they can latch onto.

Women bounce back quicker simply because they always have more options, which means they can get over it quicker.

A homie just felt philosophical today, my guy.
If that’s the case then the post could have just been two liners and call it a day.

Men love romantically.

Women love transactionally.

 

[FlirtLife]

Women can only really love 1 man in a lifetime.

The 'Alpha Widow' theory. I don't know who comes up with this crap, but the insidious blame game is toxic shyte that you have to grow out of.

"Alpha Widows" is a chapter in "The Rational Male - The Players Handbook" published in 2022. I agree with Rollo's take.

But the other poster is deviating from that theory with some views of their own. His erroneous take doesn't invalidate the existence of some alpha widows - some women, not all.

Personally, reading that chapter on "Alpha Widows" is probably the most guilt I've ever felt reading a book. I had always wondered why women I knew from years ago were so excited to see me. The most dramatic was a women who reached out after her divorce, only asking to have lunch - no small talk after not talking for over a decade. When we met for lunch, she immediately started asking about love with a glassy look in her eyes. I knew she had a crush on me in college, but I didn't know it extended through her marriage, without even talking. Learning about alpha widows helped me prepare when yet another women reached out from my past - to me, it is helpful defensive information. I can't treat out of the blue contact as just social - it could be a woman bearing a torch for me. And since it makes sense of some of my experiences, I'm strongly convinced Rollo's take is accurate.

 

[Giovanni SouthSide]

This is exactly the alpha widow theory. I dont see where you disagree brotha.

Alpha widow does not mean that they will stay in their room crying for the rest of their lives.

It just means that there is only 1 guy that will always have access to her. Thats the one that got away. She subconsciously compares every other guy to him.

You are also correcr when you say that alot of slutty and self destructive behavior is because she has been alpha widowed. Women become nihilistic with their bodies after heartbreak from the "one".

Ok i may have used some bad wording. I been talking in spanish all day here in Mexico that I’m just mixing my sh!t. What I meant Pan is that it’s all relative to the chick and how deep of a mark you left on her. Yes there is alpha widows out there that will let that one guy come back for unfinished business but like you said some women move on fine. A guy who doesn't move on never has a girlfriend again. An alpha widow has plenty of relationships and uses the alpha in the past to control the men in the present. To you or me, this wouldn't be moving on. To a woman this is fine. She is perfectly happy to be in a comfortable relationship with some clearly defined thing to complain about for the rest of her life.
I am not saying the concept doesn't exist. I am saying that there is no comparing a man not moving on and a woman not moving on. When a man doesn't move on, he really doesn't move on.
The women move on fine, and though they may be haunted by some out of their league stud from their past, they are fine, really, some of them are even happy with the situation, and all of them are especially happy to have some sort of leverage from the past over their current man.

There is no comparison between a man's pain and a woman's pain. This seems to me to be self evident.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

The incessant whining is giving me tinnitus. Grow up.

I'll take things not to say to ex-cartel members for $500, Alex.

 

[Clockwerk50]

I'll take things not to say to ex-cartel members for $500, Alex.

He is making enemies with everyone smh lol

 

[BackInTheGame78]

That's because women break up emotionally with a man months before they do so physically.

By the time they break up with him physically they are mentally done with him whereas the guy is blindsided many times.