Is my girlfriend a low-life, lying, cheat?

[2crudedudes]

I have been with my girlfriend for almost 8 months now. She has just recently moved into my apartment.

Just because you're looking to settle down doesn't mean you should rush into it. I've had erections that last longer than 8 months. Come on bro,

WHAT THE FVCK

Yes, your girlfriend is a low-life, lying cheat. She's been cheating on you (you, me, and the rest of this forum knows it) and you keep taking her back. She's playing you man. Dump her in your FB bin and go find someone worth your time.

 

[Bible_Belt]

she said "I don't even really want to be with you"


She said it first, not us.

She wants to be a good girl, that part I believe. She knows that she is supposed to settle down with a good guy. I think the problem relates to never having a father. Slvts usually have daddy drama. They are subconsciously trying to experience the love they never got as a little girl from a father figure. Her slvtty friend and her slvtty mother are likely no different.

I would not hate her for who and what she is. I don't think she has much control over herself. More importantly, do not take her actions as a personal insult against you; she's just a little sick in the head.

This girl is not the marrying type that you say you want. She does sound fun, though. If you could accept an open relationship with her where you both see other people, that is the only long-term arrangement that I see being successful.

 

[Bluntmaster]

If you could accept an open relationship with her where you both see other people, that is the only long-term arrangement that I see being successful.

This would be asking for a STD. Do you realize how many guys these ypes of girls go through?

 

[Scion]

Oh yeah, this sounds like it'll work out. Get her ass out of your place asap (lie, say you made a mistake and it's too soon). Then just treat her like every other guy has ever treated her, which is just a *** dumpster. This chick is in no way LTR material, she's just a manipulative slut.

 

[eaglez1177]

Wow man. This is tough to read. I actually feel a little bad for you. You are getting PLAYED 100%.

Amazing the things some guys will put up with....

 

[DonGorgon]

you call there that I call her a human female... trust not want not

 

[Rescue Mission]

Your WHOLE ENTIRE ISSUE of being the pvssy that you are comes down to one thing and one thing only:

You over-value sex, and she is SOOOOO DAMN GOOD at sex, that you overlook the obvious bad traits that she has, and proclaim that you love her despite everything.

This is the #1 reason that guys are pvssies in relationships......if only they had sex with dozens and dozens of girls, for years and years, they would realize that GREAT SEX in a RELATIONSHIP means NOTHING if the girl you are with is a total CVNT!!!

Most good looking girls are capable of giving you great sex...........dump your disaster of an unloving psycho girlfriend, and ENJOY YOUR GODDAMN FREEDOM as you get some good sex from new women!!!

 

[Sandow]

I think you're both nuts.

 

[bukowski_merit]

She had one relationship in that time - but the guy "treated her like ****". Basically, they were workmates, he refused to tell anyone they were together because of his "career", and never said he loved her. So eventually, she cheated on him, and blames him for it. Turns out he was shagging some of her other workmates anyway.

There's a psychological term that's name is escaping me at the moment. But it pretty much says that once someone does something that's deemed immoral and finds that they can handle it emotionally - it becomes much easier for them to do every time after that (example: A cold blooded killer may have took a long time to kill his first person, but once he gets past that first kill - all the rest are easy)... The same can be applied to cheating; regardless of the reasoning for it; being with a woman with a cheating past - is like being friends with a serial killer (knowing he's one) and hoping that he doesn't kill you. He may not kill you - but why risk it?

Girls like the one you describe are good for fvck buddies only! And should be kept very far from your heart!

First 2 months were magic.

As are most of the first few months of relationships (sometimes the first few years even)

After 3 months she flipped out on me badly one day - tears, door slamming, crying she said "I don't even really want to be with you". I walked out of her place - we made up later that night. She said I needed to put more effort into our relationship.

This is stage two of betaizing you! Stage 1 is you failing sh!t tests. Stage 2 is "you need to open up more to me" type stuff.... Taking her "you need to put more effort into our relationship" seriously and doing that - is your casket in the dirt!

Woman: "You need to put more effort into our relationship"
Bukowski: "You need to put more deodorant on; the neighbors complain when you walk by their house" (of course she'll flip out and say you don't take her serious; but that's the point - be the guy who doesn't take her serious and she'll never want your c@ck to exit her mouth! just hold your ground and play with her then fvck her.)

After 4 months, she left me hanging at her place while she got ready to go for dinner, I was bored for about an hour. She was in the shower - I grabbed her iPhone to surf the web, which she'd let me do a few times before - but found myself scoping her text messages. No excuses - it was wrong on my part - but she dangled that carrot right in front of me. I found some loving romantic texts from some dude telling her how special she was, and how she deserved so much better. These were written the day we'd had that fight a month before. She'd deleted the whole conversation - but kept his loving texts. I dumped her. Didn't tell her what i'd seen. Just dumped her.

And you feared a guy telling her how special she was? At this point - she probably wasn't that into the guy. Just using him to spill her emotional BS into... BUT...

She explained that it was nothing - basically it didn't happen - lied about those texts which I had read. Said it was just a friend.

To me this means you confronted her about him and the texts??? If so - that's the minute she wanted to fvck him (i know because i've been him sooo many times that i should be dead by now from a bullet from a cheated on lovers gun).

She had been arranging to meet this same guy for a coffee on a Saturday afternoon when she was due to meet up with me. How do I know? Went into her iPhone of course when she was in the toilet. He couldn't meet up with her that day.

LOL i refuse to believe that she's that bad at "sneaking around". She didn't care if you read it. If you did - she'd continue to have you competing with another man AND she'd get the emotional releases that a freak such as herself needs.

She then has a mini breakdown begging for me to get back with her, saying it was nothing. Eventually I got her to admit that it was a guy from work - same company different office. A married dude with 2 kids. She said he asked her out on a date - they kissed - then he confessed he was married. That was it apparently. She says they strangely became good friends after that.....

Mannnnn... all this interest you showed in this guy just makes her want him more....

If i were him and i found out you turned into Columbo on her (TV detective) - I'd be pumping my fist in the air right KNOWING how good you were making her wet for me.

If that guy knew how to turn this interest of yours into an easy fvck depends on his experience (which being married - is probably not so good)

The guy she'd shagged after her ex, his old flatmate and friend, her old shag buddy, was writing to see how she was going with me....? And to see if she wanted to meet up for a drink? Her response was very keen to meet him, and quite flirty. Then he said he'd call her....I could read his mind - he was scoping her to see if she was "available" - she claims it wasn't like that at all - they're just good frinds.

Again with leaving the phone around you? This women just doesn't care. Women who are good at this stuff and care about keeping their man - rarely communicate through text, and if they do - they delete it instantly.... The women who are careless normally have no respect of fear of loss for the man they are with.

Anyway - her interested in hanging out with her @sshole ex boyfriend? no surprise to me. She is a freak after-all.

I went crazy......she claimed innocence.....says he's just a friend - and i'm nuts going through her stuff! She says that if she does meet him - she'll bring me along.

Now she wants to fvck him even more! Anytime a guy shows jealousy towards another man IT MAKES THE WOMAN SEE THE OTHER MAN AS MORE DESIRABLE AND YOU AS LESS DESIRABLE!

Once i was banging a girl from my work who had a boyfriend. It was a pretty long affair. He found out about it. Flipped out of course! But he didn't dump her. He just kept her around and degraded her all the time for being a "s!ut" and fvcking some "player @sshole from work"..... His jealousy of me - made her fvcking go crazy with freak lust whenever we were together....

One time, a bunch of us from work were going out to happy hour. He found out i was there and flipped out on her through text. She told him he could come and see nothing was going on. So he did.....

Do you know what he did? He sat there for 2 hours, pissed off looking, not talking to anyone, sulking, and pretty much was only there to watch over her and make sure we didn't fvck........... That didn't stop us from making out in the alley way though.... and my ride home - i got at least 10 texts that read: "all he's going is talking about how ugly you are and how he's disgusted i fell for someone like you" followed by "i just want you to fvck me all night long"

This is my past.... I don't make it a point to be with taken women anymore... But i learned so much from my experience that im TELLING you that the worst thing you can do is show jealousy.... The best thing you can do is LEAVE.

Now I'm living with her! It is great.....but I just get these thoughts some time that i'm a *****, and she's doing me over, and i'm letting her. I'm going nuts here....

What do you think?

So, you moved in with her after she did all this stuff? Wow, that's some really big one-itis man! You definitely are (as Rescue Mission said) in love with the sex too much.


I've read your story on here 1,000,000 times now.... Same words (she's mostly good, but has these few bad traits).... same stuff.... Get the fvck out of that house and if you can't, break up with her and split rent still.... And please no matter what you do - please please please go fvck other women....

 

[RogerMac]

Yeah, I really am a totally f*cked up p*ssy....

I guess I knew it, I didn't want to admit it....

There's a real consensus going on here - no doubt about what I need to do!

Funny thing is - i've spent the last 13 years f*cking every chick that crossed my path - and i've done all this sh*t to many girls - lots of great girls - really good people.

But i'm too dumb or blind to see myself getting done - it's karma coming around to kick me in the teeth!

Thanks for the advice

 

[merlin420]

Just think on this little tidbit. You say she "shags like a porn star". How do you think she got that way?

 

[jophil28]

Yeah, I really am a totally f*cked up p*ssy....

I guess I knew it, I didn't want to admit it....

There's a real consensus going on here - no doubt about what I need to do!

Funny thing is - i've spent the last 13 years f*cking every chick that crossed my path - and i've done all this sh*t to many girls - lots of great girls - really good people.

But i'm too dumb or blind to see myself getting done - it's karma coming around to kick me in the teeth!

Thanks for the advice

Don't feel too bad about being used - the presence of hot pvssy significantly diminishes our critical thinking abilities.

 

[Bluntmaster]

Don;t feel too bad about being used - the presence of hot pvssy significantly diminised our critical thinking abilities.

..... and they know exactly how to take advantage of it...

 

[horaholic]

There's a psychological term that's name is escaping me at the moment. But it pretty much says that once someone does something that's deemed immoral and finds that they can handle it emotionally - it becomes much easier for them to do every time after that (example: A cold blooded killer may have took a long time to kill his first person, but once he gets past that first kill - all the rest are easy)...

Its called complacency. It means a deadening of the senses, or moral value from repeated exposure.

It also applies to getting closer and closer to the edge with time. First its flirty, and she feels bad about it. Complacency sets in, so she feels fine about it. Then with touching, kissing, and so on.

 

[jonwon]

Yeah, I really am a totally f*cked up p*ssy....

I guess I knew it, I didn't want to admit it....

There's a real consensus going on here - no doubt about what I need to do!

Funny thing is - i've spent the last 13 years f*cking every chick that crossed my path - and i've done all this sh*t to many girls - lots of great girls - really good people.

But i'm too dumb or blind to see myself getting done - it's karma coming around to kick me in the teeth!

Thanks for the advice

Thats all well and good, but what have you actually 'done' about it?

I understand your head is probably in bits, you've come to realize that diamond is actually a tur* (you cant polish a tur* and make it a diamond, no matter how much you try, and you can't make a Ho! a House Wife http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aOcfifvKt90 ) - but when all is said and done, what is your next plan of action?

 

[HariPoter13]

she said "I don't even really want to be with you"


She said it first, not us.

She wants to be a good girl, that part I believe. She knows that she is supposed to settle down with a good guy. I think the problem relates to never having a father. Slvts usually have daddy drama. They are subconsciously trying to experience the love they never got as a little girl from a father figure. Her slvtty friend and her slvtty mother are likely no different.

I would not hate her for who and what she is. I don't think she has much control over herself. More importantly, do not take her actions as a personal insult against you; she's just a little sick in the head.

This girl is not the marrying type that you say you want. She does sound fun, though. If you could accept an open relationship with her where you both see other people, that is the only long-term arrangement that I see being successful.

Yes, yes, yes and once again YES. Bible Belt really nailed it with this post. While reading the story i was thinking similarly - this girl surely has some psychological issues - quite possibly BPD.

BPD, and similar issues, have already been thoroughly discussed on this forums and the conclusion is: You cant fix a person with BPD.

Move on and never look back.

 

[Tovansky]

I might be a lot younger than you, but at least from reading what you have written (without actually reading the other users' comments), I can see that she doesn't deserve you. I think it's better if you just let her go. You think she is playing you, I think you are right and you'd better trust your instinct on this. Don't let her sugar-coated words or tears play you mate, that's not cool at all. I might be wrong, but you seem to be anxious about your age and finding a good mate, but it is not an excuse to waste your time with a girl that doesn't love you man. Don't let her and her words play you. You have too many proofs already, and it is NOT your paranoia, it's the truth. It's on her iphone man, AND YOU GODDAMN READ THE ****1NG THING. So, save your time and your feeling, it's going to be so much better if you can move on and find the right one that actually does love you.

 

[Drum&Bass]

I guess im different than most guys. I prefer sluts to good girls. Good girls are BORING !!! Im also very confident, maybe to confident. I honestly dont believe there is another man alive that could take a girl away from me so Im never bothered if guys try to hook up with my girl because I don't ever think they will succeed.

Anyways...Your relationship is about great sex, some drama and 2 people wanting commitment , sounds perfect !! Good times...Never boring, sex is great and you know your girl is hot because other guys are trying to bang her. I honestly dont see what the problem is...unless your one of these nice guys looking to find a sweet innocent girl to have kids with and live happily ever after (fairy-Tale)...(BORING) I think you've got a great thing going with some excitement added to the mix.

 

[Scion]

I guess im different than most guys. I prefer sluts to good girls. Good girls are BORING !!! Im also very confident, maybe to confident. I honestly dont believe there is another man alive that could take a girl away from me so Im never bothered if guys try to hook up with my girl because I don't ever think they will succeed.

Anyways...Your relationship is about great sex, some drama and 2 people wanting commitment , sounds perfect !! Good times...Never boring, sex is great and you know your girl is hot because other guys are trying to bang her. I honestly dont see what the problem is...unless your one of these nice guys looking to find a sweet innocent girl to have kids with and live happily ever after (fairy-Tale)...(BORING) I think you've got a great thing going with some excitement added to the mix.

except that she's obviously ****ing other guys. That's the thing, she's great for a f-buddy or a casual fling, but she's not a girl you make any kind of a commitment to. She's already admitted to kissing and going on dates with other guys while she was dating the op, and I can say for certain she did a lot more than kissing.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Instead of worrying about particular instances, you should really just realize as Jonwon has already pointed out the glaring fact that you don't trust her!!

Think about it... even if she is being faithful and hasn't or wouldn't cheat on you now, you'll never completely trust her and that will be the root cause of your unhappiness and worry if you stay in this relationship.

If you stay it will eat you alive and your relationship will continue to crumble. Your 31, your still young, enjoy your life and search for higher quality women to share relationships with and you'll be much happier in the long run.




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