Update: The girl and I hooked up once more after this post, but it ended due to a fight after a Friday night of going out (April 2023), this girl is crazy. I know this thread is almost a 1.5 year old so I wanna delve a bit deeper on this topic as I now can gather my thoughts more clearly(since when I was dealing with her I was thinking with my ****). In the last 5 years, my life has changed a lot, especially with the type of women I've been able to get due to improving my income, and social status.
Let me preface this by saying not all hot women are like this, we know women aren't a monolith just like men aren't
First everyman has a different definition of what they deem "hot" is, my taste are a bit more liberal physically here are some examples (I'm a sucker for the "slim thick" women)
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I'll be transparent in the last 5 years I have dated/smashed a couple of chicks that were the "IT" girls of my city. I also of course have smashed women that look like the beast of the yeti in the last 5 years (LMFAO). I have gone down the swamp of the wilder beast more times than I care to admit. For me I'm just writing out my thoughts as I'm learning more now about "The other side". Call this a journal entry of sorts. However back to the topic
When you're dealing with hot women (
not random hot women but hot women who are rich or have status in your city) the first thing you have to realize is the price of admission is higher than some random chick you meet on Tinder or Bumble
What is the price of admission?
"Paying the price of admission" is an expression used by Dan Savage to describe the idea that you can't have a long-term relationship with someone unless you're willing to accept and identify the things you're willing to put up with, and the ones you're not. Savage says that you should be able to count the things you're not willing to put up with on one hand
The girl I was talking about in this thread let's call her
Brittany. Brittany was a former IT girl who owned a nice house in the city a trust fund chick (rich parents). Brittany modeled at one time and also was a bartender on the side. When I met Brittany she was unemployed however Daddy was paying for her big house and nice car. Brittany however was batshyt crazy, had a weird personality disorder (possibly a high-functioning autistic, she was great with numbers), and alienated herself from her family due to her behavior. Let's talk about how I met Brittany in the first place
I met her through a buddy of mine who lives in another state however we would get together when he is in town or when I was in his town. My buddy is dating her friend who happens to live in the same state as I (Long-distance relationship, they have since moved in together) My buddy stopped in town and I met her over dinner(it was 4 of us and the dinner was wild but that's a thread on it's own). This buddy and I have been friends and part of a social circle since he made 6 figures annually he currently makes 9 figures annually The guy has status in his field of business and is considered one of the leaders in his industry(has appeared on NBC, Fox news, Bloomberg etc). Why am I bringing this up? As I mentioned before 5 years ago I didn't have access to this type of social circle I'm talking fancy dinners with rich men, women who legit modeled, and millionaires spending $1,000+ on dinners like it's nothing.
I'm not saying this brag but you have to remember for a guy who has been on Sosuave since 24 years old when I was struggling and making 30K a year this was something I couldn't imagine in my wildest dreams 16 years ago. So many men on this forum are fixated on looks, money and status. However, they don't have EFFEN clue of what they are talking about, a lot of guys here are talking out of they a$$ and never made this type of money or hung out regularly with folks who do. Yes all these things matter but if you're talking about hot women social status matters the most because it encompasses money and looks as well. Let me explain if you are part of a young social circle(30s&40s) where the average salary is 7 figures or more. The women tend to be hotter. They're not going to let some random guy in, even if the guy looks Chad tier you gotta be vetted. This gives you social proof with the women as they know you're not some brokie in those circles (mind you I don't make 9 figures heck I don't even make 7 but hopefully by next year this time I do) that's why you may see some guy who is average with a girl who is hot cause that average guy's been vetted and so forth (does this mean SOME attractive women don't bang broke Chad's of course they do but the broke Chad ain't going to Maldives or being invited to the $1000+ dinners you have to remember these women have a reputation they must uphold publicly)
The thing you have to understand is that you may now have access to hotter women. You're in a different ballgame. Image matters the most. This causes a lot of these hot women to be vapid, shallow, and highly judgemental. Does this mean all of them are? Of course not I have met some girls who were chill and were not obsessed about having the latest Louie bag or trying to brag about going on vacation to the Maldives. However, even with those women, you have to look the part( GIGA Tyrone Or SuperChad) unless you got $$$. I noticed entitlement, delusion, narcissism and cognitive dissonance with these women tend to be higher than average women. If you think entitlement and narcissism is bad with average women, then you haven't dealt with Smokeshows, it's on a whole other level!
You ever seen a rich guy who is dating a very plain or average woman? it's simple the reason you see that is because if you deal with enough of those girls you realize how vain/entitled/high maintenance a lot of them are. I had a rich buddy who smashed girls that were "IG famous" but settled with a regular girl because they were easier to deal with.
To a guy who has been dealing with baddies or attractive women,
if they value more eventually they realize. They are not that special. What's the point of dealing with a hot woman but she has no skills what so ever besides looking pretty? Hence
I bring up the paying of admission aspect on a deeper level. At some point the cost is not worth the benefit in business we call it ROI return on investment. If you are spending more and more on your business but not making a profit eventually your business is going to fail sooner than later! This video is a perfect example of this for those who may not understand. Which inspired me to make this post.
Back to Brittany, after we split, I never heard from her again until recently. Come to find out she was dating a rich software engineer, her relationship with her family is still hot and cold. While Brittany was fun, she cooked and was a champ in the sack. However, I can't take Birttany seriously for a long-term relationship as the price of admission wasn't worth it.
In conclusion
Hot chicks are fun to show off and smash, but you have to vet even better because some of these girls know how to play the part. Here are things I vet for.
- Does she treat you well?
- Does she respect you?
- Does she love you?
- Is she loyal to you?
- Does she respect people who don't have money?
- Does she care about you?
- Is she feminine? willing to cook? and clean?
- Is she mentally healthy? (50% of hot chicks do not qualify if you include narcissism in this)
- Does she believe in the foundations of Christ (this is a personal one for me)
If she matches all these things congratulations you found a gem!!!