Women cheat to get a surge of emotional fluctuation. They don't like to be bored in a relationship.
“You can do anything to a woman, you just can’t bore her” this is the line from the movie “The Counsellor” by Javier Bardems character.
And honestly it’s insanely true. At first women are fun, sweet, sexy, etc and may continue that for months and years. All because the guy is creating new environments, planning dates, he’s flirty with her, pursuing sexually, etc etc.
But soon enough they build their lives together and things become a routine
“ahh I’m too tired to go out this weekend.” “Ok :\”
And before not too much longer they are reserved to nights in or predictable shopping experiences, weekend excursions and experiences. Both have become bored.
And with boredom we find there is drama throughout all of this - little battering and minor insults masked in jokes. The classic couple speak.
In his mind: but what is she doing? She was never like this before? She not happy with me? - in short she’s not happy with what happened with you both, but she blames you - but she’s creating excitement In the form of negative drama. And if there’s too much negative drama for too long, she could monkey branch, potentially look for thrill with another man sexually, or just slowly end it like most relationships fall apart - the old “we dated for 5 years but the last year we really drifted”
This is why having social circles, Hobbies, a passion, physical outlets, and a decent job which doesn’t drain you is vitally important.
People just become stagnant and complacent in life and also relationships. It’s partially how were wired.
But most of the time we choose new people because we’re already bored in our lives and we’re merely looking to fill someone in to the jokes of our own life.
I've looked at the statistics and what I speak of IS the majority of cases when women cheat, and women do - infact cheat more than men do.
I don’t think there’s truly a way to know that. You can’t read huffpost, and wealthy single mommy, then have the verdict stand that women cheat more often. I’ve read a lot more articles that state men do. And then some that it’s even. But those are only taken from sample groups, not the real numbers.
In my view? I would guarantee men cheat more often than women. But the numbers are increasing with women, and still men. 60/40 would be my guess.
Men and women both have a part to play in the detriment of relationships. Blaming one person is never enough. Unless he truly was some horrible man. But she enabled it to some point if she chose to stay.
However, generally the man does get lazy and stops pursuing his greatest passions in relationships and this in turn creates issues for the couple. And this perplexes men because theyve been told their whole lives to take care of the woman; that’s your responsibility now. But this has grown a giant army of men to make their woman #1, which shouldn’t be the case. So through that he loses his true attractive leadership sense of self - his purpose. He loses himself and naturally she wants to lose him.
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. It's kind of selfish if you think about it.
